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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've got a horrible meeting this afternoon. When I'm anxious and feel overwhelmed my mouth runs at a million miles a hour. I must come across as agitated (this is not a good look)

What can I do to stay calm, speak clearly, to the point without losing myself?

Mrs C xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got a horrible meeting this afternoon. When I'm anxious and feel overwhelmed my mouth runs at a million miles a hour. I must come across as agitated (this is not a good look)

What can I do to stay calm, speak clearly, to the point without losing myself?

Mrs C xx "

Penny always has a wank before her big meetings, slows her down a bit and rids some of the nervous energy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got a horrible meeting this afternoon. When I'm anxious and feel overwhelmed my mouth runs at a million miles a hour. I must come across as agitated (this is not a good look)

What can I do to stay calm, speak clearly, to the point without losing myself?

Mrs C xx

Penny always has a wank before her big meetings, slows her down a bit and rids some of the nervous energy."

And yes, in the building about 2 minutes before she is due to present

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Bring a bottle of water in with you. Taking a few sips now and then will help slow you down.

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By *heonixrising500Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

Have a good orgasm to calm you down

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've got a horrible meeting this afternoon. When I'm anxious and feel overwhelmed my mouth runs at a million miles a hour. I must come across as agitated (this is not a good look)

What can I do to stay calm, speak clearly, to the point without losing myself?

Mrs C xx

Penny always has a wank before her big meetings, slows her down a bit and rids some of the nervous energy."

No no no. I'm not in a horny wanky mood. Be like rubbing sandpaper in the desert

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes


"I've got a horrible meeting this afternoon. When I'm anxious and feel overwhelmed my mouth runs at a million miles a hour. I must come across as agitated (this is not a good look)

What can I do to stay calm, speak clearly, to the point without losing myself?

Mrs C xx "

What kind of meeting is it? Keep notes of the points you're going to bring up. I'm sure you will do just fine

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Also if your reading from or basing it from notes, have bullet points to keep you on focus and stop you from wandering off topic.

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

Essex

Deep breaths, bottle of water, write your key points down and wear something that’s comfortable if possible. Good luck - you can do this x

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

Make bullet point notes of the important stuff you want to cover.

Before you commit to speaking take a brief pause to organise your thoughts.

Don’t panic that you’ve missed the opportunity to speak. You can always come in with “ can we just go back to x so I can check my understanding “ or “ I’ve been reflecting on something person A said and I’d like to share my thoughts “

Finally if you do find that at the end you have loads of ideas/thoughts that you didn’t manage to say, follow up with an email. “ thanks for your time earlier, since the meeting ended I have been pondering what was discussed abd have a few points I’d like you to consider “

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've got a horrible meeting this afternoon. When I'm anxious and feel overwhelmed my mouth runs at a million miles a hour. I must come across as agitated (this is not a good look)

What can I do to stay calm, speak clearly, to the point without losing myself?

Mrs C xx

What kind of meeting is it? Keep notes of the points you're going to bring up. I'm sure you will do just fine "

I can't control what others are going to say. That's the problem. Other people I think I have it all worked out in my head then BOOM

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Just relax, it always appears worse than it is. My wife's always anxious, if she can do this kind of thing believe me so can you

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

As others have says, make bullet point notes of your points.

Take a breath before speaking.

Write something at the top of your notes that will help you to focus on speaking slowly and enunciating each word.

If you have time, take a look at Amy Cudd’s Ted Talk on power poses.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Sing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Make bullet point notes of the important stuff you want to cover.

Before you commit to speaking take a brief pause to organise your thoughts.

Don’t panic that you’ve missed the opportunity to speak. You can always come in with “ can we just go back to x so I can check my understanding “ or “ I’ve been reflecting on something person A said and I’d like to share my thoughts “

Finally if you do find that at the end you have loads of ideas/thoughts that you didn’t manage to say, follow up with an email. “ thanks for your time earlier, since the meeting ended I have been pondering what was discussed abd have a few points I’d like you to consider “"

I think I could learn a lot from you Dave x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As others have says, make bullet point notes of your points.

