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By *ot_Guy999 OP   Man
over a year ago

Close by...

I often see this stated on profiles as a necessity...

What level of intellect does your perfect meet require?

Just about has the ability to say hi or are you looking for those academic profs?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Only 12th level intellects for me please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone I can share discourse on quantum mechanics.

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place

I base more on the there are shared interests, attraction etc

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By *ot_Guy999 OP   Man
over a year ago

Close by...


"Only 12th level intellects for me please "

Haha haven't heard that reference in a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s yet another preference to filter down us chaps

Is it necessary to state on a profile I can not say as it’s every individuals prerogative I guess, HOWEVER, I doubt any intelligence can be quantified without some sort of IQ test so that’ll make for an interesting first meet

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It depends on how the person wears the title.

Some people looking for a sapiosexual partner simply mean someone of high intelligence. I'm guessing that MENSA level or higher would suit.

Other people use it for non sexual or non gender relationships e.g. sapiosexuals flirt verbally and textually through sharing thought rather than physical intimacy. This can negate the need to be gender specific when choosing partners as they are to all intents and purposes fucking each other mentally.

In my book it's misused and is something of a fetish .... It's no biggie.

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By *espacito56Man
over a year ago

Orkney

Bright enough to give informed consent

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

[Removed by poster at 06/09/23 16:20:35]

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

I like intelligence, I find it attractive but not in a sexual way. I like people who use their intelligence to inform themselves.

For a fab meet I just like people we can chat to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intellect isn't that important but they need to have at least the ability to communicate. If they are just pretty with nothing to say, not for me.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I see this from time to time, but not really as a 'necessity' in the sense that you need to be looking for the same too. Nor tbh all that 'pushy' it terms of how stimulating you need to be.

It's just saying what it is usually, I think. Sapiosexuals are primarily aroused by intellectual stimulation - but the quality of that would rest with them surely.

pt

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

My perfect meet just has to appeal to me sexually and have enough social nouse to consider others , have fun and be safe.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

It's always funny when people using the word think it makes them intelligent.

You can be as thick as pigshit and be sapiosexual

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone


"Bright enough to give informed consent"

Gillick Principles and Fraser Guidelines...

Important I guess given context of FabSwingers...

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I demand nothing less than genius level!

….or failing that, at least the presence of a discernible pulse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I demand nothing less than genius level!

….or failing that, at least the presence of a discernible pulse."

What about opposable thumbs, that always seems important to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Though I am only the holder of a bachelors degree, I expect ask my partners to have at least attempted a PHD. Or else what will we talk about?

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…


"I demand nothing less than genius level!

….or failing that, at least the presence of a discernible pulse.

What about opposable thumbs, that always seems important to me "

Thumbs indeed have their uses….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Though I am only the holder of a bachelors degree, I expect ask my partners to have at least attempted a PHD. Or else what will we talk about?"

Now Mr Pickle, I have always assumed that on a meet you will talk continuously (no idea why I assumed this, think maybe the number of threads you start) and so like me the partner may never get a look in, and consequently your partner need not display the lack of a Phd, since, even a fool is considered wise if (s)he keeps silent

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I try my level best to avoid those profiles. Those who are truly sapiosexual don't need to state that they're sapiosexual on their profile. It's a 'hook' term.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Though I am only the holder of a bachelors degree, I expect ask my partners to have at least attempted a PHD. Or else what will we talk about?

Now Mr Pickle, I have always assumed that on a meet you will talk continuously (no idea why I assumed this, think maybe the number of threads you start) and so like me the partner may never get a look in, and consequently your partner need not display the lack of a Phd, since, even a fool is considered wise if (s)he keeps silent"

No PHD place, no Pickle.

You’re obviously completely wrong about me. I’m an excellent, attentive and inquisitive date. I mostly actually like the people I’m dating though.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Though I am only the holder of a bachelors degree, I expect ask my partners to have at least attempted a PHD. Or else what will we talk about?"

Bachelor? I thought you had a girlfriend

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Sapiosexual the most commonly read word on fab, intelligence sometimes the least practiced thing....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

The power of words. Ably demonstrated on fab

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Though I am only the holder of a bachelors degree, I expect ask my partners to have at least attempted a PHD. Or else what will we talk about?"

