FabSwingers.com forum: Is sexual history important?

By *ackformore100 OP Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Off the back of another thread...

Does peoples sexual history help you decide to get jiggy or not?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No, I'd rather not know it's none of my business.

Mrs

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Only in the sense of if they indulge in bareback without getting STI screenings - that's the only thing that bothers me. Aside from that, no.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

It's not something I'd ask about

But if it's laid out for me to see (veris, forum posts) , then it would influence my thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they bareback without thought then that would put me off.Obviously relationships are exempt from that. I don't need to know anything else about their sexual history.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not something I'd ask about

But if it's laid out for me to see (veris, forum posts) , then it would influence my thoughts "

If I know their history it puts me off.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"It's not something I'd ask about

But if it's laid out for me to see (veris, forum posts) , then it would influence my thoughts "

Yep, very much this. I don't really think about it until it's there for me to see. Sexual health wise I'm responsible for my own. Someone's past is their past but if I can see it? It might influence things.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Im defined by my own history so as i only fuck myself must know everything

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Uh, not really no.

I tend to prefer people who view sex the same way I do, but whether someone's had one partner or a thousand is pretty irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the person

I wouldn’t shame someone for not wanting to date someone with a high body count

I can’t agree personally, but it’s their choice

But really, you’ll never know the truth. If a girl doesn’t want you to know that she slept with the entire rugby team at a party, she’s not gonna tell you

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

You can’t know what you don’t know, however, we tend to judge how careful people are with their own health.

If you see lots of bareback photos that look like different people and if they mention they want bareback then we class them as higher risk. 150 play veris also makes us question the risk we’re taking. Some, of course, may do lots of bareback/meets but hide it well.

Sexual history is definitely important to assess the situation in some cases.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It makes no difference to me to be honest, what people have done or who people have done is none of my business, I expect the same in return

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By *astandFeistyCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Ir wouldn't be for us. In terms of sti, we take our own precautions so don't need to worry about others per se.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I find people are often willing to share it in conversation. I don't think I've ever asked directly. I have been asked and if both are comfortable to share it can be fun.

It's another way to find out about each other and develop intimacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends on the person

I wouldn’t shame someone for not wanting to date someone with a high body count

I can’t agree personally, but it’s their choice

But really, you’ll never know the truth. If a girl doesn’t want you to know that she slept with the entire rugby team at a party, she’s not gonna tell you"

For me, it would be the fact she told everyone she fucked the whole rugby team. Same with veris on profiles. I don't want to see them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m an adult that understands how to have safe sex and has safe sex. So I don’t really care too tough who else a woman has slept with or is sleeping with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Off the back of another thread...

Does peoples sexual history help you decide to get jiggy or not?

Yes it does. And if someone is or isn't open about their history doesn't bother me either way. I quite like hearing what they've got up to and what their experiences have been. I don't mean names etc, but their overall sexual adventures and experiences can tell me what type of lover they are. And as such if we match up in sexual preferences etc.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

If I’m interested in the person, I’m usually interested about the history & I don’t always like it, but it is what it is. I’d rather wait and they tell me than read about it on FAB

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"If I’m interested in the person, I’m usually interested about the history & I don’t always like it, but it is what it is. I’d rather wait and they tell me than read about it on FAB"

This is close enough for me

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It depends.

If someone uses it in a comparative way eg

'my last partner did that better/differently/faster' it puts me off massively.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Off the back of another thread...

Does peoples sexual history help you decide to get jiggy or not?

Not really. I find men are more interested in mine than vice versa. I'm always curious how a guy got into kink. But not in a "this will help me make my mind up" way.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"It's not something I'd ask about

But if it's laid out for me to see (veris, forum posts) , then it would influence my thoughts "

This for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m definitely more attracted to others with a similar mind set and relaxed approach so maybe that’s down to past experiences

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I’m definitely more attracted to others with a similar mind set and relaxed approach so maybe that’s down to past experiences"

I think this is true. We are attracted to like-minded. It wouldn’t even cross my mind to leave anyone I’ve met a sexual veri and they’ve never left me one either. I just wouldn’t be interested in someone who plasters their sex life on here so I obviously am attracted to people of the same mind set.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Yes... If he's barebacking a ton of men and women, we were not compatible

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By *akedMMan
over a year ago

Witney

My history is easy not had sex for five years with another person. Just been wanking to porn

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

Only really If they had been with someone who’s an absolute fucking scruff/crackhead ect or been with a close friend of mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's another way to find out about each other and develop intimacy."

Exactly this. If their sexual history is something that makes me recoil then they aren’t the person for me. Equally, if they share their sexual history in a such a way that it develops intimacy I don’t see it as negative. We all have a past. Judging someone on theirs, exclusively, is a bit strange. We are hopefully dynamic individuals and not static. What’s more important is their sexual health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in the slightest, I would prefer a man to have experience, that way they know what they like.

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By *estinyIsAllCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

It depends.

If I'm dating someone then no, it doesn't bother me as they're interested in me as I am them.

If it's someone on here, with loads of verifications from meeting for sex and not just attending gatherings, I find it intimidating and quite off-putting as a result.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s important to have this conversation as soon as possible because after a point you can’t really come back from telling your partner that you slept with their mum at a swingers club.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Off the back of another thread...

Does peoples sexual history help you decide to get jiggy or not?

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nope i don't want to know where they've been just where they are going

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Sexual history… no.

Sexual health… yes

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By *ullyMan
over a year ago

Near Clacton

As has been said, history no health yes, also a big no no is having bareback on a profile or saying they are on prep. This does nothing to assure me, instead I immediately think they are throwing caution to the wind and are very very promiscuous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. But if someone wanted to know my sexual history I hope they had a few evenings spare.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

"Sexual history… no.

Sexual health… yes

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. But if someone wanted to know my sexual history I hope they had a few evenings spare.

There are two types of 26 year olds on this site

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Numbers no.

How those numbers are made up and by who yes.

I much prefer to meet people on a similar journey and at a similar junction rather.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. But if someone wanted to know my sexual history I hope they had a few evenings spare.

There are two types of 26 year olds on this site"

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’d sooner not know if a bird I was meeting had previously used her bumhole as collecting device for a 20+ person anal creampie party. If I’m honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d sooner not know if a bird I was meeting had previously used her bumhole as collecting device for a 20+ person anal creampie party. If I’m honest. "

Mine was a 50+

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"I’d sooner not know if a bird I was meeting had previously used her bumhole as collecting device for a 20+ person anal creampie party. If I’m honest.

Mine was a 50+

That’s why I was wearing a full body condom when you entered my space recently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d sooner not know if a bird I was meeting had previously used her bumhole as collecting device for a 20+ person anal creampie party. If I’m honest.

Mine was a 50+

That’s why I was wearing a full body condom when you entered my space recently

You mean when you entered mine. I have the verification remember.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I’d sooner not know if a bird I was meeting had previously used her bumhole as collecting device for a 20+ person anal creampie party. If I’m honest. "

Is that a pre-requisite then?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"I’d sooner not know if a bird I was meeting had previously used her bumhole as collecting device for a 20+ person anal creampie party. If I’m honest.

Mine was a 50+

That’s why I was wearing a full body condom when you entered my space recently

You mean when you entered mine. I have the verification remember.

I had to wear 2 condoms when I entered you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d sooner not know if a bird I was meeting had previously used her bumhole as collecting device for a 20+ person anal creampie party. If I’m honest.

Mine was a 50+

That’s why I was wearing a full body condom when you entered my space recently

You mean when you entered mine. I have the verification remember.

I had to wear 2 condoms when I entered you

Just 2? I'd get yourself tested mate

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