FabSwingers.com forum: Are you happy with...

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

who you are? Whether that's physically, mentally, how you are with others etc?

Yep, that's the question. Not too much waffle today.:D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not hugely, on many levels.

A work in progress

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yes definitely. Physically I’m almost there. Lost 2 stone in 5 months, probably another stone to go. Feel so much better and healthier and I’m very happy

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

No to all 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for the most part, I am. I guess I hope I was a little less reactive to my emotions and have more of an ability to shake things off as opposed to overthinking and wearing my emotions on my sleeve. I think I'd be happier if I did that.

Physically, I wish I was taller

but I'm ok with my body, building muscle has meant seeing a little more fat in myself which has taken some getting used to but overall, I'm pretty happy with that side of things as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we are going nicely both in fitness and in family life.

Work is bleh but it pays the bills.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes definitely. Physically I’m almost there. Lost 2 stone in 5 months, probably another stone to go. Feel so much better and healthier and I’m very happy

Go you!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Yes.

It's taken a long fucking time to truly appreciate who I am. And I'm proud of what I am.

I have my flaws and imperfections, amd there are times that they're all I can see still. But I'm a good person. I'm blessed with good genes. And I look fucking amazing when I put the effort in to see that

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Yes

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Physically - nope but working on getting my fitness back and accepting what is (or braving surgery whichever ends up being the easier route).

Mentally - well, im a bit chaotic in the head but I manage and its never going to change.

Personality - am not for everyone and thats ok. I have friends and family who love me anyway. So its all good

MrsAbz

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Yes definitely. Physically I’m almost there. Lost 2 stone in 5 months, probably another stone to go. Feel so much better and healthier and I’m very happy

Go you!

Thank you

. I’m proud of myself. Never stuck to something this long and I’m loving the keeping fit side of it too

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Most of the time I am and occasionally I'm not. I think nearly everyone has moments of self doubt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I've got older I've caught myself to just be what you are.. so yes I'm happy, I'm surrounded my our beautiful family, we have a lovely house which is mortgage free so life's good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physically, Christ no. So many things I would change, some ice been trying to for over 30 years, others I can't change.

Mentally, yes I'm happy with me. I've been at rock bottom, and made some huge mistakes but I've changed and grown into where I am now.

How I am with others? Yes definitely. I try to be nice to people, I try to reserve judgement, I'm sympathetic, have empathy with a lot of people and situations, I'm chatty, friendly and like to think I'm a fun person to be around...this is where some person jumps up and says nahhhh...you're a right twat.

Basically I try to be the best version of me that I can be in every aspect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes definitely. Physically I’m almost there. Lost 2 stone in 5 months, probably another stone to go. Feel so much better and healthier and I’m very happy

Go you!

Thank you

. I’m proud of myself. Never stuck to something this long and I’m loving the keeping fit side of it too

Once you get into the habit of it and see the results, it can definitely help motivate you to keep going

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

I'd love to be a bit more physically fit but don't get time to go to a gym and not disaplined enough to do it at home, but apart from that I'm me and I like me even if others don't.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Happy? No

Okay with? Yes

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

yes im happy still keep myself fit although its not getting any easier,, age

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No unfortunately not

Mrs

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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago

the land of tall tales and yarn

Absofreakinglutly I'm totally AWESOME.

I can't become younger, I could have less wobbly bits but I really like cookies

I have people to love and love me back.

Im kind to others and they are kind back.

A crazy sunny disposition on life helps

All good in Knitters world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I have ailments,I am unfit, I am getting old, I don't like the way I look, I have little money these days and I still live in the UK which is a cesspool of stupidity, bigotry, greed, superstition and discrimination.

Other than that, everything in life is crap.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Self-accepting. Perhaps a little too much I really should get more exercise.

Mentally, actually yes I am quite content. It may not be to everyone's liking, but then devoting myself to such an endeavour - well I wouldn't be myself then would I?

Others... the big udder shudder.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"who you are? Whether that's physically, mentally, how you are with others etc?

Yep, that's the question. Not too much waffle today.:D"

No waffle?

Yes!

Cal

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By *NGthe2ndWoman
over a year ago

Here and there

Personally I've always been happy with who I am as a person. I think I'm pretty nice and kind.

Physically, I think I've been unhappy since 2000

It sucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

definitely no no and no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physically - Sometimes. I can look in the mirror and not like what I see whereas other times I can look and realise I'm beautiful no matter what anyone else thinks.

Mentally - Sometimes. I should cut myself some slack, I've been through a lot and I've been brave enough to tell someone I was struggling and needed help. Sometimes I think I shouldn't let the things that have happened affect me as much as I have let it.

How I am with others - Yes. What you get from me is me. I'm not pretending to be someone else.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Yes. Physically because I've lost the gut that stopped me fitting into some excellent jeans.