PhD in what though? I'm highly intelligent in my field of expertise, absolute Muppet when it comes to physics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Though I am only the holder of a bachelors degree, I expect ask my partners to have at least attempted a PHD. Or else what will we talk about?

Bachelor? I thought you had a girlfriend "

no. I have a fiancé. No girlfriends anymore. They all broke up with me

Wanna be one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Though I am only the holder of a bachelors degree, I expect ask my partners to have at least attempted a PHD. Or else what will we talk about?

PhD in what though? I'm highly intelligent in my field of expertise, absolute Muppet when it comes to physics "

Are you any good at biology?

PHD in anything. Except economics. I hate economics students.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Anyways to answer the OP, I'm not sexually attracted to intelligence. I've yet to come across anyone I thought phwor the brains on them. But I do find intelligence to be important for the maintenance of a relationship. But intelligence to me will vary to what someone else's definition of intelligence is.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I thought it had something to do with arborial eroticism.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Though I am only the holder of a bachelors degree, I expect ask my partners to have at least attempted a PHD. Or else what will we talk about?

Bachelor? I thought you had a girlfriend "

Bachelor degree is another name for undergraduate degree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyways to answer the OP, I'm not sexually attracted to intelligence. I've yet to come across anyone I thought phwor the brains on them. But I do find intelligence to be important for the maintenance of a relationship. But intelligence to me will vary to what someone else's definition of intelligence is. "

What are you sexually attracted to then?

*gets notebook out*

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By *un-n-frolicsMan
over a year ago

London


"I try my level best to avoid those profiles. Those who are truly sapiosexual don't need to state that they're sapiosexual on their profile. It's a 'hook' term."

I hear you. (But if they’re particularly hot I can ignore it.)

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)


"I try my level best to avoid those profiles. Those who are truly sapiosexual don't need to state that they're sapiosexual on their profile. It's a 'hook' term."

Absolutely. It is grossly simplistic - ignoring questions about what is intelligence, how are various types of intelligence expressed or assessed, who is qualified to make those decisions blah blah - and is just be a term of egotistical onanism by the user.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They need to say "Hi, wanna fuck" in at least 7 languages.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Suspect, only sapiosexual people will know.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think there’s much more descriptive, creative & inclusive ways to state this preference.

It’s almost like those who use it are infect not intelligent - if they were why not articulate what they want a little betterer

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I think it's just another trendy term in all honesty.

And that's fine. Maybe they mean they like engaging conversation? Maybe they are genuinely turned on by intelligence and value it over looks.

It's an admittedly dull descriptor and sometimes I do find myself thinking 'are you?' but fuck it. It goes along with using authentic, nice people etc etc.

They're not saying they're intelligent - they could be as thick as pig's poo and still get a stiffy/wide on when they see displays of intelligence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to think that particular’ want’ would be an advantage. How naïve!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

Is sapiosexual to be added to the 'list' along with 'professional'?

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"I try my level best to avoid those profiles. Those who are truly sapiosexual don't need to state that they're sapiosexual on their profile. It's a 'hook' term.

·

I hear you. (But if they’re particularly hot I can ignore it.)"

I see your point but I just can't bring myself to having sex with a good looking dullard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can crack the code on my profile, whatever level that is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ones that list sapiosexual usually just like to belittle and play mind games while trying to proving themselves.

Not all the time. But most of the time.

Just my tuppence opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's just another trendy term in all honesty.

And that's fine. Maybe they mean they like engaging conversation? Maybe they are genuinely turned on by intelligence and value it over looks.

It's an admittedly dull descriptor and sometimes I do find myself thinking 'are you?' but fuck it. It goes along with using authentic, nice people etc etc.

They're not saying they're intelligent - they could be as thick as pig's poo and still get a stiffy/wide on when they see displays of intelligence.

"

Don't see a lot of people here getting horny about displays of intelligence to be fair. Usually a baser reason

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I try my level best to avoid those profiles. Those who are truly sapiosexual don't need to state that they're sapiosexual on their profile. It's a 'hook' term.

·

I hear you. (But if they’re particularly hot I can ignore it.)

I see your point but I just can't bring myself to having sex with a good looking dullard.

"

Anyone who actually falls for your constant conflation of delightfulness and intelligence is helplessly pandering to your fetish for coquettish naivety.

