FabSwingers.com forum: Should their be a tier system to Fab?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

"No"
,, and there you have it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, no one is better than anyone else on here, even if they believe they are.

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

No, some might think they are better than others on here but they're really not.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Do not hi above your station Sir

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

I'm not sure there should be a tier system to anything really

Except cake stands. Always cake stands.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

The forum can come across a bit middle class sometimes, the site as a whole certainly isn't though. pt

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

There is no such thing as a league or people being “out of reach” - different people like different things.

What tends to unite people, in my experience, is that they don’t like being harassed, abused or spammed.

Crazy idea: behave like you would in the real world and maybe people will react like they do in the real world?

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

There have been enough tears on this website to fill a swimming pool

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

For all the reasons above and more; no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

..nah

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????"

Just remember for every "No" you're one step closer to a "yes"

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Some posh couples here like a bit of rough anyway

Just promise not to wipe on their curtains.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope nada nill no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????

Just remember for every "No" you're one step closer to a "yes"

Love the positivity !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some posh couples here like a bit of rough anyway

Just promise not to wipe on their curtains."

Love it!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

What are you suggesting the basic and elite groups should and shouldn't be able to do, and how does a person get selected for a group?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"What are you suggesting the basic and elite groups should and shouldn't be able to do, and how does a person get selected for a group? "

I've seen so many threads full of people saying they don't contact those they feel are 'out if their league' or that they would be 'punching above their weight' that I suspect the basic group would be full.

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By *iss SinWoman
over a year ago

portchester

I never message people who are beautiful as I would be punching. I find it intimidating

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

We're all on fab for basically the same reason we're all the same when it gets down to it

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Should be self-regulated, really.

I will chat to everyone, but that doesn’t mean I’ll fuck everyone. People message me, I reply and immediately they assume I’ll fuck them. Erm, no.

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

I always punch above my so called weight if you don't reach for the stars then you ain't going to get to the moon and well it can only end in 1 of 2 ways nothing to lose and everything to gain

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I think there is already a unofficial pecking order based on those with verifications and those without verifications.

The second group, which I'm a member having very little chance on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't. Just don't. No time out. You just don't have to do it. Resist it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s those that take the piss, those that don’t and those with tits. You decide which order they come in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There’s those that take the piss, those that don’t and those with tits. You decide which order they come in."

I usually like to come first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There’s those that take the piss, those that don’t and those with tits. You decide which order they come in.

I usually like to come first.

We wouldn’t be compatible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're all on fab for basically the same reason we're all the same when it gets down to it "

We're not all the same.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Absolutely not! We're all equal! U will allways get the more popular people just like everywhere! School/work and on here! But nope! Deffo not! X

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"The forum can come across a bit middle class sometimes, the site as a whole certainly isn't though. pt"

I've never been able to put my finger on it, but it does doesn't it

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"I think there is already a unofficial pecking order based on those with verifications and those without verifications.

The second group, which I'm a member having very little chance on here. "

We were a single chap's first veri

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

No I don’t think it should be like that

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

Absolutely not

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Erm.. No!

Everyone of us is 'Marmite' be that looks, physical shape, attitude, humour or persuasion!

Some we've thought were incredibly attractive, turned us off immediately on meeting and others we weren't too interested in initially, we couldn't wait to fuck..

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Definitely,we don't want the dirty unwashed riff raff messaging us.

Peasants

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Definitely,we don't want the dirty unwashed riff raff messaging us.

Peasants

How about the washed riff raff?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Absolutely not, no one is above anyone else.

Everyone's shit stinks.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems you worry too much chief

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

God no. That’s just horrific!

People have preferences and to segregate them based on looks etc is just asking for all sorts of trouble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've read the 4 threads you've made OP, and I'm sorry to say that I feel there's a theme of, the only word that comes to me is smarm. I've unfortunately got that through the wording you have used, it's like ' I'm here now and I am the only one to notice this pattern so pay attention as I'll single handedly fix what's wrong'

We can all make threads and people are free to comment, but as your new it's some friendly advice, use the search function, look at some of the topics already covered and maybe stop looking at this from a 'Class' whatever.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????"

Just to add if your sending messages just saying "hi" you are unlikely to get a response..... Again zero to do with class status.

Mrs

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Definitely,we don't want the dirty unwashed riff raff messaging us.

Peasants

How about the washed riff raff?

Depends if they are hot, you guys pass so may enter our butler will show you the way to our wing.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

No. Somewhere out there is a buff man whose 6 pack is aching to conjoin with my flab as we roll over a mattress together.

Who am I to deny him that pleasure?

(If he wants to make himself known my inbox is open…….and waiting)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????"

This is just a swipe at those you consider out of your reach. Did somebody say no?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"I never message people who are beautiful as I would be punching. I find it intimidating"

Yeah I think we all have felt that at some point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. Somewhere out there is a buff man whose 6 pack is aching to conjoin with my flab as we roll over a mattress together.

