FabSwingers.com forum: The moment to strike

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ever get it where you like someone in the forum, yet no matter what you can't find that 'in' to reply to them in a thread and never get to interact with them in the process?

And you're clearly to shy to just message or wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send a DM. That’s what it’s for isnt it?

*Woody opens DMs for the op

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Just go for it. You immediately improve your chances by doing.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I try (never in DM as far too shy) but quite often I end up pissing them off in some way or they’re just oblivious to my efforts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be like that, but as I’ve been here over the years, I’ve developed a ‘fuck it……there’s nothing to lose by dropping a message to their box’

Life’s too short.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Every man in the forums are now checking their inbox

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I find the 'in' but they're clearly not interested by their limited responses back! I don't instigate messages with many people, so if I do it's not just bullshit ego stroking chat that many constantly do on here. But I guess you'd have to know me to realise that! Which takes us back to the beginning...

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

I tend to wait until I have something worthwhile to say in context but generally I don't bother on the assumption that any feelings won't be reciprocated.

Or I send a message then delete it from sent items so I have no idea if it has been read or not.

Despite my occasional bravado, making the first move is a big step. I can understand your hesitancy!

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Naaa not here to meet people I'm only here to chew gum and kick ass, and I'm all out of gum!

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I can be quite shy about it especially if I don’t think I’m their type so I’ll often just fab a load of pics and hope they get the message

If there are hints the interest might be reciprocated or I’m feeling brave I’ll message though.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I can't say I've ever liked someone from the forums apart from one guy (a couple of years ago) that I DM'd first...worked out great at the time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every poster I like in the forum either wouldn’t like me in that way or I can’t message anyway because I’m too young.

Them be the breaks.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"Ever get it where you like someone in the forum, yet no matter what you can't find that 'in' to reply to them in a thread and never get to interact with them in the process?

And you're clearly to shy to just message or wink."

All the time..all the damn time

Tinder

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh I just laughed so much at the responses. Because as always, true to form the assumptions are right there.

Now, who said it was a man? Or a sexual interest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people like me????

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I can't say I've ever liked someone from the forums apart from one guy (a couple of years ago) that I DM'd first...worked out great at the time x"

Ouch!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it’s on a friendship vibe, I still can’t message them because I’m too young.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Naaa not here to meet people I'm only here to chew gum and kick ass, and I'm all out of gum!"

You can kick my ass anytime

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

Always open for DMs don’t be shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 20/09/23 10:01:34]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh I just laughed so much at the responses. Because as always, true to form the assumptions are right there.

Now, who said it was a man? Or a sexual interest?"

No assumption made on my part.

The opinions still stands. Message ‘em, you got nowt to lose.

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By *jgittes_ukMan
over a year ago

leighton buzzard

"Ever get it where you like someone in the forum, yet no matter what you can't find that 'in' to reply to them in a thread and never get to interact with them in the process?

And you're clearly to shy to just message or wink."

Usually come up with a smart comment but ruin it by making a typo so it makes no sense. Then go back to say it was a typo and should have said ‘x’….by then the moment had gone.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Nah. Just say hit “reply privately” and if they respond then all is good. Fear is such an inhibitor in this life, now sometimes fear of certain things is good (it’s a survival trait after all) but fear of rejection (through a non-response), well that’s fab (certainly for single guys, although I’m sure it’s the same for others), but as long as we take that rejection with grace and do not read too much into it (you’re just not for them, it’s no biggie really) it doesn’t mean everyone will feel the same or that you aren’t “good enough”.

Deep breath and dive in, sometimes the pool is cold, but after a while you get used to it.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"And you're clearly to shy to just message or wink."

I’m never too shy. Want me to play wingman and find you an ‘in’?

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Yep that has happened

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I have tried with a couple who seem interesting and it just never went anywhere. I think with forum men it's harder to stand out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And you're clearly to shy to just message or wink.

I’m never too shy. Want me to play wingman and find you an ‘in’?"

Nope, in true two year old independence style ...I'm going to do it myself!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

The OP fancies one of the Mods. Fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OP fancies one of the Mods. Fact."

Nicecouple init? Their filters are tighter than my arsehole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OP fancies one of the Mods. Fact."

Or was this a mods and rockers thing

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Every man in the forums are now checking their inbox

Ha ha she's cruel... giving them all hope

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I find the ‘in’, and sometimes make pertinent, witty comments, but I just get ignored.