Or maybe its all in the shoes.

pt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fancy myself as demi-sexual. Sapiosexual is so 2019

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I find intelligence incredibly sexy.

Yet it's a term I avoid due to the connotations.

Academic success is related to but not the same thing as far as I am concerned. I'm pretty smart, but I've known a few people way above my intellect. Like Maths gods. Who where complete idiots in so many other ways. I definitely have my doofus moments too.

The ability to take the complex, process it, understand it apply it. To hold multiple views simultaneously. To craft language to express nuanced emotion. To create a simple meal with a finesse that elevates it and makes you

To spontaneously make a joke that peels off in layers of belly laughter. And you are elated with that omg that's so true!

These are all forms of intelligence, in my eyes and all can turn me on.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"I think it's just another trendy term in all honesty.

And that's fine. Maybe they mean they like engaging conversation? Maybe they are genuinely turned on by intelligence and value it over looks.

It's an admittedly dull descriptor and sometimes I do find myself thinking 'are you?' but fuck it. It goes along with using authentic, nice people etc etc.

They're not saying they're intelligent - they could be as thick as pig's poo and still get a stiffy/wide on when they see displays of intelligence.

"

There's a very strong likelihood that a self advertised sapiosexual is thick as mince.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Seriously though, the actual *level* of knowledge or intellect actually has fuck all to do with it. Of course that will vary.

And sapiosexual *is* a thing.

If people find it somehow pretentious, threatening or just plain awkward - I doubt it was intended to be, and surely it's easy enough to move on.

There is no harm in inquiring if you are curious too. Profiles are partly reference points after all.

pt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sapiosexual is a very personal thing. I clad myself as one, but I don’t require a partner to have a degree before I meet them, just that they can engage in substantive, meaningful conversation about things other than sex. Politics, current affairs, literature etc. And preferably avoid text speak or bad grammar

To some it may be an ‘Ick’ or a red flag but that’s ok - horses for courses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Avoid avoid avoid. Just strikes me as not my kind of person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sapiosexual is a very personal thing. I clad myself as one, but I don’t require a partner to have a degree before I meet them, just that they can engage in substantive, meaningful conversation about things other than sex. Politics, current affairs, literature etc. And preferably avoid text speak or bad grammar

To some it may be an ‘Ick’ or a red flag but that’s ok - horses for courses. "

Exactly this!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is sapiosexual to be added to the 'list' along with 'professional'? "

Yep!

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"Someone I can share discourse on quantum mechanics."

And I'm out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sapiosexual is a very personal thing. I clad myself as one, but I don’t require a partner to have a degree before I meet them, just that they can engage in substantive, meaningful conversation about things other than sex. Politics, current affairs, literature etc. And preferably avoid text speak or bad grammar

To some it may be an ‘Ick’ or a red flag but that’s ok - horses for courses. "

I think most people here would run from that as you've acknowledged. But not all of us want meaningless bonks.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I was going to say I use it to mean anyone more intelligent than me...but realised that that doesn't really narrow it down...

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

This site is so unwelcoming sometimes it really is. If you're not interested in a profile, why can't it be just that - a zero interest profile? It doesn't have to be a red flag or anything daft like that. How does that feel to people reading this stuff (ie the majority of people who will never want to post here).

Sexuality in terms of representation has exploded in recent years. It is FAR from a binary thing, whatever the majority traits are. I think we'll reach extinction before people get to grips with it honestly I do. It's like there is no interest in understanding it.

pt

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By *ot_Guy999 OP   Man
over a year ago

Close by...

I only left you all for 3 hours and it feels like we've opened a can of worms here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This site is so unwelcoming sometimes it really is. If you're not interested in a profile, why can't it be just that - a zero interest profile? It doesn't have to be a red flag or anything daft like that. How does that feel to people reading this stuff (ie the majority of people who will never want to post here).

Sexuality in terms of representation has exploded in recent years. It is FAR from a binary thing, whatever the majority traits are. I think we'll reach extinction before people get to grips with it honestly I do. It's like there is no interest in understanding it.

pt"

Don't understand your issue. No interest in understanding what? It's a word. It sounds a bit pretentious. So what?

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By *etWetWet453Couple
over a year ago

CAMBERLEY

Does an `ology count?