Mentally also yes. Because I've adjusted to, and accepted the way life now is, and am making the most of it.

It's all gravy.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Mostly. It's hard to throw off all of societies standards of beauty. I like my inner self. I like my intelligence. I think I have done a great job as a mother and have brought up 3 wonderful and loving children.

So overall much more in the positive than the negative. I would choose to have me as a friend.

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By *onny DangerousMan
over a year ago

Nowhere Town Aycliffe

Yes and no

I’ve become more comfortable with who I am after many years of introspection but I’m not satisfied either, I want to improve many aspects of myself. A process which in itself helps makes me feel better about myself.

Have I said “myself” too many times

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"who you are? Whether that's physically, mentally, how you are with others etc?

Yep, that's the question. Not too much waffle today.:D"

I've tried to type a response to this 4 times, much too wordy.

Simpler, I'm I lot fucked up and a lot ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No - thanks for asking

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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago

the land of tall tales and yarn

What about you OP?

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Yeah I’m ok maybe a bit self belief confidence required

How about you OP

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

"who you are? Whether that's physically, mentally, how you are with others etc?

Yep, that's the question. Not too much waffle today.:D"

Last few years life has kicked the crap out of me. So I’m in a rebuilding phase. Working hard on resilience

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"No - thanks for asking "

Feel da luv bruv.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No - thanks for asking

Feel da luv bruv."

Sorry?

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"No - thanks for asking

Feel da luv bruv.

Sorry? "

Showing you some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"who you are? Whether that's physically, mentally, how you are with others etc?

Yep, that's the question. Not too much waffle today.:D"

Nope. But that’s what keeps me improving. I’m never enough. That’s the life of most men. I’m working constantly to better myself. I will never find peace with it and that keeps me moving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No - thanks for asking

Feel da luv bruv.

Sorry?

Showing you some

Ah ok - thank you, that’s nice of you x

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Not hugely, on many levels.

A work in progress "

I hope that it increases for you in the coming months and years, Jennie.

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

Yea, I have some great friends, a wonderful nesting partner and some good potential partners too!

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Yes definitely. Physically I’m almost there. Lost 2 stone in 5 months, probably another stone to go. Feel so much better and healthier and I’m very happy

Oh that's brilliant news Nora, well done you! It's not the easiest thing to do but you're well on your way to achieving what you want to.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Honestly, no, not really. This is my general sense, but especially at the moment as I've put a little weight on - bvut I've been thinkins about this recently because that hasn't stopped me making a new FWB so I'm obviously not unattractive to everyone right now, so why hasn't that acceptance by someone else raised my mood? Just shows that it's not really about the outside, it's about what's going on inside.

Mentally...I get annoyed with myself a lot for various reasons. This is pointless as it doesn't change anything, but I still do. So, could do better there too.

I should stress that I'm fine - this is a kind of general background hum of annoyance, it's not like I spend all day thinking about it.

I hope your answer to your own question is more positive OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly, no, not really. This is my general sense, but especially at the moment as I've put a little weight on - bvut I've been thinkins about this recently because that hasn't stopped me making a new FWB so I'm obviously not unattractive to everyone right now, so why hasn't that acceptance by someone else raised my mood? Just shows that it's not really about the outside, it's about what's going on inside.

Mentally...I get annoyed with myself a lot for various reasons. This is pointless as it doesn't change anything, but I still do. So, could do better there too.

I should stress that I'm fine - this is a kind of general background hum of annoyance, it's not like I spend all day thinking about it.

I hope your answer to your own question is more positive OP! "

I do like your posts - good man

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I sometimes think what would my life have been like if I had chosen to go down the academia path and not been a mother and wife at a very young age.

Physically, I'll start my body over again please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally yes. And I’m excited at the prospect of more growth. After all I’m only 26.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"No to all 3 "

I was about to type 'sorry to read this' and then I realised how ***king patronising that can come across. So I'm going to instead say, I hope things improve for you. Genuinely, x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I sometimes think what would my life have been like if I had chosen to go down the academia path and not been a mother and wife at a very young age.

Physically, I'll start my body over again please. "

Could you still go down the academic path?

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Mentally...I get annoyed with myself a lot for various reasons. This is pointless as it doesn't change anything, but I still do. So, could do better there too.

I should stress that I'm fine - this is a kind of general background hum of annoyance, it's not like I spend all day thinking about it.

I hope your answer to your own question is more positive OP!

I do like your posts - good man "

Thank-you - most kind.

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By *rC99Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Physically yes most of the time (though easier to accept as i get older).

