FabSwingers.com forum: What attracts you to a person...

By *ake_or_death OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

...that is nothing to do with body shape or size?

The way they smile? That they make you laugh? Their voice? What draws you to a person romantically and/or sexually?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Initially? The face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A smile,their eyes, the way they hold themselves, how they approach a conversation, having manners/being polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their face, eyes and smile

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Initially it's their face/smile but a person's sense of humour is a massive deciding factor on whether I'm drawn to them or not.

They could be the best looking person on the planet but if they can't make me laugh then no it ain't happening.

Ruby

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Expressive eyes and tone of voice

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Oh, various things.

At the risk of sounding like a dippie hippie, their energy mostly.

Most people I'm drawn to have a certain dark humour, honesty, and sadistic streak to them

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

People that are weird.

When you're chatting to someone and it clicks in your head that they're just as awkward and weird as you.

Bless their hearts.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"People that are weird.

When you're chatting to someone and it clicks in your head that they're just as awkward and weird as you.

Bless their hearts.

Oh. That moment. When someone isn't just people any more. They're a person

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

So many different things that add up to their vibe. Smile and sense of humour for sure. The way they move. Confidence. Holding your gaze.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"People that are weird.

When you're chatting to someone and it clicks in your head that they're just as awkward and weird as you.

Bless their hearts.

Oh. That moment. When someone isn't just people any more. They're a person

Exactly that, It's so rare and so wonderful.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Nerdy. Flirty. Dirty

I like when they're a bit/ lot weird

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Voice/personality

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

If they can make me laugh haha

I like ladies with a sense of humour

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'm not quite sure. I like people who have good energy around them. Are passionate and engaging in a way that makes me happy to listen to them waffle on.

I like those who are weird. Perhaps not weird. I like people who are my sort of weird. Where I can feel comfortable being myself around them and don't need to filter/be on guard around them.

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By *omethingDifferent4FunWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh-ish

"So many different things that add up to their vibe. Smile and sense of humour for sure. The way they move. Confidence. Holding your gaze."

This is a great summary! There's so much that has to all add up isn't there?? Facial attraction is massive for me, then it's chat/personality and if that clicks/is easy and fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Top 5:

Moisturised skin.

Smiley.

Short hair.

Dresses well (fashionable).

Intelligence.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"People that are weird.

When you're chatting to someone and it clicks in your head that they're just as awkward and weird as you.

Bless their hearts.

Oh. That moment. When someone isn't just people any more. They're a person

Oh that

You put it well, person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of the above op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"None of the above op"

Ouch

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

The way they dress , it reveals so much about them and can’t really be faked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes there's just instant chemistry when you meet someone, and when that happens it's all over for me

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

That instant connection whether it’s a look or smile just that something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes there's just instant chemistry when you meet someone, and when that happens it's all over for me "

Why what happens next

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good voice makes me weak at the knees

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes there's just instant chemistry when you meet someone, and when that happens it's all over for me

Why what happens next

When it's the right chemistry it's impossible for me to resist Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ability for them to make me think or make me laugh. Being able to turn on my mind. That gets me pretty hooked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A good voice makes me weak at the knees

*deepens voice*

Hi, ma’am. Do you need a hand crossing the road?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes there's just instant chemistry when you meet someone, and when that happens it's all over for me

Why what happens next

When it's the right chemistry it's impossible for me to resist Steve

Mmmmmmm

Then what?

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Sense of humour, creativity and a good imagination

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A good voice makes me weak at the knees

*deepens voice*

Hi, ma’am. Do you need a hand crossing the road?"

(Croaks) thank you, young man, but I have my stick. Would you like a Werther's?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A good voice makes me weak at the knees

*deepens voice*

Hi, ma’am. Do you need a hand crossing the road?

(Croaks) thank you, young man, but I have my stick. Would you like a Werther's?"

Eww no. I wasn’t coming onto you

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By *angler 321Man
over a year ago

Hereford

Initially a nice face or smile, but confidence in themselves is what really attracts me, I love people who just don't care what anyone else thinks! Comfortable in their own skin, and obviously sexually confident, and know what they want!

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Physically - nice voice, nice hands, good ink, taller than me.

More importantly - funny, interesting conversation, reliable, respectful. A bit of kink doesn’t hurt.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

If the connection moment is there. Someone used the term 'seen' with me recently.

That resonated for me. She feels seen, I feel seen.

It's almost like a switch inside me just clicks. Although it's not always sexual.

It's love really. Powerful, precious and yet fragile.

Happened on the weekend. A very special friend, very dear to me. It's happened so often we don't even say anything anymore, just sit with the moment.

What is it she said: heaven would be this for me. Just you and me, in a meadow by a stream.

And then she said: everyone is delusional they act like death isn't coming for them and instead get involved in drama and tik tok videos

I think I need both in a partner not just the revelation of the nicer aspects of their humanity, also their shadow. Otherwise only half is seen.

That's what is most attractive to me. Depth, openness, authenticity, self-awareness I could throw a hundred words at it and not capture it.

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

Nice eyes and a smile will always catch my attention, then if they're easy to talk to next.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A unique look, eyes,hair and gota be a laugh to be with

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Face, smile, humour and how they carry themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big tits and wet holes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A good voice makes me weak at the knees

*deepens voice*

Hi, ma’am. Do you need a hand crossing the road?

