FabSwingers.com forum: Where am I going wrong???

By *ohnnyMcWeez OP Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

Evening Fabbers, I just wanted to pick your collective brains.

I believe that I'm a good person, not the best looking guy on the planet I admit but ultimately respectful and decent.

So why is it so bloody difficult to meet women/couples?

I don't send pictures of my cock, I'm not vulgar and I don't dive into messaging about sex.

So where am I going wrong, any advice would be appreciated ??

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

See the other 7357 threads on the same topic.

Try a club.

Meet men.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

You say you just want to fuck. Does that mean any holes a goal?

Try getting out in the scene instead of just relying on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ultimately it boils down to numbers. There’s 372583 men for every 1 woman.

You’ve gotta have a whole lot of things about your profile being on point, as nearly every woman here will check that before deciding whether to reply to your message or not.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Hi OP

As I would say to anyone who asks the same thing on here… there are many… your profile is your shop window. I cannot give you advice on it as you’ve not asked for that but would you reply to you?

Does it describe what you can offer someone and what you’re looking for?

I personally always look at the profile before even looking at the message, a lot do.

Browse the forums, take the advice on board and see how you go. Best of luck

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

your a man there are zillions of men on here thats your number one problem..

swinging is a lifestyle scene its not a anybody fuck anybody do anything sex on a plate scene

sexual attraction and other stuff is important simply being a good man means nothing theres no room for entitled people on this scene

if i was a man i would 100% go to a club and learn what swinging is and how its different to each and every person ... clubs are a great way for men to get on the ladder of knowing people unless you act the dick then its game over ...

## do not private mail me keep it to the forums ##

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

Evening OP I won't look at your profile as you didn't ask for profile advice.

1 thing I will say is please don't speak ill of yourself to others you teach others how to view and treat you by saying "I know I'm not the best looking".

If you have had previous relationships then you are clearly capable of attracting women that will be attracted to you.

As a lady on here said go out in the scene do not rely on here.

I have been stood upon more than one occasion I'm not just interested in muscly and neither do beards float my boat but lots of men have big beards and lots of women like or even love beards.

My point is people have preferences some slim men only want BBW women but I have had more genuine experiences and chats from those I have met at swingers parties.

The site is not entirely ideal for meets so don't rely on it too much

best of luck at your swinging parties

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

oh i forgot these forums are tiny tiny part of fab 1 or 2% very small so dont imagine the scene to be the same as the forums they are not ... ask for advice and you'll get the same boring profile all those have that asked before you ....

only you know you only you know what you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People meet people they’re attracted to

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

If what you are currently doing isn't working then try something else.

Marc

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

It could be because your bio just isn't and doesn't read well.

I mean the bit about you being 12 when losing ya v plates really is unsettling and a huge red flag. Try having a browse at more successful profiles mines not perfect but I think it reads well and sells me to whom I'm looking to meet. The any holes a goal approach just isn't attractive to anyone and as stated single guys are in abundance here you gotta stand out

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

"It could be because your bio just isn't and doesn't read well.

and also don't go stealing others bios. Others like me work hard on keeping it fresh and new

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Evening Fabbers, I just wanted to pick your collective brains.

I believe that I'm a good person, not the best looking guy on the planet I admit but ultimately respectful and decent.

So why is it so bloody difficult to meet women/couples?

I don't send pictures of my cock, I'm not vulgar and I don't dive into messaging about sex.

So where am I going wrong, any advice would be appreciated ??"

Are you asking for people to comment on your profile?

Perhaps there is one particular thing putting people off.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

It’s down to 1 thing….attraction. Doesn’t matter how kind or genuine you are, those should be a given.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By seeing your updated status it screams that you just want to get your cock wet…… each to their own and all that but good luck

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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago

the land of tall tales and yarn

"Hi OP

As I would say to anyone who asks the same thing on here… there are many… your profile is your shop window. I cannot give you advice on it as you’ve not asked for that but would you reply to you?

Does it describe what you can offer someone and what you’re looking for?

I personally always look at the profile before even looking at the message, a lot do.

Browse the forums, take the advice on board and see how you go. Best of luck

This

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"By seeing your updated status it screams that you just want to get your cock wet…… each to their own and all that but good luck

Didn’t see that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"By seeing your updated status it screams that you just want to get your cock wet…… each to their own and all that but good luck

Didn’t see that

Note to self …… always check status update

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You aren’t doing anything wrong. For a woman being on Fab is like shooting fish in a barrel. For a guy, it’s like being a fish in a barrel, with hundreds of other barrels full of fish and all the fish trying to get the attention of one fisherlady. To make things worse, sometimes the fisherlady is actually one of the fish - pretending to be a fisherlady. The odds are stacked against guys my friend, so don’t take it personally.

In terms of your profile, take the line out about you not being the best looking person, that is just rubbish. Everyone has different tastes. I think I am gorgeous, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so thank God I have got a personality, sense of humour and a tongue like an electric eel.

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