Who am I to deny him that pleasure?

(If he wants to make himself known my inbox is open…….and waiting)

Who are you indeed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. Somewhere out there is a buff man whose 6 pack is aching to conjoin with my flab as we roll over a mattress together.

Who am I to deny him that pleasure?

(If he wants to make himself known my inbox is open…….and waiting)

Who are you indeed?

A 6ft 2in Amazon from Wales

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????"
Its a numbers thing too many men and too few women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. Somewhere out there is a buff man whose 6 pack is aching to conjoin with my flab as we roll over a mattress together.

Who am I to deny him that pleasure?

(If he wants to make himself known my inbox is open…….and waiting)

Who are you indeed?

A 6ft 2in Amazon from Wales

I had to check!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

No more pity fucks for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The site is inclusive - anyone can join - but some of the site’s users seek to limit any opportunities via subtle and not so subtle means. This doesn’t always have anything to do with physical attractiveness, rather it has to do with the more elusive concept of the “type”.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I'm afraid for guys there are no shortcuts in Fab. You will have to accept the fact that most of the people you message are not going to be interested. That's true for all men on fab. You are new to the forums so just be patient. Participate on other people's threads and just generally allow your personality to come out. Do the usual of going to clubs and socials. And I will say it again be patient. A lot of guys have to wait months for their first social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The site is inclusive - anyone can join - but some of the site’s users seek to limit any opportunities via subtle and not so subtle means. This doesn’t always have anything to do with physical attractiveness, rather it has to do with the more elusive concept of the “type”.

Do you think people shouldn't be allowed a type? I'm a bit mystified by your comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you actually did this....and I for one think it's a definite no, how does it work? Do you get put in a class according to certain criteria? Which could be lied about and start a whole uproar about it similar to that of cheaters. Or a drop down menu like the body type one where people then argue over which one you chose and if it truly fits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think people shouldn't be allowed a type? I'm a bit mystified by your comment. "

I didn’t say a word about people not being allowed things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, some might think they are better than others on here but they're really not."

Amen to that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think people shouldn't be allowed a type? I'm a bit mystified by your comment.

I didn’t say a word about people not being allowed things. "

That's why it was a question and I said I was mystified. I was asking for clarification as your point isn't clear.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

There already is, and let me tell you being top tier and above everyone is not always great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think people shouldn't be allowed a type? I'm a bit mystified by your comment.

I didn’t say a word about people not being allowed things.

That's why it was a question and I said I was mystified. I was asking for clarification as your point isn't clear. "

It was an observation more than anything - that you could be an Adonis on here and you’d still get rejected as it’s largely based on this idea of a type, a concept I’ve never quite understood as no one has ever been able to explain it to me.

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"There already is, and let me tell you being top tier and above everyone is not always great. "

I'm sure there's some people you like being on top of

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Yes there should be a tier system.

8’s and above to the right

Below an 8 to the left

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????"

Why are they out of reach ?

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By *enSiskoMan
over a year ago

Cestus 3

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????"

It would seem from the many threads I have read on this subject, that it is ok to send messages, but not to mention that you receive no reply.

You will be mocked, then you will be advised to go to a club or social, get out there, those that do are left to their own, or mocked again on the forum.

I have been swinging without the need for Fab for years, I came here as I was sick of couples lying about what they were looking for, and being the act when the husband express a wish to suck my cock.

So I came here to filter out the trash, and found that this is not the real world of swingers there are fantastic swingers out there, maybe on here as well, but due to how this site is I know I would never find them.

As for an elite on here yeh they are the ones who believe they can mock and make fun of others, and if you question this then you will not get what you came here looking for which they assume is sex, sorry easy sex.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Meow meow Beans.

(See who gets the reference)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There already is, and let me tell you being top tier and above everyone is not always great.

I'm sure there's some people you like being on top of

Don't encourage him, it will just make his head swell (probably both heads).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????

Why are they out of reach ? "

Not sure why you have to ask that

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"There already is, and let me tell you being top tier and above everyone is not always great. "
it's hard being really really ridiculously good looking.( blue steel)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think people shouldn't be allowed a type? I'm a bit mystified by your comment.

I didn’t say a word about people not being allowed things.

That's why it was a question and I said I was mystified. I was asking for clarification as your point isn't clear.

But women don't all have the same type? We are not a homogenous group. I also feel that this underestimates the power of personality when it comes to "success".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh come on, I mock all sorts and I am definitely not in the elite. However, my platinum membership application is apparently being processed at the moment.

(Ps, where can the easy sex be found? Asking for a friend)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes there should be a tier system.

8’s and above to the right

Below an 8 to the left "

Clowns to the left of you

Jokers to the right

Stuck in the middle with you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think people shouldn't be allowed a type? I'm a bit mystified by your comment.

I didn’t say a word about people not being allowed things.

That's why it was a question and I said I was mystified. I was asking for clarification as your point isn't clear.

