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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

I was having a conversation about this recently, the desire to really live after a health scare. How it changes you.

Do you show people they're important to you when they are? Are you able to do what's important to you? What really matters to you?

That last one is deliberately open. They're all kind of open to interpretation.:D

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I hope those in my life know that they are deeply loved. I lost my dad and it was always a comfort to know he loved me.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I like to make sure the people that matter to me know how much they matter to me.

Life is for living. Love is for loving

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

When someone I know (family member etc) has had a health scare it 'jolts me' from within, reminding me that I really need to do the things I've been putting off.

Therefore I am doing things that are important to me, for me. Not in a selfish way but just to reawaken those dormant aspirations that I know can enrich my life for the better. Waffle....sorry...

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I usually go through a phase of "life's to short", tell my friends I love them... And then normal life commitment kicks back in until the next time!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I had one of those a couple of years ago. Once the initial shock and slow recovery back to health had taken place. For me it ended in guilt for missing so much recover took over 2 years.

But I'm finally back on my feet again. And making memories with my kids and friends. Just walked up yr Wyddfa not bad for someone who couldn't walk up the stairs 3 years ago without being out of breath.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I hope those in my life know that they are deeply loved. I lost my dad and it was always a comfort to know he loved me. "

That's really beautiful. I think sometimes you really stop and remember how precious life is. It's those little memories. The lullabies of laughter from those who count. The kind words. The times together.

I tell my loved ones and friends how much they mean to me.

Try and show it frequently. Because I think that's what I want when I'm gone. To have those who I've cared about know I well and truly did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually go through a phase of "life's to short", tell my friends I love them... And then normal life commitment kicks back in until the next time! "

This is exactly me.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I've had a few health scares and to be honest it hasn't changed anything, I tell those I love I love them all the time anyway.

The only thing it's changed is now I don't tell people if there's a problem so I guess if anything I'm more distant about it and will just burden myself.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only reason told siblings about my heart issue so they could decide if they wanted to get tested

Told a couple of close friends but no one else

Weirdly I would find such a situation as a relief though may not if actually had to deal with it

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By *assy69Man
over a year ago

West Sussex and Wales

"I was having a conversation about this recently, the desire to really live after a health scare. How it changes you.

Do you show people they're important to you when they are? Are you able to do what's important to you? What really matters to you?

That last one is deliberately open. They're all kind of open to interpretation.:D"

Have had two health scares in my life …….

First was, quite literally, life changing in all sorts of ways and recovery was several years ……. During that time I went back to uni and left again after completing a couple of delegates that allowed me to change my whole career in my late 30s….. am still in that career and still loving it

Second scare was more recent, and after I’d come back to England…… in a dead end job simply because I’d finished my training in another country, but, after this near death experience I jacked it in, took a plunge and applied to a firm here in England to do what I had been doing before……, they took on board that my training was not here, but my skill sets across different countries meant that they wanted me, and am still there today

Do I appreciate people more? I think no, I have realised that I like my own company and find people and crowds overwhelming, I pushed those close to me away, and those broken relationships still have not been able to heal

What really matters now…… taking each day as it comes, enjoying it, living it (after all, it may be the last one and, at my age, I am definitely a lot closer to my inevitable meeting with the grim reaper). I am now actively doing things that please me, that I have avoided my whole life because society generally considers them inappropriate, perverted, unwise, reckless etc etc.

There are bad days, dark days but, on the whole, am loving life on a way that I haven’t previously

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

The awareness of how fragile life can be has definitely changed me.

Not so much fear for my health. More allowing myself to become attached again.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

"I was having a conversation about this recently, the desire to really live after a health scare. How it changes you.

Do you show people they're important to you when they are? Are you able to do what's important to you? What really matters to you?

That last one is deliberately open. They're all kind of open to interpretation.:D"

If we are lucky and live to a good old age 79… that’s about 4,000 weeks in total. The practicalities of adult life… kids, work, mortgages dictates that many of those weeks are used up, the last weeks of life may be restricted by physical mobility… which leave very few for personal pleasures… I try to make the most of those precious weeks

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I can honestly say that when I got run over at 18, my life really did flash before my eyes (albeit it didn’t take long!).

And my one remaining thought was - I wasn’t ready to die. Not that I was anyway near death, I was just being dramatic, but I’d only just started dating my first boyfriend and I felt really miffed with life that I could lose out on that relationship developing.

At that age I was pretty selfish because it was all about that than worrying about my mum or my Nan and Grampy, because at that age people seem indestructible to you, and I thought they’d get over it eventually.

But if anything were to happen to me now, I’d want to speed dial my ex and give him a long lecture on how he’d better look after the kids or I’d come back and haunt him.

I’d also worry about my mum and my three dogs, as my mum couldn’t look after them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No health scare myself but my mum's very quick decline with dementia and sudden death last year has made me appreciate my father more and realise just how difficult her last few years were for him.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I have been a carer for family members from the age of 12 so over the years I've experienced loss up close and personal many many times but none of those ever inspired me to live my life because I simply moved on to the next person who needed my help.

A combination of things gave me a kick up the arse just before turning 50 and changed my life and my attitude.

That new found sense of adventure went over a cliff 18 months ago due to poor personal health and has since crashed and burned with the loss of 3 close family members this year and a friend and colleague of almost 40 years being given just weeks to live.

I have lots of life left to live.

I just don't have the energy for it.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"I have been a carer for family members from the age of 12 so over the years I've experienced loss up close and personal many many times but none of those ever inspired me to live my life because I simply moved on to the next person who needed my help.

A combination of things gave me a kick up the arse just before turning 50 and changed my life and my attitude.

I have lots of life left to live.

I just don't have the energy for it. "

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Live your life Mr. Bites, you certainly enrich this place I can tell you!

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