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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

from being more confident?

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"from being more confident?"

Blindness it a bitch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my ego gets any more inflated I will float away ..............

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"If my ego gets any more inflated I will float away .............. "

I thought you were quite grounded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My arse is!!

Well that and society's perception of what is attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If my ego gets any more inflated I will float away ..............

I thought you were quite grounded"

thats cos I am not allowing the ego to be anymore inflated lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If my ego gets any more inflated I will float away ..............

I thought you were quite grounded

thats cos I am not allowing the ego to be anymore inflated lol "

or did u mis-spell rounded

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"from being more confident?

Blindness it a bitch "

Yes it is but was your confidence located in your sight? I understand losing confidence when you have a big life event like losing your sight but does the confidence have to remain lost?

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"My arse is!!

Well that and society's perception of what is attractive. "

Even with sight, it was always more about the person inside that mattered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

twenty years of a controlling alcoholic hubby that left me in tatters - im my own person now but underlying is that quivering wreck that affects my thought process too many times -

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"My arse is!!

Well that and society's perception of what is attractive. "

If you are happy with your arse and think of yourself as attractive what's holding you back?

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"from being more confident?

Blindness it a bitch

Yes it is but was your confidence located in your sight? I understand losing confidence when you have a big life event like losing your sight but does the confidence have to remain lost?"

It does not but in a room with people I get to listen to most of their conversations. It is rather difficult trying not to listen and not tripping and not knocking things over

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Myself

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm happy with my level of confidence. I think.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Inconfidence itself

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"twenty years of a controlling alcoholic hubby that left me in tatters - im my own person now but underlying is that quivering wreck that affects my thought process too many times - "

I understand that one too. If you are your own person what will it take to build your confidence again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"confidense"?

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"from being more confident?

Blindness it a bitch

Yes it is but was your confidence located in your sight? I understand losing confidence when you have a big life event like losing your sight but does the confidence have to remain lost?

It does not but in a room with people I get to listen to most of their conversations. It is rather difficult trying not to listen and not tripping and not knocking things over "

No problem then: I do that without the loss of sight. The laughter can hurt more than the bruises.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Inconfidence itself"

Now I have Julie Andrews singing in my head.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Myself"

The biggest barrier of them all.

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"from being more confident?

Blindness it a bitch

Yes it is but was your confidence located in your sight? I understand losing confidence when you have a big life event like losing your sight but does the confidence have to remain lost?

It does not but in a room with people I get to listen to most of their conversations. It is rather difficult trying not to listen and not tripping and not knocking things over

No problem then: I do that without the loss of sight. The laughter can hurt more than the bruises."

I get the uneasy silence as people seem to not know what to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"twenty years of a controlling alcoholic hubby that left me in tatters - im my own person now but underlying is that quivering wreck that affects my thought process too many times -

I understand that one too. If you are your own person what will it take to build your confidence again?"

i met and loved a great man who gave me the most confidence i ever have - i lost him after 3 years to cancer - hard sometimes to get that feeling back - guy im with now is wonderful and understanding - but im left with this feeling of im gonna lose it all again - scares me silly

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"from being more confident?

Blindness it a bitch

Yes it is but was your confidence located in your sight? I understand losing confidence when you have a big life event like losing your sight but does the confidence have to remain lost?

It does not but in a room with people I get to listen to most of their conversations. It is rather difficult trying not to listen and not tripping and not knocking things over

No problem then: I do that without the loss of sight. The laughter can hurt more than the bruises.

I get the uneasy silence as people seem to not know what to do"

You need to get the dog to give them a hard stare on your behalf.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"twenty years of a controlling alcoholic hubby that left me in tatters - im my own person now but underlying is that quivering wreck that affects my thought process too many times -

I understand that one too. If you are your own person what will it take to build your confidence again?

i met and loved a great man who gave me the most confidence i ever have - i lost him after 3 years to cancer - hard sometimes to get that feeling back - guy im with now is wonderful and understanding - but im left with this feeling of im gonna lose it all again - scares me silly"

So it's the fear of losing something that holds you back? What do you lose by holding onto the fear?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Myself

The biggest barrier of them all."

Biggest or only?

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Myself

The biggest barrier of them all.

Biggest or only?"

Good point. I'm trying to work that out.

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"from being more confident?

Blindness it a bitch

Yes it is but was your confidence located in your sight? I understand losing confidence when you have a big life event like losing your sight but does the confidence have to remain lost?

It does not but in a room with people I get to listen to most of their conversations. It is rather difficult trying not to listen and not tripping and not knocking things over

No problem then: I do that without the loss of sight. The laughter can hurt more than the bruises.

I get the uneasy silence as people seem to not know what to do

You need to get the dog to give them a hard stare on your behalf."