But women don't all have the same type? We are not a homogenous group. I also feel that this underestimates the power of personality when it comes to "success"."

You’d be surprised but what I will say is it is quite a challenge to bring out the different aspects of one’s personality on a text based website.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

"There already is, and let me tell you being top tier and above everyone is not always great.

I'm sure there's some people you like being on top of

A few!

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

"There already is, and let me tell you being top tier and above everyone is not always great.

I'm sure there's some people you like being on top of

Don't encourage him, it will just make his head swell (probably both heads).

Too late, morning horn did that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????

It would seem from the many threads I have read on this subject, that it is ok to send messages, but not to mention that you receive no reply.

You will be mocked, then you will be advised to go to a club or social, get out there, those that do are left to their own, or mocked again on the forum.

It's good that you're not bitter though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think people shouldn't be allowed a type? I'm a bit mystified by your comment.

I didn’t say a word about people not being allowed things.

That's why it was a question and I said I was mystified. I was asking for clarification as your point isn't clear.

But women don't all have the same type? We are not a homogenous group. I also feel that this underestimates the power of personality when it comes to "success".

You’d be surprised but what I will say is it is quite a challenge to bring out the different aspects of one’s personality on a text based website. "

It's a challenge for some, I agree. Some flourish. Photographs also speak to personality...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who are we kidding

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"I never message people who are beautiful as I would be punching. I find it intimidating"

I’ve been punching for decades

. I think one of joys of swinging is be able to have fun with people who might look past me in normal life and probably vice-versa. Especially in groups or at events can have an amazing 5-30 mins with somebody seemingly out of your league.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

"There’s those that take the piss, those that don’t and those with tits. You decide which order they come in.

I usually like to come first.

Good to see the proper spelling.

There should be a lower tier for all those who use the dreadful three letter version. Or would it be simpler to have a higher tier for the few who don't?

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????

Why are they out of reach ?

Not sure why you have to ask that "

Not sure why you have to make that comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a challenge for some, I agree. Some flourish. Photographs also speak to personality..."

Especially those taken over a toilet bowl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think people shouldn't be allowed a type? I'm a bit mystified by your comment.

I didn’t say a word about people not being allowed things.

That's why it was a question and I said I was mystified. I was asking for clarification as your point isn't clear.

But women don't all have the same type? We are not a homogenous group. I also feel that this underestimates the power of personality when it comes to "success".

You’d be surprised but what I will say is it is quite a challenge to bring out the different aspects of one’s personality on a text based website.

It's a challenge for some, I agree. Some flourish. Photographs also speak to personality..."

You can only flourish when allowed to do so otherwise you are talking to yourself and photographs are incredibly subjective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????

Why are they out of reach ?

Not sure why you have to ask that

Not sure why you have to make that comment "

To get an explanation out of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a challenge for some, I agree. Some flourish. Photographs also speak to personality...

Especially those taken over a toilet bowl

So classist!

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

"There already is, and let me tell you being top tier and above everyone is not always great. it's hard being really really ridiculously good looking.( blue steel)"

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is we are the bottom of the list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think people shouldn't be allowed a type? I'm a bit mystified by your comment.

I didn’t say a word about people not being allowed things.

That's why it was a question and I said I was mystified. I was asking for clarification as your point isn't clear.

But women don't all have the same type? We are not a homogenous group. I also feel that this underestimates the power of personality when it comes to "success".

You’d be surprised but what I will say is it is quite a challenge to bring out the different aspects of one’s personality on a text based website.

It's a challenge for some, I agree. Some flourish. Photographs also speak to personality...

You can only flourish when allowed to do so otherwise you are talking to yourself and photographs are incredibly subjective "

You're determined to see yourself as the victim here, so will leave you to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not.

I don't see whet that would achieve, how would you even put it into practice?

Who decides who is elite?

Nope just don't understand the logic behind it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think people shouldn't be allowed a type? I'm a bit mystified by your comment.

I didn’t say a word about people not being allowed things.

That's why it was a question and I said I was mystified. I was asking for clarification as your point isn't clear.

But women don't all have the same type? We are not a homogenous group. I also feel that this underestimates the power of personality when it comes to "success".

You’d be surprised but what I will say is it is quite a challenge to bring out the different aspects of one’s personality on a text based website.

It's a challenge for some, I agree. Some flourish. Photographs also speak to personality...

You can only flourish when allowed to do so otherwise you are talking to yourself and photographs are incredibly subjective

You're determined to see yourself as the victim here, so will leave you to it. "

I’m not doing anything and I resent that - nothing I’ve said is incorrect

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

"There’s those that take the piss, those that don’t and those with tits. You decide which order they come in.

I usually like to come first.

Good to see the proper spelling at last.

There should be a lower tier for all those who use that dreadful three letter version. Or would it be simpler to have an upper tier for the few who don't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There’s those that take the piss, those that don’t and those with tits. You decide which order they come in.

I usually like to come first.

Good to see the proper spelling at last.

