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"Hi. Not sure if anyone else has had this problem but it's something that is proving to be very annoying. In our profile, we politely state that we aren't interested in meeting black or Asian people and insist that it's purely down to preference, not ignorance. We ask that "I can read" be put in the subject so we know our profile has been read fully and it's still not stopped individuals who obviously CAN'T read messaging us. On politely pointing this out to them, some get really offended and call us racist. For God's sake, I'm Jamaican, Chinese and Scottish, having pics on my profile to confirm I myself am of mixed ethnicity so where do they get off? Granted, most are apologetic and very polite but the minority of arrogant guys are still an annoying thing to tolerate. Any advice or similar experiences? Why can some people say they ONLY want black people yet my polite "no thanks" to non-white members is deemed offensive to some?" It's not racist and it's your profile so ask for who you like | |||
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"Jamaican, Chinese and Scottish ? That is an unusual combination. Do you have a petite build, really good dance moves and a ginger muff " Some people! what you have just said could be construed as racial stereotyping, It can be like tap dancing in a minefield trying to put a profile together which will not offend anyone. | |||
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"Jamaican, Chinese and Scottish ? That is an unusual combination. Do you have a petite build, really good dance moves and a ginger muff Some people! what you have just said could be construed as racial stereotyping, It can be like tap dancing in a minefield trying to put a profile together which will not offend anyone." Most things can in this day and age unfortunately. | |||
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"Jamaican, Chinese and Scottish ? That is an unusual combination. Do you have a petite build, really good dance moves and a ginger muff " Cheers Ryan I just choked on my toast x | |||
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"Hi. Not sure if anyone else has had this problem but it's something that is proving to be very annoying. In our profile, we politely state that we aren't interested in meeting black or Asian people and insist that it's purely down to preference, not ignorance. We ask that "I can read" be put in the subject so we know our profile has been read fully and it's still not stopped individuals who obviously CAN'T read messaging us. On politely pointing this out to them, some get really offended and call us racist. For God's sake, I'm Jamaican, Chinese and Scottish, having pics on my profile to confirm I myself am of mixed ethnicity so where do they get off? Granted, most are apologetic and very polite but the minority of arrogant guys are still an annoying thing to tolerate. Any advice or similar experiences? Why can some people say they ONLY want black people yet my polite "no thanks" to non-white members is deemed offensive to some?" There is nothing wrong with saying what you want, its people saying NO this or that that people take exception at. Personally we think you should be able to chose ethnicity, size, marital status and any other variable after all you wouldn't call someone homophobic if they chose not to play with someone of the same sex. | |||
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"Jamaican, Chinese and Scottish ? That is an unusual combination. ........." Not that unusual. We (Scots) got everywhere. Missionaries, merchants, matelots and mercenaries. | |||
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"Hi. Not sure if anyone else has had this problem but it's something that is proving to be very annoying. In our profile, we politely state that we aren't interested in meeting black or Asian people and insist that it's purely down to preference, not ignorance. We ask that "I can read" be put in the subject so we know our profile has been read fully and it's still not stopped individuals who obviously CAN'T read messaging us. On politely pointing this out to them, some get really offended and call us racist. For God's sake, I'm Jamaican, Chinese and Scottish, having pics on my profile to confirm I myself am of mixed ethnicity so where do they get off? Granted, most are apologetic and very polite but the minority of arrogant guys are still an annoying thing to tolerate. Any advice or similar experiences? Why can some people say they ONLY want black people yet my polite "no thanks" to non-white members is deemed offensive to some? There is nothing wrong with saying what you want, its people saying NO this or that that people take exception at. Personally we think you should be able to chose ethnicity, size, marital status and any other variable after all you wouldn't call someone homophobic if they chose not to play with someone of the same sex. " I agree with that. Somehow it makes sense to state what you're looking for, but to exclude inevitably sounds judgemental. | |||
