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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

After a late-night chat, today I've been musing on people versus their sexual needs.

Are they at war with each other?

Would you be here at all if it weren't for those pesky desires for threesomes or sharing your wife or to be tied up? Your insatiable need to show off your cock or your boobs? Are you in fact a conventional person in every other way?

I just wondered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexual needs is not what's keeping me here at the moment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sexual needs is not what's keeping me here at the moment "

But it's possibly why you joined?

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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool

I joined because I wanted to learn more about myself and what I can try and experience. To me we are always learning in a daily basis. It's what my profile tells people,and the more I learn the more I want to try,hard and soft parts,

I've been here for 13 years and I feel more courageous with certain things,but shy at the same time and always talk myself out of doing something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexual needs is not what's keeping me here at the moment

But it's possibly why you joined? "

Wanted to explore sexual needs outside of the kink scene and try and understand my sexuality or discover what it is

Now it's more having people to talk to and not isolate myself even more

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

My sexual needs enrich my life with pleasure, same as all my other hobbies do

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By *ohnboy64Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

I'm here after being in two marriages that both ended up sexless after a couple of years. I have asked myself if it was down to me and in all honesty I don't think it was. I think I was just unlucky,,,, twice.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We probably look conventional.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"After a late-night chat, today I've been musing on people versus their sexual needs.

Are they at war with each other?

Would you be here at all if it weren't for those pesky desires for threesomes or sharing your wife or to be tied up? Your insatiable need to show off your cock or your boobs? Are you in fact a conventional person in every other way?

I just wondered "

I've never been conventional.

Came for the fun.

Stayed because I met a lot of awesome people.

The sex is just a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I definitely do. I love the swinging lifestyle, plus the friendships I've made, they're great as well as all the sexual experiences.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I joined because I wanted to learn more about myself and what I can try and experience. To me we are always learning in a daily basis. It's what my profile tells people,and the more I learn the more I want to try,hard and soft parts,

I've been here for 13 years and I feel more courageous with certain things,but shy at the same time and always talk myself out of doing something."

That's fascinating to read. Do you mean you don't take up offers or back out of "meets"? Because of shyness?

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I don’t belong here but do nonetheless enjoy the forum

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We probably look conventional. "

Oh there is a lot unsaid in that comment

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We probably look conventional.

Oh there is a lot unsaid in that comment "

Quite!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sexual needs is not what's keeping me here at the moment

But it's possibly why you joined?

Wanted to explore sexual needs outside of the kink scene and try and understand my sexuality or discover what it is

Now it's more having people to talk to and not isolate myself even more "

I can relate to that - I think having people to talk to who also "get" sex and kink is - it's a place where you can lower your guard a little?

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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool


"I joined because I wanted to learn more about myself and what I can try and experience. To me we are always learning in a daily basis. It's what my profile tells people,and the more I learn the more I want to try,hard and soft parts,

I've been here for 13 years and I feel more courageous with certain things,but shy at the same time and always talk myself out of doing something.

That's fascinating to read. Do you mean you don't take up offers or back out of "meets"? Because of shyness?"

I Don't back out of meets,cause I would meet and I've met wonderful people in my time here,but yes I'm seriously shy and literally have to kick myself to go out cause I end up overthinking so much about things and I worry lol

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By *ohntall123Man
over a year ago

Biggleswade


"After a late-night chat, today I've been musing on people versus their sexual needs.

Are they at war with each other?

Would you be here at all if it weren't for those pesky desires for threesomes or sharing your wife or to be tied up? Your insatiable need to show off your cock or your boobs? Are you in fact a conventional person in every other way?

I just wondered "

I guess I like being around like minded people , it’s not for everyone I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a late-night chat, today I've been musing on people versus their sexual needs.

Are they at war with each other?

Would you be here at all if it weren't for those pesky desires for threesomes or sharing your wife or to be tied up? Your insatiable need to show off your cock or your boobs? Are you in fact a conventional person in every other way?

I just wondered "

My body is at war with my mind. My body is not cooperating with my want of some sex. My mind is not cooperating with my body in that I do want to show my boobs with a person but get too shy.

Because of this, I'm just here for the forums and working on myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My sexual needs enrich my life with pleasure, same as all my other hobbies do "

That sounds a very harmonious way to live

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely belong here, it’s a cheaper and less frustrating hobby than golf.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t belong here but do nonetheless enjoy the forum "

Now why do you say you don't belong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexual needs is not what's keeping me here at the moment

But it's possibly why you joined?

Wanted to explore sexual needs outside of the kink scene and try and understand my sexuality or discover what it is

Now it's more having people to talk to and not isolate myself even more

I can relate to that - I think having people to talk to who also "get" sex and kink is - it's a place where you can lower your guard a little?"

Yes and if you can be open with people about kink or sex, there is little else you can't be open about.

Not just from this site but I would not be alive if it was not for kink friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I’m a creep, I’m a weirdo.

What the hell am I doing here?

I don’t belong here.…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm here after being in two marriages that both ended up sexless after a couple of years. I have asked myself if it was down to me and in all honesty I don't think it was. I think I was just unlucky,,,, twice."

Then it sounds as though you belong?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I joined because I wanted to learn more about myself and what I can try and experience. To me we are always learning in a daily basis. It's what my profile tells people,and the more I learn the more I want to try,hard and soft parts,

I've been here for 13 years and I feel more courageous with certain things,but shy at the same time and always talk myself out of doing something.

That's fascinating to read. Do you mean you don't take up offers or back out of "meets"? Because of shyness?

I Don't back out of meets,cause I would meet and I've met wonderful people in my time here,but yes I'm seriously shy and literally have to kick myself to go out cause I end up overthinking so much about things and I worry lol"

That must make it quite tough at times. It does seem a place designed for extraverts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like people on here are constantly trying to get others to leave.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I joined to explore what I had never explored before which was virtually everything.

It has never been about needs because I have never needed sex.

Circumstances have halted that exploration so I'm only using the forums and not meeting.

Maybe I don't belong but I've always enjoyed being where I don't belong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"After a late-night chat, today I've been musing on people versus their sexual needs.

Are they at war with each other?

Would you be here at all if it weren't for those pesky desires for threesomes or sharing your wife or to be tied up? Your insatiable need to show off your cock or your boobs? Are you in fact a conventional person in every other way?

