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"I can understand from a man's pov it's hard to meet women here and maybe couples finding couples . But surley not couples and women seeking single men ? From what I read here its 100 men to 1 women / couple. Anyone shed any light on this ? " Lack of 3 way connection (even with just MF play Mr Fox has to vibe with the guy) | |||
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"It's not about the number of single men that makes it hard for couples to meet single men. It's all about the quality. Taking from my own pov when we are looking to invite single men into our relationship it is all down to who they are as a person, respect etc. We get so many offers that are just about the single man wanting to join so they can have sex with Tinder. No conversation or thoughts about what my expectations of them are and where I would actually fit into the scenario. Single men need to do better IMHO. Marc" I completely agree with you hear . There has to be respect and obviously not just gonna pick any old dick and Harry especially when your inviting a 3rd into your sex life which is obviously very private etc | |||
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"It's not about the number of single men that makes it hard for couples to meet single men. It's all about the quality. Taking from my own pov when we are looking to invite single men into our relationship it is all down to who they are as a person, respect etc. We get so many offers that are just about the single man wanting to join so they can have sex with Tinder. No conversation or thoughts about what my expectations of them are and where I would actually fit into the scenario. Single men need to do better IMHO. Marc I completely agree with you hear . There has to be respect and obviously not just gonna pick any old dick and Harry especially when your inviting a 3rd into your sex life which is obviously very private etc " Here* | |||
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"It’s a woman’s world on here and men just live in it " Yeah, nah. Life on Fab is what you make it. If you really believe there's some kind of pecking order with men at the bottom then you'll likely find that to be a self fulfilling prophecy. And therein lies the problem........ | |||
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"Finding compatible people is a struggle for everyone. Yes, I could meet someone today if I was willing to deal with any random penis I wasn't remotely attracted to. But so could any straight man if he just dropped his standards the way we're expected to, because "it's a sex site" " Completely agree … also as a single guy I’m suppose to just take whatever gets offered and should feel privileged of that offer as so many guys to choose from well that’s what I’ve been told previously | |||
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"Finding compatible people is a struggle for everyone. Yes, I could meet someone today if I was willing to deal with any random penis I wasn't remotely attracted to. But so could any straight man if he just dropped his standards the way we're expected to, because "it's a sex site" Completely agree … also as a single guy I’m suppose to just take whatever gets offered and should feel privileged of that offer as so many guys to choose from well that’s what I’ve been told previously " One of my partners occasionally gets shitty messages about how he has no right to be so picky as a single man on here. Some people are incredibly entitled | |||
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"Finding compatible people is a struggle for everyone. Yes, I could meet someone today if I was willing to deal with any random penis I wasn't remotely attracted to. But so could any straight man if he just dropped his standards the way we're expected to, because "it's a sex site" Completely agree … also as a single guy I’m suppose to just take whatever gets offered and should feel privileged of that offer as so many guys to choose from well that’s what I’ve been told previously One of my partners occasionally gets shitty messages about how he has no right to be so picky as a single man on here. Some people are incredibly entitled " I’ve had the same type of reaction when I’ve said I’m not interested …. Imagine just meeting anyone because they messaged personally I think the only way people like that will ever get laid is if they crawl up a chickens arse and wait | |||
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"My pov op.. 'will you fuck me tonight' messages from strangers, no fab rule is to be safe at all times The guys who spin yarns and yarns of dribble and it is all fibs. Learning the art of seduction is key. Learning to converse in the right way, the polite way, respecting peoples wishes, not getting upset at being rejected. Hardest part 2023.. Conversation not lets shag now messages. " I feel its important to build a abit of a conversation before just dropping at a drop of a hat even if that man has to wait months its all worth it in the end . I think men seem to think just because couples and single women on here are just 'sluts' and will fuck anything when that's far from the truth . We want to build a conversation over time get to know that person and when you feel comfortable take it further . When we make our joint account il be sticking by that | |||
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"It’s a woman’s world on here and men just live in it Yeah, nah. Life on Fab is what you make it. If you really believe there's some kind of pecking order with men at the bottom then you'll likely find that to be a self fulfilling prophecy. And therein lies the problem........" I agree with you here. If you believe it is difficult then you start to chase more and that becomes apparent Marc | |||
