FabSwingers.com forum: How long before bareback

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just out of curiosity, how long do you wait with a new partner to agree to start playing bareback?

Although a long time ago, I seem to remember we only waited about a week.

This is a judgement free thread please!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No amount of time for me.

I don't know where else it's been poking.

Mrs

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place

Depends on the partner and what both people are happy with

Can't beat some hard bareback sex for me

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By *sername already in useMan
over a year ago

manchester

4 minutes, less than that feels too soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Done the now wife multiple times on our first date raw.

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By *reasyontheeyesMan
over a year ago

out in the sticks

With any long term play partner.

Both would get tested, wait until results fully in and then go BB with trust that both wouldnt go BB with anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started off with a condom on then both decided it's probably best if it comes off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guess it would depend on how well you know them, how often you've met, if off here or not (due to a lot on here will be meeting others too). With my fwb we played bare almost straight away with each other. I don't with anyone else even if met a few times.

Both me and Feb are tested regular and we were only meeting each other and who joined us at first. We do meet with others now too and trust each other to be honest about what meets they have had and go from there about whether we continue to play bare.

I only play covered, including for oral, if I meet others. Fwb does sometimes play bare tho, if he has we play safe until tested and negative results.

Men have told me before they are clean, tested but I don't believe just anyone lol.

Guess it also depends on your situation of whether married, single, playing away. Personally I'm playing away and still get sex at home (expecting abuse for that

) so definitely like to be safe x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have ordered my free nhs sti kit. No. Not had any sex in years. No symptoms. Play safe rather than sti sorry. I would not go with any guy who has had sex unprotected from here or anywhere. It is not a risk I would like to be in. Health and safety here is always paramount for me.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"Done the now wife multiple times on our first date raw."

Is that before or after you listed Safe Sex in your interests?

Gbat

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

In our youth the only worry was pregnancy.

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

When our test results came back and we were all clear. We had an agreement (M(me) & MF cpl) that we wouldn't play bare with anyone else and would have regular tests (every cpl of months), we had formed a very close friendship between the 3 of us that's why we went down that route. Normally though, never.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also my fwb has had snip, I am on contraception but there's always the worry it doesn't work. The amount of guys saying they'd bareback without even finding out if on birth control amazes me

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

"Done the now wife multiple times on our first date raw.

Is that before or after you listed Safe Sex in your interests?

Gbat "

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

" Personally I'm playing away and still get sex at home (expecting abuse for that). "

Don't worry, few will be angry with you as you're not a single guy. They would tear me several new arseholes if I wrote that!

Gbat

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

After we've both been tested, hubs & I both went together and made it a date. Trip to our sex health clinic, then food & drinks.

Everyone else, safe sex only but would consider bb if testing was done and would happily get tested too for the other persons peace of mind

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

Safe always. Despite it being a pain, loss of sensation and overall a lot shitter (technical term) it's piece of mind and massively reduces chances of catching anything and passing on (if symptom free).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Personally I'm playing away and still get sex at home (expecting abuse for that).

Don't worry, few will be angry with you as you're not a single guy. They would tear me several new arseholes if I wrote that!

Gbat "

Unfortunately I've had plenty of abuse for it previously. Really don't get why anyone else thinks it's their business tbh. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Done the now wife multiple times on our first date raw.

Is that before or after you listed Safe Sex in your interests?

Gbat "

By safe sex we meant not with numpties

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I don't, we all play with other people regularl, so it's safer to not otherwise it's a Big Web to inform of any sti's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Safe sex till you and the person feel comfortable doing bare back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I met Doughnut many years ago, we spoke about contraception etc before we met, we knew it was more than a shag, so when we finally did sleep together after a month of dating, it was bare as we both knew we were safe.

With other partners though, when he had his gf last year both were tested and they went bare for a bit until it ended, however I never would, I mean a guy might pop up but that it got to the same stage it did with doughnut and his gf but I highly doubt it.

Danish x

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By *tyoursecretserviceMan
over a year ago

Che

It's difficult isn't it because I love eating pussy and love having my dick sucked. Then I usually go by condition of her teeth and breath. Stupid really because I won't shove it in a hole I can't see in ( maybe a conger eel or her spare teeth in there). Risky still but have been lucky so far im 60 now xxx

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

The time it takes to get my knob out

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We wouldn't go bare with anyone on here ,if they'd do it with us,who else are they doing it with ?.

We arranged to meet a couple at a club,bareback was never mentioned,yet they tried separately to get us to go bare.

We both said no thanks ,our sexual health is our responsibility.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife got a boyfriend, ahe would fuck him bare but no one else. They were seeing each other for 3 years

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Never allways protection x

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By *age500Woman
over a year ago

ashton-under-lyne

If it’s long term then once some trust has built up then I’d expect us both to be tested and also inform the other if they had slept with someone else

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Is a trust issue so that so dictate the time period. With some guys never.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"Done the now wife multiple times on our first date raw.

Is that before or after you listed Safe Sex in your interests?

Gbat

By safe sex we meant not with numpties"

That's a good way of identifying a numpty.

Gbat

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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago

GONE/TIMEOUT (No DMs please)

Maybe 3 months?

Once had two clear STI tests and are exclusive?

Even if you were only playing in a closed group of couples... there is always the chance someone is stepping out.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

How long is a piece of string?

I don't know what the OP means by "non judgemental" but I will say this, saying 'regularly tested' (ie every x months??) for very promiscuous bare-backers doesn't really cut it for me - you need to get a test after every possibly-transmitting encounter you had if testing means much at all. Or just admit that you are on PrEP or whatever and/or it isn't really an issue to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After I’ve had clear test results following their mandatory 6 months in my basement.

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By *loudF7Man
over a year ago

South East

Long term play partners only, and that is a certain level of trust about who else your playing with.

I've had 3 long term play partners that have been bareback but they all new each of each other and I was tested regularly as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Done the now wife multiple times on our first date raw.

Is that before or after you listed Safe Sex in your interests?

Gbat

By safe sex we meant not with numpties

That's a good way of identifying a numpty.

Gbat "

We still having lots of sex though. And well then there's people who are not and very very unlikely to, I'll leave you to guess who that is.

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By *ir SupremacyMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Health and Safety....its the law .

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

Never really thought about it...when it feels right

only with someone I trust fully obviously.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood

I’ll go naked in your mouth or over your lady bumps but not anywhere else… ohhh your hand….. maybe your handbag too - hey don’t judge!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I could trust anyone fully to go bareback, apart from my own partner of course.

xx Jess

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I don’t do bareback so no amount of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have ordered my free nhs sti kit. No. Not had any sex in years. No symptoms. Play safe rather than sti sorry. I would not go with any guy who has had sex unprotected from here or anywhere. It is not a risk I would like to be in. Health and safety here is always paramount for me. "

I've used this service. Very easy to use and return; and the results came back super quick

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"We still having lots of sex though. And well then there's people who are not and very very unlikely to, I'll leave you to guess who that is. "

Great news! You be you and I'll be me. I doubt that either of us wants to be the other person.

Gbat

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By *oecutterMan
over a year ago

Clonakilty

" Personally I'm playing away and still get sex at home (expecting abuse for that).

Don't worry, few will be angry with you as you're not a single guy. They would tear me several new arseholes if I wrote that!

Gbat

Unfortunately I've had plenty of abuse for it previously. Really don't get why anyone else thinks it's their business tbh. X"

Alas, not only do they poke their noses into other people’s business, but they don’t bother to ask WHY one is playing away.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Variable tbh

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By *av-RickMan
over a year ago

Nearby

Depends how long we spend in the pub first

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