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bad break ups and jelousy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

split up with my partner of 4 years around 8 months ago, i left my friends and family to be with this woman. we split due to constant argueing towards the end of the relationship. for the first month or so we were on good terms then we had an almighty row and battle was commenced, horrible things said both ways. we now have no contact as i found out she wanted a guy who blighted our relationship her so called best mate, i didnt take it very well and fair to say fucked up anychance of a friendship anytime in the near future, tbh jelousy took over me in a way id never felt before, i became someone ive never been, slightly obsessive some would say. i didnt like the person i became and had to just let her go, the single most hardest thing ive ever done. to this day i love the bones of her my first true love and il most probably look back in 30 years and know she was the one that i let slip through my fingers. strange how a partner or break up can change your whole personality. anyone else gone threw anything similar

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

havent gone through it but i can understand how it can happen. My fella is my best friend, lover and the absolute world to me. If anything or anyone ever threatened our relationship Im not sure what i would be capable of. I wish you joy, happiness and peace for your future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

life lessons learnt - my dont they hurt though so hugs for you - but next time you have a really good moment try and say to yourself you wouldnt have had that time if you were still where you were before - always going to be what ifs just have to learn to live with them - i have a very good friend who tells me not to navel gaze too much as dwelling on the past does no good at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not knowing you in person but reading your post, perhaps you are meant to love then part.

You are still young, not saying loving is any the less intense a feeling for you, but you have time on your side. Maybe you are meant to go out, see the world and seize each moment and live it for the experience it is, for that moment in time.

Once you have time and many of its experiences behind you will you be able to say she was the one for me .... then, but only then.

I hope life has many more pleasant experiences in store for you, appreciate each and every one when it happens and look back on them fondly. xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks guys!! great advise, looking forward now, was hard to get to the point im at now. l.i.f.e.g.o.e.s.o.n lol not been in another relationship yet but i truly miss sharing a bed with a partner. not for the sex, but for the intimate moments spooning ect... lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not knowing you in person but reading your post, perhaps you are meant to love then part.

You are still young, not saying loving is any the less intense a feeling for you, but you have time on your side. Maybe you are meant to go out, see the world and seize each moment and live it for the experience it is, for that moment in time.

Once you have time and many of its experiences behind you will you be able to say she was the one for me .... then, but only then.

I hope life has many more pleasant experiences in store for you, appreciate each and every one when it happens and look back on them fondly. xx

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i found these words warmly comforting, its crazy how words from perfect strangers can do this, thankyou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not knowing you in person but reading your post, perhaps you are meant to love then part.

You are still young, not saying loving is any the less intense a feeling for you, but you have time on your side. Maybe you are meant to go out, see the world and seize each moment and live it for the experience it is, for that moment in time.

Once you have time and many of its experiences behind you will you be able to say she was the one for me .... then, but only then.

I hope life has many more pleasant experiences in store for you, appreciate each and every one when it happens and look back on them fondly. xx

i found these words warmly comforting, its crazy how words from perfect strangers can do this, than kyou x "

You are welcome, I too have loved intensely. Was with my husband 20 years only to find out he was unfaithful, met another, he was the love of my life but was killed in a RTA.

Ten years after that and I'm still alone but have poured my love into family and friends. We all love, many of us lose, but most of us keep living and live each day to the full. xxx

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"Not knowing you in person but reading your post, perhaps you are meant to love then part.

You are still young, not saying loving is any the less intense a feeling for you, but you have time on your side. Maybe you are meant to go out, see the world and seize each moment and live it for the experience it is, for that moment in time.

Once you have time and many of its experiences behind you will you be able to say she was the one for me .... then, but only then.

I hope life has many more pleasant experiences in store for you, appreciate each and every one when it happens and look back on them fondly. xx

i found these words warmly comforting, its crazy how words from perfect strangers can do this, than kyou x

You are welcome, I too have loved intensely. Was with my husband 20 years only to find out he was unfaithful, met another, he was the love of my life but was killed in a RTA.