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I actually forgot that I have it on my profile at one point (I don't lead with it). I explain my own definition of it, but it's pretty much around the norm.

It's got nothing to do with size of knowledge or the amount of intelligence, I'm attracted to how people think before how they look. I can lose attraction to otherwise attractive people without this.

I know there are some people who have this sexual trait a LOT more that I do (some might only be attracted to the mind - and it's a true and leading sexuality to them no doubt), sometimes they have certain other traits too. It's all out there.

pt

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By *ot_Guy999 OP   Man
over a year ago

Close by...


"Does an `ology count?"

Depends on the letters before haha

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"This site is so unwelcoming sometimes it really is. If you're not interested in a profile, why can't it be just that - a zero interest profile? It doesn't have to be a red flag or anything daft like that. How does that feel to people reading this stuff (ie the majority of people who will never want to post here).

Sexuality in terms of representation has exploded in recent years. It is FAR from a binary thing, whatever the majority traits are. I think we'll reach extinction before people get to grips with it honestly I do. It's like there is no interest in understanding it.

pt

Don't understand your issue. No interest in understanding what? It's a word. It sounds a bit pretentious. So what?

"

I'm partly taking up the general view here of what a lot of people generally think perhaps..

I'm just saying it's a genuine sexuality to many people (who could be reading), not actually 'just a word'. And it does seem that understanding things often matters least to me sometimes, which is why I get so negative about things in general sometimes.

pt

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Is sapiosexual to be added to the 'list' along with 'professional'?

Yep!"

Good to know.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"They need to say "Hi, wanna fuck" in at least 7 languages. "

Hola, quisieras coger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This site is so unwelcoming sometimes it really is. If you're not interested in a profile, why can't it be just that - a zero interest profile? It doesn't have to be a red flag or anything daft like that. How does that feel to people reading this stuff (ie the majority of people who will never want to post here).

Sexuality in terms of representation has exploded in recent years. It is FAR from a binary thing, whatever the majority traits are. I think we'll reach extinction before people get to grips with it honestly I do. It's like there is no interest in understanding it.

pt

Don't understand your issue. No interest in understanding what? It's a word. It sounds a bit pretentious. So what?

I'm partly taking up the general view here of what a lot of people generally think perhaps..

I'm just saying it's a genuine sexuality to many people (who could be reading), not actually 'just a word'. And it does seem that understanding things often matters least to me sometimes, which is why I get so negative about things in general sometimes.

pt"

It's your choice to react as you do. And fwiw I don't think people have an issue with needing to be attracted to someone's mind - the word Sapiosexual is somewhat pretentious and not all of us need to label our sexuality in that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They need to say "Hi, wanna fuck" in at least 7 languages.

Hola, quisieras coger? "

Ooh, fancy

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By *ualityNotQuantityUKCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

I consider it more as a brag by the poster, who considers themselves intellectually above the majority of the population and feel the need to point it out. Don't get me wrong, we all have our own level and preferences, I for one dislike "text speak " , but I don't have to brag about it. I can filter them out without condescending everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess anyone replying on here can string a few words together so pass the basic test

If you can answer a simple question with any degree of grammatical success then you pass grade 2

If you know their from there - grade 3

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"This site is so unwelcoming sometimes it really is. If you're not interested in a profile, why can't it be just that - a zero interest profile? It doesn't have to be a red flag or anything daft like that. How does that feel to people reading this stuff (ie the majority of people who will never want to post here).

Sexuality in terms of representation has exploded in recent years. It is FAR from a binary thing, whatever the majority traits are. I think we'll reach extinction before people get to grips with it honestly I do. It's like there is no interest in understanding it.

pt

Don't understand your issue. No interest in understanding what? It's a word. It sounds a bit pretentious. So what?

I'm partly taking up the general view here of what a lot of people generally think perhaps..

I'm just saying it's a genuine sexuality to many people (who could be reading), not actually 'just a word'. And it does seem that understanding things often matters least to me sometimes, which is why I get so negative about things in general sometimes.

pt

It's your choice to react as you do. And fwiw I don't think people have an issue with needing to be attracted to someone's mind - the word Sapiosexual is somewhat pretentious and not all of us need to label our sexuality in that way.

