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GENGUY - Update!

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By *ENGUY OP   Man
over a year ago

Hull

Two weeks ago, I mentioned that I'd been attacked by someone at work, one of our guests in fact, and had developed some possible medical problems with my eyesight as a result.

A lot of you guys sent me messages of support, so I thought I'd bring you up to date.

Yesterday, I got the all clear from the Eye specialists. I had had suffered some bruising to the eyeball, but that was to be expected when someone uses your head as a 'punchbag'!

As for my attacker, he has been dealt with by his own company, but who haven't apologised as they said they would, nor has the guy himself had the balls to do so either!!

Charges? They won't occur, as corporate politics have got in the way, to avoid 'upsetting' a business client!

Yeah, it all stinks, but the main thing is I'm OK and I'm healthy without any medical repurcussions. I can 'move on'!

Thanks again for all of your good wishes, both via here and the PM's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats great news,

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Why not just go to the police yourself?

It's a criminal matter

Companies don't decide if criminal charges are brought....it's not a corporate choice, it's a CPS decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great news

But does this now give the attacker licence to do as he likes now ???

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

That is great to hear, it could have been a different story quite easily. Hope u stay safe

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

Good to hear you got the all clear, but what a load of bollocks that you havent received even an apology and charges wont be brought against that thug!

Absolutely shocking and your company are basically condoning violence being used against their employees.

Do you have a union rep or able to get legal advice about bringing charges?

They are lucky you dont sue them for post traumatic stress etc and not looking after their staff.

Sorry, rant over and glad you are ok x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly wouldn't be as accepting of that load of bollocks. It's a police matter in my opinion, and should be dealt with accordingly.

I know your health is important, and its good that you're on the mend - but it would eat away at me knowing that :

a) the scumbag has got away with it

b) my employer clearly doesn't give a flying toss about situations like this, and is more concerned about not losing a client

c) no apology or compensatory measure has been offered

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

So glad you're ok - you were missed.

Bummer about the politics. But of course you can go to the police independently and also bring a civil suit for damages.

But the most important thing is that you're alright.

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"

Bummer about the politics. But of course you can go to the police independently and also bring a civil suit for damages.

"
...Of course he can. But remember the business he works in. It will not take long before all employers around refuse to give him a job in the futur.

The most important thing is that he is doing well

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Glad you are okay and what a very difficult position that has put you in.

You take it further and accept the risks that will bring.

Or

Leave it be.

After relocating to a new role just a few months ago, I appreciate the difficulty of that choice.

all the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad your ok Gen and yeah politics ............. grrrrrr ............. take care mate !!! and be safe !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Bummer about the politics. But of course you can go to the police independently and also bring a civil suit for damages.

...Of course he can. But remember the business he works in. It will not take long before all employers around refuse to give him a job in the futur.

The most important thing is that he is doing well

"

Any employer that does not look after the safety of its employees is not fulfilling its legal obligations!

When was the last time you walked into a post office, a train, a bus or a bank where there wasn't a clearly visible sign stating that staff have the right to work without abuse and that offenders would be prosecuted.

Personally? I'd be taking legal advice from either the union or independently. Any same business would not want the bad press of turning a blind eye to an assault on a staff member and to turn a blind eye due to a 'business relationship' would be both PR and legal suicide on the part of the business.

Don't let either the individual, his company or your employer get away with it - if you'd (god forbid) ended up dead - would they take the same approach?

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

^^^

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Glad to hear you are okay. All the best.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Two clear courses of action...

Involve the police, it's not a civil matter it's a criminal matter.

Take legal action against the employer for attempting to cover up a criminal act.

The employer does not have the option of whether or not to contact the police in the event of a serious assault on an employee, their failure to involve the police and choosing to instead cover up this incident COULD be deemed to be seen by the police as obstructing the administration of justice .....in itself a criminal act.

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By *ENGUY OP   Man
over a year ago

Hull

Sorry, I had to leave you guys, I'd a doctor's appointment.