There should be a lower tier for all those who use that dreadful three letter version. Or would it be simpler to have an upper tier for the few who don't?"

Cum, cum now good sir!

(bows, doffs his hat and exits stage left)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There’s those that take the piss, those that don’t and those with tits. You decide which order they come in.

I usually like to come first.

Good to see the proper spelling at last.

There should be a lower tier for all those who use that dreadful three letter version. Or would it be simpler to have an upper tier for the few who don't?"

The three letter version is the accepted verb meaning to orgasm.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Surely this thread is just a sarcastic swipe at those who are enjoying success and having fun.

It smells like insecurity to me.

I grew up feeling like I shouldn't 'punch above my weight' and I can say with doubt that it was fab that contributed the most and helped grow my confidence.

No one is out of my league. Some are just out of my preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely this thread is just a sarcastic swipe at those who are enjoying success and having fun.

It smells like insecurity to me.

I grew up feeling like I shouldn't 'punch above my weight' and I can say with doubt that it was fab that contributed the most and helped grow my confidence.

No one is out of my league. Some are just out of my preferences"

Life is good for you - I’m really happy about that

But life isn’t good for others and you might want to recognise that and not be so harsh.

In the end, though, it’s up to you

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"Surely this thread is just a sarcastic swipe at those who are enjoying success and having fun.

It smells like insecurity to me.

I grew up feeling like I shouldn't 'punch above my weight' and I can say with doubt that it was fab that contributed the most and helped grow my confidence.

No one is out of my league. Some are just out of my preferences

Life is good for you - I’m really happy about that

But life isn’t good for others and you might want to recognise that and not be so harsh.

In the end, though, it’s up to you "

You've formed some quite strong opinions on your 4 weeks since you joined. Who are you speaking for exactly?

My reply was specifically in respect of the OP's topic and had nothing to do with these others you mention.

Do you consider yourself 'other'?

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By *iddle ManMan
over a year ago

Walsall

This is getting into dangerous ground OP. An elite system you say. I'm not a fan of that.

Although as you say, it may keep the gutter dogs from interrupting the 'professionals' on here.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I always punch above my so called weight if you don't reach for the stars then you ain't going to get to the moon and well it can only end in 1 of 2 ways nothing to lose and everything to gain "

Absolutely this! He who dares wins, Rodney……

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

If it ain’t working for you on here then either change your approach or leave. Simples. It’s not dial a vag, rent a hole or any other form of easy sex. There are real people behind the profiles on here who have real preferences, opinions, likes and dislikes so if we could all stop assuming just because we’re on here means we’ll fuck anything, that would be grand.

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"There’s those that take the piss, those that don’t and those with tits. You decide which order they come in.

I usually like to come first.

Good to see the proper spelling at last.

There should be a lower tier for all those who use that dreadful three letter version. Or would it be simpler to have an upper tier for the few who don't?"

Cum on now a tier system, would only help to inflate already over inflated egos, and sense of self. Cum all over my pedestal....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely this thread is just a sarcastic swipe at those who are enjoying success and having fun.

It smells like insecurity to me.

I grew up feeling like I shouldn't 'punch above my weight' and I can say with doubt that it was fab that contributed the most and helped grow my confidence.

No one is out of my league. Some are just out of my preferences

Life is good for you - I’m really happy about that

But life isn’t good for others and you might want to recognise that and not be so harsh.

In the end, though, it’s up to you

You've formed some quite strong opinions on your 4 weeks since you joined. Who are you speaking for exactly?

My reply was specifically in respect of the OP's topic and had nothing to do with these others you mention.

Do you consider yourself 'other'?"

They aren’t particularly strong in my view - and are based on your posts.

I don’t consider myself as anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, some might think they are better than others on here but they're really not."

Absolutely!!

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like "

Tear system

Gold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like "

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make? "

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make? "

Because it boring, and nothing is done about it by the person sitting on the pity pot, everyone else and everything else is to blame

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Surely this thread is just a sarcastic swipe at those who are enjoying success and having fun.

It smells like insecurity to me.

I grew up feeling like I shouldn't 'punch above my weight' and I can say with doubt that it was fab that contributed the most and helped grow my confidence.

No one is out of my league. Some are just out of my preferences"

I would say this is a loosely-veiled “why can’t I get a meet?” thread, and whilst you are obviously enjoying much success with the ladies, the OP isn’t, and the “sarcastic swipe” comment was uncalled for.

To the OP; use your block button. Anyone who ignores your messages, or declines you, just block and move on. Don’t take rejection seriously, you’ve nothing to lose by trying, but everything to gain. You only need to meet one person, and all this has been worth it.

Or move to Galway, as there’s clearly a shortage of men there…….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?"