I just wondered

I've never been conventional.

Came for the fun.

Stayed because I met a lot of awesome people.

The sex is just a bonus. "

I see quite a few people who've been here a while say this - the community draws you in perhaps? I think the socials must help hugely there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Belong to myself not fab or any other petson or entity.

Here like everyone else

Meet lovely people

Discover my fantasies

My kinks...

A sexual pleasure meeting with my future kinky person who ever that might be or persons

To read forums and engage

Yes, boring I know

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

[Removed by poster at 14/09/23 21:30:58]

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I joined for the sex, but staying because of the forum, it is comedy gold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I joined for the sex, but staying because of the forum, it is comedy gold "

Have you tried watching Tony Hancock?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My sexual needs enrich my life with pleasure, same as all my other hobbies do "

Love this! I once saw a couple heading out on a long bike ride - as I was heading out to meet my ex for a a swing date. I thought both couples put an equal amount of effort into planning the outing, and it’s something we enjoy together. So yes, a hobby like many other that brings pleasure!

I joined to explore my bi side and ended up staying - made some really nice friends and enjoy being able to chat to people who don’t see sex as something bad

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I definitely do. I love the swinging lifestyle, plus the friendships I've made, they're great as well as all the sexual experiences."

Wonderful! A perfect fit

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

In the beginning I feel we all belong here otherwise we wouldn’t have joined up.When we have been here a while and we get older and we find we are out of a lot of people’s age range we may start to question ourselves why are we still here. I am not sure how long I will be here now but I’m here on my terms doing things my way and for me that’s all that counts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have currently/last few years found myself in a state of limbo...I have the desire but no apparent skill.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

Probably not but where else is there to wait?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"After a late-night chat, today I've been musing on people versus their sexual needs.

Are they at war with each other?

Would you be here at all if it weren't for those pesky desires for threesomes or sharing your wife or to be tied up? Your insatiable need to show off your cock or your boobs? Are you in fact a conventional person in every other way?

I just wondered

I've never been conventional.

Came for the fun.

Stayed because I met a lot of awesome people.

The sex is just a bonus.

I see quite a few people who've been here a while say this - the community draws you in perhaps? I think the socials must help hugely there. "

Yep.

I enjoy the social side as much as the sex. I've made great friends over the years, found a wife, gone back to being single and found new friends. I could never be here solely just for pirely casual encounters. I need more substance than that.

And when you manage to find that extra it's great.

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By *ohnboy64Man
over a year ago

Blackpool


"I'm here after being in two marriages that both ended up sexless after a couple of years. I have asked myself if it was down to me and in all honesty I don't think it was. I think I was just unlucky,,,, twice.

Then it sounds as though you belong?"

Yep, and happy to be here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"After a late-night chat, today I've been musing on people versus their sexual needs.

Are they at war with each other?

Would you be here at all if it weren't for those pesky desires for threesomes or sharing your wife or to be tied up? Your insatiable need to show off your cock or your boobs? Are you in fact a conventional person in every other way?

I just wondered

I guess I like being around like minded people , it’s not for everyone I know "

It's a relief when you don't have to watch yourself...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably not but where else is there to wait?"

Ok. I will take the bait. Wait for what?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No I don't "

When did you change your name back?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"After a late-night chat, today I've been musing on people versus their sexual needs.

Are they at war with each other?

Would you be here at all if it weren't for those pesky desires for threesomes or sharing your wife or to be tied up? Your insatiable need to show off your cock or your boobs? Are you in fact a conventional person in every other way?

I just wondered

My body is at war with my mind. My body is not cooperating with my want of some sex. My mind is not cooperating with my body in that I do want to show my boobs with a person but get too shy.

Because of this, I'm just here for the forums and working on myself

"

I'm not shy, but I totally get that there's a part of you holding back from what you want. Warring factions really. I hope you find some peace.

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford


"After a late-night chat, today I've been musing on people versus their sexual needs.

Are they at war with each other?

Would you be here at all if it weren't for those pesky desires for threesomes or sharing your wife or to be tied up? Your insatiable need to show off your cock or your boobs? Are you in fact a conventional person in every other way?

I just wondered "

Yes. Sex. Please. I have no fancy notions. I just sex. Thanks.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

FAB has changed our sex life completely - we’d never had threesomes before FAB, sent naked pics, posed for pics, gone to clubs - it’s given us the confidence to explore our fantasies and realise them instead of wondering about them.

The only bad thing is that it’s making us more depraved

K

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I definitely belong here, it’s a cheaper and less frustrating hobby than golf.

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Less frustrating?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel like people on here are constantly trying to get others to leave. "

Well, there are times I'd agree with you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I definitely belong here, it’s a cheaper and less frustrating hobby than golf.

Less frustrating?! "

Absolutely.

The efforts to get my wang wet, are far less frustrating than chasing a dozen golf balls that I’m losing around the course.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Do I belong here? Probably not, but I seem to be allowed through the door. It's a bit like when I went to parties in my youth - I'd sit in a corner reading a paperback, wondering how one did the talking to girls thing, generally not even sure why I was there. Forty years later nothing much has changed except for my dress style. I'm a bit better at the talking with girls thing, but here I am still in a corner with my paperback...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s nice to have an escape from playing the charade that is ‘me’ to the rest of the world for a while

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Belong to myself not fab or any other petson or entity.

Here like everyone else

Meet lovely people

Discover my fantasies

My kinks...

A sexual pleasure meeting with my future kinky person who ever that might be or persons

To read forums and engage

Yes, boring I know "

Nah, not boring!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But I’m a creep, I’m a weirdo.

What the hell am I doing here?

I don’t belong here.…"

Your serious answer is later, yeah?

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By *immy200TV/TS
over a year ago

chester

I don't think you can separate the 2 easily. Our sexual desires and needs are the reason we exist as a species. No desire for sex, no reproduction. 1000s of years of technological advancement has given us the ooportunity and more importantly time to explore and think about our sexuality more than animals. We can also share ideas which gives us more things to want to try. But a short answer to the question is I am incredibly conventional in my everyday life and I think I am definitely here to explore sexual desires and fantasies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I joined to explore what I had never explored before which was virtually everything.

It has never been about needs because I have never needed sex.

Circumstances have halted that exploration so I'm only using the forums and not meeting.

