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By *ake_or_death OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester

...by finding yourself enjoying or being turned on by the thought of something that you wouldn't have expected? As in, you're sexting with someone and they suggest something that you've never considered before, but the thought of it suddenly turns you on? Or been with a partner and they've suggested doing something and you've let them and you turned out to be really into it?

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Yes. I have.

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

I am pretty sure most will have done at some point

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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago

the land of tall tales and yarn

All the time. This place is a minefield of information

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I was quite surprised to discover that I really enjoyed the pleasure of the attention of 2 men at the same time

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.

Yes.

A Person recently suggested trying something and I'd not thought about it before but his darn eyes and kisses had me thinking this could be be a very good idea. It wasn't that I let him to do it, it was more, he opened my eyes to it.

It really, really, was a very good idea. I'm quite open to things in the right mood.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

An example:

I never understood the appeal of spanking. At all. Live and let live, it does things for other people but nothing for me. Etc.

Until one day I’m chatting with a girl (DMs over Twitter, if you must know). And she’s telling me, in great detail, what exactly it does for her. Mentally, and physically. The sting. The tingle. The relinquishing of control. The way each smack across her cheeks makes her cunt wetter and wetter until she’s literally dripping and desperate to be fucked.

Suddenly I get it. Not in a universal ‘I’ll spank women now’ kind of way. Just in that I understand, completely, why she likes it and hell yes I’m now turned on by the idea of doing it with her. (Specifically with *her*. Not everyone.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always said I'd never be into 20 something's in my 40s...but damn!

Danish x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"An example:

I never understood the appeal of spanking. At all. Live and let live, it does things for other people but nothing for me. Etc.

Until one day I’m chatting with a girl (DMs over Twitter, if you must know). And she’s telling me, in great detail, what exactly it does for her. Mentally, and physically. The sting. The tingle. The relinquishing of control. The way each smack across her cheeks makes her cunt wetter and wetter until she’s literally dripping and desperate to be fucked.

Suddenly I get it. Not in a universal ‘I’ll spank women now’ kind of way. Just in that I understand, completely, why she likes it and hell yes I’m now turned on by the idea of doing it with her. (Specifically with *her*. Not everyone.)"

I do love those conversations, where the depth of desire is shared in intricate detail and it inspires a vicarious arousal in me.

Nice description too, you sexy bastard.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

God no.

Lights out. Missionary. Under the flannelette. Must never deviate.

In truth - I scare myself sometimes. If it’s pitched right I could potentially even find the above sexy

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By *apidaryMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Lights out. Missionary. Under the flannelette. Must never deviate.

"

If ever there was an irresistible invite for kink shaming...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. That’s basically how we ended up here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An example:

I never understood the appeal of spanking. At all. Live and let live, it does things for other people but nothing for me. Etc.

Until one day I’m chatting with a girl (DMs over Twitter, if you must know). And she’s telling me, in great detail, what exactly it does for her. Mentally, and physically. The sting. The tingle. The relinquishing of control. The way each smack across her cheeks makes her cunt wetter and wetter until she’s literally dripping and desperate to be fucked.

Suddenly I get it. Not in a universal ‘I’ll spank women now’ kind of way. Just in that I understand, completely, why she likes it and hell yes I’m now turned on by the idea of doing it with her. (Specifically with *her*. Not everyone.)"

Mate, you really need to write that blog again.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Oral for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never ever imagined I'd try the perverted things I have and enjoy them. Hunger for them, even.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"All the time. This place is a minefield of information "
knitting for one

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Yes. I love being surprised by new things.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Lights out. Missionary. Under the flannelette. Must never deviate.

If ever there was an irresistible invite for kink shaming... "

It’s rare that I’m irresistible

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London


"It’s rare that I’m irresistible "

No it’s not.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"God no.

Lights out. Missionary. Under the flannelette. Must never deviate.

In truth - I scare myself sometimes. If it’s pitched right I could potentially even find the above sexy "

Do it with the right person and it might just be mind-blowing

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"It’s rare that I’m irresistible

No it’s not. "

Shush…. I got you pissed & took advantage

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"God no.

Lights out. Missionary. Under the flannelette. Must never deviate.

In truth - I scare myself sometimes. If it’s pitched right I could potentially even find the above sexy

Do it with the right person and it might just be mind-blowing "

Got any flanelette?

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By *ersuasion22Couple
over a year ago

Herts

I can be quite shy and lacking in confidence, so never thought I'd enjoy going to sex clubs and being watched. When we first started talking about going to one I couldn't imagine having sex in front of others, but after our first visit I was converted! Now I wish we'd gone sooner. I'm much more of an exhibitionist than I thought! - Mrs P

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By *rinwin69Man
over a year ago

STOCKPORT

Most certainly, I say I'm open to suggestions, and that's led me to experience some mind blowing times and hope it continues....

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London


"Shush…. I got you pissed & took advantage "

I was about to argue, but … you may have a point.

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Yeah all the time. Sometimes in the heat of the moment when I’m agreeable and in the headspace to be led astray I’ll do and say all sorts of things and then spend the duration of the post game shower wondering how things escalated to such an extent

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Ooh yes. And hopefully there's lots more random stuff to discover and be introduced to yet to come!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes lots of times and hopefully many more times to come.

Mrs

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng


"...by finding yourself enjoying or being turned on by the thought of something that you wouldn't have expected? As in, you're sexting with someone and they suggest something that you've never considered before, but the thought of it suddenly turns you on? Or been with a partner and they've suggested doing something and you've let them and you turned out to be really into it? "

Oh yes. Definitely yes.

Literally have on my profile that one of the things that I am looking for is learning other people's kinks and discovering more of mine.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"An example:

I never understood the appeal of spanking. At all. Live and let live, it does things for other people but nothing for me. Etc.