No mentally as i over think too much and would also like to be a bit less respectful of what i am

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Mostly

I wish I didn't see the good in everyone and I would like to lose a bit of weight for medical but as in who I am... yes I like me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes definitely. Physically I’m almost there. Lost 2 stone in 5 months, probably another stone to go. Feel so much better and healthier and I’m very happy

Go you!

Thank you

. I’m proud of myself. Never stuck to something this long and I’m loving the keeping fit side of it too

I’m impressed with your preparation just to meet me for a social coffee…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a whole lot happier with me than I was a few months ago, Meli. It started with being nice to myself and more forgiving.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I think for the most part, I am. I guess I hope I was a little less reactive to my emotions and have more of an ability to shake things off as opposed to overthinking and wearing my emotions on my sleeve. I think I'd be happier if I did that.

Physically, I wish I was taller

but I'm ok with my body, building muscle has meant seeing a little more fat in myself which has taken some getting used to but overall, I'm pretty happy with that side of things as well

You might be Beany but I don't know... wearing your emotions on your sleeve isn't necessarily a bad thing. As far as being reactive goes? If you want to, it's something you'll learn in time x

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Yes I am. All things considered, I’m bloody lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and no to all.

I could be better, I could be a lot worse.

I'm still breathing, still standing and still not defeated against all the odds.

But I do wish I was better, I do wish parts of who I am didn't exist.

Physically...I've gained weight and not liking it.

How I am with others....yes I'd love to change parts of that too. It's something I'm working on but god knows how I'm going to achieve it.

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By *oecutterMan
over a year ago

Clonakilty

"who you are? Whether that's physically, mentally, how you are with others etc?

Yep, that's the question. Not too much waffle today.:D"

Yup. I’m happy regardless of circumstances

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yes I am

But....With some people I've reached a saturation point, being overwhelmed with being used, you actually really don't give a shit about me realisations, cuts deep and makes me withdraw Into my inner crowd, for reaffirmation of our relationships. I really need to stop this giving too much to people.

So after my vent Meli. Being happy with how I'm interacting with some people, is a work in progress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"who you are? Whether that's physically, mentally, how you are with others etc?

Yep, that's the question. Not too much waffle today.:D"

Yes I’m completely happy with myself thank you

Are you happy with yourself Meli

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Yes.

It's taken a long fucking time to truly appreciate who I am. And I'm proud of what I am.

It's so lovely to read your happiness in your self Prey!

I don't think flaws/truly knowing oneself makes you any less deserving of self love. Confidence.

Sometimes I catch myself saying that when I reach a particular weight, when I get this certificate etc than I can be happy with who I am.

It's bollocks though, isn't it? You don't have to wait until you're your ideal to be deserving of loving yourself.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Yeah I am, finally finished something that was emotionally draining. Found the confidence to change jobs and just be more me. Which means I will have wobbles about my appearance/intelligence etc etc, and that's ok. Underneath all that I'm an alright kind of a person

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I’m happy with who I am. Yes.

No long essay here, no need to go into details. I’m alright, is all. Thanks for asking Meli.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Yes

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Absolutely, I love me, I’m ace.

I like all the same things as me, all the same music, me and myself share the same views. To be honest I’m really glad I met myself because I’d go insane if I didn’t have at least one person I can 100% rely on.

The mr

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"Yeah I am, finally finished something that was emotionally draining. Found the confidence to change jobs and just be more me. Which means I will have wobbles about my appearance/intelligence etc etc, and that's ok. Underneath all that I'm an alright kind of a person "

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Yes happy with who i am and what i do

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Most of the time I am and occasionally I'm not. I think nearly everyone has moments of self doubt. "

Of course they do. And there's not anything wrong with that is there? No one is 100% confident all the time, we all have little blips, little bouts of self doubt.

That's okay though.

More than.

I quite like that stage where I'm comfortable enough to be authentic and fully myself with another. Admitting I'm human and yeah, this is a low energy day etc.

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Lives in Preston, Eng

"who you are? Whether that's physically, mentally, how you are with others etc?

Yep, that's the question. Not too much waffle today.:D"

You know I am. I am not sure I would have believed that I could be 10 years, 5 years, heck even 1 year ago.

There are things that I want to learn, to achieve, to improve. But in me, today, now; I am happy. Happy with my body, my mental health, my place in life, the people around me and I am hopeful for my future. Even if the shit comes again, I know I can wade through it.

I mean a decade of therapy has to achieve something right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"who you are? Whether that's physically, mentally, how you are with others etc?

Yep, that's the question. Not too much waffle today.:D"

Mr has is one of those people who is just innately happy, it's so annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely happy with my life, my job, my house, my friends, my body, etc.

I guess there only thing missing in my life is parenthood.

I get the impression many people here use the site to vent their frustrations by being deliberately unkind to others.

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By *ecret_Passion777Man
over a year ago

Manchester

No to all 3.

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