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"It’s a woman’s world on here and men just live in it Yeah, nah. Life on Fab is what you make it. If you really believe there's some kind of pecking order with men at the bottom then you'll likely find that to be a self fulfilling prophecy. And therein lies the problem........ I agree with you here. If you believe it is difficult then you start to chase more and that becomes apparent Marc" I think one of the main issues is that some people are in such a hurry. Whether that's down to sexual frustration, lack of attention or something else. The more you rush and push for meets and responses, the more you see life on here as a competition with others, the more you seek a quick fix to garner higher levels of attention and the more you resort to a less focused, unhurried approach.....the less 'success' you actually have. Patience. It's not just a card game folks. | |||
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"Finding compatible people is a struggle for everyone. Yes, I could meet someone today if I was willing to deal with any random penis I wasn't remotely attracted to. But so could any straight man if he just dropped his standards the way we're expected to, because "it's a sex site" " The words 'nail' and 'head' come to mind. Just because men massively outnmber women and couples doesn't necessarily mean that women and couples find it any easier. It's all about attraction and compatibility | |||
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"Finding compatible people is a struggle for everyone. Yes, I could meet someone today if I was willing to deal with any random penis I wasn't remotely attracted to. But so could any straight man if he just dropped his standards the way we're expected to, because "it's a sex site" " Exactly this. I could probably have sex for breakfast, lunch and dinner if I had zero standards... but saying that, I still doubt they would turn up. That's usually the main issue! | |||
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"Finding compatible people is a struggle for everyone. Yes, I could meet someone today if I was willing to deal with any random penis I wasn't remotely attracted to. But so could any straight man if he just dropped his standards the way we're expected to, because "it's a sex site" " I really dont think this is true. If a man just wanted sex, it is far easier to approach another man, than a woman he had to lower his standards for. | |||
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"Finding compatible people is a struggle for everyone. Yes, I could meet someone today if I was willing to deal with any random penis I wasn't remotely attracted to. But so could any straight man if he just dropped his standards the way we're expected to, because "it's a sex site" I really dont think this is true. If a man just wanted sex, it is far easier to approach another man, than a woman he had to lower his standards for. " The key word there was straight. They're still having to compromise something | |||
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"The saying goes: Men looking for women is like looking for clean water in desert. Women looking for men is like looking for clean water in a Swamp. I'd still fancy my chances of getting a drink in a Swamp over a desert though " I come across a waterfall in the desert now and then, can taste a bit tangy though | |||
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"The saying goes: Men looking for women is like looking for clean water in desert. Women looking for men is like looking for clean water in a Swamp. I'd still fancy my chances of getting a drink in a Swamp over a desert though I come across a waterfall in the desert now and then, can taste a bit tangy though " I've never actually been to a desert or a swamp | |||
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"I can understand from a man's pov it's hard to meet women here and maybe couples finding couples . But surley not couples and women seeking single men ? From what I read here its 100 men to 1 women / couple. Anyone shed any light on this ? " Standards maybe a reason for length of time it takes on all of us. Standards.. Right from get go of a text. Standards... Looks. Not everyone is attracted physically to each other. Standards... Stop the pretence, the dribble, the fibs.. Playing games really in 2023 guys.. Sucks Ghosting 2023...still doing it. Being negative about experiences is back bone. Yes, rejection but for me it is the level of understanding each other. Hard to do any century. Man and women will never understand each other. Fab is not a free for all males, males are picky too. Women like to see visually, men just oh its a body lets see if I can fuck it. Standards... Quality of 1. Appealing 2. Attracted 3. Conversation.. Keep it quality | |||
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"Finding compatible people is a struggle for everyone. Yes, I could meet someone today if I was willing to deal with any random penis I wasn't remotely attracted to. But so could any straight man if he just dropped his standards the way we're expected to, because "it's a sex site" " Exactly this! | |||
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"The saying goes: Men looking for women is like looking for clean water in desert. Women looking for men is like looking for clean water in a Swamp. I'd still fancy my chances of getting a drink in a Swamp over a desert though " That's what filters are for | |||
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"Finding compatible people is a struggle for everyone. Yes, I could meet someone today if I was willing to deal with any random penis I wasn't remotely attracted to. But so could any straight man if he just dropped his standards the way we're expected to, because "it's a sex site" I really dont think this is true. If a man just wanted sex, it is far easier to approach another man, than a woman he had to lower his standards for. The key word there was straight. They're still having to compromise something " Fair play i overlooked straight. | |||
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"Finding compatible people is a struggle for everyone. Yes, I could meet someone today if I was willing to deal with any random penis I wasn't remotely attracted to. But so could any straight man if he just dropped his standards the way we're expected to, because "it's a sex site" " Love a lady with high standards and lowered knickers they’re the bestc | |||
