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"Why can't I do it???? I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number! So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate? Opinions please!! Ta muchly " Do it, nothing wrong with it | |||
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"Why can't I do it???? I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number! So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate? Opinions please!! Ta muchly " It really depends upon the situation. Most recent occurrence was when Lucy came by to pick up an eBay purchase, she sent me a text after to ask if I wanted to meet up for a coffee/drink. It’s a brave thing to do and most men would admire that trait. | |||
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"I've never understood why it's seen as desperate to ask for something you want. Genuinely. Mrs TMN x" Because you've got to be all sexy and mysterious to the point that nobody actually knows if you're interested or not LvM | |||
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"Why can't I do it???? I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number! So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate? Opinions please!! Ta muchly " Fucking do it. Especially this day and age! I think no one can complain about not meeting the right people etc if they aren't giving it a go and taking chances and realising what's the worst that can happen... (*Which by the way is a block on here - doesn't change too much, some people just don't like you) ...so just do it! Us men LOVE a compliment. Crawl into our DMS, tell us we look good - we don't mind! | |||
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" ...so just do it! Us men LOVE a compliment. Crawl into our DMS, tell us we look good - we don't mind! " ( love) | |||
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"Why can't I do it???? I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number! So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate? Opinions please!! Ta muchly " I think you should assert yourself and pop the question. It’s another fake gender role where guys have to face and deal with possible rejection. It is never a given that your attraction will be reciprocal. Just feel the fear and do it anyway. What’s the worse that can happen? A bruised ego? | |||
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"20 seconds of courage...what have you got to lose " I'd have to find another car wash!! Lol!! | |||
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"! So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate? Opinions please!! Ta muchly " They have to with me. If they don’t then I have no idea how they’re responding to me. I can’t read facial expressions or body language, and so I have no way of telling if a woman is flirting with me. | |||
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"I’ve made the first move 3 times, and each one said no (I respect their decisions of course) But now I hate making the first move " It's no different to guys who have to make first moves a gillion times | |||
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"20 seconds of courage...what have you got to lose I'd have to find another car wash!! Lol!!" To be honest, around my way no one in the car washes speaks english, so if you've not got the courage to ask him in English, figuring out his lingo, going through Google translate and getting a no could be a tad embarrassing | |||
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"Why can't I do it???? I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number! So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate? Opinions please!! Ta muchly " | |||
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"I’ve made the first move 3 times, and each one said no (I respect their decisions of course) But now I hate making the first move " Only three, try being a guy. x | |||
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"I've never understood why it's seen as desperate to ask for something you want. Genuinely. Mrs TMN x Because you've got to be all sexy and mysterious to the point that nobody actually knows if you're interested or not LvM" Fuck that. If I like you, you'll know. Mrs TMN x | |||
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"I prefer it. I overthink things and don't want to think I read the signals wrong and they weren't interested in the way I thought " ^ This! All of this LvM | |||
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"I've never understood why it's seen as desperate to ask for something you want. Genuinely. Mrs TMN x Because you've got to be all sexy and mysterious to the point that nobody actually knows if you're interested or not LvM Fuck that. If I like you, you'll know. Mrs TMN x" Fancy a fuck? LvM | |||
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"I've never understood why it's seen as desperate to ask for something you want. Genuinely. Mrs TMN x Because you've got to be all sexy and mysterious to the point that nobody actually knows if you're interested or not LvM Fuck that. If I like you, you'll know. Mrs TMN x Fancy a fuck? LvM" Yep. | |||
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"Why can't I do it???? I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number! So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate? Opinions please!! Ta muchly " Its definitely hot. As a man depending on the situation I prefer the women to make the first move. In a nightclub situation we all know that guy who has to gets physically picked out the way because he is harssing women and does not get the hint. I do not want to be associated with that guy. In a nightclub situation it can be difficult to guess people's intentions and boundaries. For me grinding with someone is just dancing and there is nothing more to it. Where as someone else may see that as a massive invasion of space. Another situation you may fancy her but all she wants to do is grind with you. Basically I don't want to accidently hurt someone or be accused of something. So it's best for the women to make the first move. That way you know where you stand. Imo. I know a lot people will disagree with my cautious approach. | |||
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"I've never understood why it's seen as desperate to ask for something you want. Genuinely. Mrs TMN x Because you've got to be all sexy and mysterious to the point that nobody actually knows if you're interested or not LvM Fuck that. If I like you, you'll know. Mrs TMN x" And if she doesn’t, you’ll also know! | |||