"

-Most of these type of terms sound like this, so what can you do? Blame the Greeks. I don't see why this has to be inherently pretentious in any way. It could only be pretentious per example in my view.

Sapiosexuality involves having to go that route all the time - to the point where the mind is the only sexual attraction that some sapiosexuals have. That's *why* it has the type of name it has. It's not just a fancy way of saying you find intelligence sexy! A lot of people feel like that!

There are plenty of forum and groups (even dating sites) for people with this type of sexuality of course, but they are entitled to be on Fab too without any kind of criticism hanging over them.

Obviously nobody is asking anyone to use a term that doesn't properly apply to them (or even forcing anything at all). To me it just sounds like people with some similarities are needlessly worrying the term is being pushed on them, or that people are somehow lording over them - or being pretentious or whatever - but modern life seems full of such needless worries to me. To some people the term simply applies.

pt

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I consider it more as a brag by the poster, who considers themselves intellectually above the majority of the population and feel the need to point it out. Don't get me wrong, we all have our own level and preferences, I for one dislike "text speak " , but I don't have to brag about it. I can filter them out without condescending everyone.

"

Honestly, it's not a brag it's just a thing. Pass by if it doesn't attract you yourself.

pt

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I prefer worldly knowledge gained from life experiences, working, and adventures rather than academically knowledge.

I once dated (briefly) an Actuary, and I was well out of my depth

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I prefer worldly knowledge gained from life experiences, working, and adventures rather than academically knowledge.

I once dated (briefly) an Actuary, and I was well out of my depth

"

As long as people know that sapiosexuality doesn't have to have anything to do with academic knowledge. Nor do sapiosexuals actually have to be particularly intelligent or even looking for the same!

pt

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I think it's just another trendy term in all honesty.

And that's fine. Maybe they mean they like engaging conversation? Maybe they are genuinely turned on by intelligence and value it over looks.

It's an admittedly dull descriptor and sometimes I do find myself thinking 'are you?' but fuck it. It goes along with using authentic, nice people etc etc.

They're not saying they're intelligent - they could be as thick as pig's poo and still get a stiffy/wide on when they see displays of intelligence.

There's a very strong likelihood that a self advertised sapiosexual is thick as mince."

Why?

Even if they are they can still be sapiosexual. It’s being attracted to intelligence, not being intelligent yourself.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"This site is so unwelcoming sometimes it really is. If you're not interested in a profile, why can't it be just that - a zero interest profile? It doesn't have to be a red flag or anything daft like that. How does that feel to people reading this stuff (ie the majority of people who will never want to post here).

Sexuality in terms of representation has exploded in recent years. It is FAR from a binary thing, whatever the majority traits are. I think we'll reach extinction before people get to grips with it honestly I do. It's like there is no interest in understanding it.

pt

Don't understand your issue. No interest in understanding what? It's a word. It sounds a bit pretentious. So what?

I'm partly taking up the general view here of what a lot of people generally think perhaps..

I'm just saying it's a genuine sexuality to many people (who could be reading), not actually 'just a word'. And it does seem that understanding things often matters least to me sometimes, which is why I get so negative about things in general sometimes.

pt

It's your choice to react as you do. And fwiw I don't think people have an issue with needing to be attracted to someone's mind - the word Sapiosexual is somewhat pretentious and not all of us need to label our sexuality in that way.

-Most of these type of terms sound like this, so what can you do? Blame the Greeks. I don't see why this has to be inherently pretentious in any way. It could only be pretentious per example in my view.

Sapiosexuality involves having to go that route all the time - to the point where the mind is the only sexual attraction that some sapiosexuals have. That's *why* it has the type of name it has. It's not just a fancy way of saying you find intelligence sexy! A lot of people feel like that!

There are plenty of forum and groups (even dating sites) for people with this type of sexuality of course, but they are entitled to be on Fab too without any kind of criticism hanging over them.

Obviously nobody is asking anyone to use a term that doesn't properly apply to them (or even forcing anything at all). To me it just sounds like people with some similarities are needlessly worrying the term is being pushed on them, or that people are somehow lording over them - or being pretentious or whatever - but modern life seems full of such needless worries to me. To some people the term simply applies.

pt"

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Brain boinkers eh

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"This site is so unwelcoming sometimes it really is. If you're not interested in a profile, why can't it be just that - a zero interest profile? It doesn't have to be a red flag or anything daft like that. How does that feel to people reading this stuff (ie the majority of people who will never want to post here).

