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The art of talk

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Before you can walk the talk you have to make your talk game spot on.

The way to a meet is to seduce the mind, (a common marketing tactic coined from a member of the Freud family) if you feed the emotions there’s a better chance of meeting. It’s not just a ride, it’s an experience

Thoughts on this

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Yup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most people look for respect and communication as basic traits for a sexual partner. Feeding the emotions kinda sounds like they are playing the game to get the return, I'd rather people just be genuine. Those are the people that are able to connect with others.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Sounds like a sneaky strategy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think most people look for respect and communication as basic traits for a sexual partner. Feeding the emotions kinda sounds like they are playing the game to get the return, I'd rather people just be genuine. Those are the people that are able to connect with others."

I hear that. Being genuine is an ideal state to be, yet emotions are intrinsically woven into that….emotions dictate whether we purchase something, the feelings and pleasure we want to feel when you have “that thing” you crave

The same could be said for swinging too…people have their “preferences” and that’s driven by emotions they want to feel before, during and after

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds like a sneaky strategy

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Not really….if you think about it what you seek is driven by emotions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to me baby

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Sounds like a sneaky strategy

Not really….if you think about it what you seek is driven by emotions "

What emotions would you hope to stir when messaging someone

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

I can only empathise and agree with the OP here. The art of the “chat” has to be more about the mind and emotions than the blunt. I can certainly report me most meaningful results when a relationship has developed in cyber chat before any meetings have taken place. Emotions such as amusement, curiosity and fondness maybe bringing better results than straight lust, although I accept totally that the latter has its place!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds like a sneaky strategy

Not really….if you think about it what you seek is driven by emotions

What emotions would you hope to stir when messaging someone "

You wouldn’t do just the straight physical act with no connection or emotion…..

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Before you can walk the talk you have to make your talk game spot on.

The way to a meet is to seduce the mind, (a common marketing tactic coined from a member of the Freud family) if you feed the emotions there’s a better chance of meeting. It’s not just a ride, it’s an experience

Thoughts on this"
People don't talk that much in clubs to be fair, talk has to work here because of the ratio of men to women

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I don't think someone should deliberately play on another's emotions in order to seduce them. It's crappy behaviour to be fair.

Yes, I understand there are far more men than women on here and it can be difficult to get a conversation to stick and then lead to a social/date/fuckfest.

Still, it doesn't really excuse a PUA-esque strategy. I think the majority of people would much rather have someone who can communicate with them honestly and with authenticity.

I understand what you're saying about making it an experience rather than a ride but as someone who's dealt with emotional flip-flopping etc?

It's fucking exhausting and unfair.

Don't be a twunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Before you can walk the talk you have to make your talk game spot on.

The way to a meet is to seduce the mind, (a common marketing tactic coined from a member of the Freud family) if you feed the emotions there’s a better chance of meeting. It’s not just a ride, it’s an experience

….."

Thanks for the tips op. I’m writing this down….this is good stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think most people look for respect and communication as basic traits for a sexual partner. Feeding the emotions kinda sounds like they are playing the game to get the return, I'd rather people just be genuine. Those are the people that are able to connect with others."

All of this I feel is true for me.

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