Maybe I don't belong but I've always enjoyed being where I don't belong. "

Why? I was just thinking tonight I hate being somewhere I don't belong. And this place feels like that often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I don't

When did you change your name back? "

Does it matter?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In the beginning I feel we all belong here otherwise we wouldn’t have joined up.When we have been here a while and we get older and we find we are out of a lot of people’s age range we may start to question ourselves why are we still here. I am not sure how long I will be here now but I’m here on my terms doing things my way and for me that’s all that counts "

I think lots of older people do fine but it all depends what you're after and your circumstances. Actually I think it's what you're after that determines whether you feel you belong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No I don't

When did you change your name back?

Does it matter? "

I was just getting used to the other one

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen


"Probably not but where else is there to wait?

Ok. I will take the bait. Wait for what? "

Lol no bait...and waiting for nothing in particular. Not exactly sure why I am here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel like people on here are constantly trying to get others to leave.

Well, there are times I'd agree with you! "

It’s usually said if you’re fed up of it or criticising Fab - “why don’t you leave?” - like you have to be happy and jolly all the time

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

This is an intriguing question. I’m not sure if we do belong here. We love the connection and intimacy and sex we can have with others, but Fab is just a tiny part of our very busy lives, and mostly we just don’t have the time to forge connections with new people. The few meets we have are always with old friends, not new ones. That isn’t to say we don’t want to meet new people, we just find it hard to build those connections now. Also, for a long time, we didn’t feel welcome here. That feeling is beginning to fade, but it’s taken a long time.

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By *oecutterMan
over a year ago

Clonakilty


"After a late-night chat, today I've been musing on people versus their sexual needs.

Are they at war with each other?

Would you be here at all if it weren't for those pesky desires for threesomes or sharing your wife or to be tied up? Your insatiable need to show off your cock or your boobs? Are you in fact a conventional person in every other way?

I just wondered "

I’m here mostly to find a FWB.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"After a late-night chat, today I've been musing on people versus their sexual needs.

Are they at war with each other?

Would you be here at all if it weren't for those pesky desires for threesomes or sharing your wife or to be tied up? Your insatiable need to show off your cock or your boobs? Are you in fact a conventional person in every other way?

I just wondered

"

No one I know or work with would have a clue who I am (or what I get up to) via Fab and a couple of other places.

I kind of need it that way, but something inside me does push the line a little (ie in terms of being totally hidden lol).

What can you do?

pt

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have currently/last few years found myself in a state of limbo...I have the desire but no apparent skill."

Skill with what?

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen


"I have currently/last few years found myself in a state of limbo...I have the desire but no apparent skill.

Skill with what?"

I think I know. To flip, I probably have the skill but not the desire!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I'm here for my reasons. It's a conduit for sex. Sex is my aspiration. The fora and the friendships are a bonus.

But I'm here for the sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a good honest question. I'm here because I have a really high sex drive, single now after a long realationship. So I want to have new experiences

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I joined for the sex, but staying because of the forum, it is comedy gold

Have you tried watching Tony Hancock? "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"After a late-night chat, today I've been musing on people versus their sexual needs.

Are they at war with each other?

Would you be here at all if it weren't for those pesky desires for threesomes or sharing your wife or to be tied up? Your insatiable need to show off your cock or your boobs? Are you in fact a conventional person in every other way?

I just wondered

I've never been conventional.

Came for the fun.

Stayed because I met a lot of awesome people.

The sex is just a bonus.

I see quite a few people who've been here a while say this - the community draws you in perhaps? I think the socials must help hugely there.

Yep.

I enjoy the social side as much as the sex. I've made great friends over the years, found a wife, gone back to being single and found new friends. I could never be here solely just for pirely casual encounters. I need more substance than that.

And when you manage to find that extra it's great. "

I've found not wanting purely casual encounters is what makes me feel I don't belong at times. I remember being told quite firmly that it isn't mumsnet. Takes time to see there are others who feel the same.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"I joined for the sex, but staying because of the forum, it is comedy gold

Have you tried watching Tony Hancock? "
No. I havent, have you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I joined for the sex, but staying because of the forum, it is comedy gold

Have you tried watching Tony Hancock? No. I havent, have you?"

Yes thanks

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"I joined for the sex, but staying because of the forum, it is comedy gold

Have you tried watching Tony Hancock? No. I havent, have you?

Yes thanks "
That is good

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"After a late-night chat, today I've been musing on people versus their sexual needs.

Are they at war with each other?

Would you be here at all if it weren't for those pesky desires for threesomes or sharing your wife or to be tied up? Your insatiable need to show off your cock or your boobs? Are you in fact a conventional person in every other way?

I just wondered

Yes. Sex. Please. I have no fancy notions. I just sex. Thanks. "

Enjoy the sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm here for my reasons. It's a conduit for sex. Sex is my aspiration. The fora and the friendships are a bonus.

But I'm here for the sex."

I thought it was for the Afternoon Teas. Now I realise they're just a funnel! (sob)

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Im here for all the wrong reasons but im here cos i said id be there and its my only avenue to put that sentiment into practice

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

Sometimes question whether I should be on here or not at times as it can be really hard work but when it’s good it’s great . Hence why I often have breaks

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By *onathan14Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

I think there's a need fora chatspace like Fabs. It's a place to arrange adult fun of course but its a place openinded people can interact with each other. I think talking about swinging and acting on it are very different.

This is like a dirty book of the past.

Being on here is just a bit of fun if you're polite and not really meeting.

I come here for a read and to perv.

I'm happy with that.

J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I probably don't belong here in the eyes of many. I'm OK with that.

I'm just doing my own thing

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen


"I probably don't belong here in the eyes of many. I'm OK with that.

I'm just doing my own thing "

Fcuk the eyes of many. Do your own thing. There should be no tier system in the forums. Mmm there's an interesting thread.

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think being on here make me particularly unconventional tbh. I've seen fab discussed openly and joked about on fb.

It's not like its underground or even very daring now.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd have never signed up if we wasn't looking for sexual meets, however I stay for the socials & forums we don't look to meet from fab anymore.

Mrs

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

I love the swinging lifestyle and the communities, it's like a whole world away from my 'normal' life where I can explore. If it were not for Fab and swinging I would not have met some of the amazing people I have done.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I don’t think I’m conventional at all and most women I meet off here aren’t either, quite the opposite. I think it adds to us , you can get all those things off of fab as well, but this is a really good place for it.