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

Because it boring, and nothing is done about it by the person sitting on the pity pot, everyone else and everything else is to blame "

Don’t read it then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset? "

I don’t care if they leave or not. If you read what I wrote I said either leave or change the approach. Makes no odds to me what they do just stop with the daily moaning when you refuse to make any changes. It’s repetitive and boring. There’s a ton of advice out there, read it. Utilise it

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

Because it boring, and nothing is done about it by the person sitting on the pity pot, everyone else and everything else is to blame

Don’t read it then "

So insightful for the 4 weeks you've been on fab, come back in another few years, and tell me that your perspective hasent shifted in thr slightest.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset? "

So, we're all responseable for people's inability to deal with there feelings of rejection. We all get rejected on here, when I do its no one's but my responsibility to deal with them, not bleat on about it on thr forums, as to how hard this site is.....blah blah blah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Ok - you seem really worked up for someone who doesn’t care but that’s cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Don’t read it then

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Don’t read it then "

Don't read the public forums that are here for people to read.

Great advice.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Don’t read it then

Don't read the public forums that are here for people to read.

Great advice.

Mrs "

If it winds you up, then why read it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Ok - you seem really worked up for someone who doesn’t care but that’s cool "

Yep. I’m ever so worked up about the inability of some men to approach people in a polite and positive way, to not cry when they don’t get laid within 5 minutes of joining a sex site. I’m absolutely fuming, honestly. I don’t know how I’m going to move on from this, I really don’t.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Don’t read it then "

So so insightful, what would we do without you. So let me ask you a question. Everything that annoys and irritates you, you just walk on by and ignore do you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Ok - you seem really worked up for someone who doesn’t care but that’s cool

Stay strong

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Has everyone gotten out of the wrong side of the bed today?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Don’t read it then

Don't read the public forums that are here for people to read.

Great advice.

Mrs

If it winds you up, then why read it? "

Who said it wound me up??

Also how would I know if it wound me up without reading it?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Don’t read it then

Don't read the public forums that are here for people to read.

Great advice.

Mrs

If it winds you up, then why read it?

Who said it wound me up??

Also how would I know if it wound me up without reading it?

Mrs "

You should just know. Harness your inner yoda.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Has everyone gotten out of the wrong side of the bed today?

And then stood on lego....ouch

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Can i be on the top of the pile please

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I think an angry wank is in order.

This is the way.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Bring back the elite shaggers

If someone is out of your league and all you send them is a "Hi", I'm sure the resounding silence will be clear enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Don’t read it then

So so insightful, what would we do without you. So let me ask you a question. Everything that annoys and irritates you, you just walk on by and ignore do you? "

I do on online forums yes as it gets you nowhere.

Let me ask you, how will your messages here change the situation where some people react badly to rejection and moan about it?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Ok - you seem really worked up for someone who doesn’t care but that’s cool

The only realistic way to get through this whole terrible situation is to habe your boobs in my inbox, I mean I can't think of any other way to get around this situation

Mrs

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Bring back the elite shaggers

If someone is out of your league and all you send them is a "Hi", I'm sure the resounding silence will be clear enough

Wheres two bulls when we need him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Don’t read it then

Don't read the public forums that are here for people to read.

Great advice.

Mrs

If it winds you up, then why read it?

Who said it wound me up??

Also how would I know if it wound me up without reading it?

Mrs "

The two question marks suggest a relaxed frame of mind.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Don’t read it then

Don't read the public forums that are here for people to read.

Great advice.

Mrs

If it winds you up, then why read it?

Who said it wound me up??

Also how would I know if it wound me up without reading it?

Mrs

The two question marks suggest a relaxed frame of mind. "

Nope, they suggest I'm asking you a question regarding your response.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Ok - you seem really worked up for someone who doesn’t care but that’s cool

The only realistic way to get through this whole terrible situation is to habe your boobs in my inbox, I mean I can't think of any other way to get around this situation

Mrs "

But what if I want to wallow in my misery like these guys? Would my boobs stop that and make my life all rainbows and cupcakes? This is a really hard decision to make!

you know what, I’m gonna do it. I’m gonna take the advice to try and make my life better

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Don’t read it then

So so insightful, what would we do without you. So let me ask you a question. Everything that annoys and irritates you, you just walk on by and ignore do you?

I do on online forums yes as it gets you nowhere.

Let me ask you, how will your messages here change the situation where some people react badly to rejection and moan about it? "

I'm not trying to change anybodies reaction, I'm good but I'm not an apotheosis! I'm aware enough to say to you, I have no power over people's reactions, and frankly don't give a fuck. What irrites me, is when people do get what they want based on there expectations, of joining a sex site. Amd actually finding out people have self worth and won't just drop their knickers for them.

Then there sense of entitlement kicks in, then proceed to bitch how it's everybody else's fault, amd nothing lays at there door.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Ok - you seem really worked up for someone who doesn’t care but that’s cool

The only realistic way to get through this whole terrible situation is to habe your boobs in my inbox, I mean I can't think of any other way to get around this situation

Mrs

But what if I want to wallow in my misery like these guys? Would my boobs stop that and make my life all rainbows and cupcakes? This is a really hard decision to make!

you know what, I’m gonna do it. I’m gonna take the advice to try and make my life better

Send me boobs I'm feeling really sorry for myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Don’t read it then

So so insightful, what would we do without you. So let me ask you a question. Everything that annoys and irritates you, you just walk on by and ignore do you?

