FabSwingers.com forum: Mutual attraction

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it necessary for successful meets on fab?

Feels like a silly question but the theme of messages i’ve had today has me wondering.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Depends on your definition of ‘successful’ I suppose.

(But yes. The answer is yes.)

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Yes, definitely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me. Don't think I'd ever question that. My way of doing things is right. For me. Fuck anyone else's ideas.

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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago

the land of tall tales and yarn

If there is no attraction then you don't get all the tingles and stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Why would you want to meet, or more, with someone you don't find attractive?

MrsAbz

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood

Similar to another post about attraction and definitely needs to be 2-way. I think it was an offshoot of the keys in a bowl thread - supposedly the old way swingers parties worked… sounds like a nightmare!!

if theres no attraction on any level then i don’t see how it can be enjoyable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% for me.

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city

Even if it not physical attraction the mind needs to be twitching with chemistry and curiosity

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

no sexual attraction then theres no meet or play simple as

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Not for the sapiosexuals.

No one meets their standards, but some like to do their bit for charity.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't know if it necessary because although I might be attracted to them, they might only be pretending to find me attractuve

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Not for the sapiosexuals.

No one meets their standards, but some like to do their bit for charity."

Blimey! What makes you say that?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

This is one of the many (many!) reasons I’ve stopped meeting. Because whatever way you look at it, because your eyes aren’t locking across a crowded room, how can you be sure that the attraction is genuine and they’re not just saying what they think you want to hear?

I like an attraction. But I like it to be a genuine attraction of someone liking me and wanting me for me, not just because I have boobs and a free day on Fridays.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Is it necessary for successful meets on fab?

Feels like a silly question but the theme of messages i’ve had today has me wondering.

Mutual attraction? Yes of course! Why would you embark on it otherwise?

I do worry sometimes that meets can be made out of pressure or a sense of responsibility and things like that. For God's sake people, if you ever really don't want to meet, don't meet, I say. Yes I suppose you might enjoy it, but do you really want to leave it just to luck? Each to their own I guess though.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"Not for the sapiosexuals.

No one meets their standards, but some like to do their bit for charity.

Blimey! What makes you say that?"

I was still caught up laughing from the other thread. The one over there. ***Points in random direction***

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

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By *oshblueyedmanMan
over a year ago

hereford

"This is one of the many (many!) reasons I’ve stopped meeting. Because whatever way you look at it, because your eyes aren’t locking across a crowded room, how can you be sure that the attraction is genuine and they’re not just saying what they think you want to hear?

I like an attraction. But I like it to be a genuine attraction of someone liking me and wanting me for me, not just because I have boobs and a free day on Fridays.

This is massively depressing but sadly probably too often true.. Surely must be mutual. Also I’d say you have to trust sometimes that’s it genuine. Talking beforehand and messaging helps filter out the loons and liars. Got to have the spark though so if ain’t there on phone or in person, that’ll be a no . Good luck. H

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely!

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Definitely be that physical or mental, Ideally both for me

Tinder x

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Sapiosexuality isn't a candle holding topic with hint sheets attached, so a lot of Fabbers are... just being Fabbers sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it necessary for successful meets on fab?

Feels like a silly question but the theme of messages i’ve had today has me wondering. "

Not always.

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By *ilddukeMan
over a year ago

notts

Deffo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definitely….. I need the tingle

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By *he Dark SaintMan
over a year ago

hitchin

I like an attraction. But I like it to be a genuine attraction of someone liking me and wanting me for me, not just because I have boobs and a free day on Fridays.

The key thing here is what we 'VALUE' Yes mutual attraction is how it should be. However the harsh reality is the dynamics between men and women will never change. Sites/communities like these only exacerbate gender disparities. Its a sex site, men and women value diferent things that lead to intimacy. Most men see beauty and a womans assets for sex as the main value a(nd the end goal). Most women need to see value in more attributes in a man before getting intimate with them.

So naturally women are more selective than men in an already imbalanced pool. The pool wbich the number men greatly exceed women because of what the site stands for, being polygamous. More men are open to do tbat than most women.

