FabSwingers.com forum: Blocking single men from contact.

By *orphia2003 OP Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Thank god you announced it anyway. We'd never have managed otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not set to private. Then you can still lurk x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That sucks.

On the plus side though, you won’t miss out on those nice guys if you message them first.

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By *sername already in useMan
over a year ago

manchester

Same

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman
over a year ago

Schitts Creek

"That sucks.

On the plus side though, you won’t miss out on those nice guys if you message them first.

Or drop them a wink as that also allows people outside of your filters to message you

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I don't blame you.

Some of the cretins that slime up my inbox before I block them are enough to make me consider it.

But I like that people I wouldn't have seen otherwise reach out because they think we could actually be compatible. Or people I've met at the clubs whose profile name I've failed to remember can message me.

And most days I can laugh at the cretins before hitting that block button.

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

People are dicks. Lots of jealousy here, and entitlement. There are good people to find. But it’s becoming increasingly apparent that the good ones are meeting in person at clubs and socials

Fab is just entertainment now.

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.

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By *orphia2003 OP Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

"Thank god you announced it anyway. We'd never have managed otherwise"
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I'm sure in time you will stop crying over me. You poor broken heart will mend and you will find solace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour."

You don’t have to. And shouldn’t.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Why you apologising if you’re not one?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

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oh well thanks for letting us know

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By *urved HunnyWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I've been on this site forever and yes, way too many dick pics . However I've met some gorgeous and utterly lovely men , most of whom are still friends. If you block all males ,unless you're looking specifically for females and or couples,you will miss out on the possible good meets. Luckily I experience very little rudeness , apart from occasional comments on my preference but I don't take any of that to heart. It's is hard work at times OP but worth it in the end x

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I've decided I'm going to do the hunting.

I'll only message super hot men I think will give me a good time, even if they're miles away.

I live in hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've decided I'm going to do the hunting.

I'll only message super hot men I think will give me a good time, even if they're miles away.

I live in hope

I keep refreshing my phone inbox, Nanna.

Still nothing ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've tried various methods of reducing the number of rude and disrespectful messages. However, since headlining my profile with "Not chatting or meeting, just hanging out in the Forums" ... I'm pleased to say that 99% of the males who view my profile respect my wishes. It means I can, if I choose to, peruse their profiles and message them. And, I've had some lovely chats with really lovely guys. The 1% of f**kwits who still send unsolicited messages simply get blocked. Life on here is so much easier now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks"

Why are you apologising?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising? "

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Sorry to hear that OP

I turned my "looking for" off yonks ago. That stopped all, bar from forum messages, as I still want to chat to men from threads and I am free to do my own hunting

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I've decided I'm going to do the hunting.

I'll only message super hot men I think will give me a good time, even if they're miles away.

I live in hope

I keep refreshing my phone inbox, Nanna.

Still nothing ..

Well

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising?

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising?

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there"

well you got one... but then your response tells me all I need... and if you cant see the figurative nature not my issue.. you dont have to comment, you dont even have to care, but my point stands we are an embarrassment in our nature far often than not

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

You don’t have to. And shouldn’t. "
I know I shouldn't have to but unfortunately the gentleman is lost on a lot of people in today's society, there's no need to be mean and insult someone you don't know and have never met. So I do say sorry for them if if they don't deserve it. Single men have it hard enough on here and in life in general. We don't need others making it harder.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Forward the dick pics to me - I love them and very rarely get any!!!

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

Why you apologising if you’re not one?"
Cause someone has to.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Do what you need to do to make fab an enjoyable place to spend time. As for the death threat - bring the police in - lets see if nobby the keyboard warrior likes having their arse dragged away in handcuffs….and not for a fun reason x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Forward the dick pics to me - I love them and very rarely get any!!!

Which one to send first……….

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising?

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there

You dont have to comment either.

'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood

"Forward the dick pics to me - I love them and very rarely get any!!!

Your age restrictions have stopped me from gracing your inbox with dick pics… guessing you wont sleep tonight now!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising?

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there

You dont have to comment either.

'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising?

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there"

while I feel sorry for the OP and her experience, and understand her actions, nobody needs to apologise on my behalf. I’ll take accountability for my OWN actions, and those I’m directly responsible for.

And I’ve not sent the OP any abuse tbf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising?

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there

You dont have to comment either.

'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else "

My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed.

