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"The female in a couple, begins playing with a single bi fem, girl to girl ...when the male of the couple proceeds to join in, without enquiring if hes wanted there...... he assumes as his partner is involved, he has an automatic right to get involved. How common is it ?" Wouldn't he know if he is wanted there before the the actual meet? | |||
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"The female in a couple, begins playing with a single bi fem, girl to girl ...when the male of the couple proceeds to join in, without enquiring if hes wanted there...... he assumes as his partner is involved, he has an automatic right to get involved. How common is it ? Wouldn't he know if he is wanted there before the the actual meet? He would here.... " Sorry..In a party situation... | |||
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"The female in a couple, begins playing with a single bi fem, girl to girl ...when the male of the couple proceeds to join in, without enquiring if hes wanted there...... he assumes as his partner is involved, he has an automatic right to get involved. How common is it ? Wouldn't he know if he is wanted there before the the actual meet? He would here.... Sorry..In a party situation... " No one has an automatic right to anything. However, I would think it pretty rude of a single person to start playing with one member of couple and just expect the other half to be excluded... unless they had explained this first. They certainly shouldn't be arsey at him testing the water by trying to join in. | |||
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"The female in a couple, begins playing with a single bi fem, girl to girl ...when the male of the couple proceeds to join in, without enquiring if hes wanted there...... he assumes as his partner is involved, he has an automatic right to get involved. How common is it ?" I assume this is not a hypothetical question. Reading between the lines it sounds like the incident occured in a club and you were piqued by it. No always means no. I think most would say it is a quite natural assumption to make. Granted in my experience as a swinging couple my intervention in a scene with either man or woman would not have been welcome. However that is far from the norm. I doubt most partners in a couple would want the other to feel left out. However if his involvement was not welcome I am sure with a few gentle words he could be set straight. | |||
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"The female in a couple, begins playing with a single bi fem, girl to girl ...when the male of the couple proceeds to join in, without enquiring if hes wanted there...... he assumes as his partner is involved, he has an automatic right to get involved. How common is it ?" to be honest with you id say he does have the rights to join in, maybe not touch the other woman but if his wife is playing with someone else surely he dont have to ask to touch her? | |||
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"The female in a couple, begins playing with a single bi fem, girl to girl ...when the male of the couple proceeds to join in, without enquiring if hes wanted there...... he assumes as his partner is involved, he has an automatic right to get involved. How common is it ?" this happened to me with my first girl on girl experience, her guy got carried away so my first girl experience didnt go as planned... | |||
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"Thing is at the end of the day most couples come as a couple, they meet as a couple, they swing as a couple, in my expereince if you dont want to play with both of them then stay away because very few couples are happy for you to play with their partners and be excluded " yes i agree with what your saying and i am a couple now myself, but after along time chatting the rules were laid out from the start but sumtimes the heat of the moment takes over, the male wasnt being excluded, just wanted to be sure my 1st experience was right for me... | |||
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"If Mrs Bonks was playing with a woman and I decided to join in the fun and the other woman objected, but Mrs Bonks was enjoying herself, I would happily sit back and enjoy watching Mrs Bonks having fun. The same applies with her playing with single guys, sometimes I like to join in and sometimes I like to sit back and watch. Sometimes I can sense that she is so involved with the other guy that for me to interrupt would be very selfish and I am happy to sit back and enjoy her having fun. Absolutely no issues with us, we arrive together and leave together and enjoy having totally uncomplicated fun together " Now that is a sensible answer....or maybe it is just the one i agree with lol. | |||
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" IF Katee decided to play by herself no problem, she would be walking home. I would already have left!!! " dear god please tell thats a joke? | |||
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" IF Katee decided to play by herself no problem, she would be walking home. I would already have left!!! dear god please tell thats a joke? " I bet you, its not a joke, its much more common than people admit.. | |||
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"were they new to this?? as were still new and went to a club last week and I must have told my husband about 5 times to make sure he asked to join in. I think he gets all exsitedto much. but the lovely man who was in the pool asked my hubby if he could indulge. If it was the other way round and martyn was with someone i would go to join in with out thinking xx" even without asking both involved??? | |||
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"were they new to this?? as were still new and went to a club last week and I must have told my husband about 5 times to make sure he asked to join in. I think he gets all exsitedto much. but the lovely man who was in the pool asked my hubby if he could indulge. If it was the other way round and martyn was with someone i would go to join in with out thinking xx even without asking both involved???" Rules dont apply to women, can on get with the program | |||
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"were they new to this?? as were still new and went to a club last week and I must have told my husband about 5 times to make sure he asked to join in. I think he gets all exsitedto much. but the lovely man who was in the pool asked my hubby if he could indulge. If it was the other way round and martyn was with someone i would go to join in with out thinking xx even without asking both involved??? Rules dont apply to women, can on get with the program " LOL.. | |||
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"If Mrs Bonks was playing with a woman and I decided to join in the fun and the other woman objected, but Mrs Bonks was enjoying herself, I would happily sit back and enjoy watching Mrs Bonks having fun. The same applies with her playing with single guys, sometimes I like to join in and sometimes I like to sit back and watch. Sometimes I can sense that she is so involved with the other guy that for me to interrupt would be very selfish and I am happy to sit back and enjoy her having fun. Absolutely no issues with us, we arrive together and leave together and enjoy having totally uncomplicated fun together " And thats the way it should be. When we're at a party we'll most probably split up but keep crossing paths during the evening,either watching each other or maybe joining in. We both enjoy ourselves and always,always leave together. XXXX | |||