(Same as this comment lol)

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Ever get it where you like someone in the forum, yet no matter what you can't find that 'in' to reply to them in a thread and never get to interact with them in the process?

And you're clearly to shy to just message or wink."

Ah a morning mystery who will be the lucky recipient should this beautiful lady message them or will it be forever a mystery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OP fancies one of the Mods. Fact.

Nicecouple init? Their filters are tighter than my arsehole "

I got through

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"The OP fancies one of the Mods. Fact.

Nicecouple init? Their filters are tighter than my arsehole

I got through

Oh mylady of the forum moderation my love be still my beating heart yet another suitor stands in the way Suitoress in this case . I got through as well but yet still a dream to actually meet .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone in the forum is 9 hours away

No level of interest could tempt me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Every man in the forums are now checking their inbox

Ha ha she's cruel... giving them all hope

Should I state that 8pm I'll send a message and see how many go online at that time?

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

"Ever get it where you like someone in the forum, yet no matter what you can't find that 'in' to reply to them in a thread and never get to interact with them in the process?

And you're clearly too shy to just message or wink."

I think if someone else wrote this, you would probably tell them to take a deep breath and go for it with a message. So go and send that message PW you got this

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"The OP fancies one of the Mods. Fact.

Nicecouple init? Their filters are tighter than my arsehole "

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No, it's not them.

But I do fancy Mrs Nicecouple. She is the thinking-man's crumpet and torments me daily.

You're right about the filters though.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Those I'm interested in know. I'm quite forward in letting it known unless I know it's not mutual, no point pointing it out if that's the case.

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

"Every man in the forums are now checking their inbox

Ha ha she's cruel... giving them all hope

Should I state that 8pm I'll send a message and see how many go online at that time?

I don’t think I will need to unfortunately for me

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Just close your eyes and hit the wink button. What's the worst that could happen

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To and extent. It usually happens because 3 or 4 guys have already replied to their post so I don't want to overwhelm them

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I think you shouldn’t overthink it and if you want to say hi then just drop a wink or message to say “Hey - been following you on threads and thought I would say hi.”.

Worse case is they ignore you and you are where you are now. Best case you are

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Slip I to their DM's, what is there to lose....but what is there to gain

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By *ocksareoffMan
over a year ago

Out n About

For someone like myself who is a loner/recluse/introvert call it what you will I sympathise. That and not having a clue how to strike up a conversation, i find it a challenge to say the least.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

I think this dilemma is generally more an issue for woman (in general, not all) than it is for men.

Largely because men don't often get rejected, it's more ignored/lost in the pile of messages in a ladies inbox.

Men (general not all!) on the other hand mostly have an empty inbox, so there is not much chance to get lost. The ignore/rejection is all the more obvious and a clear sign that they have zero interest.

Men will just go for it and worry less in the doing, some react badly to the result though.

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

So far I haven't seen my type in the forums I'll be surprised when they do appear in here.

I would send a wink see what happens there xx

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By *amesBeelzebubMan
over a year ago

norwich

"Ever get it where you like someone in the forum, yet no matter what you can't find that 'in' to reply to them in a thread and never get to interact with them in the process?

And you're clearly to shy to just message or wink."

Would it help if i DM you first so you didn't have to make the 1st move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most guys inboxes are blowing with tumble so just send it, the worst thing that can happen is he will send you a sky remote comparison photo and you have seen them already, crack on

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Yes, you're one of them OP

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

NG 21

Nothing ventured nothing gained.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I would imagin lots of men saying

I'm am sparticus today .or at least hopeing they are .

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

Its a little known fact that most men are a bit thick when it comes to women’s hints and flirting - in fact a pussy pic labelled fuck me is occasionally misconstrued as the sender being surprised’fuck me!!’ As opposed to a request or instruction - safest thing is hello…. I find you very interesting and would really like to chat/suck/lick/finger/wank/shag *( delete as appropriate ) you at your earliest convenience…now show me your tits/pussy/cock/arse/book collection *( as above) immediately!!

Please feel free to use this versatile template!!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"Everyone in the forum is 9 hours away

No level of interest could tempt me "

Make someone feel invisible why don't you.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"Ever get it where you like someone in the forum, yet no matter what you can't find that 'in' to reply to them in a thread and never get to interact with them in the process?

And you're clearly too shy to just message or wink."

I sympathise wholeheartedly OP.