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"Finding compatible people is a struggle for everyone. Yes, I could meet someone today if I was willing to deal with any random penis I wasn't remotely attracted to. But so could any straight man if he just dropped his standards the way we're expected to, because "it's a sex site" Love a lady with high standards and lowered knickers they’re the bestc " Well, keep looking for that elusive unicorn dream | |||
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"1: are you compatible? 2: do they bottle it? 3: do they say/do something that switches me off e.g. being weird about any other meets Hypothetical numbers but, let’s say I started chatting seriously (more than just a casual ‘hi how’s you?’) to 6 guys during the space of a week, I might eventually end up socially meeting 1 or maybe 2 at most and perhaps playing with 1. " The odds are low, which says sometimes the goods are odd | |||
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"The saying goes: Men looking for women is like looking for clean water in desert. Women looking for men is like looking for clean water in a Swamp. I'd still fancy my chances of getting a drink in a Swamp over a desert though " I'm not sure I should laugh or be offended rolf Marc | |||
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"1: are you compatible? 2: do they bottle it? 3: do they say/do something that switches me off e.g. being weird about any other meets Hypothetical numbers but, let’s say I started chatting seriously (more than just a casual ‘hi how’s you?’) to 6 guys during the space of a week, I might eventually end up socially meeting 1 or maybe 2 at most and perhaps playing with 1. The odds are low, which says sometimes the goods are odd " Who’s the odd goods - me or them | |||
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"Well as Prey mentioned finding mutual attraction is the first stumbling block. The second is logistics. " Third could be if the sent message actually gets read, and not lost in the inbox/mass deleted | |||
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"I can understand from a man's pov it's hard to meet women here and maybe couples finding couples . But surley not couples and women seeking single men ? From what I read here its 100 men to 1 women / couple. Anyone shed any light on this ? " depends on the guys, when you get 50 1 liners to 1 decent message it wipes out the inbalance. | |||
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"The saying goes: Men looking for women is like looking for clean water in desert. Women looking for men is like looking for clean water in a Swamp. I'd still fancy my chances of getting a drink in a Swamp over a desert though " | |||
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"Finding compatible people is a struggle for everyone. Yes, I could meet someone today if I was willing to deal with any random penis I wasn't remotely attracted to. But so could any straight man if he just dropped his standards the way we're expected to, because "it's a sex site" " Haha this made me giggle | |||
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"I can understand from a man's pov it's hard to meet women here and maybe couples finding couples . But surley not couples and women seeking single men ? From what I read here its 100 men to 1 women / couple. Anyone shed any light on this ? " You've assumed quantity equals quality. Solved that problem for you. | |||
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"Finding compatible people is a struggle for everyone. Yes, I could meet someone today if I was willing to deal with any random penis I wasn't remotely attracted to. But so could any straight man if he just dropped his standards the way we're expected to, because "it's a sex site" " Its cute that you think the men on here have a standard lol | |||
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"Finding compatible people is a struggle for everyone. Yes, I could meet someone today if I was willing to deal with any random penis I wasn't remotely attracted to. But so could any straight man if he just dropped his standards the way we're expected to, because "it's a sex site" " -------------------------- 100% this. As the male half of the couple, reading the messages we have daily saying "I wanna cream pie ya" is just revolting. Those that can't get meets tend to be pushy, weird, have not read the profile, can't understand why the husband would be managing the account etc. Some, the conversation just doesn't flow, some the attraction just isn't there for A. It's an absolute minefield for those looking for a guy who fits the bill. That is for a (hopefully) decent meet. If A just wanted a dick then we are literally inundated with choice. W | |||
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"I can understand from a man's pov it's hard to meet women here and maybe couples finding couples . But surley not couples and women seeking single men ? From what I read here its 100 men to 1 women / couple. Anyone shed any light on this ? " From my experience women and couples rarely put much effort in, but expect the guy to put in maximum effort This leads to lots of the good ones just saying no thanks to these women/couples and only the desperate ones will put up with it Most of the time when they complain about struggling to get a meet, it’s because they don’t have much to offer I know a girl that’s on here that doesn’t struggle to get meets at all. But she messages first, has good chat/ banter and isn’t afraid to make her move | |||
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"Nearly all of the messages I receive from men are cut and paste. Am I supposed to be grateful for a selection of men who have no interest in me as a person but hope that I might be "up for it"? Now and again, I do a profile search and it's all cocks or blank silhouettes. Discreet fun x45. Thank god for the forums " Working on mine, what do you think? I really liked your profile I'll be in the TROUBLE area next week. I'd love to meet you for a SOCIAL and see where it goes from there. Ha ha ha ha ha. PS. I love licking pussy mmmmm so good. | |||