Take a breath before speaking.

Write something at the top of your notes that will help you to focus on speaking slowly and enunciating each word.

If you have time, take a look at Amy Cudd’s Ted Talk on power poses. "

Definitely will do. Thank you

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

If you find yourself losing the thread,clench one fist and dig your nails into the palm of your hand.

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley


"Make bullet point notes of the important stuff you want to cover.

Before you commit to speaking take a brief pause to organise your thoughts.

Don’t panic that you’ve missed the opportunity to speak. You can always come in with “ can we just go back to x so I can check my understanding “ or “ I’ve been reflecting on something person A said and I’d like to share my thoughts “

Finally if you do find that at the end you have loads of ideas/thoughts that you didn’t manage to say, follow up with an email. “ thanks for your time earlier, since the meeting ended I have been pondering what was discussed abd have a few points I’d like you to consider “

I think I could learn a lot from you Dave x"

Happy to help in whatever way I can

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By *igjonny090Man
over a year ago

blackpool and Manchester

I tend to have something to chew on like a soft mint you can chew on it when you feel yourself getting overly off topic but can swallow it and carry on, same goes for a sip of watering others have suggested

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By *ornypottersCouple
over a year ago

thurso

deep breath before speaking , think before answering and take your time. sit on your hands to stop windmilling, lol. oh and avoid caffeine

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By *dventuresWithEveWoman
over a year ago

SW Birmingham outskirts


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I can't control what others are going to say. That's the problem. Other people I think I have it all worked out in my head then BOOM "

This is the main thing really, you can only control your thoughts and actions, words and reactions. If what others say is off point, bring the conversation back to the point in hand. If what they say annoys you, take a slow breath in and out, and consider whether it's worth it to still be annoyed afterwards. If yes, make a point or speak to them separately after the meeting, if no, let it go. Wish you good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"deep breath before speaking , think before answering and take your time. sit on your hands to stop windmilling, lol. oh and avoid caffeine "

Already on my 3rd coffee

I don't drink caffeine after 11am so hopefully I'll settle before 1.30pm

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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I can't control what others are going to say. That's the problem. Other people I think I have it all worked out in my head then BOOM

This is the main thing really, you can only control your thoughts and actions, words and reactions. If what others say is off point, bring the conversation back to the point in hand. If what they say annoys you, take a slow breath in and out, and consider whether it's worth it to still be annoyed afterwards. If yes, make a point or speak to them separately after the meeting, if no, let it go. Wish you good luck "

Good advice. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine them all naked, they are just human beings just like you except you aren’t naked, doesn’t matter what title they give themselves we all bleed the same, gods speed to you OP and nervousness is a sign that it matters to you internally, harness that energy, you are better than good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of deep breaths and conscious pauses.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Imagine them all naked, they are just human beings just like you except you aren’t naked, doesn’t matter what title they give themselves we all bleed the same, gods speed to you OP and nervousness is a sign that it matters to you internally, harness that energy, you are better than good"

Awww that's very good. Thanks

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

For myself in these situations:

Have a note pad and pen - any points raised which need to come back to or you want to think about, say "excellent point, we will come back to that shortly" and jot it down.

On your pad at the top, have a list of bullet points of main topics too, tick them off as discussed.

Also take a bottle of water and make sure you have been to the toilet beforehand.

Confidence is always key. Fake it if you dont feel it:

Shoulders back and sit tall

Try not to sit with arms crossed (pad in front of you and sit ready to write)

Eye contact and greetings to all present.

Best wishes for today and hope it goes well

MrsAbz

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Honestly thank you so much. Some really fantastic advice been dished out. I really appreciate it. I'm definitely picking some things out I know will work for me xx

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

How did you get on OP?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Just seen this ,I hope it all went well op .

Miss

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