To be fair to Quasia she probably does, she is know as the bitch with attitude by everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"twenty years of a controlling alcoholic hubby that left me in tatters - im my own person now but underlying is that quivering wreck that affects my thought process too many times -

I understand that one too. If you are your own person what will it take to build your confidence again?

i met and loved a great man who gave me the most confidence i ever have - i lost him after 3 years to cancer - hard sometimes to get that feeling back - guy im with now is wonderful and understanding - but im left with this feeling of im gonna lose it all again - scares me silly

So it's the fear of losing something that holds you back? What do you lose by holding onto the fear?"

im ok most of the time - if a bit of doubt over something crops up i expect the worst - i over think it always - i know that carrying on thinking this way may end up in my losing things - oh my head gonna work overtime tonight now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a confident person but I believe we do all have our own particular comfort zone nevertheless. Stepping outside of this is a little difficult for me, especially with regard to swinging, as I feel I may not have enough experience to remain in complete control or that I may disappoint someone by simply changing my mind and not wanting to continue with something I am experimenting with.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"Myself

The biggest barrier of them all.

Biggest or only?"

I vote only

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"I am a confident person but I believe we do all have our own particular comfort zone nevertheless. Stepping outside of this is a little difficult for me, especially with regard to swinging, as I feel I may not have enough experience to remain in complete control or that I may disappoint someone by simply changing my mind and not wanting to continue with something I am experimenting with.

But if you are upfront from the start surely it becomes their problem

"

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Myself

The biggest barrier of them all.

Biggest or only?

I vote only"

People may state extrinsic factors which they feel contribute to a lack of confidence or even facilitate a boost to confidence... but the feeling of confidence is most certainly intrinsic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

can someone direct me to the trinsic please.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"can someone direct me to the trinsic please. "

That's the quest.

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"can someone direct me to the trinsic please. "

Have you tried google maps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"from being more confident?"

Perhaps insecurities allow us to be comfortable in our own minds……

Because artificially high confidence can detract from our balanced demeanour and alter the natural perception that stops us making regrettable decisions…....

Or I could just be waffling crap

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"from being more confident?

Perhaps insecurities allow us to be comfortable in our own minds……

Because artificially high confidence can detract from our balanced demeanour and alter the natural perception that stops us making regrettable decisions…....

Or I could just be waffling crap "

My yoga teacher says there is no word for "try" in Thai - you either do or you don't. She may have made that up but...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"from being more confident?

Perhaps insecurities allow us to be comfortable in our own minds……

Because artificially high confidence can detract from our balanced demeanour and alter the natural perception that stops us making regrettable decisions…....

Or I could just be waffling crap "

spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"from being more confident?

Perhaps insecurities allow us to be comfortable in our own minds……

Because artificially high confidence can detract from our balanced demeanour and alter the natural perception that stops us making regrettable decisions…....

Or I could just be waffling crap

My yoga teacher says there is no word for "try" in Thai - you either do or you don't. She may have made that up but..."

that's why they're shit at rugby

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"from being more confident?

Perhaps insecurities allow us to be comfortable in our own minds……

Because artificially high confidence can detract from our balanced demeanour and alter the natural perception that stops us making regrettable decisions…....

Or I could just be waffling crap "

Or do you actually need confidence to say "no, that's not for me" and avoid making the regrettable decision of going along with it to avoid rocking the boat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"from being more confident?

Perhaps insecurities allow us to be comfortable in our own minds……

Because artificially high confidence can detract from our balanced demeanour and alter the natural perception that stops us making regrettable decisions…....

Or I could just be waffling crap

Or do you actually need confidence to say "no, that's not for me" and avoid making the regrettable decision of going along with it to avoid rocking the boat. "

I guess maybe that’s where finding a comfortable balance is an individual thing….. and like all things sometimes we need to lean either way to achieve it….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wobbly bits lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mirrors

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

When confidence negates common sense, judgement and perception of danger… is it really confidence or something else?

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Do people confuse bravado with confidence?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Do people confuse bravado with confidence?"

Is bravado one of those funny coloured alcopops?

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over a year ago


"When confidence negates common sense, judgement and perception of danger… is it really confidence or something else?"

"Reckless abandon"…. perhaps !!

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Nothing at all

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Do people confuse bravado with confidence?

Is bravado one of those funny coloured alcopops?"

Funny you should say that. I think it can be found in those bottles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"from being more confident?"

Bronchitus and a snotty nose

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"from being more confident?

Bronchitus and a snotty nose "

Hanky madam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh ta, im running out of looroll

snniiiiiifffffffff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's stopping you... from being more confident?"

The same thing that stops me from living an ordinary life. The gobshites that don't give me the job!

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