FabSwingers.com forum: Body Scars

By *l1 guy OP Man
over a year ago

Slough

Not sure if I should post here or not but I am self conscious about a rather large scar going down my chest. When I have met, on a previous account, I don't like to take my shirt off but this has put others off, even though I tell them why prior to meeting. I know if not got the best body or physic in the world but do I just say f**king and strip off. I'm even like it on holiday. Are you lovely fabbers bothered about body scars ?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I'm not. But then I have my own to be self conscious about, so perhaps I'm less likely to worry about someone else's.

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By *l1 guy OP Man
over a year ago

Slough

That's good to know. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive got 14 massive scars on my leg due to an accident. Some days annoys me other day dont give a fuck. Though i do love making up funny stories as to how i got them. Best was a toothless shark bit me as i was moon walking on the beach

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I always see scars as the scars of a winner - whatever the reason that you've got your scar, you're here and you've won!

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By *l1 guy OP Man
over a year ago

Slough

Love it. Gotta think of a funny reason for a 12 inch scar down my chest x

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By *l1 guy OP Man
over a year ago

Slough

Perfect. Thank you xx

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

It's really not an issue at all.

If it's prominent I'll ask out of curiosity "what happened here then?"

But it would never put me off someone.

Scars are just part of you.

They tell stories.

They're nothing to be worried about.

Don't you worry yourself.

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By *l1 guy OP Man
over a year ago

Slough

Thank you xx

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Scars have never bothered me. Except my own.

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By *heExcommMan
over a year ago

Llantrisant

Scars make everyone even more individual and tell a story. Hell, I'm covered in them as I scar pretty easy.

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By *l1 guy OP Man
over a year ago

Slough

Thank you.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Own them - yes they may be reminders of trauma but they are there and for the most part you can't change that.

If somebody doesn't like your scar they are generally looking for perfection fantasy and already have a very particular visual they are wanting regardless.

Are scars themselves sexy? Not particularly in and of themselves (nor are they ugly) but what makes scars appealing as a whole is the things somebody went through to have them AND the confidence to own them (yes the latter is easier said than done).

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By *l1 guy OP Man
over a year ago

Slough

Great advice. Thank you

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Love it. Gotta think of a funny reason for a 12 inch scar down my chest x"

An alien burst out of your chest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, they don't bother me. I've been with men who've had scars - it's just part of their story. My youngest son has a large scar on his arm after the summer - I told him to come up with an excellent story which I think he's working on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people won't notice, others will. Anyone who has an issue with that kinda thing really isn't the playmate for you, find people who make you feel comfortable enough to embrace who you are.

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

I have medical kit on my tummy (I’m a type 1 diabetic so the kit measures my blood sugars and gives me insulin without needing to inject each time) . I make sure it’s visible on the photos I use and then when I get talking to someone I check they’ve aware of it as people can be squeamish. Most people could not give a flying fig. Please, strip off and enjoy your body!

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By *l1 guy OP Man
over a year ago

Slough

Brilliant. Thank you x

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By *l1 guy OP Man
over a year ago

Slough

I think I certainly will now after all this positivity xx

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Not in the slightest bit bothered. I find them interesting. I’ve got a few from different surgeries and I like people noticing them. I can tell them my stupid accident stories then

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I have never been bothered by scars on someone else they are just a part of someone, but I now have a fairly recent scar on my side myself and I am self conscious about it, it is different when its your own body we judge ourselves so critically or at least I do with myself, but I am getting used to it its just another part of me now.

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By *l1 guy OP Man
over a year ago

Slough

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP

I have a scar on my stomach since I was a kid and also some moles. My attitude is this is me and if you don't like me then that's your problem. Its our imperfections that make us unique.

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By *l1 guy OP Man
over a year ago

Slough

Exactly that. We judge ourselves to much so better just bite the bullet I suppose x

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

i have few scars tbh never let them bother me or thought about them

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By *oco_marsWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

Scars don't bother me, whether it's any I have or on someone else. We're only human, accidents and medical procedures happen. I have a few myself, mostly from burns

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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago

the land of tall tales and yarn

"Not sure if I should post here or not but I am self conscious about a rather large scar going down my chest. When I have met, on a previous account, I don't like to take my shirt off but this has put others off, even though I tell them why prior to meeting. I know if not got the best body or physic in the world but do I just say f**king and strip off. I'm even like it on holiday. Are you lovely fabbers bothered about body scars ?

