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By *TAX OP   Man
over a year ago

Watford

I’ve tried sending messages asking to chat and get to know new women but I never seem to get any reply’s …!!!

I know I’m no model but I can’t be that bad can I ???

Any tips from ladies how to change this ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What’s your opening message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women are often wary here of "want to chat" messages because men don't really want to chat. They want something else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are often wary here of "want to chat" messages because men don't really want to chat. They want something else. "

They want to infiltrate the undies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are often wary here of "want to chat" messages because men don't really want to chat. They want something else.

They want to infiltrate the undies "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a lady but what do you class as a decent conversation?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"Women are often wary here of "want to chat" messages because men don't really want to chat. They want something else. "

#allmen

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Try attending a local social meet strike up a conversation or 2 with fellow members get that initial spark going

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"Women are often wary here of "want to chat" messages because men don't really want to chat. They want something else. "

This! Or it may be a regular conversation at first, but very quickly men want to turn it sexual. Cyber sex does nothing for me so I would be interested in a chat (unless it can lead to a meet in person).

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By *TAX OP   Man
over a year ago

Watford

Generally I just introduce myself asking to chat …..give a little info about myself like being single and genuine And can hold a decent conversation but never any takers lol

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By *irtydaddy and joMan
over a year ago

corby

With chat, wouldnt bring up the subject of sex, until led by a lady or couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Generally I just introduce myself asking to chat …..give a little info about myself like being single and genuine And can hold a decent conversation but never any takers lol "

Being genuine and single isn’t really a USP. Try something different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Generally I just introduce myself asking to chat …..give a little info about myself like being single and genuine And can hold a decent conversation but never any takers lol "

Ah see that’s the glitch in the matrix. Telling them you can hold a decent conversation while actually being part of the conversation is unnecessary. Have the conversation about another subject and they’ll soon realise you can hold a decent conversation without you having to tell them

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By *TAX OP   Man
over a year ago

Watford

Chat about each other ask questions both ways etc …..not just send one word reply’s lmfao

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Make sure you send a dick pic. That always works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them you have a tongue like a bee's wing

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By *TAX OP   Man
over a year ago

Watford

Noted

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By *TAX OP   Man
over a year ago

Watford

Hahaha I can breathe via my ears lol ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are often wary here of "want to chat" messages because men don't really want to chat. They want something else.

They want to infiltrate the undies "

or try them on

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Is your opening message ‘fancy a chat?’ or similar? This makes my eyes roll back into my head. I prefer the chat to just start, not be introduced with a fanfare and a billboard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hahaha I can breathe via my ears lol ?? "

I’ve got gills. You need to up your game.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Do you fit what they are asking for on their profile?

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By *TAX OP   Man
over a year ago

Watford

Yeah I do read profiles and never message if I’m not what they looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP,

Try engaging in a friendly way on the various forum threads. Contribute positively, and maybe a conversation will develop from there.

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but

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Let things develop naturally, avoid the temptation to ping straight into inboxes after the first exchange.

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Keep conversations initially light and friendly. Jumping straight to the full on mating routine probably won't cut it.

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Good luck

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By *TAX OP   Man
over a year ago

Watford


"OP,

Try engaging in a friendly way on the various forum threads. Contribute positively, and maybe a conversation will develop from there.

.

but

.

Let things develop naturally, avoid the temptation to ping straight into inboxes after the first exchange.

.

Keep conversations initially light and friendly. Jumping straight to the full on mating routine probably won't cut it.

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Good luck

"

I’m never thirsty lol and never push for sexual stuff as like to get to know someone first

But I’ll give your advice a go Ty

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Tell them you have a tongue like a bee's wing "

Veiny and see through? Ought to get that looked at

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I think that a lot of people who send shorter messages, especially just "hi", or maybe even "would you like to chat?", tend to put the 'ball' immediately into the court of the person who didn't actually initiate the conversation. Without really thinking about it, they get the other person to do the initial hard work. But it's mostly just easy speculation for a lot of people anyway, and they feel that if their pictures, profile and location etc really fit the bill then someone will be happily bite the hook.

But what to say if you are really just trying to get a conversation going? It isn't easy.

I actually don't really come to the forum to connect this way (I'm very specific and know the odds - though I always chat when people PM), but what's good about this place I suppose is that various threads provides some context to your messages. It's only a small group of people though really, and they are very unlikely to be local for many of us too.

But it's all about that conversation starter, ie some context to ease the work.

I find that a lot of profiles on Fab are quite short and often full of demands. If people are accepting of conversationalists, I don't think it's a bad idea to put a few things in that throw people a bone or two. Kind of like those hundreds of Q and A's on OKCupid!

Fab is quite picture-led though ultimately. The OP isn't bad looking at all imo (most people on Fab are decent looking I think), it's just about being patient, using Search, working on the profile and reaching out etc.

And when Fab gets you down, try not to let it show (ie in the profile and introductory messages etc), as negativity is unattractive to a lot of people. Humour is attractive though, so it's best try and joke more about what you find bad if you have to let it out I think.

I think it's good to ask for and to give advice, but the underlying irony is that it's always best if everyone is really themselves, as everyone can see the score then and are more likely to hit it off! Especially at any meets. So always, be yourself.

pt

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. It doesn't mean you're anything other than not compatible.

Men here need to get their profiles top notch. They sell you. Find advice and tips in other threads.

And get to fab socials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell them you have a tongue like a bee's wing

Veiny and see through? Ought to get that looked at"

Ha ha ha lol ha good one.

Ha.

Ha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Conversation is an art on fab.

Some good advice here op.

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