Sexuality in terms of representation has exploded in recent years. It is FAR from a binary thing, whatever the majority traits are. I think we'll reach extinction before people get to grips with it honestly I do. It's like there is no interest in understanding it.

pt

Don't understand your issue. No interest in understanding what? It's a word. It sounds a bit pretentious. So what?

I'm partly taking up the general view here of what a lot of people generally think perhaps..

I'm just saying it's a genuine sexuality to many people (who could be reading), not actually 'just a word'. And it does seem that understanding things often matters least to me sometimes, which is why I get so negative about things in general sometimes.

pt

It's your choice to react as you do. And fwiw I don't think people have an issue with needing to be attracted to someone's mind - the word Sapiosexual is somewhat pretentious and not all of us need to label our sexuality in that way.

-Most of these type of terms sound like this, so what can you do? Blame the Greeks. I don't see why this has to be inherently pretentious in any way. It could only be pretentious per example in my view.

Sapiosexuality involves having to go that route all the time - to the point where the mind is the only sexual attraction that some sapiosexuals have. That's *why* it has the type of name it has. It's not just a fancy way of saying you find intelligence sexy! A lot of people feel like that!

There are plenty of forum and groups (even dating sites) for people with this type of sexuality of course, but they are entitled to be on Fab too without any kind of criticism hanging over them.

Obviously nobody is asking anyone to use a term that doesn't properly apply to them (or even forcing anything at all). To me it just sounds like people with some similarities are needlessly worrying the term is being pushed on them, or that people are somehow lording over them - or being pretentious or whatever - but modern life seems full of such needless worries to me. To some people the term simply applies.

pt"

What an illuminating read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This site is so unwelcoming sometimes it really is. If you're not interested in a profile, why can't it be just that - a zero interest profile? It doesn't have to be a red flag or anything daft like that. How does that feel to people reading this stuff (ie the majority of people who will never want to post here).

Sexuality in terms of representation has exploded in recent years. It is FAR from a binary thing, whatever the majority traits are. I think we'll reach extinction before people get to grips with it honestly I do. It's like there is no interest in understanding it.

pt

Don't understand your issue. No interest in understanding what? It's a word. It sounds a bit pretentious. So what?

I'm partly taking up the general view here of what a lot of people generally think perhaps..

I'm just saying it's a genuine sexuality to many people (who could be reading), not actually 'just a word'. And it does seem that understanding things often matters least to me sometimes, which is why I get so negative about things in general sometimes.

pt

It's your choice to react as you do. And fwiw I don't think people have an issue with needing to be attracted to someone's mind - the word Sapiosexual is somewhat pretentious and not all of us need to label our sexuality in that way.

-Most of these type of terms sound like this, so what can you do? Blame the Greeks. I don't see why this has to be inherently pretentious in any way. It could only be pretentious per example in my view.

Sapiosexuality involves having to go that route all the time - to the point where the mind is the only sexual attraction that some sapiosexuals have. That's *why* it has the type of name it has. It's not just a fancy way of saying you find intelligence sexy! A lot of people feel like that!

There are plenty of forum and groups (even dating sites) for people with this type of sexuality of course, but they are entitled to be on Fab too without any kind of criticism hanging over them.

Obviously nobody is asking anyone to use a term that doesn't properly apply to them (or even forcing anything at all). To me it just sounds like people with some similarities are needlessly worrying the term is being pushed on them, or that people are somehow lording over them - or being pretentious or whatever - but modern life seems full of such needless worries to me. To some people the term simply applies.

pt"

You're making it seem more pretentious. And no, I don't think anyone on the thread is worried about the term being pushed on to them. That's a bit esoteric for Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting thread, I would never use the term as I wouldnt be sure I was using it correctly, but I reckon it is me! I love clever people, but clever in ways I think are clever, mostly to do with books and the knowledge gotten from books, rather than "doing maths'clever. I can sit there doe eyed at their feet and listen to them drone on about clever things. Even if they looked like hulk in his green form I reckon I could still be interested. Brain fucker indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it just a variation on fancying your teacher?

