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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Tell us couples all about it.

Lots of forum posts of people struggling to meet a woman mainly couples (& guys) so ladies I want to hear it, shout louder for the couples at the back.

Why don't you meet couples?

What puts you off them?

What can they do better?

Give the couples some advice/warning/anything before the next "unicorn

post"

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's scary enough potentially disappointing one person, never mind two!

Really though, it's because I'm not properly Bi so I do always feel that's a barrier.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

I'm ignoring the obvious and blatant lack of inclusion and having my say.

Based upon the fab vote of... I forget when it was, earlier this year? Maybe.

Anyway, the conclusion was that couples are the scum of fab. I now love and die by that poll result.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'm ignoring the obvious and blatant lack of inclusion and having my say.

Based upon the fab vote of... I forget when it was, earlier this year? Maybe.

Anyway, the conclusion was that couples are the scum of fab. I now love and die by that poll result. "

I'm regretting ever doing that post

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

Great topic and questions OP

Watching with interest

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

Finding a single person who will treat me like a full human is difficult enough, finding a pair of them is pretty much impossible

I used to try, I used to meet couples, after some disastrous meets I stoped and now just go to clubs where I’m always safe and my words are heard too

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm going to add as a woman phrases like "hunting unicorns" total turn off.

Fulfill "our" fantasy again total turn off.

Sorry throwing that in there.

Mrs

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"I'm ignoring the obvious and blatant lack of inclusion and having my say.

Based upon the fab vote of... I forget when it was, earlier this year? Maybe.

Anyway, the conclusion was that couples are the scum of fab. I now love and die by that poll result.

I'm regretting ever doing that post

I don't! Clearly!

I always get a kick out of wondering how many couples block me whenever I say or bring it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only like it when it's clearly a three way thing.

If I'm treated as a lesser they can sod off.

And I'm also not your fluffer.

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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago

your wildest dreams,

Difficulty I feel is finding a couple where they’re both equally invested.

Where I don’t feel like a novelty, for his enjoyment or her experimentation.

Don’t want someone who wants to “try” another woman. I really don’t see myself as here to be an experiment or “teach” anyone and not as a novelty to “please or excite” someone’s man. I’m here for equally mutual fun times

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I only like it when it's clearly a three way thing.

If I'm treated as a lesser they can sod off.

And I'm also not your fluffer.

What's a fluffer? I've not heard that before.

Mrs

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

I recently had a conversation with the F of a very local couple who are solely looking for other women. Her biggest whinge was getting messages from couples who tried to persuade them into full couple meets.

I make no judgment on any of this simply recounting facts as stated to me

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

"I only like it when it's clearly a three way thing.

If I'm treated as a lesser they can sod off.

And I'm also not your fluffer.

Specialist aroused and warmer upper for gangbangs. The gangbangee’s assistants

What's a fluffer? I've not heard that before.

Mrs "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of things really. Finding the vibe and attraction between 2 people is hard, never mind 3. Also if their relationship isn't solid, people can get jealous which has happened in the past and drama is real. It's also rare to find a girl that is fully bi and not just putting on a show for her hubby.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Finding a couple where she truly does want to, just watch me with her hubby and not join is very hard, even borrowing hothusbands are disappearing rapidly. So many couples just want to play together now, I think my kink is becoming more niche and unfortunately harder to fulfil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Difficulty I feel is finding a couple where they’re both equally invested.

Where I don’t feel like a novelty, for his enjoyment or her experimentation.

Couldn’t have said it better. This is why I don’t meet couples, precisely.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"I only like it when it's clearly a three way thing.

If I'm treated as a lesser they can sod off.

And I'm also not your fluffer.

What's a fluffer? I've not heard that before.

Mrs "
They use a fluffer in porn films it’s someone that comes in in between takes with the sole purpose of keeping the mens dicks hard

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I honestly don't know which I despise more.