How about starting the said thread yourself?

(Or ask RTG to do it for us shy ones instead)

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"The OP fancies one of the Mods. Fact.

Nicecouple init? Their filters are tighter than my arsehole

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No, it's not them.

But I do fancy Mrs Nicecouple. She is the thinking-man's crumpet and torments me daily.

You're right about the filters though."

Punch up between Nero and Pickle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just go for it. You immediately improve your chances by doing. "

If you don’t try, they can’t say no.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I just wait for the

“8pm nice message thread”. Perfect excuse.

I then proceed to friend zone myself

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

"I just wait for the

“8pm nice message thread”. Perfect excuse.

I then proceed to friend zone myself

I have friend boned you - essentially first chance i get…

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"The OP fancies one of the Mods. Fact.

Nicecouple init? Their filters are tighter than my arsehole

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No, it's not them.

But I do fancy Mrs Nicecouple. She is the thinking-man's crumpet and torments me daily.

You're right about the filters though.

Punch up between Nero and Pickle

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Or a threesome?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just go for it. You immediately improve your chances by doing.

If you don’t try, they can’t say no.

^^ He knows ^^

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

"I just wait for the

“8pm nice message thread”. Perfect excuse.

I then proceed to friend zone myself

Take a seat, I'm permanently in...

THE FRIEND ZONE

zone

zon

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Every poster I like in the forum either wouldn’t like me in that way or I can’t message anyway because I’m too young.

Them be the breaks. "

N'awww

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

The dilemmas is if you message them they might block you and you then can't see their pics, if you don't message them you may be missing an opportunity to start a conversation that goes somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every poster I like in the forum either wouldn’t like me in that way or I can’t message anyway because I’m too young.

Them be the breaks.

N'awww

I’m glad I got in your box

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Every man in the forums are now checking their inbox

Ha ha she's cruel... giving them all hope

Should I state that 8pm I'll send a message and see how many go online at that time?

Was the message sent .

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Some of the nicest women I've met have sent the first wink or message.

I really am too lazy at times.....

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Scoring with a forumite is all about timing. Well it has been in my experience, I expect for ladies it's more to do with expressing the slightest hint of interest in a guy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Every man in the forums are now checking their inbox

Ha ha she's cruel... giving them all hope

Should I state that 8pm I'll send a message and see how many go online at that time?

Was the message sent ."

Nope I bottled it.

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

Yep, and when I find the thread I always miss my chance to interact with them and 99% of the time I bottle it and go eat cake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, never happened and anyway usually blocked by filters.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I see it like shopping when broke i see what i like but i cant affort to get it

Unless i really really wanted it then id take it and run

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Every man in the forums are now checking their inbox

Ha ha she's cruel... giving them all hope

Should I state that 8pm I'll send a message and see how many go online at that time?

Was the message sent .

Nope I bottled it."

Dam wanted a good result for you .

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"Ever get it where you like someone in the forum, yet no matter what you can't find that 'in' to reply to them in a thread and never get to interact with them in the process?

And you're clearly to shy to just message or wink."

It's OK. You can send a message to us. We don't bite.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Every poster I like in the forum either wouldn’t like me in that way or I can’t message anyway because I’m too young.

Them be the breaks.

N'awww

I’m glad I got in your box

Not yet, Pickle, but when you do you better have lubed

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

One, they will forever live on my hotlist.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"Ever get it where you like someone in the forum, yet no matter what you can't find that 'in' to reply to them in a thread and never get to interact with them in the process?

And you're clearly to shy to just message or wink."

Honestly don't be shy it's ok, I'm expecting it now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ever get it where you like someone in the forum, yet no matter what you can't find that 'in' to reply to them in a thread and never get to interact with them in the process?

And you're clearly to shy to just message or wink.

Honestly don't be shy it's ok, I'm expecting it now

You were so so dam nice to me in reply to the last message I sent you, Honestly I'll treasure it forever.

I couldn't possibly message you again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry. In!

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Ever get it where you like someone in the forum, yet no matter what you can't find that 'in' to reply to them in a thread and never get to interact with them in the process?

And you're clearly to shy to just message or wink."

You are certainly amazeing the interesting threads you put up and questions you ask.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Ever get it where you like someone in the forum, yet no matter what you can't find that 'in' to reply to them in a thread and never get to interact with them in the process?

And you're clearly to shy to just message or wink."
No not really I'm not shy

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