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising?

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

Dude, it's by far not just men, single men just have the numbers that's all. Stop virtue signalling so much seriously. Unless you are sending death threats or shit like that, you don't need to apologise for others.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to. "

No, somebody doesnt.

Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising?

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there

You dont have to comment either.

'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else

My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed. "

Whaaaaaat?!? That’s one of the most ridiculous things I ever did read!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.

No, somebody doesnt.

Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men"

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising?

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there

You dont have to comment either.

'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else

My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed. "

Why should i feel embarassed at that? Whats it got to do with me?

Should other women also feel embarassed that this women got that message?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to. "

This is one I disagree with.

The only apologies that matter are the ones from the perpetrators. With genuine understanding of the upset they've caused and an honest intent to do better.

Anything else is pointless lip service

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.

No, somebody doesnt.

Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men"

Interesting that the geography of the two men suggesting we shouldn't be embarrassed as a gender for the behaviour mentioned and apologise for it is so similar.. my time and thoughts here are concluded.. no virtue signalling. I dont need to.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.

No, somebody doesnt.

Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men

Youre really not coming off very well in this thread.

First virtue signalling, now youre venturing into xenopbobia.

What a charmer

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.

No, somebody doesnt.

Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men"

I'm not saying they are.... I'm saying NO ONE deserves to get abuse from random people..... Male or female it doesn't matter 1 little bit to me. I just hate people that believe it's ok to hide behind a keyboard and others!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.

No, somebody doesnt.

Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men

Nah, I'm about 20 miles from you and think that was complete bollocks. If I haven't done anything wrong, I sure as shit don't need you apologisimg for me. Quit the virtue signalling and just accept that you don't speak on behalf of all men

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.

This is one I disagree with.

The only apologies that matter are the ones from the perpetrators. With genuine understanding of the upset they've caused and an honest intent to do better.

Anything else is pointless lip service

Trouble is they're to busy hiding behind their little screens and their anonymity to care if they've upset or insulted someone.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks"

Why are you apologising for other people's behaviour

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood

I appreciate the sentiment of both sides that seem to develop on this thread. One side wanting to apologise for all men because of some mens behaviour and the others saying don’t apologise on my behalf because I don’t associate myself in any way with that behaviour which in my opinion isnt actually a gender issue at all. Its a behaviour issue that is not gender specific - its specific to twats and twatty behaviour. Twats are gender neutral. Thats my 2p worth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP got abuse and undeserved shite

It gave someone the chance to White Knight

It was crazy to see

Him apologise for me

When my behaviours been whiter than white!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the way, sorry to hear about the abuse OP, no one deserves that on a site that's just meant to be a little bit of fun but unfortunately some take it too far

Good luck with your own search and hopefully you can find a few decent guys that suit your needs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.

No, somebody doesnt.

Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men"

Ahem. I'm a delicate flower

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that"

Yes. We are.

Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

I'm getting the popcorn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.

No, somebody doesnt.

Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men

Sorry apologising on behalf of the people who sent abuse to OP is a little strange in this context

As well as apologising on behalf of your whole gender, it's not the whole gender who act like this, we all know that

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.

This is one I disagree with.

The only apologies that matter are the ones from the perpetrators. With genuine understanding of the upset they've caused and an honest intent to do better.

Anything else is pointless lip service

Trouble is they're to busy hiding behind their little screens and their anonymity to care if they've upset or insulted someone. "

Yup.

So there will not be a sincere apology from the perpetrators. And it's better to accept the truth than take some sycophantic version from someone who wasn't a part of it.

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

"The OP got abuse and undeserved shite

It gave someone the chance to White Knight

It was crazy to see

Him apologise for me

When my behaviours been whiter than white!

When's your new album coming out?

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.

No, somebody doesnt.

Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men

Ahem. I'm a delicate flower "

A snapdragon?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

OP unfortunately abuse is rife on this site, not just from men, although it does seem to be mostly men from mine and others experience

The best thing you can do it block and report them, and restricting all men from contacting you so you can do the searching instead is probably the best way to go

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that"

How is see it no defence on my behalf as there's nothing to defend.

What I do see is men apologising for others mens behaviour, now is this born out of honest true empathy for what the op had experienced (which isn't acceptable, but unfortunately normalised behaviour on fab) or is it born out of a guilty conscience?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that

Yes. We are.

Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us"

this is a good debate I like it, but, you are wrong because the behaviour is to do with us and the apology.. men have a bad rep not just on here and we should eb collectively working towards that, if we dont call out the arseholes if we all do not take responsibility for each other's actions then we will never do better

for example you are out with a mate. he turns to another person and starts abusing them.. would you shut him up and then apologise.. you didn't abuse them but you are embarrassed and ashamed to be associated..., think that on a bigger scale

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

A shame that the thread got so detailed on such a subject.

OP as many others I hate that these things have happened to you. That anyone can go to these extremes for anything, especially this. But unfortunately that is the world we live in, and people like this exist.

Now for the detail.

Yeah, apologising on behalf of anyone, especially masses is plain and simple white knighting and virtue signaling.

The centiment at the core of it I get, the problem is its so wrapped up in a great big ball of virtue jargon that it means very little and ends up being half of what you are trying to say.

Also, why do these people need apologising for, will this apology from you for them allow the OP to feel they can now offer forgiveness since an apology has been issued?

False words, and pointless gesture despite the meaning behind it very likely being from a genuine place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you for the update op

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising?

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there

You dont have to comment either.

'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else

My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed. "

Refreshing to see such a lovely caring man here!

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that

Yes. We are.

Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us

Okay, where are the women apologising on behalf of all the bitchy women that were totally rude to me?

I think I know a good way for them to make up for it

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.

This is one I disagree with.

The only apologies that matter are the ones from the perpetrators. With genuine understanding of the upset they've caused and an honest intent to do better.

Anything else is pointless lip service

Trouble is they're to busy hiding behind their little screens and their anonymity to care if they've upset or insulted someone.

Yup.

So there will not be a sincere apology from the perpetrators. And it's better to accept the truth than take some sycophantic version from someone who wasn't a part of it."

You know what..... Sod it I wish I'd never bothered to try and be nice to someone that's been abused. Next time someone I don't know drops something in the street I'll just kick it further away from them then at least I'll deserve the shit I get for it.

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising?

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there

You dont have to comment either.

'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else

My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed.

Refreshing to see such a lovely caring man here!

xx"

Oh don't enable it

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By *luefunMan
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

"That sucks.

On the plus side though, you won’t miss out on those nice guys if you message them first.

Or drop them a wink as that also allows people outside of your filters to message you

Didn’t know that

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that

Yes. We are.

Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us

Ill repeat.

That behanviour has nothing to do with me. I have no more in common with the abuser than any woman on this thread does. Just because i happen to share a gender with him, doesnt automatically endow some commonality with him upon me. No more than if i wore the same boxers as him, or drank in the same bar.

Youre just so blinded by gender politics that you think people should be grouped together and treated in the same way. Well im an individual, im not playing that game. Dont speak for me

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that

Yes. We are.

Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us

I've never had to call out a friend for abusive behaviour because I don't have friends like that.

I have called out work colleagues for it, both male and female.

On an anonymous website where shitstirring and one sided stories are a dime a dozen? I'll give that a miss thanks.

Btw I'm only posting this comment because of my geography.

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.

This is one I disagree with.

The only apologies that matter are the ones from the perpetrators. With genuine understanding of the upset they've caused and an honest intent to do better.

Anything else is pointless lip service

Trouble is they're to busy hiding behind their little screens and their anonymity to care if they've upset or insulted someone.

Yup.

So there will not be a sincere apology from the perpetrators. And it's better to accept the truth than take some sycophantic version from someone who wasn't a part of it.

Maybe you should apologise for dropping it. On his behalf, you know?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that

Yes. We are.

Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us

Likely yes but I'm connected to that mate. I'm present at the time of the incident, and I know my mate (not a random prick) is in a state he can't apologise for himself on the circumstances.

I have no connection to these other men. I was not present at the time of the incident and they were in full control over their ability to apologise.

Try again.

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over a year ago

"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that

Yes. We are.

Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us

Okay, where are the women apologising on behalf of all the bitchy women that were totally rude to me?

I think I know a good way for them to make up for it

Do you not see that that is not the argument, we cant use.. yeah but what about.. as a defence.. if you cant understand that its wasted.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.

This is one I disagree with.

The only apologies that matter are the ones from the perpetrators. With genuine understanding of the upset they've caused and an honest intent to do better.

Anything else is pointless lip service

Trouble is they're to busy hiding behind their little screens and their anonymity to care if they've upset or insulted someone.

