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Thinking of trying bareback / unprotected sex for the first time. Any advice? Is it really better?

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By *ikki.newcastle OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Washington

So I always thought I’d be in a relationship before I let someone cum inside me or fuck me bb but I’m not getting any younger and seems like I’m missing out lol really am getting tempted to try it despite the risks involved. What would your advice by? Should I wait or is it not a big deal ?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

It's your sexual health. You know whether that's a big deal to you or not

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By *ikki.newcastle OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Washington

Well I’d take prep as a precaution and ask the person to get tested first I just meant mentally / spiritually is it a big deal or am I overthinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What’s tempting you?

If it’s only to experience it because you haven’t, is that worth your sexual health?

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By *dnmartinMan
over a year ago

Hounslow

If you want to go bare it is your choice and yours alone,doesn't matter what anyone says on here.

However, yes,it does feel better.

BUT FIRST, Test to make sure you are negative to HIV and then get yourself on Prep.

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By *ikki.newcastle OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Washington

I guess just because of Prep and vaccines, I’d feel a little more relaxed these days about trying it and obviously I’d ask the guy to have a test first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I’d take prep as a precaution and ask the person to get tested first I just meant mentally / spiritually is it a big deal or am I overthinking "

I reckon you’re overthinking it a bit.

You should perhaps evaluate it from a different viewpoint. Is the risk worth the experience?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

'Not getting any younger' ~ you're 23!

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By *dnmartinMan
over a year ago

Hounslow

I would add to anyone to get yourself on Prep,it offers protection against HIV ( but not any other STD nasties).

It is free from your local Sexual Health Clinic, but requires an Hiv test and 3 month check ups.

Go to Terrance Higgins Trust website for full information

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By *ikki.newcastle OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Washington

I already take prep but event based as I don’t really meet very frequently and use condoms, have also had vaccinations for other std’s x

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"'Not getting any younger' ~ you're 23!

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Technically though it's still hard to argue!

OP, look for people who check after potentially-infecting meets and know they are free. "Tested regularly" could mean anything.

pt

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"'Not getting any younger' ~ you're 23!

Technically though it's still hard to argue!

OP, look for people who check after potentially-infecting meets and know they are free. "Tested regularly" could mean anything.

pt"

ps I'd do that despite PrEP for some people.

And yes it's better for the top, though you might need more lube or preparation if you're bottom. Is it better for the bottom? Maybe for some.

pt

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I already take prep but event based as I don’t really meet very frequently and use condoms, have also had vaccinations for other std’s x"

Some of the most common and difficult to treat STIs have no vaccines. Drug resistant gonorrhoea, for a start. In our view, definitely not worth the risk.

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By *untimes wantedMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield


"Well I’d take prep as a precaution and ask the person to get tested first I just meant mentally / spiritually is it a big deal or am I overthinking "

some one elses test results mean nothing.people lie you have no idea when they last had sex with anyone.

A test result only shows clear at time test was taken.however to be 100% sure some sti have a 3 month testing window to be sure a person is clear.as set out below from a testing site.

This period of time between exposure to an infection and it becoming detectable is known as a window period. For our lab tests, results are most accurate: at least 7 weeks after potential exposure to HIV infection. at least 12 weeks after potential exposure to syphilis infection.

so unless you been handcuffed to that person for 3 month you have no idea .

bareback is a risk you decide for yourself and look after your own testing after don't rely on another persons results .

if your on prep you should be protected from hiv and just make sure to get tested and if need be treated for other sti after should you be unlucky to catch something.

Although some sti are now becomming harder to treat ,some cases been reported all treatment has been unsuccessful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t do it.

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By *atXXXMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

If you have to have your potential bare partners take a full sexual health test (do the test yourself also), get on PrEP and a course of penicillin and doxycycline and have another test the week after to check, I play bare in a group setting quite a bit and (touch wood) have not had problems, but ideally rubber up especially with new unknown partners.

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By *g200Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"'Not getting any younger' ~ you're 23!"

You have the body of a 23yr old very nice!

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Yes it feels better to answer the original question .

Whether it’s for you well that’s Down to individual risk levels .. no sex is guaranteed safe just some can be safer ..

Think of it like people with smoking / boozing / druggies / obese over eaters / poor diet / speeding drivers . People choose a lifestyle and accept certain risks come with that.

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By *ikki.newcastle OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Washington

Thanks for feedback and advice I think I’m going to wait until I meet someone regular at least and be more cautious x

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Whatever you do it will eventually happen you would guess, so it's good to look for advice x

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By *oney_Bee_xTV/TS
over a year ago

Teesside

As well as the 'Prep', you could consider getting the 'HPV' Vaccine too.

That way you're covering yourself for 2 different types of STDS.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"As well as the 'Prep', you could consider getting the 'HPV' Vaccine too.

That way you're covering yourself for 2 different types of STDS. "

And hepatitis (both A and B)...

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

Also as others have pointed out...

I know it feels hard at the moment, but 23 isn't getting old, young especially when it comes to finding compatable souls...

I had a few long term relationships when I was in my 20s... (I also had a lot of fun!)

I didn't find my first forever person (I have two) till I was 33, my second I only found last year at 42...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I always thought I’d be in a relationship before I let someone cum inside me or fuck me bb but I’m not getting any younger and seems like I’m missing out lol really am getting tempted to try it despite the risks involved. What would your advice by? Should I wait or is it not a big deal ?"

Fuck yes. Just get tested regularly, but you do anyway right?

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By *aughtyfingersMan
over a year ago

cornwall

Exactly too many judgemental people on here.

Btw do you ever meet guys you are gorgeous!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I think bareback is great for men. I don't notice much difference to be honest and it's messy.

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By *absFrenchGentMan
22 weeks ago

stafford

Get both yourself and the other person on Prep first and get tested too

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