Hi OP if you hit Reply&Quote people will know which message you're responding to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have medical kit on my tummy (I’m a type 1 diabetic so the kit measures my blood sugars and gives me insulin without needing to inject each time) . I make sure it’s visible on the photos I use and then when I get talking to someone I check they’ve aware of it as people can be squeamish. Most people could not give a flying fig. Please, strip off and enjoy your body! "

I'm squeamish about stuff like that. It's better if people mention it before a meet so they can tell me to fuck off before any time is wasted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I totally understand where you're coming from. I absolutely my ugly scar on my stomach and keep it covered up, well until recently . I found the confidence to post some public photos of me naked with it on show, and I wore bikini at the beach a couple of weeks ago. Although I did hear some people laughing and I got it into my head they were laughing at my ugly fat stomach area so may take a bit of confidence building to wear a bikini again.

We should really learn to love ourselves though.

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

"Love it. Gotta think of a funny reason for a 12 inch scar down my chest x"

I have same, from heart surgery, I don’t care , I’ve loads of others too from sport and accidents.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, I totally understand where you're coming from. I absolutely my ugly scar on my stomach and keep it covered up, well until recently . I found the confidence to post some public photos of me naked with it on show, and I wore bikini at the beach a couple of weeks ago. Although I did hear some people laughing and I got it into my head they were laughing at my ugly fat stomach area so may take a bit of confidence building to wear a bikini again.

We should really learn to love ourselves though."

They might just have been laughing because their mate's bollock was hanging out of his speedos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We should really learn to love ourselves though.

They might just have been laughing because their mate's bollock was hanging out of his speedos.

I know. But they looked my way and were laughing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We should really learn to love ourselves though.

They might just have been laughing because their mate's bollock was hanging out of his speedos.

I know. But they looked my way and were laughing

Hmm maybe there was another bloke with his bollock out away behind you.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Scar tissue could be hardest thing to reduce or hide and some people naturally scar more than others a doctor once told me.

I like taking pics that hide scars and the like (I like to look younger than I am essentially) but ill always find a way of being more open about my imperfections before long, and certainly before any meet.

I think it's because I don't really see them as someone else's problem as such. To me people are entitled to what ever they want on here, and i personally dont want to ultimately mislead anyonee regarding what they are getting. I do look quite young but Ive lived a life and age itself doesn't come alone either as the saying goes.

In other people I don't really care, though some form of attraction always has to be there.

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

I'm never bothered by anyones scars, curious maybe but not bothered.

I think most of us see our imperfections as being far worse than others do.

Would you be put off by a woman having a large scar?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Hannah has big, visible scars from cancer surgery. It's never been an issue.

If you're fortunate enough to find somebody who wants to get it on with you, I'd say go for it and get your kit off. It's not like people don't realise operations happen. It might give you some confidence back.

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I find scars attractive.

I have my own fair share of them.

If people don't like your scar, then they're not your people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a big scar from above my belly button to my groin from a cancer operation 11 years ago. I don’t normally give it a second thought on a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a scar in a very private place … I’m not worried by what others think as if they see it they’ll already know so much about me and we will be completely comfortable with each other.

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By *l1 guy OP Man
over a year ago

Slough

Hi OP if you hit Reply&Quote people will know which message you're responding to

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Thank you

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I have a scar on my side from riding out in front of a car at 10... in my teens I guess it bothered me...absolutely not at all now...it's part of me

Nilly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't bother me...

I suspect scars are something that people feel conspicuous about on themselves but others don't really register... well not in a negative sense

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

I’ve got scars from when I was in the forces plus some from a operation , I look upon them as a map of my life

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By *l1 guy OP Man
over a year ago

Slough

"I find scars attractive.

I have my own fair share of them.

