FabSwingers.com forum: Do you mean well?!

By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

When you're on here? Will you chat to anyone and have a laugh and just want good vibes, or do you come here with a scowl and hunt for dickheads or comments to judge and make comments about?

Be honest with yourselves, do you think you come across as nice/fun here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll chat with anyone OP

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I'm here for amusement. I like to chat when I've got the energy. I tend to avoid the threads where people are being unpleasant. And I'd like to think I come across as nice and friendly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m an absolute fucking delight

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Always it's positive energy

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

Good intentions but I'm pretty sarcastic, don't take it or life too seriously, others do and I guess can get offended. I never block people or take notes from comments made on a forum, just scroll on. Others don't. White Knights are tiresome as are those that continuously take offence at anything.

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

Don't know how I come across to others, I will chat to anyone on the forums tho. I don't look for particular threads to post on I usually only post if I've got something to say. And I am always judging you Brucey!

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

No I choose violence and chaos daily. Any niceness is purely accidental

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Both. Neither.

Balanced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

80% looking for good vibes.

20% looking for dickheads.

Found most of them now.

All blocked.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't really care how I come across I've no idea.

I'm not here for any of the reasons you've given, if I see a fun happy post I'll join in, If I see a dick head I'll call them out, if I agree with someone/something I'll agree with them, if I disagree I'll disagree with them.

I'm me, I'm honest, people will like or dislike me and that's all good.

Mrs

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I'll answer any questions that aren't crude, disrespectful, or already answered in my profile.

But I'm probably quite dismissive and cold unless someone really stands out to me

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"I don't really care how I come across I've no idea.

I'm me, I'm honest, people will like or dislike me and that's all good.

Mrs "

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By *it4uMan
over a year ago

Brighton / Eastbourne / SW France

Always on here for pleasant fun chats with anyone

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"I'm here for amusement. I like to chat when I've got the energy. I tend to avoid the threads where people are being unpleasant. And I'd like to think I come across as nice and friendly

I think you do a great job. But I'm only saying that to get on top of you

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"80% looking for good vibes.

20% looking for dickheads.

Found most of them now.

All blocked."

Yay I survived the cull!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's highly unlikely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my mind, I am an angel

In reality occasionally less so. If I am brutally honest I was trolling around yesterday looking for a fight.

That's on me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will chat to anyone,but there does seem to be more and more horrible people appearing on here, either in attitude or just seeking people out constantly on the forums to nitpick at other people's comments.

Bit of a bollocky attitude to have but that's on them.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

I think most people I interact with, or have met, would say I’m a decent enough lad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As Transvision Vamp once said.

"No you don't have to say you love me

Baby it's alright

Cos honey I don't care

Oh baby I don't care

Oh honey I don't care

Oh honey I don't care"

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I just love to smile and laugh. So if others do that with me or at me all is good by me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really care how I come across I've no idea.

I'm me, I'm honest, people will like or dislike me and that's all good.

Mrs

This is my stance op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I'm really catty with people that don't read the profile and if people call me cringe words then I can be quite spicy towards them. Negativity is fun! It fuels me.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

We all mean well.

How we are received (and perceived) is another matter entirely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think most people I interact with, or have met, would say I’m a decent enough lad "

How many drinks do you have to buy them though?

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I chat to many people on here, I'm quite open to conversation most of the time. Whether its filthy or mundane.

I always mean well and the times I feel annoyed or worked up over somones comments I do my best to refrain from calling them a cunt and just move on.

Dry sarcastic cynicism on the other hand I indulge in all to frequently...

But it comes from a good place

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Will talk to anyone! But if something irks me I will say what I think! Don't pussy around! Without being rude or aggressive x

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I don’t look for issues but if I see something I’ll call it out. I tend to step away from stuff that really makes my blood boil but the odd comment here and there I don’t think makes me too grumpy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean well with my messages though those who get them may not think so. I will reach out if I think a status is worrying.

I mean well with my threads and the threads I post on. Some may think am too serious with some of my threads.

Hard to tell how other people view you here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you're on here? Will you chat to anyone and have a laugh and just want good vibes, or do you come here with a scowl and hunt for dickheads or comments to judge and make comments about?

Be honest with yourselves, do you think you come across as nice/fun here?"

I don't come across as friendly on the forums and I don't care

Those who know me and those who have met know I'm actually a really nice person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t look for issues but if I see something I’ll call it out. I tend to step away from stuff that really makes my blood boil but the odd comment here and there I don’t think makes me too grumpy. "

This is me, I think some people just pander to others on the forums where as some people call out others rubbish and often gey called trouble makers as a result of it hahaha

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"I think most people I interact with, or have met, would say I’m a decent enough lad "

You do seem it to be fair from the few posts I've seen anyway

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

Yeah, I mean well and like to chat to anyone, but will occasionally bite when I see someone talking bollocks...

I'm trying to do better at avoiding the threads that will be bad for my blood pressure.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

How people read me? That's their choice. The majority of the time I'm curious and want to ponder a topic or not really taking it too seriously. At all.

