FabSwingers.com forum: How many years younger is ok

By *irjames OP Man
over a year ago

Warrington

So what age cap is acceptable and realistically how young do you feel is too young so 85 y and 55y seems ok to me but 55y 25y my head says no feels wrong. I know it’s not but what opinion does everyone have ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"….. so 85 y and 55y seems ok to me but 55y 25y my head says no feels wrong. I know it’s not…. "

Good point.

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By *echnosonic_BrummieMan
over a year ago

Willenhall

I think the golden rule is half your age plus 7 years.

But - where adults are concerned - physical age isn't always a good indicator of emotional nor mental maturity. At least, not in my personal experiences anyway.

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By *teve_goodwoodMan
over a year ago

Staffordshire

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By *teve_goodwoodMan
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I've head the same, half your age +7.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

13.

And hoping a certain someone reads this

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

My ex was 20 years older. In the last year, I felt more like her carer tbh.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

It generally comes down to personal preference.

For me it's more about the person and maturity. Some guys in their 20's are more mature than guys in their 30's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"13.

And hoping a certain someone reads this

Just to clarify.... this is age DIFFERENCE. To avoid any confusion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"13.

And hoping a certain someone reads this

Just to clarify.... this is age DIFFERENCE. To avoid any confusion"

Pahahahaha

So by the powers of deduction, Jennie has her sights set on a certain 67 year old

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

It’s just sex and if there is a mutual physical attract then crack on I say with any adult age group.

A one off fuck is galaxies away from wanting a meaningful relationship where you would require way more mental Compatibility/ lived experiences.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"13.

And hoping a certain someone reads this

It's me isn't it. Just stop with the denial Jennifer.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

Every one will have a different take on it but whatever the age gap as long as the people involved are ok with it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

If both are adults then there is no right or wrong....

Society will tut though .. putting all their own fears and prejudices onto a relationship they know nothing about.

And if i'm honest, if one of my daughters at 25 had brought home a 55 year old i'd have looked like this

then this

and this

this

and there isn't an emoji for screaming ab dabs and blue murder .....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Friends great , short relationship great , fab sex great .... soul mates....not great

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By *AABMan
over a year ago

Not far

"I've head the same, half your age +7."

By this logic I could be meeting someone who is 92. I’m not sure that the local nursing home has an overnight guest policy.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I could be with someone who is .... uhmmmm

41...... Interesting....

Put your names here if you are between 40 and 45 and i'll give you some thought.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It seems as you age the Half plus seven isn't viable.....

The difference between me and a man of 40 is far too great...... not in terms of age but in terms of thought and action the gap is too wide at my age..

My current beau is 16 years my junior. He was 36/38 when we met - now a man of that age seems so young to me.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Totally depends on the person for me I'd say 30 for the youngest however there's maybe 1 or 2 under that I'd definitely meet, it all depends if there's attraction and a connection.

Mrs

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Half of thirty plus 7 = 22. I'm not sure I'm happy with that age gap either.

Half of forty plus 7 = 27... still not sure

Half of 60 + 7 = 37.... the whole thing gets more silly

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

Any age gap is fine as long as it’s legal, there is consent and the 2 people involved are happy with each other. There are enough actual constraints around life without introducing unnecessary ones.

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By *AABMan
over a year ago

Not far

If I’m still at this when I retire I could be meeting a 120 year old

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

As long as it is legal and fully consented to, any age gap is acceptable. People just can't get their heads around it.

Now for me realistically I have my age ranges, they are not etched in stone and worshipped as law of God, there is wiggle room but generally I don't find myself physically or spiritually attracted to many people outside of those ranges. The further from my own age, and especially beyond my upper and lower limits it's less and less likely that attraction exists. There have been a couple of exceptions but generally it's unlikely. If I were however I would still view it as acceptable - again legal and consenting.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"13.

And hoping a certain someone reads this

Just to clarify.... this is age DIFFERENCE. To avoid any confusion

Pahahahaha

So by the powers of deduction, Jennie has her sights set on a certain 67 year old

Or the other way and some 40 year old is going to get lucky soon.

