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By *appyhippo OP Woman
over a year ago

coventry

find the hardest to say..

A. I am sorry

B. I need help

C. I love you

D. I was wrong

Or maybe you are just the type of person who i comfortable in saying any of them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

B. I will eventually ask for help, but it will be when I've struggled and squirmed for a while usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m ok with saying all these things…..in fact I’ve just realised how often I say them

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"C"

With the exception of my kids and best mate.

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By *issIrishCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

C I refuse to say it

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By *elloWoman
over a year ago

alpha centauri

I have such a problem of asking for help and accepting help when it's offered, I've had to explain to my friends that I do appreciate their offers but there's something in me which just won't let me say yes so I struggle on trying to do things my own stubborn way

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

A...and B...probably C..and maybe D

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely B ….

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Always B. Not sure I've actually ever said it

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Definitely B.

Mrs

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By *ohnboy64Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

Could also add,"ok, I admit it, it WAS me".

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

"find the hardest to say..

A. I am sorry

B. I need help

C. I love you

D. I was wrong

Or maybe you are just the type of person who i comfortable in saying any of them. "

I need help

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

I can’t do B and I’ll only say C if I mean it

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

But I've got better at it.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Definitely asking for help but I did recently open up to a guy I’m seeing and it was the best thing I’ve done.

‘I love you’ will also be difficult and not something I’d be rushing to say and I’ll probably wait until he says it first.

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

I'm good with saying them all to be honest

Em x

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I say all of these.

C can be difficult as people usually put a particular interpretation on it of the phrase meaning "I want to be with you forever in an exclusive relationship that will transcend time" but with an expectation that it is also a lie intended to just get someone's knickers off. People can get very upset if it isn't said, and very upset if it is said...

In english we have the one word "love", but in greek there are different words for different kinds of love. The usual connotations of C are of the greek word "eros" - passion, lust, pleasure, sexual longing. And when people have been in a relationship for a while, of "pragma" - everlasting love rooted in romantic feelings and companionship.

In contrast, I feel that I am more likely to express love for multiple people, meaning an emotion of "philia" - intimate, authentic friendship, with shared core values, which may be platonic or romantic. So I may say "I love you" without meaning either that I want to live with you forever or that I fancy the pants off you, but instead that I have a feeling of deep respect, mutual understanding and that our lives are enhanced by our knowing each other...

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By *oadsafun1960Man
over a year ago

Somerset & Hertfordshire

C used to be easy until I realised I was being taken for a fool by someone who said it but didn't mean it!

Now it's going to be very difficult to say it again.

I've started using B now though

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