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" Rules dont apply to women, can on get with the program " that does seem to be the case dont it lol lost count of the amount of times ive been playing in a open room and a womans just started touching me, there would be all hell breaking loose if a guy just grabbed hole of another guys cock lol | |||
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" Rules dont apply to women, can on get with the program that does seem to be the case dont it lol lost count of the amount of times ive been playing in a open room and a womans just started touching me, there would be all hell breaking loose if a guy just grabbed hole of another guys cock lol" Bit unfair ,dont you think... | |||
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" Rules dont apply to women, can on get with the program that does seem to be the case dont it lol lost count of the amount of times ive been playing in a open room and a womans just started touching me, there would be all hell breaking loose if a guy just grabbed hole of another guys cock lol Bit unfair ,dont you think... " its totally pisses me off to be honest lol | |||
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"If Mrs Bonks was playing with a woman and I decided to join in the fun and the other woman objected, but Mrs Bonks was enjoying herself, I would happily sit back and enjoy watching Mrs Bonks having fun. The same applies with her playing with single guys, sometimes I like to join in and sometimes I like to sit back and watch. Sometimes I can sense that she is so involved with the other guy that for me to interrupt would be very selfish and I am happy to sit back and enjoy her having fun. Absolutely no issues with us, we arrive together and leave together and enjoy having totally uncomplicated fun together " You two seem to me to be a very 'together' couple good on you, wish more had the same attitude. xxx | |||
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" IF Katee decided to play by herself no problem, she would be walking home. I would already have left!!! dear god please tell thats a joke? " No joke. If you have an arrangement with your partner to 'play together' and a 3rd party doesn't want to go along with that idea. surely you owe it to your partner to stick by them and not the 3rd party? Its like going to a club together and then once inside, your partner going off to do their own thing leaving you to either stand out like a sore thumb or waiting while they have fun by themselves. Tell me where the mutual fun is in that? Ive not heard of a club that only has couples nights and then lets guys roam around attempting to get in with other couples without their wife being with them have you? | |||
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"The female in a couple, begins playing with a single bi fem, girl to girl ...when the male of the couple proceeds to join in, without enquiring if hes wanted there...... he assumes as his partner is involved, he has an automatic right to get involved. How common is it ? to be honest with you id say he does have the rights to join in, maybe not touch the other woman but if his wife is playing with someone else surely he dont have to ask to touch her? " Quite Right!! He should be able to do EXACTLY as he likes to his wife while she's with someone else. Then he could punch her lights out , keep her short of money and make sure she cooks and cleans for ever. Poor fella ...fancy having to ask his wife anything - males have automatic rights to women , we all know that. | |||
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" IF Katee decided to play by herself no problem, she would be walking home. I would already have left!!! dear god please tell thats a joke? No joke. If you have an arrangement with your partner to 'play together' and a 3rd party doesn't want to go along with that idea. surely you owe it to your partner to stick by them and not the 3rd party? Its like going to a club together and then once inside, your partner going off to do their own thing leaving you to either stand out like a sore thumb or waiting while they have fun by themselves. Tell me where the mutual fun is in that? Ive not heard of a club that only has couples nights and then lets guys roam around attempting to get in with other couples without their wife being with them have you?" ahh but you said "if katie decided to play by herself NO PROBLEM, but she would be walking home etc, if you'd walk of and leave your own partner stranded then her playing alone is a problem, because if it wasnt a problem you wouldnt feel the need to leave her, as you said if you had an arrangement to only play together and they ignored that and left you to go play with someone else after you'd agreed that wasnt what you was doing i can understand you being miffed, stil dont excuse you leaving a woman with no way to get home, but why say no problem when it obviously is? | |||
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"Sorry NN it was probably a poor choice of words to explain what I was meaning, thought my second post made it more clearer, obviously not. If you were there as a couple to mutually play with others and one of you joined a third party, then the 3rd party objected to the 2nd partner joining in as well. Why on earth would the original partner carry on and ignore their own spouse? Granny crumpet alluded to men treating their wives as chattels etc. But surely if somebody were to act like above then that is treating their husbands every bit as badly? " of course. i totally agree with you, if you set rules before you go out then in order for everyone top be happy the rules should be withheld As for granny crumpets comments i feel was a little tongue in cheek lol either that or shes had some bad experiences with men in the past lol i used to swing as a couple with my husband for many years and i would never have expected him to ask to toucch me be it in our bed alone at night or in a swinging situation, he was my husband we has sex all the time asking if it was ok to touch me just wasnt someting that never enteried my mind, and he never beat me up nor kept me short of money, but then i was one of them modern women that worked for a living lol | |||
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"Sorry NN it was probably a poor choice of words to explain what I was meaning, thought my second post made it more clearer, obviously not. If you were there as a couple to mutually play with others and one of you joined a third party, then the 3rd party objected to the 2nd partner joining in as well. Why on earth would the original partner carry on and ignore their own spouse? Granny crumpet alluded to men treating their wives as chattels etc. But surely if somebody were to act like above then that is treating their husbands every bit as badly? of course. i totally agree with you, if you set rules before you go out then in order for everyone top be happy the rules should be withheld As for granny crumpets comments i feel was a little tongue in cheek lol either that or shes had some bad experiences with men in the past lol i used to swing as a couple with my husband for many years and i would never have expected him to ask to toucch me be it in our bed alone at night or in a swinging situation, he was my husband we has sex all the time asking if it was ok to touch me just wasnt someting that never enteried my mind, and he never beat me up nor kept me short of money, but then i was one of them modern women that worked for a living lol" cheeky mare !! nothing new about it .. women have always worked xx P.S. Ive never had a bad experience with a man yet.... and no xxx i'd have never expected my husband to ask to touch me ... that would have been weird xx | |||
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