The ones who treat you like a little fetish object, the both straight but he can't touch other women, the girlfriends who want to make you a 'surprise gift' for their boyfriends, or the 'we're looking for a real third in our relationship and everyone will be equal' bullshitters.

I used to love playing with couples at parties, I proper sdore seeing the dynamics between people and those little moments.

But since being back here as a single, I think there's all of two couples on the site that genuinely appeal to me. I just can't be arsed dealing with the whole concept of couples for the time being.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We won’t meet single women unless there is a three way attraction. We don’t meet anyone to have average sex, we meet when it’s explosive and for that to happen everyone needs to be fully invested.

Same with single guys, we all have to get on in and out of the bedroom.

I would say to any single person looking to potentially join another couple is to ensure both are fully involved.

That’s why we take chats to telegram as everyone can see who’s replying and who’s invested and we can all build a connection.

I think us both being single on here before we got together and met couples as singles, we understand a little more what works.

But always happy to learn more too - 3 way play has been our preferred play, so it helps to understand people’s reservations or concerns.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I'm going to add as a woman phrases like "hunting unicorns" total turn off.

Fulfill "our" fantasy again total turn off.

Sorry throwing that in there.

Mrs "

This is mostly why. Although I’m not adverse to meeting couples at all. It just has to be the right one. And it does need to be fully a three way thing otherwise it does nothing for me at all

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I honestly don't know which I despise more.

I used to love playing with couples at parties, I proper sdore seeing the dynamics between people and those little moments.

But since being back here as a single, I think there's all of two couples on the site that genuinely appeal to me. I just can't be arsed dealing with the whole concept of couples for the time being."

There does seem to be thing at the moment even with couples where the man can't touch the other woman or from messages we've had.

There is a lot of objectifying though, I personally don't think I could hack it here as a single woman.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"A lot of things really. Finding the vibe and attraction between 2 people is hard, never mind 3. Also if their relationship isn't solid, people can get jealous which has happened in the past and drama is real. It's also rare to find a girl that is fully bi and not just putting on a show for her hubby."

3 way attraction is soooo difficult!!

I totally get the putting on a show too, that would be my worst nightmare feeling like I had to "perform"

Mrs

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"There does seem to be thing at the moment even with couples where the man can't touch the other woman or from messages we've had.

There is a lot of objectifying though, I personally don't think I could hack it here as a single woman.

Mrs "

Like, what am I supposed to be getting out of a meet with a guy I can't touch and a 'bi-curious' pillow princess who's never touched a woman before?

Madness.

But yes. It's so much worse as a single woman. At least when I was on here as a couple it was possible to connect with couples who didn't just see me as a commodity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell us couples all about it.

Lots of forum posts of people struggling to meet a woman mainly couples (& guys) so ladies I want to hear it, shout louder for the couples at the back.

Why don't you meet couples?

What puts you off them?

What can they do better?

Give the couples some advice/warning/anything before the next "unicorn

post"

Mrs

No point answering these questions lol

As we've seen from literally every thread of "searching for unicorns" the couples (for the most part) always ignore what single women say and act like we're being overly sensitive

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Tell us couples all about it.

Lots of forum posts of people struggling to meet a woman mainly couples (& guys) so ladies I want to hear it, shout louder for the couples at the back.

Why don't you meet couples?

What puts you off them?

What can they do better?

Give the couples some advice/warning/anything before the next "unicorn

post"

Mrs

No point answering these questions lol

As we've seen from literally every thread of "searching for unicorns" the couples (for the most part) always ignore what single women say and act like we're being overly sensitive "

Yeah "that post" is one of the reasons I did this one

I did try for the women on there but got ignored too

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"There does seem to be thing at the moment even with couples where the man can't touch the other woman or from messages we've had.

There is a lot of objectifying though, I personally don't think I could hack it here as a single woman.

Mrs

Like, what am I supposed to be getting out of a meet with a guy I can't touch and a 'bi-curious' pillow princess who's never touched a woman before?