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"Is it just a variation on fancying your teacher? "

Only if it's your physics teacher.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"This site is so unwelcoming sometimes it really is. If you're not interested in a profile, why can't it be just that - a zero interest profile? It doesn't have to be a red flag or anything daft like that. How does that feel to people reading this stuff (ie the majority of people who will never want to post here).

Sexuality in terms of representation has exploded in recent years. It is FAR from a binary thing, whatever the majority traits are. I think we'll reach extinction before people get to grips with it honestly I do. It's like there is no interest in understanding it.

pt

Don't understand your issue. No interest in understanding what? It's a word. It sounds a bit pretentious. So what?

I'm partly taking up the general view here of what a lot of people generally think perhaps..

I'm just saying it's a genuine sexuality to many people (who could be reading), not actually 'just a word'. And it does seem that understanding things often matters least to me sometimes, which is why I get so negative about things in general sometimes.

pt

It's your choice to react as you do. And fwiw I don't think people have an issue with needing to be attracted to someone's mind - the word Sapiosexual is somewhat pretentious and not all of us need to label our sexuality in that way.

-Most of these type of terms sound like this, so what can you do? Blame the Greeks. I don't see why this has to be inherently pretentious in any way. It could only be pretentious per example in my view.

Sapiosexuality involves having to go that route all the time - to the point where the mind is the only sexual attraction that some sapiosexuals have. That's *why* it has the type of name it has. It's not just a fancy way of saying you find intelligence sexy! A lot of people feel like that!

There are plenty of forum and groups (even dating sites) for people with this type of sexuality of course, but they are entitled to be on Fab too without any kind of criticism hanging over them.

Obviously nobody is asking anyone to use a term that doesn't properly apply to them (or even forcing anything at all). To me it just sounds like people with some similarities are needlessly worrying the term is being pushed on them, or that people are somehow lording over them - or being pretentious or whatever - but modern life seems full of such needless worries to me. To some people the term simply applies.

pt

You're making it seem more pretentious. And no, I don't think anyone on the thread is worried about the term being pushed on to them. That's a bit esoteric for Fab.

"

Well you used a Greek word so I assume we're having fun now. Cue more Greek words maybe.

pt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just a variation on fancying your teacher?

Only if it's your physics teacher."

Which are the ones with the sandals? Maths?

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Interesting thread, I would never use the term as I wouldnt be sure I was using it correctly, but I reckon it is me! I love clever people, but clever in ways I think are clever, mostly to do with books and the knowledge gotten from books, rather than "doing maths'clever. I can sit there doe eyed at their feet and listen to them drone on about clever things. Even if they looked like hulk in his green form I reckon I could still be interested. Brain fucker indeed. "

Maybe you are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just a variation on fancying your teacher?

Only if it's your physics teacher.

Which are the ones with the sandals? Maths? "

Just remembered my primary maths teacher turned out to be a nonce.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Is it just a variation on fancying your teacher?

Only if it's your physics teacher.

Which are the ones with the sandals? Maths?

"

The Classics. pt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just a variation on fancying your teacher?

Only if it's your physics teacher.

Which are the ones with the sandals? Maths? "

Sandals and a ty jacket will be geography

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just a variation on fancying your teacher?

Only if it's your physics teacher.

Which are the ones with the sandals? Maths?

Sandals and a ty jacket will be geography "

I cant get twEed

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Is it just a variation on fancying your teacher?

Only if it's your physics teacher.

Which are the ones with the sandals? Maths?

Just remembered my primary maths teacher turned out to be a nonce.

"

Surely you mean.. actually never mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sapiophobic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just a variation on fancying your teacher?

Only if it's your physics teacher.

Which are the ones with the sandals? Maths?

Sandals and a ty jacket will be geography "

With the leather patches?

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Corduroy must be History and Philosophy then. Sandals making it Ancient History and Aristotle etc.

I like this thread now.

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

It means "needs direct sunlight(centre stage) and regular watering(applause/confirmation)"

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"Is it just a variation on fancying your teacher?

Only if it's your physics teacher.

Which are the ones with the sandals? Maths? "

I think that's Geography? Maths is the chalk dust all over their jacket?

This may be purely anecdotal. I am just remembering my Physics teachers legs and when we had argument in class and she slapped me.