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

Not comfortable with anyone younger than our first born. Although its getter harder to tell as time goes by.

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford

"So what age cap is acceptable and realistically how young do you feel is too young so 85 y and 55y seems ok to me but 55y 25y my head says no feels wrong. I know it’s not but what opinion does everyone have ? "

Are you talking about sex or life partner stuff?

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I’m not fussed about age difference to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So long as 2 people are happy and its legal, what does it matter.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"13.

And hoping a certain someone reads this

Just to clarify.... this is age DIFFERENCE. To avoid any confusion

Pahahahaha

So by the powers of deduction, Jennie has her sights set on a certain 67 year old

Or the other way and some 40 year old is going to get lucky soon. "

Not me!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

This would mean that at 96 my dad would be with a 55 year old. If it was a new relationship I would be deeply suspicious of the 55 year olds motives.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Anyone young enough to be the age of my own child would be wrong. but years going up from my age would be ok

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
over a year ago

City Centre

If it's just sex it doesn't bother me. If it's in the context of a loving relationship it doesn't bother me.

My biggest age gap in a relationship was 11 years younger, we got on famously and we are still good friends. The only time people had something to say about age was when I was 16 and my boyfriend was 24. It didn't go down well at home.

People should do what makes them happy I guess, others will judge those things regardless.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

For me it isn't a number but who I connect with. That's much more likely to be someone + or - 10 years of my own age. I find the young flaky and the older have too many health issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would never go with someone same age as my oldest or ages with my parents

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

"I've head the same, half your age +7.

By this logic I could be meeting someone who is 92. I’m not sure that the local nursing home has an overnight guest policy."

Not that it makes much difference but last time I was at school 52+26+7=85

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 43 so apparently early 70s is ok for older and I'd love to enjoy a mature lady, younger the algorithm says late 20s but I personally would go down to 21 if the right girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"13.

And hoping a certain someone reads this

Just to clarify.... this is age DIFFERENCE. To avoid any confusion

Pahahahaha

So by the powers of deduction, Jennie has her sights set on a certain 67 year old

Or the other way and some 40 year old is going to get lucky soon. "

Shit got my maths wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"13.

And hoping a certain someone reads this

Just to clarify.... this is age DIFFERENCE. To avoid any confusion

Pahahahaha

So by the powers of deduction, Jennie has her sights set on a certain 67 year old

Or the other way and some 40 year old is going to get lucky soon.

Shit got my maths wrong!"

This is so on brand

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I’ve always found the half-your-age-plus-seven rule or thereabouts works for me

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

For me I’d say 15 years younger. Maybe one or two years older. I don’t tend to go for older.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me I’d say 15 years younger. Maybe one or two years older. I don’t tend to go for older. "

I didn’t know you were a cougar, Nora

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"For me I’d say 15 years younger. Maybe one or two years older. I don’t tend to go for older.

I didn’t know you were a cougar, Nora"

Yuk. Hate that word. In their 40s usually for me but I wouldn’t go younger than 15 years gap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me I’d say 15 years younger. Maybe one or two years older. I don’t tend to go for older.

I didn’t know you were a cougar, Nora

Yuk. Hate that word. In their 40s usually for me but I wouldn’t go younger than 15 years gap. "

Which word? Cougar?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"For me I’d say 15 years younger. Maybe one or two years older. I don’t tend to go for older.

I didn’t know you were a cougar, Nora

Yuk. Hate that word. In their 40s usually for me but I wouldn’t go younger than 15 years gap.

Which word? Cougar?

. Yup. I’m probably too old to even be one of those now! Is there one up from a cougar?

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By *issy_named_cTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Being 45 and being with someone 27 seems seems ok.

A very eventful time!

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By *oecutterMan
over a year ago

Clonakilty

Acceptable to whom, precisely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me I’d say 15 years younger. Maybe one or two years older. I don’t tend to go for older.

I didn’t know you were a cougar, Nora

Yuk. Hate that word. In their 40s usually for me but I wouldn’t go younger than 15 years gap.

Which word? Cougar?