If people don't like your scar, then they're not your people. "
Thank you xx

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By *l1 guy OP Man
over a year ago

Slough

"I'm never bothered by anyones scars, curious maybe but not bothered.

I think most of us see our imperfections as being far worse than others do.

Would you be put off by a woman having a large scar?"
Definitely wouldn't be put off but some people like perfection which I'm not x

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By *alico_KittyWoman
over a year ago

Kittys Lane

I have a couple of scars after having breast cancer years ago plus a reconstruction done a few years later if I didn't have the scars well I wouldn't be here x

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I have a big scar down front of my knee/leg , on my head /// they are just part of us and i have found in reality most people dont really pay much attention to them

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By *eltonmanMan
over a year ago

Melton Mowbray

I look at scars as part of your story, part of who you are, same with disabilities etc

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Scars don't bother me I have one on my pubic bone, it goes from the base of my dick and goes up about 4inches and it's rather raised

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

Not one bit!! After losing 10 stone, I had several skin removal surgeries so I'm covered in scars & they've never bothered me, or anyone who's seen me naked

Obviously some men have asked about them but I'm happy to explain why I have them.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Not bothered in the slightest, wifey has a few of her own ( through self harm and such ) I have one or two for different reasons. We’ve never met anyone ( so far ) who have commented negatively about them . Wifey actually seeks out guys or girls with different marks to play with. And I have to admit I’m a real perv when it comes to stretch marks on a lady

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By *l1 guy OP Man
over a year ago

Slough

"I find scars attractive.

I have my own fair share of them.

If people don't like your scar, then they're not your people. "
Thank you x

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By *l1 guy OP Man
over a year ago

Slough

"I have a couple of scars after having breast cancer years ago plus a reconstruction done a few years later if I didn't have the scars well I wouldn't be here x"
Glad to hear you have gotten over it xx

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By *l1 guy OP Man
over a year ago

Slough

Not one bit!! After losing 10 stone, I had several skin removal surgeries so I'm covered in scars & they've never bothered me, or anyone who's seen me naked

Obviously some men have asked about them but I'm happy to explain why I have them."
Good to hear

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

We should really learn to love ourselves though."
you’ve got a lovely stomach xx

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By *alico_KittyWoman
over a year ago

Kittys Lane

"I have a couple of scars after having breast cancer years ago plus a reconstruction done a few years later if I didn't have the scars well I wouldn't be here x Glad to hear you have gotten over it xx"

Thank you x

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

I'll admit to having a fascination about scars and blemishes. I think they tell a life story.

I have large scar on lower back from spinal surgery, several on my arms, from cooking accidents, a large burn scar on my right leg, and several on my legs. Never been bothered by them.

What I do get majorly concerned about is showing my legs, due to very bad varicose veins. I feel very conscious.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Nope, scars would never put me off at all. Not in the slightest.

They just make you more unique

MrsAbz

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

Scars show you survived something. Embrace them if you can, I've never been turned off by a scar of any kind, xxx

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

Scars don't bother me, I've a few myself, boobjob, skin graft and donor site. If it makes things easier you can mention before you meet you have a large scar then it doesn't become a big deal building up to meeting. I suspect most people will not be bothered at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have scars of some kind ! I have a few 1 is prominent doesn't bother me... but then some have us have bigger scars that can't be seen xx we are all human xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I not only have a scar on my upper chest but under the scar is a visible implant and was so extremely self conscious of it that I wouldn't get undressed in a club as didn't want people to see it. Took me a while before I was confident enough to use the hot tub (it's quite a dark area) but always had a towel over my shoulder on way to hot tub to hide it until one day a rather lovely lady noticed it in the hot tub and after asking questions about it asked if she could touch it. She then spent a good while carresing my scar whilst her other hand stroked my chest. Now I absolutely own it and will walk round with it totally uncovered. If that one lady hadn't took the time I may still be walking around hiding it. Yes some people might not like it but then more will be turned off by my face

We will never be for everyone so concentrate on enjoying the ones we are for and let the others fade from your memory and if they want to laugh feel free as at the end of the day we will own our imperfections whilst they will show there's by laughing.

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