FabSwingers.com forum: Why do guys do it?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Arranged a meet with a guy , on the night HE suggested ( tonight ) , had a couple of messages during this week saying all is ok for tonight etc ,

Just had a message saying he can, t make it .......sighs,

We realise things can change but it does get annoying , more so as we have arranged things at our end to be able to meet on the night he suggested .....

Ho hum ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bummer but at least you weren't left waiting for him and he don't turn up. Have you got a backup guy waiting?

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

Happened to us at hotel,so now we only meet single guys at clubs,it also puts people off I have trouble meeting women and couples when wife unavailable due to timewaisters,it spoils it for us genuing guys

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral

"Arranged a meet with a guy , on the night HE suggested ( tonight ) , had a couple of messages during this week saying all is ok for tonight etc ,

Just had a message saying he can, t make it .......sighs,

We realise things can change but it does get annoying , more so as we have arranged things at our end to be able to meet on the night he suggested .....

Ho hum ,

I guess it depends on the reason he can't make it.

He has given you plenty of notice that he can't make the meet with you tonight, which actually is a good thing. For example, you hear of single ladies and couples who can't make a meet at short notice for various reasons including for example thier child is unwell or babysitter can't make it.

If his reason is similar to that, or he's simply become unwell during the night and doesn't want to infect you with a cold/flu/cough etc then I'd say he's done the right thing.

Ofcourse if he's simply decided not to come because he's bottled it, got a better offer or a night out with his mates, well, only you and he will know that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's a bummer but at least you weren't left waiting for him and he don't turn up. Have you got a backup guy waiting? "

No back up , as we had three messages confirming all was ok for tonight and wouldn't like to keep another guy " hanging in the background " ,

As said .....we do appreciate that daily life can change etc but its also frustrating that we made arrangements to enable the meet on a night he confirmed was ok ,

but at least he did let us know , better than not turning up without informing us .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely, at least you have time to find another more reliable fella. Mind you, no guarantee he'll turn up either lol

Don't have high expectations then your not disappointed.

Alternatively with the unexpected time you have together, go wild on your own

show em what they missed out on

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Well he let you know, so, without his version of events, it seems fine. Annoying, but these things happen.

Tired old line alert: it's not just the guys do this....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well he let you know, so, without his version of events, it seems fine. Annoying, but these things happen.

Tired old line alert: it's not just the guys do this...."

Yes , agreed ,

Just frustrating ,

But no harm done .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bummer but at least you weren't left waiting for him and he don't turn up. Have you got a backup guy waiting?

No back up , as we had three messages confirming all was ok for tonight and wouldn't like to keep another guy " hanging in the background " ,

As said .....we do appreciate that daily life can change etc but its also frustrating that we made arrangements to enable the meet on a night he confirmed was ok ,

but at least he did let us know , better than not turning up without informing us .

Do a "meet today" thingy - we had over 50 messages the last time we did one - very effective!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well he let you know, so, without his version of events, it seems fine. Annoying, but these things happen.

Tired old line alert: it's not just the guys do this...."

Don't forget 'ruins it for us genuine guys' lol

(Oh shit already been done)

Feel a game of fab cliche line bingo coming on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we had a guy who had messaged us and text us loads, we were so looking forward to a meet. We were due to meet at 8pm and the babysitter was on the way at 7:25 when the phone bleeped to say he couldn't make it. Gutted. But what can you do. Just so frustrating!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

put out another ad and search meets, there is still time.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

We had phoned the guy as we were leaving for hotel ,but was just a prick winding us up,didn't help it being our first time and yes we are geniung why not read our profile and check with couples and guys we have met......or are you one of the fake profiles on here,,,we stick to clubs and partys only now ,,shame some arsewholes spoil it for others ,but you get that everywhere not just swinging sites

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By *ctavius StuntMan
over a year ago

london

Yeah i get the same problem with cpls and single fems. Happens all the time.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Arranged a meet with a guy , on the night HE suggested ( tonight ) , had a couple of messages during this week saying all is ok for tonight etc ,

Just had a message saying he can, t make it .......sighs,

We realise things can change but it does get annoying , more so as we have arranged things at our end to be able to meet on the night he suggested .....

Ho hum ,

Erm...so what exactly did he do wrong to warrant this thread?

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Meets are always a lottery, for both men and women. You never know until the deed is done whether or not they will show - or - was it worth them showing up if they did. The good guys keep me happy though, so I'll keep travelling in hope! X

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