I do try and avoid interacting with people who are quite... confrontational. Bitchy. I don't really have the energy to be dealing with that.

But then again, maybe other people think they're a delight. So... I'm just going to keep on doing me.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I will add though last week or the week before a few of the forum peeps thought my posts we're a little like I was feeling down & they messaged to check in, I thought that was absolutely lovely they took their time out to do that.

I guess people do pick up on things we don't even realise when we comment.

Mrs

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Honestly? My profile is as bitchy as possible because my heart sinks every time I get a message asking if I want to chat. I like the forums, but I’m blunt as fuck and a load of people are offended by that. Normally people who think I’m too easily offended, too.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I keep myself to myself mostly. My energy for chit chat is low. Unless I secretly covet their cock I guess I’m quite guarded.

That said, I also don’t come to the forums looking for drama, but sometimes people get right on my pip.

I also seem to have a different sense of humour to most on here so……I’m probably not seen as fun fun fun.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Is nice really nice if it is insincere?

I think joy, happiness and fun emerge spontaneously from engaging in something meaningful. Things feel meaningful to me when they are authentic.

I enjoy learning about and from people, to discuss, explore, share ideas, but I learnt a long time ago not to debate with those who need me to agree with them.

My intentions are positive. I try to be myself and respect the rights of others to do the same.

I don't really see dickheads. I see dickish behaviour sometimes. We are all capable of that? I know I am.

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Yeah, I mean well and like to chat to anyone, but will occasionally bite when I see someone talking bollocks...

I'm trying to do better at avoiding the threads that will be bad for my blood pressure."

See it's that damn attitude and the chiseled Greek god looks that makes you my arch nemesis on this place.

Which is really hard when I think you're a dude too. Ffs YOLO!

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By *hinstrapMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

I'm happy to chat to anyone. If they turn in to a womble then they will be blocked. I've not had to block anyone yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on my mood really.

Sometimes everything I read irritates me and I’ll react to something I’d be better off ignoring.

Other times my mood is lifted by a thread.

Many times I’ll read quick witted, funny replies and wish I had the ability to do that.

Strangely enough I do in everyday life but lack the confidence on here.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

To those who deserve it...yes I'm nice but to the dickheads not a chance in hell. I'm not Willy Wonka, I don't sugarcoat anything.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I say what is in my head. Mostly it’s kind and nice. Mostly.

I know I can be a massive thunder-cunt at times though.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

Yes we will always be honest if not interested but will chatter to anyone who sends a decent message

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By *heBestDiscretionMan
over a year ago

London

Generally I will welcome anyone if they approach well.

But if I am instantly asked to meet for sex, it's going to be a big fat dose of ignorance from me.

There is one single exception but I don't think she's on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope I come across as nice and fun. But I realise that I’m not for everyone. That’s life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy the banter here and will always chat to anyone. The social side here is very enjoyable.

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By *NGthe2ndWoman
over a year ago

Here and there

I just throw it out there with the best of intentions.

Most likely outcome will be A. I've misread the thread and it makes no sense or B. I'll witter on and bore the thread senseless

I'll never change

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

To be honest I think I've now reached the level of that angry moany guy in the corner of the staff room, tutting and rolling my eyes at the arguments and nonsense on here.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"To be honest I think I've now reached the level of that angry moany guy in the corner of the staff room, tutting and rolling my eyes at the arguments and nonsense on here. "

You're like me

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I probably come across as a right bellend, but never mind I’m here to entertain myself, no one else.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Morning Brucey

I genuinely scroll through the forums for lighthearted fun and giggles mostly

But then I spot the other type of threads and can’t help go and have my honest 10p worth with my opinion

and I do hate offending people but my opinions and views often do so I do try and about those threads as hard as possible

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I consider this a pleasant distraction and treat it as such. That said, I prefer positive vibes and try to avoid controversial / heavy topics. Not through lack of interest, but rather no patience for drama.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I only pop in now and again. It's a hobby or a distraction rather than a vocation.

I don't need to spend any time looking for dickheads to have a pop at because it's like wandering into the local and they have been sitting at the bar all day.

I'm just here to watch all the fit people exercising.

All that eye rolling, jumping through hoops and bending over backwards has got to be good for you doesn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I come with no malice or dramas … I do my own thing …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always mean well but I’m not going to just agree with folk to keep the peace either

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I like to think I do, always happy to chat to people even meet for socials etc however I’ll let the people be the judge of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here to annoy the fuck out of everybody

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

I like to think I'm fun... but I will call people an idiot if they're being an idiot...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm here to annoy the fuck out of everybody

And you’re doing a very good job.

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By *heelerMan
over a year ago

Northants

Im a decent guy who likes a cheeky chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm here to annoy the fuck out of everybody

And you’re doing a very good job."

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Both. Neither.

Balanced. "

Are you schrodingers _aitonel?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I don't really care how I come across I've no idea.

I'm me, I'm honest, people will like or dislike me and that's all good.

Mrs "

This.

And everyone judges. Even if it's just a 'tut' in their head and they don't actually type a response or comment.