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"20 seconds of courage...what have you got to lose I'd have to find another car wash!! Lol!!" Then he will know why you wanted to clean 3 times a day lol. | |||
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"Why can't I do it???? I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number! So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate? Opinions please!! Ta muchly " Is he single? | |||
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"Why can't I do it???? I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number! So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate? Opinions please!! Ta muchly " If it's someone I like the look of, it's really hot. If it isn't it's rather awkward. | |||
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"Why can't I do it???? I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number! So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate? Opinions please!! Ta muchly Is he single?" I don't know!! I just know him as hot car wash guy!! | |||
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"Does he give all the lady drivers the eye? Maybe that's just what he's like... do you even know if he's single? And straight? " I don't know if he does it to all women but he definitely bloody does it to me | |||
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"Why can't I do it???? I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number! So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate? Opinions please!! Ta muchly Is he single? I don't know!! I just know him as hot car wash guy!!" I usually ask leading questions. Like, oh I bet your girlfriend (cos you've checked for a wedding ring) has to wash your car cos you do everyone else's.... | |||
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"Why can't I do it???? I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number! So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate? Opinions please!! Ta muchly " Just go for it | |||
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"20 seconds of courage...what have you got to lose " Dignity I my case I'd be mortified if they turned me down, no matter how nicely they did it lol | |||
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"20 seconds of courage...what have you got to lose Dignity I my case I'd be mortified if they turned me down, no matter how nicely they did it lol" He’s very unlikely to turn her down | |||
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"OK shy ladies here an offer for you send me sample of what your first message to someone would be and I'll give you feedback ." I personally have no problem messaging someone on Fab- it's the face to face approach I struggle with!! | |||
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"OK shy ladies here an offer for you send me sample of what your first message to someone would be and I'll give you feedback . I personally have no problem messaging someone on Fab- it's the face to face approach I struggle with!!" I find it hard to believe he’d turn you down | |||
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"Love you not THAT shy your on here don't mean it in a bad way xx" Lol!! Fab isn't the same as in real life! I get approached on Fab by men I'm very attracted to, who only message me because it's Fab. They wouldn't give me a second glance if we passed each other on the street!! | |||
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"Love you not THAT shy your on here don't mean it in a bad way xx Lol!! Fab isn't the same as in real life! I get approached on Fab by men I'm very attracted to, who only message me because it's Fab. They wouldn't give me a second glance if we passed each other on the street!! " Real life is easy compared to Fab | |||
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"Love you not THAT shy your on here don't mean it in a bad way xx Lol!! Fab isn't the same as in real life! I get approached on Fab by men I'm very attracted to, who only message me because it's Fab. They wouldn't give me a second glance if we passed each other on the street!! Real life is easy compared to Fab " I don't agree, I'm afraid! | |||
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"Love you not THAT shy your on here don't mean it in a bad way xx Lol!! Fab isn't the same as in real life! I get approached on Fab by men I'm very attracted to, who only message me because it's Fab. They wouldn't give me a second glance if we passed each other on the street!! Real life is easy compared to Fab I don't agree, I'm afraid!" Fair enough - don’t expect you to agree | |||
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"Why can't I do it???? I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number! So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate? Opinions please!! Ta muchly " Is giving your number "making the first move"? I see it as "here's how to contact me, I'll wait for you to make the first move". Ask him out... that would be making the first move. Cal | |||
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"In theory it would be best for women to block all single men but make the first move on the men they interested in as it eliminates (or limits) unwanted attention from the men they not keen on" This thread is about real life, not online... | |||
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"So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate?" It’s quite possibly the hottest thing possible! | |||
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"Why can't I do it???? I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number! So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate? Opinions please!! Ta muchly " Confidence is attractive to me, Worst case he doesn't call or accept the number, he might have a partner already, and you have to use a different car wash Fortune favours the brave | |||
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"Thanks for the comments. I think I'll take the car for a clean a couple more times while I pluck up the courage!!! " Maybe get him into a conversation a couple of times before you decide about giving him your number, but do let us know… | |||
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