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"I used to be an awful overthinker. Learned behaviour to a certain degree; I guess it's almost a form of anxiety. Sometimes I'd be able to find peace from it, like after sex, or even during it. Playing the violin because it's hard to think about too much and I can just switch off. Over the past few months I've started to find my own peace. When my mind starts whirring, I'll say nope. Not doing this. Or I do the and then game which a friend taught me - basically saying and then to every point which helps me realise the absurdity. I'm a big believer of mindfulness as well. Taking that time to being actually present in the moment, not thinking about the future, just enjoying and appreciating the hear and now. Whether it's a far too comfy bed, listening to the birds or cooking and enjoying the process. I've also found that the right people can still my mind - I'd not really experienced it before in such a way. For me my mind is chaotic. When I'm around someone it feels like my soul is calm. My waffling and curiosity stops and I can just be." This is great to read Meli - I'm pleased for you and it offers hope to the rest of us. | |||
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"I used to be an awful overthinker. Learned behaviour to a certain degree; I guess it's almost a form of anxiety. Sometimes I'd be able to find peace from it, like after sex, or even during it. Playing the violin because it's hard to think about too much and I can just switch off. Over the past few months I've started to find my own peace. When my mind starts whirring, I'll say nope. Not doing this. Or I do the and then game which a friend taught me - basically saying and then to every point which helps me realise the absurdity. I'm a big believer of mindfulness as well. Taking that time to being actually present in the moment, not thinking about the future, just enjoying and appreciating the hear and now. Whether it's a far too comfy bed, listening to the birds or cooking and enjoying the process. I've also found that the right people can still my mind - I'd not really experienced it before in such a way. For me my mind is chaotic. When I'm around someone it feels like my soul is calm. My waffling and curiosity stops and I can just be. This is great to read Meli - I'm pleased for you and it offers hope to the rest of us. " I'm still very much a work in progress! I have the odd little blips but they're far fewer. It started with the little things, building my confidence, applying for membership to something I've wanted to join for years... I've realised the happier I am, the more comfortable I am the less I overthink. Like yesterday - me earlier in the year would have overthought and said no. Soon you realise, and truly know it's wasted energy. | |||
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"I used to be an awful overthinker. Learned behaviour to a certain degree; I guess it's almost a form of anxiety. Sometimes I'd be able to find peace from it, like after sex, or even during it. Playing the violin because it's hard to think about too much and I can just switch off. Over the past few months I've started to find my own peace. When my mind starts whirring, I'll say nope. Not doing this. Or I do the and then game which a friend taught me - basically saying and then to every point which helps me realise the absurdity. I'm a big believer of mindfulness as well. Taking that time to being actually present in the moment, not thinking about the future, just enjoying and appreciating the hear and now. Whether it's a far too comfy bed, listening to the birds or cooking and enjoying the process. I've also found that the right people can still my mind - I'd not really experienced it before in such a way. For me my mind is chaotic. When I'm around someone it feels like my soul is calm. My waffling and curiosity stops and I can just be. This is great to read Meli - I'm pleased for you and it offers hope to the rest of us. I'm still very much a work in progress! I have the odd little blips but they're far fewer. It started with the little things, building my confidence, applying for membership to something I've wanted to join for years... I've realised the happier I am, the more comfortable I am the less I overthink. Like yesterday - me earlier in the year would have overthought and said no. Soon you realise, and truly know it's wasted energy." I don't know what happened yesterday but it sounds like it worked out well that you said yes! I should take you as a role model. | |||
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