People make assumptions, build perceptions and form images of people based on forum posts all the time. It would be somewhat delusional to think they don't.

But if you're not happy being seen to post something or display an opinion, then the only way to avoid people 'judging' you in any way is to not comment.

And that would make for very dull forums.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good vibes only….. just don’t piss me off

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I don't know whether I come across as a right laugh or a total douche, but I'm on here for a good time and a bit of fun. I don't want drama, don't want controversy, just want a bit of entertainment and a way to keep myself smiling while I'm in some tedious meetings.

If I get to look at photos of sexy people and maybe even have some sex as well, so much the better.

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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago

the land of tall tales and yarn

I always think its better to be nice

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

I'm just a pain on the arse...

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"I'm just a pain on the arse...

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Promise?

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hmm… I may not come across as nice or fun, but I always try to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm here to annoy the fuck out of everybody

And you’re doing a very good job.

You manage to annoy me with a tone or a look!

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I’m just here for a chat and some fun and if I feel I’m getting irritated I will log off.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

"I think most people I interact with, or have met, would say I’m a decent enough lad

How many drinks do you have to buy them though?

Ruuuuude

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

"I think most people I interact with, or have met, would say I’m a decent enough lad

You do seem it to be fair from the few posts I've seen anyway

Haha thanks. Ignore Boo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think most people I interact with, or have met, would say I’m a decent enough lad

You do seem it to be fair from the few posts I've seen anyway

Haha thanks. Ignore Boo"

I'm only teasing!

His alright to be fair......

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By *ntrigued888Woman
over a year ago

Beds

I used to reply to every message I received when I first joined.

Unfortunately that just leaves you open to abuse from some who can't take rejection.

I think it's easier to have a "chat friendship" with someone who lives far away as you know that's all it's gonna be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I come from a good place with good vibes but quickly get turned the other way when people start being dickheads.

And generally if I start to dislike you it doesn't change.

And sometimes I'm a twat and I'm the dickhead.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

She ^ lives in the Natural History Museum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting thread

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Neither really. I don’t have the time to chat to anyone and everyone. I come on, have a mooch, sometimes comment and buggar off again. Usually when I’m having a tea break. I drink a lot of tea

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Most days I do. Today I'm a little savage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most days I do. Today I'm a little savage."

Classy, bougie, ratchet?

Sassy, moody, nasty?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you're on here? Will you chat to anyone and have a laugh and just want good vibes, or do you come here with a scowl and hunt for dickheads or comments to judge and make comments about?

Be honest with yourselves, do you think you come across as nice/fun here?"

Always mean well. But you can never judge how sensitive other people might be, how they may judge the comment you make if its tounge in cheek. Some people may not understand your humor. Plus without been able to read the tone personally, or read facial expressions it can be a bit of a mine field. But that's their problem not mine

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

"I'm here for amusement. I like to chat when I've got the energy. I tend to avoid the threads where people are being unpleasant. And I'd like to think I come across as nice and friendly

Can I pinch this. Sums up my outlook perfectly

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I don't do negativity or meanness or shouty.

I was at my brother's yesterday when he put Gordon Ramsay's show on. I Instantly tensed up and felt unhappy and I left the room.

So in answer, I come in to be pleasant. It would take a lot for me to comment negatively rather than just avoiding commenting if I was unhappy with something.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"I don't do negativity or meanness or shouty.

I was at my brother's yesterday when he put Gordon Ramsay's show on. I Instantly tensed up and felt unhappy and I left the room.

So in answer, I come in to be pleasant. It would take a lot for me to comment negatively rather than just avoiding commenting if I was unhappy with something. "

This is something I aspire to but do not always achieve. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't remember who people are (much better with faces) so I see a post and I have something to say, I will.

Danish x

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Guess I’m here for a bit of light entertainment, thought-provoking threads although they seem to have disappeared, and looking for the one that’s gonna blow me (away)

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"Yeah, I mean well and like to chat to anyone, but will occasionally bite when I see someone talking bollocks...

I'm trying to do better at avoiding the threads that will be bad for my blood pressure.

See it's that damn attitude and the chiseled Greek god looks that makes you my arch nemesis on this place.

Which is really hard when I think you're a dude too. Ffs YOLO!

Ah, I've just seen this, Brucey. I am banking "Greek god", even though I suggest an urgent eye test.

But don't worry, we don't need to be nemeses, we can team up like Professor X and Magneto and take Fab by storm...

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

No Brucey.

My main goal is to be offensive.

Very offensive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll chat with most....

I do not come here for conflict and would usually just walk away...

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"I'll chat with most....

I do not come here for conflict and would usually just walk away..."

Yeah… you just keep walking sunshine.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

Absolutely! Happy to be friends and chat, offer advice, etc even although I'm more than aware that it's unlikely to lead to anything.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

I’d personally like to be more annoying but not many opportunities to annoy arise here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone in here comes across as fucking angelic dont we??

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"Most days I do. Today I'm a little savage.

Classy, bougie, ratchet?

Sassy, moody, nasty? "

Ask the coop customer service after they forgot about a 1/4 of my order.

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