FabSwingers.com forum: The nice guy.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Women what do you think makes a nice guy?

Men what do you do that makes you a nice guy?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

At this point the term makes my skin crawl.

Do I want a guy who does actually nice things? Of course.

Do I want to associate with anyone who thinks or states that they're a nice guy? Fuck no.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

I sometimes leave the toilet seat down

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm not a nice guy. I don't try to be a nice guy.

I am whatever this is. Good? Bad? Bit of both?

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"At this point the term makes my skin crawl.

Do I want a guy who does actually nice things? Of course.

Do I want to associate with anyone who thinks or states that they're a nice guy? Fuck no."

Pretty much this. On this site 'nice guy' comes with a whole heap of entitlement. Don't tell me you're a nice guy, show me you're nice.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

A nice guy is a man who is nice. It really is that easy.

What it isn't is a man who is nice because he thinks it entitles him to sex or a man who confuses creepy, sychophancy with nice

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

This is a trap, right?

LvM

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Understated and a gentleman

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

A nice guy is just a bloke who’s nice and doesn’t expect a fanfare and to be told how great he is for doing the bare minimum (not being a dick)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is a trap, right?

LvM"

I would never

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

There will be lots who say they don't like the word being called "nice" word, but I certainly don't want to be the opposite. I think it's a catch all for lots of things.

Are you kind, considerate, interested? All those things are traits of nice people, generally speaking.

I don't need to tell anyone I'm a "nice guy" though - I guess nice PEOPLE do, don't say.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I just be myself, I understand that this wouldn't apply to everyone

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it's ok to say you're nice...but then I would, wouldn't I

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"Women what do you think makes a nice guy?

Men what do you do that makes you a nice guy?"

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Your verification made me feel like a nice guy. I love you all the more for it.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"I think it's ok to say you're nice...but then I would, wouldn't I

I agree with you! I think it's a real shame the words have been co-opted to either be an insult, sign of entitlement or some kind of warning signal...

If I described a friend as a nice guy (or vice versa), it's because I like him!

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

I've sometimes given out my last Rolo too, but you've gotta earn it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the negative idea of a nice guy is a guy that does nice things because he thinks if he does enough of them he will be owed sex/relationship/whatever

However when I see women say that just want a nice guy, I’m not sure what they mean. They probably get contacted by 100s of perfectly nice guys every day but choose to ignore them, so obviously there’s more to “just wanting a nice guy”

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

A few interesting points. I have nothing against the word nice although I'm aware some people dislike it as bland.

I think saying "I'm nice" is very different to someone else saying that a person is nice.

There is also a difference between this site and the real world. Most 'nice guys' on here expect a medal and a fuck for just being an acceptable human. And then get pussy when it doesn't happen, showing themselves to not actually be that nice.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Personally I hate the term ‘nice’.

It seems to come packed with a level of entitlement if a person uses it about themselves; ‘I have achieved the basic level of respect for others, so I deserve your attention and/or body’.

If it’s used about me, it seems the most bland and nondescript thing that a person can say.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"A few interesting points. I have nothing against the word nice although I'm aware some people dislike it as bland.

I think saying "I'm nice" is very different to someone else saying that a person is nice.

Get pissy not pussy. Fucksake autocorrect

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Unfortunately being the ‘Nice guy’ can be read as ‘being a pushover’ hence the common saying ‘nice guys finish last’. The amount of times I’ve heard ‘oh he’s too nice’ which they associated with ‘boring’ when further asked. Even in movies the nice guys are typically portrayed this way haha

Just an observation I’ve made over the years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A few interesting points. I have nothing against the word nice although I'm aware some people dislike it as bland.

I think saying "I'm nice" is very different to someone else saying that a person is nice.

Very much this!

'Nice guys' are generally creepy as fuck.

Decent human being....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

- I’ve always found the nicest guys to be alpha. Real alpha, not the loud hateful obnoxious plebs that self-proclaim to be alpha (real alphas lead observantly from the shadows, they have a special aura and don’t go unnoticed …) These guys have oodles of self-respect/confidence and are in turn respectful of others, equalling *nice*

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"A nice guy is a man who is nice. It really is that easy.

What it isn't is a man who is nice because he thinks it entitles him to sex or a man who confuses creepy, sychophancy with nice"

This

And there is nothing wrong with being a genuinely nice person.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"This is a trap, right?

LvM"

Correct, Admiral

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"This is a trap, right?

LvM

Correct, Admiral

LvM

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"A nice guy is just a bloke who’s nice and doesn’t expect a fanfare and to be told how great he is for doing the bare minimum (not being a dick)"

This x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beware the man or woman who 'tells' you they're nice! Actions speak louder than words!

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

On here, it's the bare minimum. Along with genuine, clean and punctual.

I don't mind it as a term, although it's a bit bland. I don't like when it's weaponised, though. "I'm nice so therefore I deserve blah blah blah" Or the flipside, "I tried being nice and didn't get anywhere so I'm going to be a dick now".

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they babysit their own kids.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Women what do you think makes a nice guy?

Men what do you do that makes you a nice guy?

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Your verification made me feel like a nice guy. I love you all the more for it."

I have never verified you but F has

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When they babysit their own kids."

Offt, I hate this term

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

I am a multifaceted complex human being with any number of motivational factors at play at any one time - work, personal, family - all feeding into how i will react to a situation or a person. Am i a nice guy? I don’t go out of my way to be unpleasant- i try to see the good in people first… but am i also a complete arse in other situations… absolutely…. Im not a nice guy… I’m a mirror and how I react to you is a reflection of you…

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"A nice guy is just a bloke who’s nice and doesn’t expect a fanfare and to be told how great he is for doing the bare minimum (not being a dick)"

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been known to open doors and on occasion lay my cape down over a puddle and once in a while I actually care and listen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When they babysit their own kids.

Offt, I hate this term

But aren't they clever.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

"Beware the man or woman who 'tells' you they're nice! Actions speak louder than words!"
.. this

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By *ogk9Man
over a year ago

worksop

People always say I’m nice. Hate it ????

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I think I'd prefer respectful guy. With manners, if you don't mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t say I’m one of the *nice* guys, OP, but clearly I’m one of the *good* ones.

You know, the ones for which the *bad* guys ruin FabSwingers for.

One of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s nothing like a nice guy !

He is only nice for that moment.

No one is nice it’s just how you see their negatives

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

We finish last

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a nice guy.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"We finish last

They really don't.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

People have their own definitions, but I'd prefer to be honest, good, decent etc than just 'nice' tbh.

I can be nice (I am really) but good luck in this world being nice all the time! Men in particular get thoroughly rolled over. Some successful men - all they've ever been able to actually do is fuck over the nice guys they come across.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

There are some nice guys on here, there are also some deceitful self proclaimed nice guys on here. Honesty, morals and kindness are major traits I consider nice guys to have and they always shine through

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"We finish last

They really don't."

Rest might not but I do

the rough among the smooth

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