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"Instead of putting it on your profile why not just delete messages from people you're not attracted to because of their colour in the same way you would delete messages from white guys who don't appeal to you. By taking out that line from your profile you are not leaving yourselves open to accusations of racism. I'm sure you must get dozens of messages from white guys you don't like so treat them all the same - you're not attracted to them, black or white, and that's that." Wishy, this is the second time in two weeks that I have agreed with you! It has to stop.... | |||
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"Instead of putting it on your profile why not just delete messages from people you're not attracted to because of their colour in the same way you would delete messages from white guys who don't appeal to you. By taking out that line from your profile you are not leaving yourselves open to accusations of racism. I'm sure you must get dozens of messages from white guys you don't like so treat them all the same - you're not attracted to them, black or white, and that's that. Wishy, this is the second time in two weeks that I have agreed with you! It has to stop.... " Excuse me, this is a non-flirty thread, please desist. Thankyou. lol | |||
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"Instead of putting it on your profile why not just delete messages from people you're not attracted to because of their colour in the same way you would delete messages from white guys who don't appeal to you. By taking out that line from your profile you are not leaving yourselves open to accusations of racism. I'm sure you must get dozens of messages from white guys you don't like so treat them all the same - you're not attracted to them, black or white, and that's that. Wishy, this is the second time in two weeks that I have agreed with you! It has to stop.... " You think you've got problems?!! This is his third post TODAY I've agreed with! | |||
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"To be honest I don't understand how people can have a blanket 'preference' that means they find everyone of a particular race unattractive. To me there are people I do find attractive, and people I don't - all made up of a combination of things. I'm sure for most on here the 'preference' thing makes it an acceptable prejudice, but that's nonetheless what it is." very well put, this is how I feel about it too - any 'blanket' preference baffles me a little bit, there are attractive (to me) and unattractive (to me) people of all races, colours, shapes and sizes. | |||
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"Jamaican, Chinese and Scottish ? That is an unusual combination. Do you have a petite build, really good dance moves and a ginger muff " Hilarious!!!! | |||
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"Explain yourself to nobody" Probably the best thing to do there isn't a person on here I would think who doesn't have preferences and some types of people they wouldn't meet. ~As said before its better to state who you will meet not who you won't and block and ignore ones you have no interest in. | |||
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"People will ALWAYS find a reason to take offence or label you one thing or another... I for one have NEVER met a black or Asian man I find attractive and although everyone is quick to jump on the racism card, it's more down to the build and facial features I don't find attractive, so am I supposed to paint on a smile and open my legs for all and sundry just to appear "politically correct"? I don't think so! The people who want justification are not worth your time, everybody has preferences whether that be age, gender, body-type, ect. so we're all apparently an "ism" in some respect. Just have fun and don't feel pressured into justifying yourself. - Amy. x" build and facial features....u are indeed generalizing I'm afraid- not saying its any 'ism' but ive seen my share of people who look similar to each other from lots of races(my very dolly mixtured heritage proves that too) | |||
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"Just have fun and don't feel pressured into justifying yourself. - Amy. x" You contradicted your own advice. Personally I couldn't really explain why I find certain people attractive anyway, plus it changes all the time. Probably it is easier to be clear about what we don't like, but inevitably that's going to offend. | |||
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"There is nothing wrong with being a racist. It's personal choice and as long as one does not make racist comments it is not illegal. " It's not illegal, therefore it's right. Good luck with that attitude. | |||
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"There is nothing wrong with being a racist. It's personal choice and as long as one does not make racist comments it is not illegal. " Wait, what? | |||
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"There is nothing wrong with being a racist. It's personal choice and as long as one does not make racist comments it is not illegal. Wait, what?" LOL - I can here your cogs clanging | |||