Madness.

But yes. It's so much worse as a single woman. At least when I was on here as a couple it was possible to connect with couples who didn't just see me as a commodity."

I totally get it, we've had a few messages wanting ladies to get it on and men just watch, it's totally not for me, I definitely couldn't see it appealing to many single women, I'm sure it's someone's thing just not mine, I'm all involved or nothing.

Mrs

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Lives in Preston, Eng

Most has been said already but I have played with couples as part of a group but only 1 couple on 2 occasions where it was only us three. The reasons it worked for and why I will go out of my way to see them again.

I met them at a group social so got to speak to them both with zero pressure.

They both stated they fancied me and would like to spend time with me.

When I said I would be interested they immediately created a group chat so all three of us were talking together.

I fancy both of them pretty equally.

Their relationship feels solid.

We gel personality and humour wise.

They are fun to talk to and communicative before and during meets.

They are lovely hosts and have great snacks.

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

Well...to be honest nobody texts me

.I must be real bad.lol

What can they change?their approach...coz we are on here for our own wants/needs..

Not to please some guy or a couple only coz they want you to.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

For me it is purely down to confidence about being a right fit for both of the couple. I find it hard enough to feel right so a single let alone two.

I think meeting at socials might make this easier as you can chat and get a feel straight away. Otherwise it's through messages, which can be difficult to get a flow of conversation especially on here.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Couples are my preference to anything on fab, and I’ve got some amazing connections, However …

.It’s very hard to find a decent connection with two people (that goes for attraction and banter too)

.I find they very rarely attach photos to messages and when asked, I get very blurry separate ones. Guessing these are the fake profiles.

.I’ve had bad abuse from couples I’ve politely declined before. I think maybe the guy assuming I should want to fuck his wife.

.the dynamic usually doesn’t match mine (I like a long term all hands on arrangement)

.most seem to want to find someone for a short term or one off experience. That just ain’t my cup of tea!

I love being around the couples I’ve been lucky enough to find all the positives with though. Some of which I would call my best mates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It puts me off a lot when:

1. The woman in the couple isn't fully bisexual- I'm not looking to be anyone's first time or to help them experiment.

2. It's being done to put on a show for the man of the couple- I'm not a show pony.

3. Everyone isn't fully on board. I.e. If the woman is doing it just to please her partner.

4. If my wants/needs/limits aren't considered and it's treated like I'm a sex toy for a couple to use and discard.

5. If one half of the couple does all of the communication. There has to be a three way attraction and chemistry.

6. There are only photos of one half of the couple on a fab profile.

7. Couples clearly haven't communicated between themselves and worked out their own wants and boundaries and made those clear to me- this can lead to unnecessary drama and hurt and in not here for that.

8. Couples who won't meet for a social or at a club. Private meets are risky as a single woman, more so when you're meeting two people instead of just one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bravo!! Yes, Exactly this!! I couldn’t have put it better myself!!…

"Difficulty I feel is finding a couple where they’re both equally invested.

Where I don’t feel like a novelty, for his enjoyment or her experimentation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It puts me off a lot when:

1. The woman in the couple isn't fully bisexual- I'm not looking to be anyone's first time or to help them experiment.

2. It's being done to put on a show for the man of the couple- I'm not a show pony.

3. Everyone isn't fully on board. I.e. If the woman is doing it just to please her partner.

4. If my wants/needs/limits aren't considered and it's treated like I'm a sex toy for a couple to use and discard.

5. If one half of the couple does all of the communication. There has to be a three way attraction and chemistry.

6. There are only photos of one half of the couple on a fab profile.

8. Couples who won't meet for a social or at a club. Private meets are risky as a single woman, more so when you're meeting two people instead of just one. "

Adding 9. Couples who can't handle rejection, and don't bother to read my profile or get to know me at all. They just send copy paste messages and expect me to jump into bed with them and become abusive when I ignore them or say no.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Most has been said already but I have played with couples as part of a group but only 1 couple on 2 occasions where it was only us three. The reasons it worked for and why I will go out of my way to see them again.