Now, having seen how some of you have replied, some pointers to consider.

At the time of the incident, my colleague, employed through an agency during temporary staffing problems, did not corroborate what happened and didn't want to be involved; he was about as useful as a chocolate fireguard!!

Police did attend, but ultimately, with no back-up evidence, it was my word against the guy, whom since has been made out to be holier than thou, not capable of doing such a thing which was totally out of character, blah! blah! blah!

At the time, I'd only been with the company 2 weeks, so I was then, still finding my way around my employers and I was an "unknown quantity" to them other than what they'd gleaned via references.

Yes, it is all very well some of you going on about taking out a private prosecution, etc etc., but I can't afford that. Even if I could, I'd have to battle against this guy and his corporate back-up. Plus, I have to be mindful of my appraisals over the first 3 months and passing them but not "rocking the boat!"

I said I can move on, that is, I mean to another company, who'll hopefully look after me far better; I started my search last week. That's the best damage I can inflict on my employers and keep my job in the meantime.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

You don't work for Whitbread do you??

Sounds like a stunt they'd pull.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry, I had to leave you guys, I'd a doctor's appointment.

Now, having seen how some of you have replied, some pointers to consider.

At the time of the incident, my colleague, employed through an agency during temporary staffing problems, did not corroborate what happened and didn't want to be involved; he was about as useful as a chocolate fireguard!!

Police did attend, but ultimately, with no back-up evidence, it was my word against the guy, whom since has been made out to be holier than thou, not capable of doing such a thing which was totally out of character, blah! blah! blah!

At the time, I'd only been with the company 2 weeks, so I was then, still finding my way around my employers and I was an "unknown quantity" to them other than what they'd gleaned via references.

Yes, it is all very well some of you going on about taking out a private prosecution, etc etc., but I can't afford that. Even if I could, I'd have to battle against this guy and his corporate back-up. Plus, I have to be mindful of my appraisals over the first 3 months and passing them but not "rocking the boat!"

I said I can move on, that is, I mean to another company, who'll hopefully look after me far better; I started my search last week. That's the best damage I can inflict on my employers and keep my job in the meantime."

Not that officially there's ANY reason for it, but did you open your mouth or something, not to say there's 0% sympathy here.... But just curious as to how unprovoked all this was?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad to hear your all good and no affects to your eyesight.

Means you can get back to looking at the bright side of life *pardon the pun*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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...Of course he can. But remember the business he works in. It will not take long before all employers around refuse to give him a job in the futur.

The most important thing is that he is doing well

"

Sorry but thats absolute nonsense. The one the employers won't touch with a bargepole in that respective industry is the guy who attacked him! Are you seriously suggesting that a man who was attacked in his own workplace by a client and took the matter up with the police will be rendered unemployable because of it.

Look at all the 'would you put up with being attacked at your workplace...neither would we' posters up on buses, trains post offices etc. Do you think 'word would get around' and these people wouldn't get a job somewhere else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think in this case, I would 'name and shame' to the local papers and have them all outed for treating you so shabbily.

Glad nothing permanent affecting your eye, but how would thy have dealt with it if there had been permanent damage to your person? xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Bummer about the politics. But of course you can go to the police independently and also bring a civil suit for damages.

...Of course he can. But remember the business he works in. It will not take long before all employers around refuse to give him a job in the futur.

The most important thing is that he is doing well

Any employer that does not look after the safety of its employees is not fulfilling its legal obligations!

When was the last time you walked into a post office, a train, a bus or a bank where there wasn't a clearly visible sign stating that staff have the right to work without abuse and that offenders would be prosecuted.

Personally? I'd be taking legal advice from either the union or independently. Any same business would not want the bad press of turning a blind eye to an assault on a staff member and to turn a blind eye due to a 'business relationship' would be both PR and legal suicide on the part of the business.

Don't let either the individual, his company or your employer get away with it - if you'd (god forbid) ended up dead - would they take the same approach? "

This, and claim against your company for injury at work.

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