. Yup. I’m probably too old to even be one of those now! Is there one up from a cougar? "

I think cougar is the final level. Sorry

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"For me I’d say 15 years younger. Maybe one or two years older. I don’t tend to go for older.

I didn’t know you were a cougar, Nora

Yuk. Hate that word. In their 40s usually for me but I wouldn’t go younger than 15 years gap.

Which word? Cougar?

. Yup. I’m probably too old to even be one of those now! Is there one up from a cougar?

I think cougar is the final level. Sorry

I’m just pleased you didn’t say Hippo or cow!

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

For a quick sex meet off fab or in a club, we've played with guys as young as 18/19, but probably mid 50s would be our upper age limit. So we don't really care about the gap as such.

For a relationship, probably around 5-7 years. My logic is generally if you weren't in school at the same time, you probably won't have much in common life wise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me I’d say 15 years younger. Maybe one or two years older. I don’t tend to go for older.

I didn’t know you were a cougar, Nora

Yuk. Hate that word. In their 40s usually for me but I wouldn’t go younger than 15 years gap.

Which word? Cougar?

. Yup. I’m probably too old to even be one of those now! Is there one up from a cougar?

I think cougar is the final level. Sorry

I’m just pleased you didn’t say Hippo or cow!

I’d never call you that to your face

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"For me I’d say 15 years younger. Maybe one or two years older. I don’t tend to go for older.

I didn’t know you were a cougar, Nora

Yuk. Hate that word. In their 40s usually for me but I wouldn’t go younger than 15 years gap.

Which word? Cougar?

. Yup. I’m probably too old to even be one of those now! Is there one up from a cougar?

I think cougar is the final level. Sorry

I’m just pleased you didn’t say Hippo or cow!

I’d never call you that to your face

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london

Long as it’s legal who cares what people think.

I was on holiday last year and there was a couple. Man 50’s girl 18 maybe 17. The looks they got and the tutting from people when they came round the pool for an hour a day. But they seemed the happiest couple around the hotel.

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Lives in Preston, Eng

"I think the golden rule is half your age plus 7 years.

But - where adults are concerned - physical age isn't always a good indicator of emotional nor mental maturity. At least, not in my personal experiences anyway."

Totally this. Some people in my age range are immature and some below it are mature.

My time on fab is certainly making me more likely to look at younger and older guys than I did before.

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By *addyyBoyyCouple (MM)
over a year ago

stoke on trent

20 year gap between me and my partner, we are a very open gay couple and always hold hands out, we get a lot of looks and can sometimes hear them muttering under their breath but we just don't care. We are happy and proud

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By *unxicanMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Max 20 years older in your 20's.

10 dow 20 up in your 30's.

20 down 10 up in your 40's.

10 years older/younger after your 50's.

It's logical for men. Women can do whatever they want without judgment.

Most people can accept 15-20 year age difference. Obviously as long as it's legal and you're not a gold digger.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I am attracted to much younger men and I am very self conscious about the societal norms around this very subject.

It doesn’t really matter behind closed doors, as long as the attraction is mutual and with full consent but I always pay close attention to how the person I am with is feeling about being seen with me in public. If they appear comfortable and confident, I’m more than happy to take it to the next level, if they are not - for whatever reason - I know we won’t be compatible.

Hope that makes sense.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We don't really factor age. We just fancy the people we fancy. However we tend to stay away from people in their early 20s because we have older kids that age range and just feels a bit off. Met plenty of great young adults socially on our travels but it too close to home sexually for us.

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By *alico_KittyWoman
over a year ago

Kittys Lane

"For me I’d say 15 years younger. Maybe one or two years older. I don’t tend to go for older.

I didn’t know you were a cougar, Nora

Yuk. Hate that word. In their 40s usually for me but I wouldn’t go younger than 15 years gap.

Which word? Cougar?

. Yup. I’m probably too old to even be one of those now! Is there one up from a cougar? "

I'm sure I've heard the next one up is Jaguar

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It doesn't matter, if they are adults with full cognitive capacity and consent. Let people live without judgement

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

It's variable depending on your own age, for me at this moment about 20yrs - but if I was in my 40's probably 10yrs. Ultimately it's a personal preference provided it's legal

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