I met them at a group social so got to speak to them both with zero pressure.

They both stated they fancied me and would like to spend time with me.

When I said I would be interested they immediately created a group chat so all three of us were talking together.

I fancy both of them pretty equally.

Their relationship feels solid.

We gel personality and humour wise.

They are fun to talk to and communicative before and during meets.

They are lovely hosts and have great snacks.

It's all in the snacks isn't it

I much prefer meeting people at socials it is just so much easier & totally agree with the group chats we try and do this, it's hard to have a 3/4 way conversation on here it always ends up just being one of us.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"For me it is purely down to confidence about being a right fit for both of the couple. I find it hard enough to feel right so a single let alone two.

I totally get the confidence thing, I'm the same when it comes to meeting other couples, socials are the way for me, clothed & at face value is soooo much easier.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Couples are my preference to anything on fab, and I’ve got some amazing connections, However …

.It’s very hard to find a decent connection with two people (that goes for attraction and banter too)

.I find they very rarely attach photos to messages and when asked, I get very blurry separate ones. Guessing these are the fake profiles.

.I’ve had bad abuse from couples I’ve politely declined before. I think maybe the guy assuming I should want to fuck his wife.

.the dynamic usually doesn’t match mine (I like a long term all hands on arrangement)

.most seem to want to find someone for a short term or one off experience. That just ain’t my cup of tea!

I love being around the couples I’ve been lucky enough to find all the positives with though. Some of which I would call my best mates

It's great to hear good experiences too, I'm pleased you've found some best friends from your couples meets that's just lush.

Mrs

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By *museBouche31Woman
over a year ago

Reigate

I have one couple that I revisit time and time again because:

1. They are sexy as hell, as well as kind, generous and a great laugh.

2. We all fancy each other.

3. They don’t mess me about and are clear with their availability and are flexible to mine as well.

4. I always come away smiling and exhausted.

I met them at a party and we originally played as a foursome, but I now class them as friends that I can call on whenever I’m feeling horny!

For new couples to even get their foot in the door, and a portion of my precious free time, they would need to be exceptional and have great chat.

Most of the time, you struggle to even get a photo of both parties, let alone get them both talking to you. . .

Meeting in clubs is an easier start, but I usually go with my playmate, so couples don’t always see/know that I play as a single.

It’s tricky. Very tricky!

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

All of this

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I don't meet couples because I'm not bi and would be uncomfortable with the wife watching.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Like others have said it's harder to find three way attraction.

Then there's the worry of drama - I've played with couples where it's become obvious that one of them is in it for the wrong reasons once play starts and that's horribly awkward.

Some treat you like a blowup doll instead of as a person with as much input into what happens as them.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

I met them at a group social so got to speak to them both with zero pressure.

They both stated they fancied me and would like to spend time with me.

When I said I would be interested they immediately created a group chat so all three of us were talking together.

I fancy both of them pretty equally.

Their relationship feels solid.

We gel personality and humour wise.

They are fun to talk to and communicative before and during meets.

They are lovely hosts and have great snacks.

They sound wonderful.

I joined this site as a single woman hoping to play with MF couples. I found myself getting messages from only the male half of the couple so many times. This felt weird to me and I didn’t like it.

But also. People are onto something when it comes to the three way attraction being next to impossible to find.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Like others have said it's harder to find three way attraction.

Then there's the worry of drama - I've played with couples where it's become obvious that one of them is in it for the wrong reasons once play starts and that's horribly awkward.

Some treat you like a blowup doll instead of as a person with as much input into what happens as them.

And also this.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

I met them at a group social so got to speak to them both with zero pressure.

They both stated they fancied me and would like to spend time with me.

When I said I would be interested they immediately created a group chat so all three of us were talking together.