I do on online forums yes as it gets you nowhere.

Let me ask you, how will your messages here change the situation where some people react badly to rejection and moan about it?

Then there sense of entitlement kicks in, then proceed to bitch how it's everybody else's fault, amd nothing lays at there door. "

You don’t give a fuck - ok, great

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Ok - you seem really worked up for someone who doesn’t care but that’s cool

The only realistic way to get through this whole terrible situation is to habe your boobs in my inbox, I mean I can't think of any other way to get around this situation

Mrs

But what if I want to wallow in my misery like these guys? Would my boobs stop that and make my life all rainbows and cupcakes? This is a really hard decision to make!

you know what, I’m gonna do it. I’m gonna take the advice to try and make my life better

Do it, make your life amazing, boobs fix all of life's problems

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Don’t read it then

Don't read the public forums that are here for people to read.

Great advice.

Mrs

If it winds you up, then why read it?

Who said it wound me up??

Also how would I know if it wound me up without reading it?

Mrs

The two question marks suggest a relaxed frame of mind.

Nope, they suggest I'm asking you a question regarding your response.

Mrs "

You only need to use one

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Nah, full of shit.

I’m scum of the earth and I get loads of pussy.

The mr

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Don’t read it then

Don't read the public forums that are here for people to read.

Great advice.

Mrs

If it winds you up, then why read it?

Who said it wound me up??

Also how would I know if it wound me up without reading it?

Mrs

The two question marks suggest a relaxed frame of mind.

Nope, they suggest I'm asking you a question regarding your response.

Mrs

You only need to use one "
.

You only needed to respond to the questions asked regarding your response but here we go.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nah, full of shit.

I’m scum of the earth and I get loads of pussy.

The mr "

Don't forget your an instant coffee drinker too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Don’t read it then

Don't read the public forums that are here for people to read.

Great advice.

Mrs

If it winds you up, then why read it?

Who said it wound me up??

Also how would I know if it wound me up without reading it?

Mrs

The two question marks suggest a relaxed frame of mind.

Nope, they suggest I'm asking you a question regarding your response.

Mrs

You only need to use one .

You only needed to respond to the questions asked regarding your response but here we go.

Mrs "

Ok - you’re not wound up - I’m glad about that and you’re quite correct, how would you know without reading it.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Is the clique going to hold a monthly meeting to award or deduct points on the hotness or notness of users?

Also

Clique royalty do you take bribes or payments in kind,footrubs,back massage,help with DIY projects,dog walking and so on ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Ok - you seem really worked up for someone who doesn’t care but that’s cool

The only realistic way to get through this whole terrible situation is to habe your boobs in my inbox, I mean I can't think of any other way to get around this situation

Mrs

But what if I want to wallow in my misery like these guys? Would my boobs stop that and make my life all rainbows and cupcakes? This is a really hard decision to make!

you know what, I’m gonna do it. I’m gonna take the advice to try and make my life better

Send me boobs I'm feeling really sorry for myself "

You’ve had enough

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Don’t read it then

So so insightful, what would we do without you. So let me ask you a question. Everything that annoys and irritates you, you just walk on by and ignore do you?

I do on online forums yes as it gets you nowhere.

Let me ask you, how will your messages here change the situation where some people react badly to rejection and moan about it?

Then there sense of entitlement kicks in, then proceed to bitch how it's everybody else's fault, amd nothing lays at there door.

You don’t give a fuck - ok, great "

Like I say come back in a few years with a bit more experience under your belt, of fab of thr forums, seeing the same threads creating about thr same topics, and people not talking in thr advice freely given I'll add, offered by people who actually use this site successfully. And tell me your thoughts and perceptions haven't changed. As I can tell you know mine have over the years of being on n off the forums

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Wait I've been going about this all wrong.

Woe is me! The only thing that could possibly make me feel better is the divine breast of the goddess herself.

Send boobs for comfort. And pray for me.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Nothing better than getting a message that just says hi, especially when it has been sent to every other woman/couple in the area who are currently online.

Makes us feel special.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Don’t read it then

So so insightful, what would we do without you. So let me ask you a question. Everything that annoys and irritates you, you just walk on by and ignore do you?

I do on online forums yes as it gets you nowhere.

Let me ask you, how will your messages here change the situation where some people react badly to rejection and moan about it?

Then there sense of entitlement kicks in, then proceed to bitch how it's everybody else's fault, amd nothing lays at there door.

You don’t give a fuck - ok, great

Ok - you presume I’ve never been on here before the past four weeks, but that’s useful advice so thank you.

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Fab is pretty much a reflection of U.K. society. All sorts of people on here. Never really noticed the forums being middle class or not. Maybe it does attract middle class people because they like writing.