(Croaks) thank you, young man, but I have my stick. Would you like a Werther's?

Eww no. I wasn’t coming onto you

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By *oomerangbobMan
over a year ago

stanhope

Good sense of humour, anyone who would not bag their dog’s poo and then hangs it from a tree

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Confidence, humour, clean nails, great chat, someone who leads an interesting life and has plenty of stories to tell about it.

One of my favourite ever meets I only realised when I got to the bar that we hadn't swapped photos so I had no idea what he looked like. He reeled me in with great chat and funny phone conversations about every topic imaginable. Thankfully we both liked each others' looks (though he'd have needed to be extraordinary for me to be turned off by that point!).

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By *ove2lickMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Gaping fanny

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By *appyhippoWoman
over a year ago

coventry

Physically…smile, eyes and hands. But saying that I am more attracted to someone with a good vibe, good communication and confidence.

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By *romleyM41Man
over a year ago

orpington / surrounding

Confidence I personally find very attractive, regardless of shape, size, looks, but there is a very fine line between confidence and arrogance which is a very unattractive trait

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkley

Buggered if I know really. A combination of lots of things. I suppose at core I want them to be a decent human being who is concerned about others and the state of the planet generally. Also I guess that they have to be trans supportive and intersectionally aware or they won't be able to stand being in the same room as me - though that's all part of being a decent person.

What was the question? Something about me liking them, or them liking me? Dunno. I'll tell you when she finds me. Xx

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By *hewy81Man
over a year ago

Reading

Conversation, and a nice smile, I’m easy that way lol

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Huge things for me are intelligence, humour and personality. And yes - I know it's a massive cliché that's bandied around a lot.

They're things that you can gauge before even meeting someone, through messages, online chat and then calls.

Sure. You may have already seen their photos and usually their face by then.

But looks and images (even videos) are very two dimensional. Lots of people look good. Lots of people can present themselves in an attractive manner. Lots of people know how to 'sell' themselves online via profiles and pictures.

But it's much harder to convey individuality, attitudes, values and humour without a two way conversation.

If that proves hard, requires considerable effort, or feels forced or awkward at any stage, then no matter how attractive you may find them it becomes mechanical, a means to an end and all about purely physical connections rather than mental.

And that's never going to be anywhere near as enjoyable as actually having the extra element of cerebral connection.

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Boobs.

And cake

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Quirkiness, and their outlandish sense of humour. Also, when they ask me unconventional questions which leave me pondering for a while.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

On Holibobs

When he exudes confidence

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Sense of humour and chat.

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By *uckyNineMan
over a year ago

prescot

They say yes as opposed to jog on

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Homour is a big one for me, make me laugh and your half way there, a nice smile, good conversation and feeling comfortable is what mainly attracts me.

I'm not someone who can be attracted to anyone by looks alone.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I CBA to fix the typo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I CBA to fix the typo

We all know how honour is spelt don't worry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two things really ...boobs... sorry (not sorry

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I CBA to fix the typo

We all know how honour is spelt don't worry"

I ment boobs but honour is good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I CBA to fix the typo

We all know how honour is spelt don't worry

I ment boobs but honour is good

I KNEW it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am always attracted to the eyes and mouth. A good smile goes a long way for me.

If i get the chance to talk to them then it becomes the way they chat ie being polite and engaging. I know its a swingers and sex site but for me the conversation does not even have to be sexual (although its enjoyable too) as i am already bought into all the above.

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By *andDfwbCouple
over a year ago

Melton Mowbray

Personality and ability to smile. Oh and cracking tits

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Their personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality is huge and nice eyes and dark hair

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

"Physically…smile, eyes and hands. But saying that I am more attracted to someone with a good vibe, good communication and confidence. "

Trouble is after over 20 years in the build trade my hands look a little worse for ware

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By *addy bareMan
over a year ago

lakeside

Looks wise a pretty face,but when meeting someone there personally comes into it,the size of there body is irrelevant to me,as long as they have a pretty face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

their energy (i'm extremely sensitive with picking up and sensing other people's energy), physical attraction of course (can't meet up and play with just anyone), their personality (what they're about) and honesty (which is self explanatory i think).

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Lightning

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Their face initially ,as that's what I have to be attracted to.

If they're not v nice people or lack a sense of humour ,I can soon go off them .

It works a bit the other way in that people can become more attractive the more I get to know them.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That click.

They're your people. Make you laugh, can sit comfortably in silence and can talk about shit and it doesn't matter. Alternatively you can have intricate or deep conversations. That is attractive to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That click.

That's it, isn't it? And it's so damn elusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having a similar sense of humour to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way they engage with me, react to my unusual sense of humour, hold their own and feel comfortable to give back and look me in the eye while they do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kindness

Humility

A sense of humour

Someone who sees beyond my physical beauty

Unselfishness

Unbothered by others opinions

Chivalry

Health conscious

Happiness

Being comfortable being themselves unapologetically

Quick witted

Decisiveness

Spontaneity

Passionate about something in life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The responding positively to my FAF messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gorgeous smile and eyes

Lou

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