Until one day I’m chatting with a girl (DMs over Twitter, if you must know). And she’s telling me, in great detail, what exactly it does for her. Mentally, and physically. The sting. The tingle. The relinquishing of control. The way each smack across her cheeks makes her cunt wetter and wetter until she’s literally dripping and desperate to be fucked.

Suddenly I get it. Not in a universal ‘I’ll spank women now’ kind of way. Just in that I understand, completely, why she likes it and hell yes I’m now turned on by the idea of doing it with her. (Specifically with *her*. Not everyone.)"

This ^ Yes it's happened, but knowing the why is just as important to flick that switch

LvM

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By *ake_or_death OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"...by finding yourself enjoying or being turned on by the thought of something that you wouldn't have expected? As in, you're sexting with someone and they suggest something that you've never considered before, but the thought of it suddenly turns you on? Or been with a partner and they've suggested doing something and you've let them and you turned out to be really into it?

Oh yes. Definitely yes.

Literally have on my profile that one of the things that I am looking for is learning other people's kinks and discovering more of mine."

How's that working out for you?

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By *ake_or_death OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"I can be quite shy and lacking in confidence, so never thought I'd enjoy going to sex clubs and being watched. When we first started talking about going to one I couldn't imagine having sex in front of others, but after our first visit I was converted! Now I wish we'd gone sooner. I'm much more of an exhibitionist than I thought! - Mrs P"

Wow! I can't imagine going to a club myself so I can imagine that must have been difficult the first time. That's great.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"...by finding yourself enjoying or being turned on by the thought of something that you wouldn't have expected? As in, you're sexting with someone and they suggest something that you've never considered before, but the thought of it suddenly turns you on? Or been with a partner and they've suggested doing something and you've let them and you turned out to be really into it? "

Yes.

That's kind of to be expected. Not everyone will put in graphic detail what they enjoy on a profile because it just attracts potential unwanted attention.

Just because someone likes something, or wants to try something for the first time, it doesn't mean they'd be willing to do or try it with just anyone.

Certain things require an extra element of trust and/or a closer connection with another.

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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago

the land of tall tales and yarn


"All the time. This place is a minefield of information knitting for one "

**hmmmmm maybe not everyone thinks knitting is sexy. Rethinks name choice**

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By *andB130Couple
over a year ago

northampton


"...by finding yourself enjoying or being turned on by the thought of something that you wouldn't have expected? As in, you're sexting with someone and they suggest something that you've never considered before, but the thought of it suddenly turns you on? Or been with a partner and they've suggested doing something and you've let them and you turned out to be really into it? "

Yes, guess that's how we have broadened our horizons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once got home to find myself sat there on the sofa waiting - that was surprising

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London


"**hmmmmm maybe not everyone thinks knitting is sexy. Rethinks name choice**"

Trust me, if you’re what _nitters look like nowadays? Then knitting is sexy as hell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yeah, absolutely.

And it’s also worked the other way for me- something that I was into sexually with one partner, I tried with another partner and it just didn’t work for me!

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London


"Oh yeah, absolutely.

And it’s also worked the other way for me- something that I was into sexually with one partner, I tried with another partner and it just didn’t work for me! "

I think this ties up with what I was saying earlier.

It’s generally about the person for me, and the moment. If you show me that something turns you into an open-mouthed, panting, wet and desperate mess … god-damn that’s going to turn me on. And make me open to trying whatever it is with you. Dying to try it with you, in fact. But with *you* specifically.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

Never thought I'd be into having sex in front of people but there we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some things I not only wouldn't put on my profile, I won't mention here because I know what this place is like. Judgey!

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"Some things I not only wouldn't put on my profile, I won't mention here because I know what this place is like. Judgey!"

Everyone judges, it's natural. And we all know everything natural is good.

Oh hang on... a moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some things I not only wouldn't put on my profile, I won't mention here because I know what this place is like. Judgey!

Everyone judges, it's natural. And we all know everything natural is good.

Oh hang on... a moment "

Are you feeling unnatural?

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"Some things I not only wouldn't put on my profile, I won't mention here because I know what this place is like. Judgey!

Everyone judges, it's natural. And we all know everything natural is good.

Oh hang on... a moment

Are you feeling unnatural? "

Always

Never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have both surprised the other multiple times. What started our rather simple sex turned into kinky filth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you could suggest a lot of things around ovulation time and I'd get turned on at them all.

Failing that two weeks without sex would have the same effect if I haven't murdered anyone yet.

Add alcohol and the above is null and void as her downstairs ceases to have a voice and waves goodbye to anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some things I not only wouldn't put on my profile, I won't mention here because I know what this place is like. Judgey!

Everyone judges, it's natural. And we all know everything natural is good.

Oh hang on... a moment

Are you feeling unnatural?

Always

Never "

But I thought? With the...? Oh never mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh yeah, absolutely.

And it’s also worked the other way for me- something that I was into sexually with one partner, I tried with another partner and it just didn’t work for me!

I think this ties up with what I was saying earlier.

It’s generally about the person for me, and the moment. If you show me that something turns you into an open-mouthed, panting, wet and desperate mess … god-damn that’s going to turn me on. And make me open to trying whatever it is with you. Dying to try it with you, in fact. But with *you* specifically."

Are you talking about *me* specifically?

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London


"Are you talking about *me* specifically? "

I wasn’t. But now I am.

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By *addy bareMan
over a year ago

lakeside

I'm surprised how much the thought of going to a sex club turns me on,but never had anyone to go with and don't think I could go on my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm surprised how much the thought of going to a sex club turns me on,but never had anyone to go with and don't think I could go on my own."

Why not?

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