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Yes I joined to still enjoy sexual experiences with like minded people, ideally with matures like myself, it's not easy though

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I enjoy the social interaction. So many good subjects to discuss apart from the obvious.

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By *ilverfox for youMan
over a year ago

Hull

Whatever anyone says it’s all about the sex on this site !just be honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Whatever anyone says it’s all about the sex on this site !just be honest "

Don't call people liars, if you please

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"I'm here for my reasons. It's a conduit for sex. Sex is my aspiration. The fora and the friendships are a bonus.

But I'm here for the sex.

·

I thought it was for the Afternoon Teas. Now I realise they're just a funnel! (sob)"

•

The Afternoon Teas are just a ruse for me to recruit new paramours.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dont think being on here make me particularly unconventional tbh. I've seen fab discussed openly and joked about on fb.

It's not like its underground or even very daring now."

In my real life world, it would be pretty unconventional and shocking to most. Even being non-monogamous is still well outside the mainstream.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm here for my reasons. It's a conduit for sex. Sex is my aspiration. The fora and the friendships are a bonus.

But I'm here for the sex.

·

I thought it was for the Afternoon Teas. Now I realise they're just a funnel! (sob)

•

The Afternoon Teas are just a ruse for me to recruit new paramours. "

I KNEW it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think most people have focussed on the swinging but my question was also addressing kink. If anyone had any thoughts?

I've found talking to a lot of guys over the years that many of them feel very ashamed and unable to accept some of their kink when they're very conventional men in other ways.

Some found it difficult at times to balance what we find sexually arousing with what society often deems abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont think being on here make me particularly unconventional tbh. I've seen fab discussed openly and joked about on fb.

It's not like its underground or even very daring now.

In my real life world, it would be pretty unconventional and shocking to most. Even being non-monogamous is still well outside the mainstream. "

I'm not convinced. People pretend a lot. I just dont think this site is particularly daring in the whole scheme of things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm here after being in two marriages that both ended up sexless after a couple of years. I have asked myself if it was down to me and in all honesty I don't think it was. I think I was just unlucky,,,, twice."

Such a shame that people can't work through that

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Good question OP. The longer I’m here the more I’m convinced I don’t belong yet can’t live.

I like the community feel, the forum and socials but other than that, I feel like I need to work on myself more and only then maybe one day I will feel like I belong.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

*leave not live

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

I think about sex 24/7 but I don't think this is the right place for me.

I come back from habit mostly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dont think being on here make me particularly unconventional tbh. I've seen fab discussed openly and joked about on fb.

It's not like its underground or even very daring now.

In my real life world, it would be pretty unconventional and shocking to most. Even being non-monogamous is still well outside the mainstream.

I'm not convinced. People pretend a lot. I just dont think this site is particularly daring in the whole scheme of things.

"

It's not just my world, it's the conversations I've had with others online that guide my perspective. And that's all it is, my perspective based on my experience.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

If the belief that nobody needs to be conventional is a convention then I am conventional.

Did I clear that up?

I think what I am here for varies to some extent. Right now there's some interesting conversation going on.

That can be a conduit to forming a connection with people sometimes.

I guess that's part of the appeal of the forum rather than the swipe left/right sites.

Maybe I am just whittling some time away waiting for the worms to come.

Belong? Of course I do Fab is inclusive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That's a good honest question. I'm here because I have a really high sex drive, single now after a long realationship. So I want to have new experiences "

This seems the place for that, for sure!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have currently/last few years found myself in a state of limbo...I have the desire but no apparent skill.

Skill with what?

I think I know. To flip, I probably have the skill but not the desire!"

Still bemused...

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I think I can appear quite conventional because I am to a certain extent, on paper at least.

When it comes to my romantic and sexual life I wouldn't go so far as to say I'm not conventional but equally... I don't think I'm the norm.

I'm not too sure I do fit in here. I like connections with people and don't feel a sexual desire without a level of friendship.

I'm poly but actively avoiding relationships for the time being. And yet I do care for those I'm currently "seeing".

I have no interest in meeting lots of different people because I don't have the headspace for it. I'm happy to go on dates (really enjoying those at the moment truth be told) but not date date.

I adore sex, truly relish it but I'm more than happy to have a date just involving lots of kissing and dry humping. Actually they're incredibly hot and a bit of a thing for me. It's not about keeping people interested, people come back even after sex. It's more being comfortable with what I want.

I'm not going to discuss my kinky side because it's a public fora and I don't want nonsense.

Sometimes I think I perhaps don't belong here but the majority of the time I'm now saying fuck it and just doing things the way I want to. It's not stopping me from meeting some fantastic people.

And the friends I've made here? They make me feel like I belong. So perhaps I do.

I'm too prone to waffling to really fit in though.

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By *uke_silverMan
over a year ago

London

I do not (yet), there's an "it" factor that you need to be up to fab standard and it's hard work achieving that when you're a shy introvert! I'll keep working on myself and try to be better.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"I think I can appear quite conventional because I am to a certain extent, on paper at least.

When it comes to my romantic and sexual life I wouldn't go so far as to say I'm not conventional but equally... I don't think I'm the norm.

I'm not too sure I do fit in here. I like connections with people and don't feel a sexual desire without a level of friendship.

I'm poly but actively avoiding relationships for the time being. And yet I do care for those I'm currently "seeing".

I have no interest in meeting lots of different people because I don't have the headspace for it. I'm happy to go on dates (really enjoying those at the moment truth be told) but not date date.

I adore sex, truly relish it but I'm more than happy to have a date just involving lots of kissing and dry humping. Actually they're incredibly hot and a bit of a thing for me. It's not about keeping people interested, people come back even after sex. It's more being comfortable with what I want.

I'm not going to discuss my kinky side because it's a public fora and I don't want nonsense.

Sometimes I think I perhaps don't belong here but the majority of the time I'm now saying fuck it and just doing things the way I want to. It's not stopping me from meeting some fantastic people.

And the friends I've made here? They make me feel like I belong. So perhaps I do.

I'm too prone to waffling to really fit in though. "

I like your waffle, it has bacon and maple syrup.

What is the norm now sexually? Is anyone really 'vanilla'

I was chatting to a friend who claims to be monogamous and vanilla. Within 30 mins the desires she was expressing and stories she told me had me .