As a result, it become a game of most women get what they want and most men get what they can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there's not mutual attraction isn't someone being used?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mutual

Consented

Connection

Fancy because I am not going to fancy someone who does not meet the above.

Someone who I feel comfortable around.

We bounce off each other in conversation

Attraction to me is all the above along with pure honesty and respect. Op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If there's not mutual attraction isn't someone being used?"

Yes, some are pure users

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feels like mutual connection makes everything a bit more intimate ? Which may be not what some people are after from a scenario based meet ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If there's not mutual attraction isn't someone being used?

Yes, some are pure users "

Pretending attraction, you mean?

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Definitely.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I think people can still have successful 'meets' (if you mean enjoy the sex) if they find the circumstances of it attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think people can still have successful 'meets' (if you mean enjoy the sex) if they find the circumstances of it attractive "

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"Is it necessary for successful meets on fab?

Feels like a silly question but the theme of messages i’ve had today has me wondering. "

I'd like to know what exactly is making you wonder this.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"If there's not mutual attraction isn't someone being used?

Yes, some are pure users "

They could just be using each other?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think people can still have successful 'meets' (if you mean enjoy the sex) if they find the circumstances of it attractive "

I agree. I don't think a woman enjoying a gang bang necessarily finds all the men attractive. What about blindfold meets, dark rooms and glory holes?

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I think people can still have successful 'meets' (if you mean enjoy the sex) if they find the circumstances of it attractive

I agree. I don't think a woman enjoying a gang bang necessarily finds all the men attractive. What about blindfold meets, dark rooms and glory holes?

I think circumstances and kinks can become the mutual attractions. Hopefully they are equitable attractions though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think people can still have successful 'meets' (if you mean enjoy the sex) if they find the circumstances of it attractive

I agree. I don't think a woman enjoying a gang bang necessarily finds all the men attractive. What about blindfold meets, dark rooms and glory holes?"

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it necessary for successful meets on fab?

Feels like a silly question but the theme of messages i’ve had today has me wondering. "

I think it differs from person to person. For me, connection and chemistry is key. If I don’t fancy you physically or feel like we could sit in a bar chatting I won’t meet.

But for some people it’s just sex! There is definitely people on here who get off on anonymous sex, or who just wants the physical deed and could do it with anyone without needing any kind of connection.

And btw that’s ok - let’s not judge people, everyone has their own kink and own reason for being here! You’ll find someone who likes the same on here im sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a bit of chemistry to be established first. I think both people will get more mutual benefit from the experience.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Is it necessary for successful meets on fab?

Feels like a silly question but the theme of messages i’ve had today has me wondering. "

If there is no mutual attraction there’s no meet. Simples

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Attraction is key as well as mental attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it is. Unless someone is willing to meet up without a face picture and you keep their eyes close the whole time. …

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*woody hopes for an answer on this one.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yeah I can’t kiss someone I’m not attracted to.

If there no attraction from me is basically a bush tucker trail.

The mr

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Deffo an attraction for me but if they have bad attitude it’s a No

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By *archelCouple
over a year ago

A field somewhere

We won't fuck just for the sake of fucking

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By *andy2Man
over a year ago

Ealing

Attitude, outlook, character all make someone attractive to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

For me yes

For many No. "Any hole is a goal" is their mantra

Worst is when they do the deed and ghost you, cos you never know why....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it bizarre the people who can just shag without an attraction. I need a little spice to light that initial fire.. whether it continues to burn or not is a different story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If there's not mutual attraction isn't someone being used?

Yes, some are pure users

They could just be using each other?"

Well that sounds appealing

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

"For me yes

For many No. "Any hole is a goal" is their mantra

Worst is when they do the deed and ghost you, cos you never know why...."

That's usually because they've had the hole and move on to the next conquest/notch on the bedpost!

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"For me yes

For many No. "Any hole is a goal" is their mantra

Worst is when they do the deed and ghost you, cos you never know why....

That's usually because they've had the hole and move on to the next conquest/notch on the bedpost!"

I wouldn't do this to you

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"If there's not mutual attraction isn't someone being used?

Yes, some are pure users

They could just be using each other?

Well that sounds appealing "

It is for some.

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