FabSwingers.com forum: Switching it up...

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

Sexuality or kink. Predilections. Whatever you want to talk about.

So, I've always thought I wasn't really submissive. Far too bratty. I'm definitely still switchy but I've recently had the pleasure of discovering I can be very submissive with the right man; zero brattiness.

So. Have you found any features of your sexuality has changed over time? Are you more confident with age to explore/know what it is you actually enjoy?

Do different people bring different facets of you to the forefront?

Or are you pretty much the same regardless?

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

Absolutely, different strokes for different folks. The dynamic is as individual as the individuals involved. And a change or different partner creates a different dynamic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Started off as sub, explored dom with an ex and then back to sub

Have spoken some women who thought they were sub but discovered a switch side

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I don't know! I'm not sure. Must ponder this one

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

The dynamic is different with every person's chemistry. Though I have definite preferences I tend towards.

I found myself for the first time not being disappointed by winning the power struggle and actually relishing being on top for a while. That was new to me.

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

"Sexuality or kink. Predilections. Whatever you want to talk about.

So. Have you found any features of your sexuality has changed over time? Are you more confident with age to explore/know what it is you actually enjoy?

Do different people bring different facets of you to the forefront?

Or are you pretty much the same regardless? "

Mrs M here, I've found that I am more sexually open now with age. I like to be both Dom and Sub with the right people. I love a woman's body as much as a man too.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Absolutely, different strokes for different folks. The dynamic is as individual as the individuals involved. And a change or different partner creates a different dynamic."

That makes sense. Obviously. Why wouldn't it? :D I think we all respond differently to people.

I think I was pondering it because some of my friends are very much (and this isn't a criticism) "I like Y, G wouldn't do it for me.".

And now I've finished being productive for the day, I was talking to a few people and realised that they all evoke, yeah I'll go with evoke, different responses. On a sexuality level evoking sort of thing.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Well, I'm naturally a people-pleaser so there are two aspects to me sexually. There's what I enjoy/fantasise about myself, and there's what I enjoy because the person I'm with enjoys them.

For example, I have been with submissive women who enjoyed being spanked, called names, etc. And I enjoyed doing that for them because they were clearly enjoying it. But I feel no inherent desire to do those things with women who don't request them.

Equally, I've been with ladies who were more dominant or forceful in their sexualities and I have enjoyed accommodating them too.

I think it's more a question of a spectrum with limits. Someone once asked me to do something quite violent and I said no, because I was not at all comfortable that I could do it safely, and it was also a level of violence that made me feel quite queasy - a little spanking is fine, but I don't find even consensual violence sexy in the least. Equally, there are plenty of things I can imagine a more dominant woman suggesting that would be a hard no. But between those limits...things are negotiable.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Yes iv become a pure wanker il only fuck my hand

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By *panksspankedMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I've been a work in progress for years. Much more open to things than I once was

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I’d describe myself as a chameleon.

I’m essentially the same creature, but I change shade depending on who I’m with.

I’ll never be submissive. That’s been proven. But I vary in shades of dominant to neutral(ish).

Sometimes the absolute filth bag is released. Sometimes a more gentle Misty.

Age has definitely brought the comfort & confidence to be what I am. Love what I am.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I am more aware of the aspects of my sexuality.

A substantial part of that is that I like to explore with a partner. Which is why I prefer regular partners and developing intimacy.

There's sameness and difference because partners are different. So the idea of doing something I've done before with a different partner being 'what I enjoy' is bizarre conceptually for me as my enjoyment is not independent of the partners enjoyment.

Although there are some recurring themes for certain.

What I enjoy the most is a partner who can melt me into mush or have me snarling and growling.

I have become less desirous of anything, which feels like it does not have that potential.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I never say never, I haven't met anyone who I had submissive feelings towards, so dominant is where I'll stay for now on my bdsm journey

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"Well, I'm naturally a people-pleaser so there are two aspects to me sexually. There's what I enjoy/fantasise about myself, and there's what I enjoy because the person I'm with enjoys them.

Equally, I've been with ladies who were more dominant or forceful in their sexualities and I have enjoyed accommodating them too.

Me to a T

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Sexuality or kink. Predilections. Whatever you want to talk about.

So. Have you found any features of your sexuality has changed over time? Are you more confident with age to explore/know what it is you actually enjoy?

Do different people bring different facets of you to the forefront?

Or are you pretty much the same regardless? "

A lot has changed sexually for me over the past 10 years, I'm mor confident in the sex department, I actually enjoy it (I never used to it was a chore) I'm open to experimenting a lot, I mean we don't know what we like until we try it right?!

Previously I wouldn't have tried a lot.

With the Mr it's so much more intense than I've ever experienced which is probably why I'm more open.

I can't say I'm into the sub/Dom stuff but I do enjoy restraining the Mr and doing as I please I guess there's an element of being on control I love which is so unlike me in real life too, I would like to dominate a man but I think that's better in fantasy than reality.

But yeah things have definitely changed over time and people (the Mr) has brought out a whole new side to sex I never thought would be my thing but here I am enjoying it all.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see myself as submissive at all really but as much as I enjoy certain aspects of being in control, I wouldn't say I'm really into control either.

I love reactions and I chase those. I'm naturally a giver and a doer so it can be hard for me to switch that off and relax enough to be on the receiving end but with the right person, I can.

Chemistry and individual dynamics play a big part.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I’ve become more submissive and added a wider range of things I’m keen to experience.

It would feel wrong to switch, like I was misbehaving. Unless it was under someone’s instruction, then that’s different.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

I used to think I was sub but now am far from it! I'm a natural at being Dom. Can't see myself going back

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"The dynamic is different with every person's chemistry. Though I have definite preferences I tend towards.

I found myself for the first time not being disappointed by winning the power struggle and actually relishing being on top for a while. That was new to me."

Do definite preferences include a penis down your throat at some point?

Oh that sounds really good! Are you comfortable with the fact that you relished it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only discovered I was sub in "later life"

so haven't had a lot of time to experiment. I do recognise that my desire to submit is partly dependent on my stress levels. So elements are considerably stronger when life is harder.

What I have learnt from a few interactions is that I am somewhat primal. That may come more to the surface in future. But I've still no desire at all to dominate.

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