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By *acDreamy OP   Man
over a year ago

Wirral

How do you help people who are close to you when they are anxious.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

I'm not an expert in any way at all. My usual starting point is to ask them if they'd like a cup of tea - I find it serves as something for them to focus upon, as well as an excuse to stop what they're doing if it's exacerbating their anxiety. Also with a cuppa, I might sit next to them and ask how they are and steer to conversation tentatively to what it may be that's bothering them and offer whatever advice might be appropriate if it falls within my experience, but if that seems the wrong tack then I'll try to steer it in the direction of something more diversionary to maybe re-engage with the issue via a different topic.

I know it's probably not in line with how someone trained or qualified might approach it, but I imagine every case will have its own best way to help.

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By *acDreamy OP   Man
over a year ago

Wirral

I have always been a "fixer" but often anxieties are the issue. Fixing the problem doesn't really help.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

With something they need, each person grounds In a different way and what works for one won't work for another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Truth is you can't. All you can do is offer help and advice when they ask for it or adjust to make them more comfortable. They will probably already have their coping mechanisms, so sometimes its just being understanding that is needed.

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By *acDreamy OP   Man
over a year ago

Wirral


"Truth is you can't. All you can do is offer help and advice when they ask for it or adjust to make them more comfortable. They will probably already have their coping mechanisms, so sometimes its just being understanding that is needed."

I hate feeling helpless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get quite anxious, over the summer it got worse and worse, to the point I was having mini panic attacks.

I was having sessions with a therapist at the time and Doughnut came along to one of the session so he could learn some techniques to help me when I was having an attack and I'm so glad he did.

Not sure if this will work but look up the 54321 method on YouTube, it helps calm the person (if anything it actually took my mind off whatever was happening not because of the method but we could never remember the right order which helped me no end and I even managed to giggle after).

Holding something in your hand that brings you joy too helps no end (and no, I didn't always have Doughnuts erect cock in my hand!)

Danish x

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

The only thing that has helped my anxiety is medication. And honestly I feel like a new woman.

Maybe suggest an appointment with a GP to discuss things?

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By *acDreamy OP   Man
over a year ago

Wirral

I will look up 54321. Thank you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If anxiety is impacting negatively on their life professional help is probably the first step although it might be difficult to get them to seek it.

It isn't something people can get over or just stop and quite often it won't matter what you say or do. Solving the immediate thing that causes the anxiety won't help because it's the anxiety that needs to be sorted not the actual problem if you see what I mean. It can manifest as anger or depression too.

Hope you can find a way forward

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Sometimes you just need to be with them.

Take them out to a favourite spot "in nature" park/beach etc.

Give them a hug.

I have massive anxiety attacks, and there's not a whole lot that can be done x

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"I have always been a "fixer" but often anxieties are the issue. Fixing the problem doesn't really help. "

Quite often there isn't actually a problem... I can be anxious for absolutely no reason!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only thing that has helped my anxiety is medication. And honestly I feel like a new woman.

Maybe suggest an appointment with a GP to discuss things?"

Genuinely pleased to see you have got help with this and feel so much better. I know how much of an issue it was for you.

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