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I think I can appear quite conventional because I am to a certain extent, on paper at least.

When it comes to my romantic and sexual life I wouldn't go so far as to say I'm not conventional but equally... I don't think I'm the norm.

I'm not too sure I do fit in here. I like connections with people and don't feel a sexual desire without a level of friendship.

I'm poly but actively avoiding relationships for the time being. And yet I do care for those I'm currently "seeing".

I have no interest in meeting lots of different people because I don't have the headspace for it. I'm happy to go on dates (really enjoying those at the moment truth be told) but not date date.

I adore sex, truly relish it but I'm more than happy to have a date just involving lots of kissing and dry humping. Actually they're incredibly hot and a bit of a thing for me. It's not about keeping people interested, people come back even after sex. It's more being comfortable with what I want.

I'm not going to discuss my kinky side because it's a public fora and I don't want nonsense.

Sometimes I think I perhaps don't belong here but the majority of the time I'm now saying fuck it and just doing things the way I want to. It's not stopping me from meeting some fantastic people.

And the friends I've made here? They make me feel like I belong. So perhaps I do.

I'm too prone to waffling to really fit in though.

I like your waffle, it has bacon and maple syrup.

What is the norm now sexually? Is anyone really 'vanilla'

I was chatting to a friend who claims to be monogamous and vanilla. Within 30 mins the desires she was expressing and stories she told me had me ."

I like your waffle too.

Oh I deliberately avoided using vanilla! I don't know how I feel about that term to be honest.

I do think that there's a difference between fantasies and acting on it though. I think the majority of people wouldn't be quite as monogamous or "vanilla" if the opportunity affords itself - there's still a stigma and shame surrounding certain predilections.

They're becoming more common place but they're not as widely accepted - I'd say we're still a monogamous society with ENM slowly being more accepted on the fringes. I don't know if that makes sense.

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

I joined hoping to meet with a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a swinger so I probably don’t

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think about sex 24/7 but I don't think this is the right place for me.

I come back from habit mostly. "

But why isn't it for you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m not a swinger so I probably don’t "

Nope, I'm not. Sometimes the attitudes towards single people who aren't swinging really suck here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I joined hoping to meet with a couple"

Fingers crossed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t belong here at all …… and I know it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do not (yet), there's an "it" factor that you need to be up to fab standard and it's hard work achieving that when you're a shy introvert! I'll keep working on myself and try to be better."

It factor?! Tell us more!

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham


"After a late-night chat, today I've been musing on people versus their sexual needs.

Are they at war with each other?

Would you be here at all if it weren't for those pesky desires for threesomes or sharing your wife or to be tied up? Your insatiable need to show off your cock or your boobs? Are you in fact a conventional person in every other way?

I just wondered "

I am totally conventional in every way, that is why I dress as a woman and hang around in bars!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If the belief that nobody needs to be conventional is a convention then I am conventional.

Did I clear that up?

I think what I am here for varies to some extent. Right now there's some interesting conversation going on.

That can be a conduit to forming a connection with people sometimes.

I guess that's part of the appeal of the forum rather than the swipe left/right sites.

Maybe I am just whittling some time away waiting for the worms to come.

Belong? Of course I do Fab is inclusive."

The "fab is inclusive" question is a whole other thread

I very much like connection rather than a random message from a bloke who is in need of a vagina. It's a little more human isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good question OP. The longer I’m here the more I’m convinced I don’t belong yet can’t live.

I like the community feel, the forum and socials but other than that, I feel like I need to work on myself more and only then maybe one day I will feel like I belong. "

I like your contributions to the forum. I hope you will feel that way in the future.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"Good question OP. The longer I’m here the more I’m convinced I don’t belong yet can’t live.

I like the community feel, the forum and socials but other than that, I feel like I need to work on myself more and only then maybe one day I will feel like I belong.

I like your contributions to the forum. I hope you will feel that way in the future. "

Thank you

It better happens before I go out of everyone’s age range I hope!

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"

They're becoming more common place but they're not as widely accepted - I'd say we're still a monogamous society with ENM slowly being more accepted on the fringes. I don't know if that makes sense. "

There really is isn't there. If we consider our sexuality to be inherent then it does make it an issue of prejudice.

Sometimes I think it manifests as begrudging tolerance rather than outright discrimination. There are times I observe levels of antilocution and avoidance (considering the allports scale) but it tends to mostly go on behind the veil of plausible deniability.

Oh it indeed makes sense. I agree that is a very good depiction of society. At least what is visible on the surface, what goes on beneath. Well that's almost an entirely different category.

Fantasy not having to be reality... Absoutely, sharing fantasies can be fun in and of itself. I've put a fair bit into the realms of the real with partners, experimentalism is part of my kink. The human mind can be very imaginative, especially when aroused sexually. Should all of it be made real..? Depends how wild two (or more) persons imagination can go, they need to blend first though?

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"If the belief that nobody needs to be conventional is a convention then I am conventional.

Did I clear that up?

I think what I am here for varies to some extent. Right now there's some interesting conversation going on.

That can be a conduit to forming a connection with people sometimes.

I guess that's part of the appeal of the forum rather than the swipe left/right sites.

Maybe I am just whittling some time away waiting for the worms to come.

Belong? Of course I do Fab is inclusive.

The "fab is inclusive" question is a whole other thread

I very much like connection rather than a random message from a bloke who is in need of a vagina. It's a little more human isn't it?"

Well you are on a roll, so I thought I'd plant a seed. I'm too lazy to do the work, all that holding court etc.

Transactional sex is less appealing to me than masturbation. That's the only way I can put it. I am not saying it is wrong or immoral. If it turned me on, I would do it, but I would be honest about it.

What I don't like is feigning the initimacy to get the sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think I can appear quite conventional because I am to a certain extent, on paper at least.

When it comes to my romantic and sexual life I wouldn't go so far as to say I'm not conventional but equally... I don't think I'm the norm.

I'm not too sure I do fit in here. I like connections with people and don't feel a sexual desire without a level of friendship.

I'm poly but actively avoiding relationships for the time being. And yet I do care for those I'm currently "seeing".

I have no interest in meeting lots of different people because I don't have the headspace for it. I'm happy to go on dates (really enjoying those at the moment truth be told) but not date date.