I'd took the piss on some homework she set: Ideas for new renewable energy resources. She said if everyone thought like you we would never have made it out of the caves.

I said: If we never made it out of the caves we wouldn't have this energy crisis.

I guess she wasn't sapiosexual?

There's no accounting for taste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Corduroy must be History and Philosophy then. Sandals making it Ancient History and Aristotle etc.

I like this thread now. "

I felt my heart tug following a lecturer that was carrying a certain bag I find irresistable. I couldnt work out his subject but it must have been something earthy and meaningful. I dont even need your intellect, just your chattels

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Corduroy must be History and Philosophy then. Sandals making it Ancient History and Aristotle etc.

I like this thread now.

I felt my heart tug following a lecturer that was carrying a certain bag I find irresistable. I couldnt work out his subject but it must have been something earthy and meaningful. I dont even need your intellect, just your chattels

"

A woman who finds a satchel attractive? On Fab? I can can scarcely believe it!

pt

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

For me it’s about stimulating me mentally without being lewd or crude. It’s about teasing each other with words and building up a scenario, tantalising and building up the anticipation of what’s to come.

It’s not about intelligence, it’s about how creative you can be with words, using your imagination to build the tension until you actually meet and then put it into action.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"For me it’s about stimulating me mentally without being lewd or crude. It’s about teasing each other with words and building up a scenario, tantalising and building up the anticipation of what’s to come.

It’s not about intelligence, it’s about how creative you can be with words, using your imagination to build the tension until you actually meet and then put it into action.

"

All that is actually intelligence.

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By *ot_Guy999 OP   Man
over a year ago

Close by...


"For me it’s about stimulating me mentally without being lewd or crude. It’s about teasing each other with words and building up a scenario, tantalising and building up the anticipation of what’s to come.

It’s not about intelligence, it’s about how creative you can be with words, using your imagination to build the tension until you actually meet and then put it into action.

All that is actually intelligence."

Or is it charisma? And people mistake themselves as lusting for intelligence as infact lusting for someone who has a way with words?

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"For me it’s about stimulating me mentally without being lewd or crude. It’s about teasing each other with words and building up a scenario, tantalising and building up the anticipation of what’s to come.

It’s not about intelligence, it’s about how creative you can be with words, using your imagination to build the tension until you actually meet and then put it into action.

All that is actually intelligence.

Or is it charisma? And people mistake themselves as lusting for intelligence as infact lusting for someone who has a way with words?

"

Of course it's intelligence. As are my posts. Even if no one reads the fucking things. pt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it’s about stimulating me mentally without being lewd or crude. It’s about teasing each other with words and building up a scenario, tantalising and building up the anticipation of what’s to come.

It’s not about intelligence, it’s about how creative you can be with words, using your imagination to build the tension until you actually meet and then put it into action.

All that is actually intelligence.

Or is it charisma? And people mistake themselves as lusting for intelligence as infact lusting for someone who has a way with words?"

Having a way with words surely requires intelligence?

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Their build needs to have at least thirteen points in intelligence

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it’s about stimulating me mentally without being lewd or crude. It’s about teasing each other with words and building up a scenario, tantalising and building up the anticipation of what’s to come.

It’s not about intelligence, it’s about how creative you can be with words, using your imagination to build the tension until you actually meet and then put it into action.

All that is actually intelligence.

Or is it charisma? And people mistake themselves as lusting for intelligence as infact lusting for someone who has a way with words?

Of course it's intelligence. As are my posts. Even if no one reads the fucking things. pt"

Swearing is a sign of intelligence too.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"For me it’s about stimulating me mentally without being lewd or crude. It’s about teasing each other with words and building up a scenario, tantalising and building up the anticipation of what’s to come.

It’s not about intelligence, it’s about how creative you can be with words, using your imagination to build the tension until you actually meet and then put it into action.

All that is actually intelligence.

Or is it charisma? And people mistake themselves as lusting for intelligence as infact lusting for someone who has a way with words?

Of course it's intelligence. As are my posts. Even if no one reads the fucking things. pt

Swearing is a sign of intelligence too.

"

Thank you, I think I even agree. I have days on here where I'd love to answer half the posts I see in pure invective lol. Secretly I know some words even nicecouple might frown upon pt

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