FabSwingers.com forum: Forumite or a sex person.

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

So, let's go with the idea that if you're a forum user you prefer to know those you have sex with. If you're not, stranger shagging is more your cup of tea.

Is that true in your experience? Which are you?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I don't think forumites are anything special maybe thats the wrong thing to say but i for one am attracted to very few in forums but as a site yes i am attracted to whom I'm attracted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a stranger shagger, all those I have met I have built up a rapport. Also, I have not slept with all those I have met from Fab, some are good friends to meet socially and I'd like to keep it like that.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Surely answering at all makes the responder a forumite to some degree.

I like a connection. I like to be really into the people I spend one on one time with.

When I want mindless hedonism, that's what the clubs are for. I wouldn't meet some randomer last minute from fab for a one on one, I already have wonderful people on hand for that

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I think the forum users are just chatty. Perhaps if they are happy to chat with strangers they are also happy to bang them?

Gbat

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Different days, different needs/desires/opportunities. Each experience has merits I feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't agree.

I generally try and avoid people off the forums, people I talk to who don't use them I talk to for ages.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I use the forums as another filter and they tell me a lot more about a person than a bio ever could.

I don't meet random strangers.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I'm both, pulling a fit bloke at the bar for a night of debauchery gives me a hedonistic rush

Love and romance is for my known fwb's

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

There has been a mixture. And that's as much as I'm prepared to say.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

Really quickly - it's not about whether you meet forum people or not, we all know they're the worst blah blah blah.

It's more... do you prefer to have sex with strangers or those you know/have gotten to.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"So, let's go with the idea that if you're a forum user you prefer to know those you have sex with. If you're not, stranger shagging is more your cup of tea.

Is that true in your experience? Which are you? "

I've been both in the past. Most one to one meets were arranged with people I initially interacted with on the forums.

Stranger shagging was primarily a club phenomenon. Both had their appeal.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"Really quickly - it's not about whether you meet forum people or not, we all know they're the worst blah blah blah.

It's more... do you prefer to have sex with strangers or those you know/have gotten to."

In that case, I much prefer it with people I have got to know. That said, I've never done it with a stranger that I *really* fancy. That has possibilities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really quickly - it's not about whether you meet forum people or not, we all know they're the worst blah blah blah.

It's more... do you prefer to have sex with strangers or those you know/have gotten to."

I prefer to get to know someone and make a connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven’t meet and shagged anyone directly from fab

This happens at clubs, and it’s generally how the conversation is directing contacted

Club meets

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"do you prefer to have sex with strangers or those you know/have gotten to? "

Some days a stranger, some days someone with a connection.

I like steak, I also like fish!

Gbat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never stranger shag anyone anymore, i don't get enough from it so seems pointless to me.

Need to know the person and then get them naked.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Need to know the person and then get them naked. "

Me too.

But …

Sometimes you get to know someone *fast*.

Sometimes you just know.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Ummmm I'm not 100% sure of the question.

I "prefer" forum people because I have more of a glimpse in to whom they are. I like to know the person. Etc etc

But I still find the odd stranger that I've got to know that has no forum use at all

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

To be honest it totally varies, if I was planning a meet off here then yeah I'd want to get to know them and see if there was a connection.

If I met someone in a club it would be totally different I wouldn't have the amount of needing to get to know them as on here.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to know those I'm doing the sex with

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

I love getting to know people and letting things progress organically. It’s definitely what I’m looking for.

Although I would say everything serves a purpose and one night stands can be really hot. Being completely lost in lust with someone knowing that by morning you’ll be strangers again. Then in the years following, the memories flickering back to steal your sleep when you least expect it

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

"Really quickly - it's not about whether you meet forum people or not, we all know they're the worst blah blah blah.

It's more... do you prefer to have sex with strangers or those you know/have gotten to."

The latter. It's varies on how much and we'll I know each individual or how long it takes but the latter every time.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Lots of chat and then a social. After that with fabbers next meet is sexual.

As far as forumites are concerned it's pretty slim pickings finding someone in Reading and can accomodate with mutual attraction. I may get up to the next London social to meet more forumites. But my guess is location is still going to be an issue with anyone i meet there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Need to know the person and then get them naked.

Me too.

But …

Sometimes you get to know someone *fast*.

Sometimes you just know."

Sometimes you RTG are just a tart!

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

"Lots of chat and then a social. After that with fabbers next meet is sexual.

Aww I grew up in Emmer Green, how is the old town, it’s been 30 years since I’ve been back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to get to know someone before doing sex with them. Otherwise you don’t know what you’re gonna get

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

"I prefer to get to know someone before doing sex with them. Otherwise you don’t know what you’re gonna get "

Drama! You get drama! And chaos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer to get to know someone before doing sex with them. Otherwise you don’t know what you’re gonna get

Drama! You get drama! And chaos. "

Buckle up, sparklefarts

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I prefer to get to know someone before doing sex with them. Otherwise you don’t know what you’re gonna get

Drama! You get drama! And chaos.

Buckle up, sparklefarts

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither

I don't get sex from either

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

I've done a bit of both and the first time I played with all my regular playmates they were strangers

but im in a phase now where I like my playmates and that's it really I'm very content

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

Forumite. I’m just eye candy

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I like to get to know a person now, before getting naked.