I adore sex, truly relish it but I'm more than happy to have a date just involving lots of kissing and dry humping. Actually they're incredibly hot and a bit of a thing for me. It's not about keeping people interested, people come back even after sex. It's more being comfortable with what I want.

I'm not going to discuss my kinky side because it's a public fora and I don't want nonsense.

Sometimes I think I perhaps don't belong here but the majority of the time I'm now saying fuck it and just doing things the way I want to. It's not stopping me from meeting some fantastic people.

And the friends I've made here? They make me feel like I belong. So perhaps I do.

I'm too prone to waffling to really fit in though. "

Without your "waffling" you wouldn't be Meli, though. Despite being a very non-monogamous community, I haven't seen much acceptance/understanding of poly though? And perhaps the route to belonging is to just be happy with your own journey which you seem to be.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Don't know where else I belong

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By *histle do nicelyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow South

I joined purely for sex...I mainly go on to the forums now for the banter

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd have never signed up if we wasn't looking for sexual meets, however I stay for the socials & forums we don't look to meet from fab anymore.

Mrs "

Do you find it too much now, filtering through the dross messages?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"FAB has changed our sex life completely - we’d never had threesomes before FAB, sent naked pics, posed for pics, gone to clubs - it’s given us the confidence to explore our fantasies and realise them instead of wondering about them.

The only bad thing is that it’s making us more depraved

K"

Do you think that would have happened to you as (depraved) individuals?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good question OP. The longer I’m here the more I’m convinced I don’t belong yet can’t live.

I like the community feel, the forum and socials but other than that, I feel like I need to work on myself more and only then maybe one day I will feel like I belong.

I like your contributions to the forum. I hope you will feel that way in the future.

Thank you

It better happens before I go out of everyone’s age range I hope! "

Oh I don't think it's much of an issue for women? (She says hopefully...)

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By *unxicanMan
over a year ago

Norwich

To be honest I'm too sexy to be here, just nobody realised it yet. Don't belong here, but here I am for a limited time ladies.

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We're adventurous and live life to the max but we are also secure and self contained in our relationship. We're not here because there us anything lacking between us, but see it as just an opportunity to have some crazy fun in a different way. We would do a bungee jump or ride a roller coaster, not because we need to, but because it's something fun to do together. If we couldn't do things like that, our lives wouldn't be the lesser for it, we could do without and would probably do something different instead.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be honest I'm too sexy to be here, just nobody realised it yet. Don't belong here, but here I am for a limited time ladies. "

Oh, you should definitely put a discount offer up

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By *unxicanMan
over a year ago

Norwich

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By *unxicanMan
over a year ago

Norwich


"To be honest I'm too sexy to be here, just nobody realised it yet. Don't belong here, but here I am for a limited time ladies.

Oh, you should definitely put a discount offer up "

I'm a non profit charity!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be honest I'm too sexy to be here, just nobody realised it yet. Don't belong here, but here I am for a limited time ladies.

Oh, you should definitely put a discount offer up

I'm a non profit charity!"

Free sex? Shut the front door!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't know where else I belong "

I don't think you're the only person here who thinks that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I asked myself that question today and I'm honestly not sure. I joined on a recommendation of a friend , have had a very limited sex life, I thought joining I'd get to explore my fantasies, my wants and desires, have I? Yes and no, the last while I'm just here for the forums, used to love attending socials but they have lost their attraction.

Will I stay today yes, tomorrow could be a different answer

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
over a year ago

your head

I'm not sure I do anymore but haven't really decided what to do with that yet. I joined for sex, stayed for friends and found my partner along the way. I'm not really a swinger, more a kinkster. I like clubs sometimes and the occasional local social. Think it's more just habit now.

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth, South west

I would say not many people think we have conventional lives, but we are not here to fulfil any need. We enjoy the forums, seeing what's happening locally or for club, social and party nights. Don't get my wrong, the perving is a bonus and we've had many a naughty night starting with a bit of harmless browsing lol x

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By *unxicanMan
over a year ago

Norwich


"To be honest I'm too sexy to be here, just nobody realised it yet. Don't belong here, but here I am for a limited time ladies.

Oh, you should definitely put a discount offer up

I'm a non profit charity!

Free sex? Shut the front door!"

I know, right? I feel like a piece of meat...

I'm considering to block all genders and just hang out here.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Not entirely sure I belong anywhere

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

Probably not...but nowhere else would have me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a late-night chat, today I've been musing on people versus their sexual needs.

Are they at war with each other?

Would you be here at all if it weren't for those pesky desires for threesomes or sharing your wife or to be tied up? Your insatiable need to show off your cock or your boobs? Are you in fact a conventional person in every other way?

I just wondered "

Reminds me of the great line from Personal Services where Julie Walters says "If you want to get any sense out of a man then you have to get him de-spunked first."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"After a late-night chat, today I've been musing on people versus their sexual needs.

Are they at war with each other?

Would you be here at all if it weren't for those pesky desires for threesomes or sharing your wife or to be tied up? Your insatiable need to show off your cock or your boobs? Are you in fact a conventional person in every other way?

I just wondered

Reminds me of the great line from Personal Services where Julie Walters says "If you want to get any sense out of a man then you have to get him de-spunked first.""

Well, I think it's best you said that, not me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If the belief that nobody needs to be conventional is a convention then I am conventional.

Did I clear that up?

I think what I am here for varies to some extent. Right now there's some interesting conversation going on.

That can be a conduit to forming a connection with people sometimes.

I guess that's part of the appeal of the forum rather than the swipe left/right sites.

Maybe I am just whittling some time away waiting for the worms to come.

Belong? Of course I do Fab is inclusive.

The "fab is inclusive" question is a whole other thread

I very much like connection rather than a random message from a bloke who is in need of a vagina. It's a little more human isn't it?

Well you are on a roll, so I thought I'd plant a seed. I'm too lazy to do the work, all that holding court etc.

Transactional sex is less appealing to me than masturbation. That's the only way I can put it. I am not saying it is wrong or immoral. If it turned me on, I would do it, but I would be honest about it.

What I don't like is feigning the initimacy to get the sex."

Am I on a roll? Hmm.

I suspect you will agree with me when I say that I'm not sure that many people on Fab want intimacy in the true sense. Just bump genitals together.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I joined to explore an enm lifestyle and to have new experiences.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"If the belief that nobody needs to be conventional is a convention then I am conventional.