Yup.

So there will not be a sincere apology from the perpetrators. And it's better to accept the truth than take some sycophantic version from someone who wasn't a part of it.

No. You keep being you and let them be them, that's what makes us unique

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising?

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there

You dont have to comment either.

'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else

My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed.

Refreshing to see such a lovely caring man here!

Oh don't enable it

I shall say what I jolly well want to its an open forum!thank u very much!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that

Yes. We are.

Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us

Likely yes but I'm connected to that mate. I'm present at the time of the incident, and I know my mate (not a random prick) is in a state he can't apologise for himself on the circumstances.

I have no connection to these other men. I was not present at the time of the incident and they were in full control over their ability to apologise.

Try again. "

you have Eno connection to these other men?? you are a man. you are single, you are on fab. you are associated with the behaviour of single men on fab.. same difference bigger scale.. stop trying to defend the poor behaviour of men and all accept we can do better and by apologising shows some level of care and effort to change.

ive seen the very best and the very worst of people in this world. we can al do better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.

No, somebody doesnt.

Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men

Ahem. I'm a delicate flower

A snapdragon?"

Harsh!

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that

Yes. We are.

Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us

Okay, where are the women apologising on behalf of all the bitchy women that were totally rude to me?

I think I know a good way for them to make up for it

Do you not see that that is not the argument, we cant use.. yeah but what about.. as a defence.. if you cant understand that its wasted."

Oh, now that the women are supposed to do it, you suddenly find it ridiculous? Interesting, very, very interesting

Maybe just don't apologise for others, ever.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising?

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there

You dont have to comment either.

'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else

My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed.

Refreshing to see such a lovely caring man here!

xx"

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

It’s getting like a bit of a pile on now

. I know I said my bit above but maybe it’s getting a bit much

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"You know what..... Sod it I wish I'd never bothered to try and be nice to someone that's been abused. Next time someone I don't know drops something in the street I'll just kick it further away from them then at least I'll deserve the shit I get for it. "

I don't quite understand why you're upset.

Is it because people expressed the opinion that pointless lip service from someone completely uninvolved in the offending matter doesn't actually help?

I'm just trying to understand why that means you should apparently now go for deliberately malicious acts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that

Yes. We are.

Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us

Okay, where are the women apologising on behalf of all the bitchy women that were totally rude to me?

I think I know a good way for them to make up for it

Do you not see that that is not the argument, we cant use.. yeah but what about.. as a defence.. if you cant understand that its wasted.

Oh, now that the women are supposed to do it, you suddenly find it ridiculous? Interesting, very, very interesting

Maybe just don't apologise for others, ever."

head, brick wall, banging

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising?

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there

You dont have to comment either.

'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else

My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed.

Refreshing to see such a lovely caring man here!

Oh don't enable it

I shall say what I jolly well want to its an open forum!thank u very much!!!"

You two really found each other lol

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that

Yes. We are.

Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us

Okay, where are the women apologising on behalf of all the bitchy women that were totally rude to me?

I think I know a good way for them to make up for it

Do you not see that that is not the argument, we cant use.. yeah but what about.. as a defence.. if you cant understand that its wasted.

Oh, now that the women are supposed to do it, you suddenly find it ridiculous? Interesting, very, very interesting

Maybe just don't apologise for others, ever.

head, brick wall, banging"

Did you apologise on behalf of the brick wall?

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

I don't quite understand why you're upset.

Is it because people expressed the opinion that pointless lip service from someone completely uninvolved in the offending matter doesn't actually help?

I'm just trying to understand why that means you should apparently now go for deliberately malicious acts.

He is being a nice guy, who thought he would be praised for his white knightery, but instead people don't and now he is very, very frustrated.

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By *orphia2003 OP Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

"Sorry to hear that OP

I turned my "looking for" off yonks ago. That stopped all, bar from forum messages, as I still want to chat to men from threads and I am free to do my own hunting

Good thinking.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising?

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there

You dont have to comment either.

'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else

My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed.

Refreshing to see such a lovely caring man here!

Oh don't enable it

I shall say what I jolly well want to its an open forum!thank u very much!!!

You two really found each other lol"

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising?

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there

You dont have to comment either.

'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else

My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed.

Refreshing to see such a lovely caring man here!