You’re going to get people with different tastes, preferences and outlooks in life. It’s not elitist just a different outlook.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Ok - you seem really worked up for someone who doesn’t care but that’s cool

The only realistic way to get through this whole terrible situation is to habe your boobs in my inbox, I mean I can't think of any other way to get around this situation

Mrs

But what if I want to wallow in my misery like these guys? Would my boobs stop that and make my life all rainbows and cupcakes? This is a really hard decision to make!

you know what, I’m gonna do it. I’m gonna take the advice to try and make my life better

Send me boobs I'm feeling really sorry for myself

You’ve had enough

Well theres my next thread about rejection, let me whip my pity pot out and sit on it for the day. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don’t give a fuck - ok, great "

You clearly do cos you've gone to great lengths to argue with everyone.

Maybe go and take a couple of deep breaths and try some mindfulness techniques. Failing that, take the approach of others and ask for boobs to be sent to your inbox, it'll probably bring a smile to your face (though based on your approach to alienate people you might be waiting a while to see the yellow mail messages).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab is pretty much a reflection of U.K. society. All sorts of people on here. Never really noticed the forums being middle class or not. Maybe it does attract middle class people because they like writing.

You’re going to get people with different tastes, preferences and outlooks in life. It’s not elitist just a different outlook. "

I agree with you on it being a reflection of society but society is elitist

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

The OP will be pleased when he wakes up and sees the number of replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don’t give a fuck - ok, great

You clearly do cos you've gone to great lengths to argue with everyone.

Would you like everyone to agree with everyone else? I never said I don’t give a fuck, he did.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Don’t read it then

So so insightful, what would we do without you. So let me ask you a question. Everything that annoys and irritates you, you just walk on by and ignore do you?

I do on online forums yes as it gets you nowhere.

Let me ask you, how will your messages here change the situation where some people react badly to rejection and moan about it?

Then there sense of entitlement kicks in, then proceed to bitch how it's everybody else's fault, amd nothing lays at there door.

You don’t give a fuck - ok, great

Ok - you presume I’ve never been on here before the past four weeks, but that’s useful advice so thank you. "

I've read your profile so I'm aware you've been on fab before. So no assumptions made, my comments are based on the things your saying on here, it's called implicit understanding. Or in layman's terms reading between the lines.

What I'm also aware of is the very idealistic notion of ' just don't read comments' which is a very naive notion in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a daily limit of woe is me threads

Tier system? Jeez. Tear system more like

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about those wallowing in self pity. What difference does it make?

I cannot understand why folk get so wound up about not getting a reply/meet/shag. What difference does it make?

I see more logic in their reactions than yours - they’ve been rejected and that’s not nice for anyone. Why do you want them to leave for being upset?

Don’t read it then

So so insightful, what would we do without you. So let me ask you a question. Everything that annoys and irritates you, you just walk on by and ignore do you?

I do on online forums yes as it gets you nowhere.

Let me ask you, how will your messages here change the situation where some people react badly to rejection and moan about it?

Then there sense of entitlement kicks in, then proceed to bitch how it's everybody else's fault, amd nothing lays at there door.

You don’t give a fuck - ok, great

Ok - you presume I’ve never been on here before the past four weeks, but that’s useful advice so thank you.

What I'm also aware of is the very idealistic notion of ' just don't read comments' which is a very naive notion in my opinion."

Ok - cool

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Nah, full of shit.

I’m scum of the earth and I get loads of pussy.

The mr

Don't forget your an instant coffee drinker too

I know, I don’t know what it is about kenco that makes me so unattractive.

The mr

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By *enSiskoMan
over a year ago

Cestus 3

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????

It would seem from the many threads I have read on this subject, that it is ok to send messages, but not to mention that you receive no reply.

You will be mocked, then you will be advised to go to a club or social, get out there, those that do are left to their own, or mocked again on the forum.

It's good that you're not bitter though "

Disappointed is more the word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????

It would seem from the many threads I have read on this subject, that it is ok to send messages, but not to mention that you receive no reply.

You will be mocked, then you will be advised to go to a club or social, get out there, those that do are left to their own, or mocked again on the forum.

It's good that you're not bitter though

Disappointed is more the word."

I agree - it is disappointment

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I'm patiently waiting for the gold star to appear next to my username.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????"

The issue with these things is subjectivity and personal taste.

People have very different opinions of both themselves and of others. Attraction is based on many things and what one person finds attractive may be repulsive to many other people.

Peoples opinions of their selves also vary wildly, many people would consider them selves to be fitter, more attractive, more intelligent, etc... than other people view them. Then others have a much lower opinion of themselves than reality reflects.

Cal

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"I'm patiently waiting for the gold star to appear next to my username.

How about a rusty golden rivet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????

The issue with these things is subjectivity and personal taste.

People have very different opinions of both themselves and of others. Attraction is based on many things and what one person finds attractive may be repulsive to many other people.