Years ago I met people after short conversations and frequently felt flat afterwards.

I'm not a hook up kind of woman, which is why clubs don't appeal to me.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

A forum user I barely know would be a stranger.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

A regular fuckbuddy is best, You get to know them and it's nicer in some ways. However spontaneous fun can be hot! But not the full shabang mind.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I prefer to know the person a bit to actually feel a connection as I just think the sex is better.

That being said it doesn't have to be weeks of endless talking - sometimes you just get the sense the naked fandango is going to work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really quickly - it's not about whether you meet forum people or not, we all know they're the worst blah blah blah.

It's more... do you prefer to have sex with strangers or those you know/have gotten to."

I feel personally attacked!

But yeah I prefer to know someone, but not know them know them. You know?

I don't do personal stuff and no names, no good morning/good night messages. If I can talk random shit with a guy I know we'd get on.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I don't think forumites are anything special maybe thats the wrong thing to say but i for one am attracted to very few in forums but as a site yes i am attracted to whom I'm attracted

Same not come across any forum mites I fancy tbh ! Some nice people her though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer the ones I’ve got to know

It’s more about connection and chemistry with me

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"So, let's go with the idea that if you're a forum user you prefer to know those you have sex with. If you're not, stranger shagging is more your cup of tea.

Is that true in your experience? Which are you? "

I'm not stranger shagger hate that word .

So I like to know who I have sex with .

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We prefer to get to know people a little first before, make sure our personalities are matched and we are comfortable in their company.

The only exception is in a club when play can be impromptu, especially Ruby with the bi ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I do both?

And when is a stranger not a stranger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the lack of Alan Partridge quotes in this thread is frankly disappointing

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"We prefer to get to know people a little first before, make sure our personalities are matched and we are comfortable in their company.

The only exception is in a club when play can be impromptu, especially Ruby with the bi ladies. "

Ah clubs are a different environment from what I'm quickly learning! Yes; it's a different dynamic. Of course you can meet people you already know there but I think part of why people enjoy it so much is meeting new people etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I’m mostly into getting to know people before a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the lack of Alan Partridge quotes in this thread is frankly disappointing "

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=edESzn4JcGo

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

I prefer to have sex with someone I’m invested in.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Definitely people we get to know but rarely people who use the forums regularly.

It’s nice to keep them separate as hate all the lamp post pissing

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"So, let's go with the idea that if you're a forum user you prefer to know those you have sex with. If you're not, stranger shagging is more your cup of tea.

Is that true in your experience? Which are you? "

I’m not sure that is true, plenty of non-forum users say they want to chat first to see if there’s an attraction. Perhaps because if they want stranger shagging it’s much easier to find so they don’t need to advertise for it.

I prefer to like whoever I’m doing it with which means knowing them a bit first. I don’t need to see copies of their A level certificates but I do need to know if I can be a bit vulnerable without them mocking me. That’s why the forum is so useful, it lets you get an idea of whether it will be ok.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I prefer to have sex with someone I’m invested in. "

I don't like to become too invested, because they like to fuck off and find a girlfriend.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I can honestly say that I've never gone into this forum (or fabuys even) to hook up and I can't be the only one there.

It's pretty rare that I do complete stranger shagging as I usually need a decent idea of someone first. Of course what that actually entails for people (ie the idea of someone) will vary.

It's certainly 'a thing' to chat your way out of encounters either way I think!

Honestly, I think there's a reason we don't generally boff our mates, even the ones we fancy and could be up for it!

The friendships for me (I do have a few via this stuff) have always come afterwards, ie via meeting a few times etc.

I think it's quite hard to properly get to know someone when sex is clearly the agenda too! These things take time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever met two current (active) forumites and I married one of them.

I'm not one for random hook ups but if anyone from the forum ever took my fancy and vice versa and they wanted to bang, I'm open to it (don't worry, I won't marry you!)

Danish x

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Sounds like an idea that is somehow suggesting regular forum users aren't as scuzzy about the sex than everyone else is

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Sounds like an idea that is somehow suggesting regular forum users aren't as scuzzy about the sex than everyone else is "

Oh that's interesting! I thought it was saying forum users are boring fucks who rarely fuck and just talk about it instead. :D

That does happen. Sometimes.

I don't think there's anything wrong with either preference. One person isn't better than another because they want/hope for a connection. There can be snobbery around it sometimes, including inverse.

I think as long as you know and you're comfortable with what you want, that's enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer to have sex with someone I’m invested in.

I don't like to become too invested, because they like to fuck off and find a girlfriend. "
i promise not to do that. I’ve already got a fiancé!

You interested?

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

When I was younger, many centuries ago, I used to do a little of both. Mixing it up a bit. Someone you on is better because of…well things. But sometimes you can just click immediately and need to get into each others pants, then go your separate ways and there a b s o l u t e l y nothing wrong with that

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I prefer to have sex with someone I’m invested in.

I don't like to become too invested, because they like to fuck off and find a girlfriend. i promise not to do that. I’ve already got a fiancé!

You interested? "

Maybe

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

Sex is only for people with a connection - can be anyone i connect with but definitely not interested in a mindless shag - nothing in it for me. I like to feel connected. Even in a club - i like to have a chat and a laugh with people and if we play then its with someone i know a little bit about

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