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By *hynoott OP   Man
over a year ago

Fareham

Im looking for some advice, i've had a profile on here for a few years now and had some great fun. My profile is currently hidden because im in a relationship with a woman who has always been vanilla. I would love to get her in to the lifestyle, she has expressed an intrest for threesomes in the past. But I'm just looking for advise on how show her how amazing these things can be without her feeling pressured in to doing something she doesnt want to. I love her to bits and dont want to fuck it up Thanks in advance

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Watch threesome porn together and see how she responds ?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Maybe watch the open house program on channel 4 and use that to bring up the conversation.

Mrs

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By *hynoott OP   Man
over a year ago

Fareham

We have watched that I just need to man up I think! We had a chat while we were out the other night and she said she would consider a threesome. She knows all about my sex life before I met her and has no problem with it, but I bottled it and didnt carry on the conversation

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Why do you think she'd feel pressured? If you introduce the subject making it clear that the decision is hers and you'll feel the same way about her whatever her answer the only pressure she'll feel will come from her wanting to please you.

You say you want to show her how amazing these things can be, I think you need to avoid phrases like that because that's where she might feel pressure.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

So she has already said she will consider a threesome. Next stop then could be a club, making it clear that you will both be going to see how you both feel about being around others in a sexy environment, not to engage in sex.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Suggest a club on a newbies night or I think some do a social only event as well which may work.

LvM

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By *hynoott OP   Man
over a year ago

Fareham


"Why do you think she'd feel pressured? If you introduce the subject making it clear that the decision is hers and you'll feel the same way about her whatever her answer the only pressure she'll feel will come from her wanting to please you.

You say you want to show her how amazing these things can be, I think you need to avoid phrases like that because that's where she might feel pressure. "

Thanks that makes a lot of sence! I'm pretty sure she would love it but you're right. Best to tell her i would like to try but if shes isnt in to it then that is fine and i love her either way!

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Maybe try a little role play and fantasy in bed. See if it gets ye going.

My last partner and I were monogamous but we fantasized that all the time about people joining us. It was hot.

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By *hynoott OP   Man
over a year ago

Fareham

Thanks guys I'd not thought of the club idea I've got to have the proper talk really dont !?

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Why rush? She has said she would consider a threesome, so let her consider that. No need to be planning beyond that at this stage.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

OP, I wrote a book all about how to begin swinging. I won't post it here, but feel free to msg me.

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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago

North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester

Go to a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you have a good plan.

Also Google 'mojo upgrade'.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

Don't hide your profile, share it with her.

If your history tells too many stories for comfort, why not start a new profile was a couple?

Option three, stay Fab single!

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Sounds like you have a good plan.

Also Google 'mojo upgrade'. "

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