FabSwingers.com forum: Making the sex better

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you ask what your partner likes? What you can do for them to make it better? Anything they want you to do?

Ofc on fab this may well be discussed before you get naked and do the sex. But plenty of us have had sex with people we’ve not met on fab. Would you ask in the moment? Or would you just do what usually works? Do you ask if what you’re doing is ok? Or do you just assume they’ll tell you if it’s not?

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

One of the big reasons why I love intimacy.

It allows everything to blend naturally in the moment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’ve had plenty of women that are so attentive and ask what I like or if I like something. And when talking to my fiancé her experience of men is that they’re the complete opposite. Not that they’re all bad lovers btw. Just that they don’t ask those things.

I wonder if men are also more the kind of ‘this is what I like’ kinda conversation starters. And rule out based on that response. Do women do that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"One of the big reasons why I love intimacy.

It allows everything to blend naturally in the moment."

Definitely with you on this I think

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

I like to read body language and reactions.

If that doesn't work ,I'll ask

Em x

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I'm not the most verbal person in the moment.

Vocal for sure, but not particularly verbal.

Good sex tends to be a lot of feeding on each others energy and the dynamic can shift and move throughout.

Sometimes I'll ask afterwards of their body language implied less than ecstacy at some point. But if it was notable enough to clock it I'd usually have already adjusted in the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought this said 'Making the sex batter'.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"I’ve had plenty of women that are so attentive and ask what I like or if I like something. And when talking to my fiancé her experience of men is that they’re the complete opposite. Not that they’re all bad lovers btw. Just that they don’t ask those things.

I wonder if men are also more the kind of ‘this is what I like’ kinda conversation starters. And rule out based on that response. Do women do that? "

I like those conversations. There's a flip side though where it can feel like it is becoming paint-by-numbers. Or transaction. I like to explore what we like and to have room for discovery in the moment.

A big reason why I like regular partners rather than one-offs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am super on finding out what the guy enjoys and giving it to him (wahey!!). Absolutely pants at talking about what I'd enjoy. Literally tongue tied and shy (and I am not a shy woman). So it's my own fault if I don't get it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like to read body language and reactions.

If that doesn't work ,I'll ask

Em x"

Interesting. Would you ask before you tried something? Like would you say ‘What do you like? Can I do anything to you or for you?’ I’ve had women ask me that and it’s hot. Took me a while to feel comfortable saying it but I love that kinda consent

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"I like to read body language and reactions.

If that doesn't work ,I'll ask

Em x"

Yep, breathing and minute contractions give me a map to pleasure...I hope

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

With the Mr yes we discuss what we like, don't , want to try etc we are very open in the sex department

With meets sometimes we've discussed it sometimes we haven't, I try and read the room and bodies, sometimes it works sometimes not, I'm a little shy around new people so discussing what I like isn't something I tend to do, although probably should

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think inviting the other person to write/tell a little scenario helps them relax about it. I've done this with men, always works a treat!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I thought this said 'Making the sex batter'.

‘Mental how I could batter every single one of yous’ - Boris Johnson in a cobra meeting probably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think inviting the other person to write/tell a little scenario helps them relax about it. I've done this with men, always works a treat! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to have a conversation about likes and dislike pre the sex but in the moment it go with body language.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Absolutely; the foundation of the best sex is built upon learning about what one’s partner likes and dislikes, where and exactly how they like to be touched/caressed/kissed and tasted and all the myriad of nuances in between.

It’s a joyous journey of erotic discovery.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

I like to feel how it's going and follow the squirms. Sometimes I'll ask .

I would say that I only gained the confidence to ask in the last couple of years.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

It depends on the person. Some men I can talk about everything and anything with. With Others it seems really hard.

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

"I like to read body language and reactions.

If that doesn't work ,I'll ask

Em x

If it's not something we've spoken about beforehand then I'll ask but try to make it sexy you know?

I've been known to say "where do you want me

" , "help me please you" or "show me how you like it "

Em x

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman
over a year ago

Schitts Creek

I’m not sure I do tbh

I’ve had situations where I’ve said what I like and situations where I haven’t because I’m just not that into it with the other person

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Whatever about what may I say. There's nothing sexier than a woman saying how likes it in the heat of the moment.

Talking and teasing is also my highway to heaven.

Come to think of it I have been known to whisper probing questions into the ear of my lover.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

No...I don't ask them.

I like having sex with a man that enjoys just fooling around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t bother trying. That way they can’t blame me for it being shit.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

I used to ask questions but I now think that it's a little pointless as most scenarios don't happy.

It's all about touch and response

Marc

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"I don’t bother trying. That way they can’t blame me for it being shit.

I...

I'd say I can't fault your logic Woody, but I definitely can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t bother trying. That way they can’t blame me for it being shit.

I...

I'd say I can't fault your logic Woody, but I definitely can

It works for me. Sadly not for them.

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