I fancy both of them pretty equally.

Their relationship feels solid.

We gel personality and humour wise.

They are fun to talk to and communicative before and during meets.

They are lovely hosts and have great snacks.

They sound wonderful.

I joined this site as a single woman hoping to play with MF couples. I found myself getting messages from only the male half of the couple so many times. This felt weird to me and I didn’t like it.

But also. People are onto something when it comes to the three way attraction being next to impossible to find."

I'm totally with everyone on the 3 way attraction even from a couples point of view, we rarely both click/find attraction with the same person, it's very tricky but amazing once we do.

I've seen before about the male halves messaging women on their own behind the womens back it baffles me especially in this kind of lifestyle.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Like others have said it's harder to find three way attraction.

Then there's the worry of drama - I've played with couples where it's become obvious that one of them is in it for the wrong reasons once play starts and that's horribly awkward.

Some treat you like a blowup doll instead of as a person with as much input into what happens as them.

Blow up dolls aren't fun! I never understand the mentality sometimes, I mean we want everyone to have fun or it's not fun for us either.

Mrs

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"Like others have said it's harder to find three way attraction.

Then there's the worry of drama - I've played with couples where it's become obvious that one of them is in it for the wrong reasons once play starts and that's horribly awkward.

Some treat you like a blowup doll instead of as a person with as much input into what happens as them.

Blow up dolls aren't fun! I never understand the mentality sometimes, I mean we want everyone to have fun or it's not fun for us either.

Mrs "

That's one reason I prefer to meet couples in a club - I get to see how they react with me and with each other in terms of how at ease they seem or if one person is on edge and maybe not into it.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Like others have said it's harder to find three way attraction.

Then there's the worry of drama - I've played with couples where it's become obvious that one of them is in it for the wrong reasons once play starts and that's horribly awkward.

Some treat you like a blowup doll instead of as a person with as much input into what happens as them.

Blow up dolls aren't fun! I never understand the mentality sometimes, I mean we want everyone to have fun or it's not fun for us either.

Mrs

That's one reason I prefer to meet couples in a club - I get to see how they react with me and with each other in terms of how at ease they seem or if one person is on edge and maybe not into it. "

I'm the same although prefer to meet via socials, we shall see how this club visit goes at the weekend, I'm hoping I like it because I'm not into meeting people via fab much, it's so hard to know if there's enough of a connection until you meet on person (for me anyway)

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"Like others have said it's harder to find three way attraction.

Then there's the worry of drama - I've played with couples where it's become obvious that one of them is in it for the wrong reasons once play starts and that's horribly awkward.

Some treat you like a blowup doll instead of as a person with as much input into what happens as them.

Blow up dolls aren't fun! I never understand the mentality sometimes, I mean we want everyone to have fun or it's not fun for us either.

Mrs

That's one reason I prefer to meet couples in a club - I get to see how they react with me and with each other in terms of how at ease they seem or if one person is on edge and maybe not into it.

Mrs "

Yes! In person chemistry is hard to beat.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Because quite simply, I don’t want another woman to be any part of my sex life

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By *ongandharderMan
over a year ago

Rotherham

I prefer meeting couples best of both worlds and all

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

I agree with all the points above, when i was a single female on here I got a fair amount of wanting her first experience messages and I get you need to figure how you feel somehow, but I was only just embracing being Bi myself so I didn't want to be anyone's first time or 'teach' so I preferred to meet couples where the female was bi or at least het

exible and had experiences with women before.

As for us as a couple looking now definitely needs to be a three way thing, attraction and connection, we want to leave the bedroom with us all happy and sated from a wonderful night of fun.

So we do socials, have group chats so you can see who's talking and make sure the fit is right for all of us so we all have an amazing time.

We left it a long time before we did anything too to make sure we had a rock solid relationship and that it was something we were both going to enjoy and not just to please the other.

Tinder x

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