Oh don't enable it

I shall say what I jolly well want to its an open forum!thank u very much!!!

You two really found each other lol

It's okay, he already apologised on my behalf and will do so again hopefully soon :P

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By *orphia2003 OP Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Well, fuck me! That turned into a warzone.

Following great advice it seems that turning off profile might work better.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.

No, somebody doesnt.

Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men

Ahem. I'm a delicate flower

A snapdragon?

Harsh!

I was being nice, mostly. My grandad used to grow them. Fond memories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I know the thread is being derailed but let's ignore that!

I'm sorry you've had such grief here. And if you've tried this, then please ignore me! But someone suggested to me that I turn off "looking for" men. It made a HUGE impact on my inbox. Basically only men from the Lounge message because it's the only way men find me. I also don't upload photos/videos, so I'm under the radar. Just a thought. I hope your time here improves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.

No, somebody doesnt.

Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men

Ahem. I'm a delicate flower

A snapdragon?

Harsh!

I was being nice, mostly. My grandad used to grow them. Fond memories."

Mostly..

Thank you, Hans

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that

Yes. We are.

Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us

Likely yes but I'm connected to that mate. I'm present at the time of the incident, and I know my mate (not a random prick) is in a state he can't apologise for himself on the circumstances.

I have no connection to these other men. I was not present at the time of the incident and they were in full control over their ability to apologise.

Try again.

ive seen the very best and the very worst of people in this world. we can al do better"

What exactly does he have to change? Are you saying he's guilty now by some tenuous association that you've drawn, based purely on his gender and martial status?

Are you not seeing how ridiculous you sound in this thread?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.

OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising?

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there

You dont have to comment either.

'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else

My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed.

Refreshing to see such a lovely caring man here!

Oh don't enable it

I shall say what I jolly well want to its an open forum!thank u very much!!!

You two really found each other lol

It's okay, he already apologised on my behalf and will do so again hopefully soon :P"

Do you need to carry it on, it's just the same behaviour as the OP experienced. It's cool that you have a different opinion. Buy its kinda turning into bollocks now...

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over a year ago

"Well, fuck me! That turned into a warzone.

Following great advice it seems that turning off profile might work better."

Just ignore the willy waving, they’ll all be called in for dinner soon.

Hope you’re okay

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that

Yes. We are.

Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us

Likely yes but I'm connected to that mate. I'm present at the time of the incident, and I know my mate (not a random prick) is in a state he can't apologise for himself on the circumstances.

I have no connection to these other men. I was not present at the time of the incident and they were in full control over their ability to apologise.

Try again.

ive seen the very best and the very worst of people in this world. we can al do better"

Ladies! Where is your apology to the OP?

You have eyes, you have ears, you are on a sex site, you are breathing humans. All connected to these other humans that breath and have eyes, ears on a sex site.

Shame on you, shame on all of you for not apologising on behalf of them.

Nah, I'm not connected to these men.

Nobody is defending their poor behaviour. Concern and empathy from me has been show to the OP without a single use of an apology from me, on behalf of somebody else. An apology does not show care.

Nor do I need to make any effort to change anything as I don't use this kind of behaviour that the OP revived.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.

OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option

I guess my point to it all ladies is, you shouldn't have to block and ignore etc, you should never be subjected to that behaviour in the first place.. and on behalf of all me......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.

OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option

I guess my point to it all ladies is, you shouldn't have to block and ignore etc, you should never be subjected to that behaviour in the first place.. and on behalf of all me......"

It's good that you clarified. We weren't sure what your point was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.

OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option

I guess my point to it all ladies is, you shouldn't have to block and ignore etc, you should never be subjected to that behaviour in the first place.. and on behalf of all me......"

For what it’s worth I don’t think you deserved that pile on

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.

OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option

I guess my point to it all ladies is, you shouldn't have to block and ignore etc, you should never be subjected to that behaviour in the first place.. and on behalf of all me......

For what it’s worth I don’t think you deserved that pile on "

Well said

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.

OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option

I guess my point to it all ladies is, you shouldn't have to block and ignore etc, you should never be subjected to that behaviour in the first place.. and on behalf of all me......

For what it’s worth I don’t think you deserved that pile on "

What pile on was this? He was responding to everyone and everyone was responding to him.

Are we not allowed address each other for fear of being accused of 'piling on'?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.

OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option

I guess my point to it all ladies is, you shouldn't have to block and ignore etc, you should never be subjected to that behaviour in the first place.. and on behalf of all me......

For what it’s worth I don’t think you deserved that pile on

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.

OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option

I guess my point to it all ladies is, you shouldn't have to block and ignore etc, you should never be subjected to that behaviour in the first place.. and on behalf of all me......

For what it’s worth I don’t think you deserved that pile on

What pile on was this? He was responding to everyone and everyone was responding to him.

Are we not allowed address each other for fear of being accused of 'piling on'? "

All good with me big man, its good we can back to debating without everyone being offended at opposing views

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.

OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option

I guess my point to it all ladies is, you shouldn't have to block and ignore etc, you should never be subjected to that behaviour in the first place.. and on behalf of all me......

For what it’s worth I don’t think you deserved that pile on

What pile on was this? He was responding to everyone and everyone was responding to him.

Are we not allowed address each other for fear of being accused of 'piling on'?

All good with me big man, its good we can back to debating without everyone being offended at opposing views

That i will agree with you on

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.

I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.

I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.

I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.

So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.

Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.

Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks

Why are you apologising?

because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers

Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there

You dont have to comment either.

'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else

My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed. "

We're not one big homogeneous group just because we were all born with a penis. I don't feel embarrassed a lady received a death threat, I feel the person that made it is an absolute knob head and should be banned from here and will hopefully get his comeuppance in life but I don't feel embarrassed.

Likewise I don't feel I should apologise for idiots and their idiotic behaviour because I'm not responsible.

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By *ess King tvTV/TS
over a year ago

KING'S LYNN

"Thank god you announced it anyway. We'd never have managed otherwise"

LOL

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Oh the joys of “man on man” crime…..

Anyway… moral of the story… be the hunter, not the hunted!!

Nothing is stopping the OP from making first contact.. and using the block function saves them from “Drive by” random cocks!

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

OP I’m sorry (I’m the generic sense - I’m not apologising for someone else) that you’ve had to do that.

I’ve never had issues before - or particularly bad ones with a huge degree of abuse. But in the last few weeks it really has sky rocketed. I also hid my profile & I blocked everyone.

That there are men like that out there is bad enough - but what actually worries me is the undercurrent here. I’m getting the message that if

“I didn’t do it. I didn’t say it. I didn’t see it. It’s nothing to do with me. I don’t get involved”. That’s not a message I can live with. Not getting involved is turning a blind eye. That’s how people get away with shit. Apathy.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"OP I’m sorry (I’m the generic sense - I’m not apologising for someone else) that you’ve had to do that.

I’ve never had issues before - or particularly bad ones with a huge degree of abuse. But in the last few weeks it really has sky rocketed. I also hid my profile & I blocked everyone.

That there are men like that out there is bad enough - but what actually worries me is the undercurrent here. I’m getting the message that if

We've all got abuse on here. The OP is no different to anyone else.

Its also nobody elses problem but the abuser. I dont expect you to accept some responsibility for abuse I've received from any women in here. Its nothing to do with you

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

There is huge numbers of worthless carcasses on this website OP indeed . Block is a handy tool function to use very much so

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"OP I’m sorry (I’m the generic sense - I’m not apologising for someone else) that you’ve had to do that.

I’ve never had issues before - or particularly bad ones with a huge degree of abuse. But in the last few weeks it really has sky rocketed. I also hid my profile & I blocked everyone.

That there are men like that out there is bad enough - but what actually worries me is the undercurrent here. I’m getting the message that if

We've all got abuse on here. The OP is no different to anyone else.

Its also nobody elses problem but the abuser. I dont expect you to accept some responsibility for abuse I've received from any women in here. Its nothing to do with you"

It’s not the problem of the abused?

Interesting

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"OP I’m sorry (I’m the generic sense - I’m not apologising for someone else) that you’ve had to do that.

I’ve never had issues before - or particularly bad ones with a huge degree of abuse. But in the last few weeks it really has sky rocketed. I also hid my profile & I blocked everyone.

That there are men like that out there is bad enough - but what actually worries me is the undercurrent here. I’m getting the message that if

We've all got abuse on here. The OP is no different to anyone else.

Its also nobody elses problem but the abuser. I dont expect you to accept some responsibility for abuse I've received from any women in here. Its nothing to do with you

It’s not the problem of the abused?

Interesting"

Oh ffs you know what i mean.