Cal"

Spot on

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

No one has sent me boobs and I even asked nicely in the most thoughtful way possible.

This place is so elitist!

I'll just climb down out of my ivory tower and join the boobless masses then shall I

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"I'm patiently waiting for the gold star to appear next to my username.

How about a rusty golden rivet? "

Lol or a chocolate starfish

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I don't get how people take a none response to say 'Hi' so much to heart? It's not a challenge to your very being and worth. It doesn't even mean your not attractive or not a great person per se. Just because you get a lack of responses doesn't make you bad or the other people bad. So please don't take it badly or question your worth.

The problem is peoples expectations v how the online world operates. If you look at data regards online dating the patterns are very clear. If we keep it simple for now and look at patterns of women dating men. The majority of women only seek to date about the same 10-15% of guys profile online. Clearly great for that 10-15%. If you don't fall into that 10-15% of profiles then you will get little intrest. It gets worse for younger men as patterns suggest generally younger and older women both seek out older men. Yes it sucks to be a guy online, especially for those in late teens/early 20s. However that is as it is. But not being in that desirable 10-15% doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you or your not a great individual or not attractive per se (it doesn't factor statisticly that 85% of the male population is no good). The online world is harsh for guys but not necessarily a reflection on you.

Also factor that just because your a nice guy, polite and say Hi in an unsolicited message doesn't mean you are entitled to a reply. People have busy life's and it's perfectly logical not bother replying to a complete stranger when it's never going to go anywhere.

I think understanding the realities of the online world and working on your own self esteem in the real world is far more fruitful than complaining (which is perfectly valid to do of course, not saying you're not entitled to this gripe). Futher more you can't really sell your true self well online (unless your very adapt at it). Therefore maybe better to try your luck at socials and clubs. In my experience the real world works far better than the online world for meeting new people. So keep your chin up and don't let the distorted patterns of the online world distort your self image.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Nah, full of shit.

I’m scum of the earth and I get loads of pussy.

The mr "

Do you have a solo male profile in here?

Is your success relevant to the thread, and independent of your couple status?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Nah, full of shit.

I’m scum of the earth and I get loads of pussy.

The mr

Do you have a solo male profile in here?

Is your success relevant to the thread, and independent of your couple status? "

Of course not

It’s because when it comes to women I am god, they can’t help but squirting when they gaze upto the heavenly glory that is my face.

The mr

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By *uicy jugsWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????"

Remember in a club everyone is either in lingerie or naked so taken at face value same should apply to this site once you have delved into conversation that's where you find if you have a connection or not, not by judging people by a 'status' as that doesn't determine the core values of a person

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????"

Whaaaaaat?!! Is this question for real?!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????

Whaaaaaat?!! Is this question for real?!

Yep, can you not tell the instant coffee drinkers by the first message?

Mrs

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"Nah, full of shit.

I’m scum of the earth and I get loads of pussy.

The mr

Do you have a solo male profile in here?

Is your success relevant to the thread, and independent of your couple status?

Of course not

It’s because when it comes to women I am god, they can’t help but squirting when they gaze upto the heavenly glory that is my face.

The mr "

My hero

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????"

Some sophisticats like rough trade occasionally

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????

Whaaaaaat?!! Is this question for real?!

Yep, can you not tell the instant coffee drinkers by the first message?

Mrs

I hate instant coffee

. I think I may have to read through this thread. It better be worth it!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????

Whaaaaaat?!! Is this question for real?!

Yep, can you not tell the instant coffee drinkers by the first message?

Mrs

I hate instant coffee

. I think I may have to read through this thread. It better be worth it! "

I don't think we can be friends any longer, I'm currently sat enjoying my mocha made with instant coffee

(turns back and hides in embarrassment)

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait. did we discover what's out of the majorities reach?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????

Whaaaaaat?!! Is this question for real?!

Yep, can you not tell the instant coffee drinkers by the first message?

Mrs

I hate instant coffee

. I think I may have to read through this thread. It better be worth it!

I don't think we can be friends any longer, I'm currently sat enjoying my mocha made with instant coffee

(turns back and hides in embarrassment)

Mrs "

Ooooh does this make me sophisticated then?

. Tier me tier me!

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

"I have posted tonight genuinely looking for help.

Some of you have found it helpful and I have for the most.

There are some on here that are out of the majorities reach, for manny reasons.

Should there be an elite and basic to stop us instant coffee drinking, hard working and over weight daring to message the more sophisticated and offending their sensibilities by saying “Hi!”????

Whaaaaaat?!! Is this question for real?!

Yep, can you not tell the instant coffee drinkers by the first message?

Mrs

I hate instant coffee

. I think I may have to read through this thread. It better be worth it!

I don't think we can be friends any longer, I'm currently sat enjoying my mocha made with instant coffee

(turns back and hides in embarrassment)

Mrs "

I’m with you on this, I think there should be an additional emblem on someone’s profile, next to the green tick and site supporter ones, denoting who is a coffe snob, so they can be avoided

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