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"Hi. Not sure if anyone else has had this problem but it's something that is proving to be very annoying. In our profile, we politely state that we aren't interested in meeting black or Asian people and insist that it's purely down to preference, not ignorance. We ask that "I can read" be put in the subject so we know our profile has been read fully and it's still not stopped individuals who obviously CAN'T read messaging us. On politely pointing this out to them, some get really offended and call us racist. For God's sake, I'm Jamaican, Chinese and Scottish, having pics on my profile to confirm I myself am of mixed ethnicity so where do they get off? Granted, most are apologetic and very polite but the minority of arrogant guys are still an annoying thing to tolerate. Any advice or similar experiences? Why can some people say they ONLY want black people yet my polite "no thanks" to non-white members is deemed offensive to some?" It's people making it something it's not. What you like is up to you. And people deeming it as racism are fickle and uneducated. Im mixed raced and have my preferred preferences. Your all good xxx | |||
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"Instead of putting it on your profile why not just delete messages from people you're not attracted to because of their colour in the same way you would delete messages from white guys who don't appeal to you. By taking out that line from your profile you are not leaving yourselves open to accusations of racism. I'm sure you must get dozens of messages from white guys you don't like so treat them all the same - you're not attracted to them, black or white, and that's that." Why should they leave that off there profile, nothing different to wanting slim or bbw, its preference, and that's what it's about, | |||
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"Did YOU not read my initial post? I myself am mixed race, and am not judging people on colour. People who " won't meet smokers". Are they discriminating too? I said it politely, informed it was preference. Surely that is the right thing to do?" | |||
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"Did YOU not read my initial post? I myself am mixed race, and am not judging people on colour. People who " won't meet smokers". Are they discriminating too? I said it politely, informed it was preference. Surely that is the right thing to do?" erm well quite clearly they are discriminating on the basis that they don't want to meet people who smoke. You asked for advice, you have plenty. Take it or leave it - after all that's your preference! | |||
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"OK so I put "white people only". Isn't that just as potentially offensive?" haha - I think yes it will still attract those same conversations. Maybe something like 'I'm mixed race and love to see my skin contrast with a pasty white person'... Or maybe not But perhaps something positive will help get positive responses. | |||
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"Instead of putting it on your profile why not just delete messages from people you're not attracted to because of their colour in the same way you would delete messages from white guys who don't appeal to you. By taking out that line from your profile you are not leaving yourselves open to accusations of racism. I'm sure you must get dozens of messages from white guys you don't like so treat them all the same - you're not attracted to them, black or white, and that's that." | |||
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"Thanks Amy. My grandad is as dark as they come, and I am not ashamed of my heritage. Just never been attracted to black or Asian guys. My dream man was Clark Kent when I was small not Bob Marley but I love his music and admire him greatly. Are white women who state they ONLY want black guys in the same bigot boat as me? Jeez!" I have white men only and I'm black. The only negative comments I've received have been from black men with selective reading. The spot "white" but words like single, local, sub, accommodate seem to escape them! | |||
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"There is nothing wrong with being a racist. It's personal choice and as long as one does not make racist comments it is not illegal. " Sounds like straw-clutching to me. Sorry, but being a racist makes a person ignorant, judgmental, lacking empathy and common decency. It's not illegal, but nor is being an idiot. | |||
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"There is nothing wrong with being a racist. It's personal choice and as long as one does not make racist comments it is not illegal. Sounds like straw-clutching to me. Sorry, but being a racist makes a person ignorant, judgmental, lacking empathy and common decency. It's not illegal, but nor is being an idiot." | |||
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"I don't fancy men with long scraggly beards who hide out in caves in Afghanistan but it's got fuck all to do with them being Taliban Muslims. " Lol ! | |||
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"I don't fancy men with long scraggly beards who hide out in caves in Afghanistan but it's got fuck all to do with them being Taliban Muslims. Lol ! " what is it then, u dont like there fashion? | |||
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"There is nothing wrong with being a racist. It's personal choice and as long as one does not make racist comments it is not illegal. Wait, what? LOL - I can here your cogs clanging" I really need glasses. I read "clanging" as "dangling" | |||
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