Did I clear that up?

I think what I am here for varies to some extent. Right now there's some interesting conversation going on.

That can be a conduit to forming a connection with people sometimes.

I guess that's part of the appeal of the forum rather than the swipe left/right sites.

Maybe I am just whittling some time away waiting for the worms to come.

Belong? Of course I do Fab is inclusive.

The "fab is inclusive" question is a whole other thread

I very much like connection rather than a random message from a bloke who is in need of a vagina. It's a little more human isn't it?

Well you are on a roll, so I thought I'd plant a seed. I'm too lazy to do the work, all that holding court etc.

Transactional sex is less appealing to me than masturbation. That's the only way I can put it. I am not saying it is wrong or immoral. If it turned me on, I would do it, but I would be honest about it.

What I don't like is feigning the initimacy to get the sex.

Am I on a roll? Hmm.

I suspect you will agree with me when I say that I'm not sure that many people on Fab want intimacy in the true sense. Just bump genitals together. "

Hmmm do you feel like you are? I've had a compersion buzz, seeing you do your thing - it has made me smile a few times. I don't know do I it's your head - take a bloody compliment would you!

Let me think on that...

It's subjective: the intimacy that I want, what works for me - is quite substantial. I'm on the other end of the spectrum to the 'just bump gentials'.

Although, the distribution curve, probably leans toward the 'just bump genitals' end quite significantly.

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By *KTim61Man
over a year ago

Tipton

I'm not so sure with the luck I've had so far. But I still live in hope but nice to browse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you were here before

Couldn't look you in the eye

You're just like an angel

Your skin makes me cry

You float like a feather

In a beautiful world

I wish I was special

You're so fuckin' special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doing here?

I don't belong here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When you were here before

Couldn't look you in the eye

You're just like an angel

Your skin makes me cry

You float like a feather

In a beautiful world

I wish I was special

You're so fuckin' special

But I'm a creep

I'm a weirdo

What the hell am I doing here?

I don't belong here"

You and Woody belong...together

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not so sure with the luck I've had so far. But I still live in hope but nice to browse "

Persistence is needed!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If the belief that nobody needs to be conventional is a convention then I am conventional.

Did I clear that up?

I think what I am here for varies to some extent. Right now there's some interesting conversation going on.

That can be a conduit to forming a connection with people sometimes.

I guess that's part of the appeal of the forum rather than the swipe left/right sites.

Maybe I am just whittling some time away waiting for the worms to come.

Belong? Of course I do Fab is inclusive.

The "fab is inclusive" question is a whole other thread

I very much like connection rather than a random message from a bloke who is in need of a vagina. It's a little more human isn't it?

Well you are on a roll, so I thought I'd plant a seed. I'm too lazy to do the work, all that holding court etc.

Transactional sex is less appealing to me than masturbation. That's the only way I can put it. I am not saying it is wrong or immoral. If it turned me on, I would do it, but I would be honest about it.

What I don't like is feigning the initimacy to get the sex.

Am I on a roll? Hmm.

I suspect you will agree with me when I say that I'm not sure that many people on Fab want intimacy in the true sense. Just bump genitals together.

Hmmm do you feel like you are? I've had a compersion buzz, seeing you do your thing - it has made me smile a few times. I don't know do I it's your head - take a bloody compliment would you!

Let me think on that...

It's subjective: the intimacy that I want, what works for me - is quite substantial. I'm on the other end of the spectrum to the 'just bump gentials'.

Although, the distribution curve, probably leans toward the 'just bump genitals' end quite significantly."

Last night I was called one of the biggest trolls on the site, so I shall gladly accept.

I often think that intimacy (true intimacy) is what people miss in their "sexless" relationships. Not the genital bumping. But I am digressing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be honest I'm too sexy to be here, just nobody realised it yet. Don't belong here, but here I am for a limited time ladies.

Oh, you should definitely put a discount offer up

I'm a non profit charity!

Free sex? Shut the front door!

I know, right? I feel like a piece of meat...

I'm considering to block all genders and just hang out here. "

Best approach, methinks. The messages can overwhelm.

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By *unxicanMan
over a year ago

Norwich


"To be honest I'm too sexy to be here, just nobody realised it yet. Don't belong here, but here I am for a limited time ladies.

Oh, you should definitely put a discount offer up

I'm a non profit charity!

Free sex? Shut the front door!

I know, right? I feel like a piece of meat...

I'm considering to block all genders and just hang out here.

Best approach, methinks. The messages can overwhelm. "

Obviously I'm getting a lot of messages from everybody. Not just men.

Yeah, right...

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By *KTim61Man
over a year ago

Tipton


"I'm not so sure with the luck I've had so far. But I still live in hope but nice to browse

Persistence is needed! "

I'd keep on persisting then . . . . . . But I've seen on quite a few profiles Not interested in Single Males

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be honest I'm too sexy to be here, just nobody realised it yet. Don't belong here, but here I am for a limited time ladies.

Oh, you should definitely put a discount offer up

I'm a non profit charity!

Free sex? Shut the front door!

I know, right? I feel like a piece of meat...

I'm considering to block all genders and just hang out here.

Best approach, methinks. The messages can overwhelm.

Obviously I'm getting a lot of messages from everybody. Not just men.

Yeah, right...

"

Not all women and couples are flooded with them! I'm not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not so sure with the luck I've had so far. But I still live in hope but nice to browse

Persistence is needed!

I'd keep on persisting then . . . . . . But I've seen on quite a few profiles Not interested in Single Males "

There's a lot of profiles that are though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I joined to explore an enm lifestyle and to have new experiences. "

And has it met your expectations?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My kink is being ignored by thousands of women. Fab is my Mecca.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My kink is being ignored by thousands of women. Fab is my Mecca. "

Enjoy your visit

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By *unxicanMan
over a year ago

Norwich


"

Not all women and couples are flooded with them! I'm not. "

I mean you have only 1 photo, but you have a vagina. You should get at least a lot of dick pics, I'm free now and Wanna fuck/suck me messages.

Come on guys!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Not all women and couples are flooded with them! I'm not.

I mean you have only 1 photo, but you have a vagina. You should get at least a lot of dick pics, I'm free now and Wanna fuck/suck me messages.