The point being is that random strangers on a fuck site have nothing to do with another random stranger who decides to be abusive, and they hold no responsibility for that person

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"OP I’m sorry (I’m the generic sense - I’m not apologising for someone else) that you’ve had to do that.

I’ve never had issues before - or particularly bad ones with a huge degree of abuse. But in the last few weeks it really has sky rocketed. I also hid my profile & I blocked everyone.

That there are men like that out there is bad enough - but what actually worries me is the undercurrent here. I’m getting the message that if

We've all got abuse on here. The OP is no different to anyone else.

Its also nobody elses problem but the abuser. I dont expect you to accept some responsibility for abuse I've received from any women in here. Its nothing to do with you

It’s not the problem of the abused?

Interesting

Oh ffs you know what i mean.

The point being is that random strangers on a fuck site have nothing to do with another random stranger who decides to be abusive, and they hold no responsibility for that person "

Yes. Sadly I fear I know exactly what you mean.

The point being that abuse will continue to happen unless people actually do something about it. Not just on a “fuck” site (a whole different argument) but in society as a whole. In the minds of certain “people” as a whole.

Not taking responsibility is part of the problem.

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By *uke_silverMan
over a year ago

London

I'm so sorry to hear that. Surely the first 2 (not sure if the others are, perhaps they should be) are bannable offences? I'd hope they were banned by the admins if you reported them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, fuck me! That turned into a warzone.

Following great advice it seems that turning off profile might work better."

Yeah if you delete men off your Looking For list it takes you off the searches. They can still find you via the forum though.

Hope your inbox is quieter.

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over a year ago

"I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.

OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option

I guess my point to it all ladies is, you shouldn't have to block and ignore etc, you should never be subjected to that behaviour in the first place.. and on behalf of all me......

For what it’s worth I don’t think you deserved that pile on

What pile on was this? He was responding to everyone and everyone was responding to him.

Are we not allowed address each other for fear of being accused of 'piling on'?

All good with me big man, its good we can back to debating without everyone being offended at opposing views

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"OP I’m sorry (I’m the generic sense - I’m not apologising for someone else) that you’ve had to do that.

I’ve never had issues before - or particularly bad ones with a huge degree of abuse. But in the last few weeks it really has sky rocketed. I also hid my profile & I blocked everyone.

That there are men like that out there is bad enough - but what actually worries me is the undercurrent here. I’m getting the message that if

We've all got abuse on here. The OP is no different to anyone else.

Its also nobody elses problem but the abuser. I dont expect you to accept some responsibility for abuse I've received from any women in here. Its nothing to do with you

It’s not the problem of the abused?

Interesting

Oh ffs you know what i mean.

The point being is that random strangers on a fuck site have nothing to do with another random stranger who decides to be abusive, and they hold no responsibility for that person

Yes. Sadly I fear I know exactly what you mean.

Not taking responsibility is part of the problem. "

So who exactly should be taking responsibility then?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"OP I’m sorry (I’m the generic sense - I’m not apologising for someone else) that you’ve had to do that.

I’ve never had issues before - or particularly bad ones with a huge degree of abuse. But in the last few weeks it really has sky rocketed. I also hid my profile & I blocked everyone.

That there are men like that out there is bad enough - but what actually worries me is the undercurrent here. I’m getting the message that if

Depends on your perspective. I've spent my whole life not getting involved because getting involved in shit going down where I grew up could be life changing or life ending.

Not getting involved is why I am still here today unaffected by the madness that surrounded me every minute of every day.

I've always gotten involved in relation to individual abuse often to my detriment including being physically attacked.

I have never once in my life been abusive towards a woman and certainly not to one I've never met or on a website.

These forums are full of tall tales every single day and there are often 3 sides to every story so I don't pop in to offer lip service and empathise with everyone having a difficult time or tell them how sorry I am for their experiences.

Should I apologise for being Irish but not getting involved?

Should I apologise for not calling out every arsehole on fab?

I've spent my life propping people up and listening to their tales of woe.

I log in to this site for escapism. Not as an extension of reality.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Morphia, I hope you have reported the death threat. And I am sorry, yes me, that you've experienced this.

The lack of empathy shown during the derailment of this thread has been an interesting read. Too busy turning on each other rather than show any consideration for the OP. Lovely.

The advice to turn off "looking for" is good advice!

Jxx