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"Nearly all of the messages I receive from men are cut and paste. Am I supposed to be grateful for a selection of men who have no interest in me as a person but hope that I might be "up for it"? Now and again, I do a profile search and it's all cocks or blank silhouettes. Discreet fun x45. Thank god for the forums Working on mine, what do you think? I really liked your profile I'll be in the TROUBLE area next week. I'd love to meet you for a SOCIAL and see where it goes from there. Ha ha ha ha ha. PS. I love licking pussy mmmmm so good." I'm visibly cringing, Hans! | |||
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"Nearly all of the messages I receive from men are cut and paste. Am I supposed to be grateful for a selection of men who have no interest in me as a person but hope that I might be "up for it"? Now and again, I do a profile search and it's all cocks or blank silhouettes. Discreet fun x45. Thank god for the forums Working on mine, what do you think? I really liked your profile I'll be in the TROUBLE area next week. I'd love to meet you for a SOCIAL and see where it goes from there. Ha ha ha ha ha. PS. I love licking pussy mmmmm so good. I'm visibly cringing, Hans! " Right I'm making a thread about how rude women are on here. I spent ages on that do you know how long it takes to cut and past that to 100 women? I have to change the town every time. | |||
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"Nearly all of the messages I receive from men are cut and paste. Am I supposed to be grateful for a selection of men who have no interest in me as a person but hope that I might be "up for it"? Now and again, I do a profile search and it's all cocks or blank silhouettes. Discreet fun x45. Thank god for the forums Working on mine, what do you think? I really liked your profile I'll be in the TROUBLE area next week. I'd love to meet you for a SOCIAL and see where it goes from there. Ha ha ha ha ha. PS. I love licking pussy mmmmm so good. I'm visibly cringing, Hans! Right I'm making a thread about how rude women are on here. I spent ages on that do you know how long it takes to cut and past that to 100 women? I have to change the town every time. " * cut and paste | |||
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"Nearly all of the messages I receive from men are cut and paste. Am I supposed to be grateful for a selection of men who have no interest in me as a person but hope that I might be "up for it"? Now and again, I do a profile search and it's all cocks or blank silhouettes. Discreet fun x45. Thank god for the forums Working on mine, what do you think? I really liked your profile I'll be in the TROUBLE area next week. I'd love to meet you for a SOCIAL and see where it goes from there. Ha ha ha ha ha. PS. I love licking pussy mmmmm so good. I'm visibly cringing, Hans! Right I'm making a thread about how rude women are on here. I spent ages on that do you know how long it takes to cut and past that to 100 women? I have to change the town every time. " Have some chocolate, luv | |||
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"Nearly all of the messages I receive from men are cut and paste. Am I supposed to be grateful for a selection of men who have no interest in me as a person but hope that I might be "up for it"? Now and again, I do a profile search and it's all cocks or blank silhouettes. Discreet fun x45. Thank god for the forums Working on mine, what do you think? I really liked your profile I'll be in the TROUBLE area next week. I'd love to meet you for a SOCIAL and see where it goes from there. Ha ha ha ha ha. PS. I love licking pussy mmmmm so good. I'm visibly cringing, Hans! Right I'm making a thread about how rude women are on here. I spent ages on that do you know how long it takes to cut and past that to 100 women? I have to change the town every time. Have some chocolate, luv " It worked! she luvs me | |||
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"I can understand from a man's pov it's hard to meet women here and maybe couples finding couples . But surley not couples and women seeking single men ? From what I read here its 100 men to 1 women / couple. Anyone shed any light on this ? " I'm trying not to overthink it. People need to be able to click online, then click in person. Can't imagine that happens every time I think enough has been said about quality over quantity around here I personally find it difficult to stand out and 'make an effort.' Not because I don't want to. It's just tough being shy but I'm slowly trying to come out of my shell more And still trying to get the hang of this place, figuring out how to write a good profile, uploading good pics, and such. Even without meets, I'm enjoying it. It's a learning experience. Trying not to be too hard on myself Just as long as I'm getting out and having fun in other areas of my life then it's fine. Best way to be, I think | |||
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"I only ever respond to FAF messages FAF? Fancy a Fuck Yeah go on then " It’s a date | |||
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"I only ever respond to FAF messages FAF? Fancy a Fuck Yeah go on then It’s a date " I'll pencil you in for next week x | |||
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"I only ever respond to FAF messages FAF? Fancy a Fuck Yeah go on then It’s a date I'll pencil you in for next week x " Demanding… I like that | |||
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"I only ever respond to FAF messages FAF? Fancy a Fuck Yeah go on then It’s a date I'll pencil you in for next week x Demanding… I like that " I demand you to DM me to arrange a suitable time | |||
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"I only ever respond to FAF messages FAF? Fancy a Fuck Yeah go on then It’s a date I'll pencil you in for next week x Demanding… I like that I demand you to DM me to arrange a suitable time" | |||
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