Come on guys! "

I do have a vagina, it's true. And also filters and I'm old.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Also norks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Also norks"

Aw shucks

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By *unxicanMan
over a year ago

Norwich


"I'm not so sure with the luck I've had so far. But I still live in hope but nice to browse

Persistence is needed!

I'd keep on persisting then . . . . . . But I've seen on quite a few profiles Not interested in Single Males "

That's more understandable than women hardly pushing 5' want at least 5'10" tall man. Smokers don't meet smokers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not so sure with the luck I've had so far. But I still live in hope but nice to browse

Persistence is needed!

I'd keep on persisting then . . . . . . But I've seen on quite a few profiles Not interested in Single Males

That's more understandable than women hardly pushing 5' want at least 5'10" tall man. Smokers don't meet smokers. "

Preferences. Can't ever argue with 'em.

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By *unxicanMan
over a year ago

Norwich


"I'm not so sure with the luck I've had so far. But I still live in hope but nice to browse

Persistence is needed!

I'd keep on persisting then . . . . . . But I've seen on quite a few profiles Not interested in Single Males

That's more understandable than women hardly pushing 5' want at least 5'10" tall man. Smokers don't meet smokers.

Preferences. Can't ever argue with 'em. "

I know it just.... what's the chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I shouldn't be here, no.

I'm definitely not a swinger - I just like sex and dating apps suck balls.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

There are some luxurious, gorgeous ladies here. Single man who likes socials and clubs. Standard bloke really

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I shouldn't be here, no.

I'm definitely not a swinger - I just like sex and dating apps suck balls."

Dating apps do indeed! I try them out and delete them with alarming regularity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I shouldn't be here, no.

I'm definitely not a swinger - I just like sex and dating apps suck balls.

Dating apps do indeed! I try them out and delete them with alarming regularity. "

I haven't mustered the energy to try in over 12 months. I can see them soon in my future though.

I used to just neet women in bars but can't be doing that all the time now.

Such a sad ti_eline we live in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I shouldn't be here, no.

I'm definitely not a swinger - I just like sex and dating apps suck balls.

Dating apps do indeed! I try them out and delete them with alarming regularity.

I haven't mustered the energy to try in over 12 months. I can see them soon in my future though.

I used to just neet women in bars but can't be doing that all the time now.

Such a sad ti_eline we live in."

How many women do you need? It can't be that time consuming?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Sociably yes everything else is a bonus

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By *uke_silverMan
over a year ago

London


"I do not (yet), there's an "it" factor that you need to be up to fab standard and it's hard work achieving that when you're a shy introvert! I'll keep working on myself and try to be better.

It factor?! Tell us more! "

Oh, you could write a book but how I'd describe it in a nutshell is people who skirt the line between respectful and flirty perfectly, who have so much charisma that everything they say or do is hot (not to a stranger, but to the person they're talking to).

They're confident but not arrogant, focused, eloquent, interesting, engaging, humourous. Of course, if they look like a Greek God, all of the above is 100x easier - this is fab after all! While I'm describing the perfect person, let me add that they're amazing in bed too, because why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do not (yet), there's an "it" factor that you need to be up to fab standard and it's hard work achieving that when you're a shy introvert! I'll keep working on myself and try to be better.

It factor?! Tell us more!

Oh, you could write a book but how I'd describe it in a nutshell is people who skirt the line between respectful and flirty perfectly, who have so much charisma that everything they say or do is hot (not to a stranger, but to the person they're talking to).

They're confident but not arrogant, focused, eloquent, interesting, engaging, humourous. Of course, if they look like a Greek God, all of the above is 100x easier - this is fab after all! While I'm describing the perfect person, let me add that they're amazing in bed too, because why not? "

So long as it has a pulse it is worth a prod.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do not (yet), there's an "it" factor that you need to be up to fab standard and it's hard work achieving that when you're a shy introvert! I'll keep working on myself and try to be better.

It factor?! Tell us more!

Oh, you could write a book but how I'd describe it in a nutshell is people who skirt the line between respectful and flirty perfectly, who have so much charisma that everything they say or do is hot (not to a stranger, but to the person they're talking to).

They're confident but not arrogant, focused, eloquent, interesting, engaging, humourous. Of course, if they look like a Greek God, all of the above is 100x easier - this is fab after all! While I'm describing the perfect person, let me add that they're amazing in bed too, because why not? "

Jesus Christ. The rest of us have no chance.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"I do not (yet), there's an "it" factor that you need to be up to fab standard and it's hard work achieving that when you're a shy introvert! I'll keep working on myself and try to be better.

It factor?! Tell us more!

Oh, you could write a book but how I'd describe it in a nutshell is people who skirt the line between respectful and flirty perfectly, who have so much charisma that everything they say or do is hot (not to a stranger, but to the person they're talking to).

They're confident but not arrogant, focused, eloquent, interesting, engaging, humourous. Of course, if they look like a Greek God, all of the above is 100x easier - this is fab after all! While I'm describing the perfect person, let me add that they're amazing in bed too, because why not? "

There’s very fine line between feeling not confident enough, sometimes for many reasons beyond our control but with an ability of knowing how to work through it - and being fixated on not having the “it” factor.

As long as the line is not crossed, it’s ok to be just yourself, and the feeling of belonging will come.

As will the right people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do not (yet), there's an "it" factor that you need to be up to fab standard and it's hard work achieving that when you're a shy introvert! I'll keep working on myself and try to be better.

It factor?! Tell us more!

Oh, you could write a book but how I'd describe it in a nutshell is people who skirt the line between respectful and flirty perfectly, who have so much charisma that everything they say or do is hot (not to a stranger, but to the person they're talking to).

They're confident but not arrogant, focused, eloquent, interesting, engaging, humourous. Of course, if they look like a Greek God, all of the above is 100x easier - this is fab after all! While I'm describing the perfect person, let me add that they're amazing in bed too, because why not?

There’s very fine line between feeling not confident enough, sometimes for many reasons beyond our control but with an ability of knowing how to work through it - and being fixated on not having the “it” factor.

As long as the line is not crossed, it’s ok to be just yourself, and the feeling of belonging will come.

As will the right people. "

If I spent all my time thinking of what IT factor women need here and how I don't measure up, I'd want to shoot myself. It's no way to live.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

No. I'm a creep.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

I'm a weirdo

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

What the hell am I doin here. I don't belong here

The End

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