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Valentine's Day - We don't, do you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lola and I don't bother with it, neither do we send cards at christmas to each other (we have two cards, about ten years old in the decs box that we just put out on the shelf).

Are we alone in not getting caught up in the bullshit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont do birthdays or any seasonal bullshit may be im lonly, miserable and bankrupt in these days of austerity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did the first 2 years of our relationship. Havent bothered since. Same with birthdays and xmas.

Not to say we havent bought gifts for each other but I do not feel pressured (never have) to buy gifts just because its some tradition.

Spontaneity is best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

We do cards, but we don't go in for the whole meal on valentines day thing as I can't understand why anyone would pay 3x over the odds for the same meal that will be cheaper tomorrow, surrounded by 30 other couples who do want to be there .

This year, we've got an M&S dine in meal so I don't have to cook

I definitely see valentines day more for singles than married people. Wheres the surprise when you open a card from your hubby? LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We , as others here, used to buy each other cards and stuff but don't bother anymore .

As ,also said before , spontaneity is best .

But , as nothing is ever normal in our lives, I suffered from CO poisoning from my van today, ended my round retching and falling over , van now off to the garage again.

Cyndi drove home and I was recuperating whilst she went off to fat club, she has come back with a couple of bottles of wine " happy valentines day " .

A nice slurp and I remember we have not eaten since 05:00 , have gone all wobbly again .

Doh !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I am tempted to indulge just make one myself.

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By *ust_for_laughsCouple
over a year ago

Hinckley

We do cards and I've bought S a bottle of Prossecco but we're off out for an Indian with a mate tonight...they sounded surprised when we booked a table for three

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Nope, as it is a meaningless commercial invention. Having said that I do understand people like it and want to make it special... each to their own. Would not dream of criticising anybody for doing or not doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take it you never got an offer neither or even a card too..hehe

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Spontaneity is king in our house. Enjoy though people, whatever you do. X

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

never buy each other anything and never have just because its a certain day of the year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no we dont bother with it, my hubby buys me things all the time, he thinks xmas cards are a waste of money too so he bought me flowers instead.

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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago

taunton


"Lola and I don't bother with it, neither do we send cards at christmas to each other (we have two cards, about ten years old in the decs box that we just put out on the shelf).

Are we alone in not getting caught up in the bullshit? "

32 years on still caught up in the bullshit lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lola and I don't bother with it, neither do we send cards at christmas to each other (we have two cards, about ten years old in the decs box that we just put out on the shelf).

Are we alone in not getting caught up in the bullshit? "

It doesnt have to cost you a penny, come on here and leave a message with caz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always cards and gifts, we don't buy into the commercialism of Valentines however birthdays are important!

Our surprise is the personal messages we write to each other inside.

In a busy lifestyle it is nice to take time out to be extra special and indulge in love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't bother , always feel why should you buy flowers today just cos its valentines , it means more any other time of year I think

Then again I am stingy lol

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By *picenicelyCouple
over a year ago

third star on the right


"Always cards and gifts, we don't buy into the commercialism of Valentines however birthdays are important!

Our surprise is the personal messages we write to each other inside.

In a busy lifestyle it is nice to take time out to be extra special and indulge in love."

+1

L

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my day idea of valentine cards was so the recipient did not know who it was from.

Ahhh the good old days before folk fell for tge bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spontaneity is great, we should plan more of it

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By *r and mrs bangerboobsCouple
over a year ago

Bridgend

We do!

Alternate years, so it was my turn this year to treat Mr BB, he had brekkie in bed followed by some relaxation (!) then out to lunch, walk on the beach in the afternoon followed by a little picnic with homemade lemon cake.

Yes we do this sort of thing throughout the year, but around valentines day weekend 3 years ago we were looking for our first house together and viewed the one we live in now

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Its not for us, buy flowers every week or so in any case..

dont like being told by multinationals that we should be 'romantic' on a certain day etc to boost their coffers..

each to their own...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't send cards but we went to see Die Hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not for us, buy flowers every week or so in any case..

dont like being told by multinationals that we should be 'romantic' on a certain day etc to boost their coffers..

each to their own..."

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

Haven't "celebrated" it for 14 years... It's a date that I dread and will be glad when it's over

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good. Thought as much but just wanted to check in with this.

Nice to hear from so many like minded souls x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about Anniversaries, I've heard men have been set on fire because they forgot.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston


"What about Anniversaries, I've heard men have been set on fire because they forgot. "

14th Feb is an anniversary for us but not a romantic or cheerful one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't celebrate any of it...bithdays, christmas, hallmark bullshit....

If I want to tell my loved ones how I feel about them...I know I can do it better than any shitty card!!

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By *ayman2002Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

My friends and I had our now traditional anti valentine's day booze up last night. 6 confirmed singletons all whooping it up and flirting with everyone in sight. All just a bit of fun but it helps relieve the tedium of of a made up celebration

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel if you can't make a bit of effort to separate special days of the year from any other if only to show your partner he or she is loved then that says a lot about you as a person. Sure, some will argue that they show it every day, but then every day then ends being the same as the one before. It's nice to go that extra mile for a special person on a special day and let them know just how appreciated they are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel if you can't make a bit of effort to separate special days of the year from any other if only to show your partner he or she is loved then that says a lot about you as a person. Sure, some will argue that they show it every day, but then every day then ends being the same as the one before. It's nice to go that extra mile for a special person on a special day and let them know just how appreciated they are."

Care to expand on exactly what it says about a person? We do things for each other when we choose to, that's all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't send cards but we went to see Die Hard "

YES! That's how it's done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Viv is a devout lancastrian from Burnley, so me being a yorkshireman bought her white roses yesterday!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bet that went down well or maybe it did and she went down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not for us, buy flowers every week or so in any case..

dont like being told by multinationals that we should be 'romantic' on a certain day etc to boost their coffers..

each to their own..."

Great comment !!

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"I feel if you can't make a bit of effort to separate special days of the year from any other if only to show your partner he or she is loved then that says a lot about you as a person. Sure, some will argue that they show it every day, but then every day then ends being the same as the one before. It's nice to go that extra mile for a special person on a special day and let them know just how appreciated they are."

Agree, but sadly doesn't always happen Wishy

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By *orkieMan
over a year ago

Who knows


"Viv is a devout lancastrian from Burnley, so me being a yorkshireman bought her white roses yesterday!"

Top bloke, I like your style

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

deffo no cards prezzies or meals for me and the wife . if we want to go out for a meal we will go the day before or the day after when the price has dropped considerably .. just a money making racket in our eyes. we drove past a pub the other day advertising valentines 3 course meal for 45 quid i can go to my regular indians and have a 3 course meal for no more than 25 quid any other night ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haven't "celebrated" it for 14 years... It's a date that I dread and will be glad when it's over "

We hope the day past quickly for you and that today feels better. Anniversaries such as this are never easy. xx

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