Ten years after that and I'm still alone but have poured my love into family and friends. We all love, many of us lose, but most of us keep living and live each day to the full. xxx "
i have no words im sorry to hear of your loses in your life

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thats awfull x how you cope with that il never know, very strong woman!!! wish you all the best and luck with future endevours x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sorry. Love is the greatest feeling, but not the be all and end all, and better to have experienced it than not at all. xxx

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"split up with my partner of 4 years around 8 months ago, i left my friends and family to be with this woman. we split due to constant argueing towards the end of the relationship. for the first month or so we were on good terms then we had an almighty row and battle was commenced, horrible things said both ways. we now have no contact as i found out she wanted a guy who blighted our relationship her so called best mate, i didnt take it very well and fair to say fucked up anychance of a friendship anytime in the near future, tbh jelousy took over me in a way id never felt before, i became someone ive never been, slightly obsessive some would say. i didnt like the person i became and had to just let her go, the single most hardest thing ive ever done. to this day i love the bones of her my first true love and il most probably look back in 30 years and know she was the one that i let slip through my fingers. strange how a partner or break up can change your whole personality. anyone else gone threw anything similar"
i know how u feel, i was with my ex and wen we split it broke my heart and me as a person, but things do change u will never forget, and i look back thinking wht if sometimes, but u will meet someone new, who will be the one for u time is a great healer just dont punish your self thinking whts she doing and who with cse it will destroy u good luck mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"split up with my partner of 4 years around 8 months ago, i left my friends and family to be with this woman. we split due to constant argueing towards the end of the relationship. for the first month or so we were on good terms then we had an almighty row and battle was commenced, horrible things said both ways. we now have no contact as i found out she wanted a guy who blighted our relationship her so called best mate, i didnt take it very well and fair to say fucked up anychance of a friendship anytime in the near future, tbh jelousy took over me in a way id never felt before, i became someone ive never been, slightly obsessive some would say. i didnt like the person i became and had to just let her go, the single most hardest thing ive ever done. to this day i love the bones of her my first true love and il most probably look back in 30 years and know she was the one that i let slip through my fingers. strange how a partner or break up can change your whole personality. anyone else gone threw anything similar i know how u feel, i was with my ex and wen we split it broke my heart and me as a person, but things do change u will never forget, and i look back thinking wht if sometimes, but u will meet someone new, who will be the one for u time is a great healer just dont punish your self thinking whts she doing and who with cse it will destroy u good luck mate "
yam pick me pick me lol xxxx

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"split up with my partner of 4 years around 8 months ago, i left my friends and family to be with this woman. we split due to constant argueing towards the end of the relationship. for the first month or so we were on good terms then we had an almighty row and battle was commenced, horrible things said both ways. we now have no contact as i found out she wanted a guy who blighted our relationship her so called best mate, i didnt take it very well and fair to say fucked up anychance of a friendship anytime in the near future, tbh jelousy took over me in a way id never felt before, i became someone ive never been, slightly obsessive some would say. i didnt like the person i became and had to just let her go, the single most hardest thing ive ever done. to this day i love the bones of her my first true love and il most probably look back in 30 years and know she was the one that i let slip through my fingers. strange how a partner or break up can change your whole personality. anyone else gone threw anything similar i know how u feel, i was with my ex and wen we split it broke my heart and me as a person, but things do change u will never forget, and i look back thinking wht if sometimes, but u will meet someone new, who will be the one for u time is a great healer just dont punish your self thinking whts she doing and who with cse it will destroy u good luck mate yam pick me pick me lol xxxx"
lol awww thanks hun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"split up with my partner of 4 years around 8 months ago, i left my friends and family to be with this woman. we split due to constant argueing towards the end of the relationship. for the first month or so we were on good terms then we had an almighty row and battle was commenced, horrible things said both ways. we now have no contact as i found out she wanted a guy who blighted our relationship her so called best mate, i didnt take it very well and fair to say fucked up anychance of a friendship anytime in the near future, tbh jelousy took over me in a way id never felt before, i became someone ive never been, slightly obsessive some would say. i didnt like the person i became and had to just let her go, the single most hardest thing ive ever done. to this day i love the bones of her my first true love and il most probably look back in 30 years and know she was the one that i let slip through my fingers. strange how a partner or break up can change your whole personality. anyone else gone threw anything similar i know how u feel, i was with my ex and wen we split it broke my heart and me as a person, but things do change u will never forget, and i look back thinking wht if sometimes, but u will meet someone new, who will be the one for u time is a great healer just dont punish your self thinking whts she doing and who with cse it will destroy u good luck mate "

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By *orkieMan
over a year ago

Who knows

Hmmm... best mates, confidantes etc (of the opposite sex) can be a right royal pain in the butt and IN MY EXPERIENCE (my view only, before I get flamed) usually have a hidden agenda. My advice for the future.... assess, plan and act accordingly

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"split up with my partner of 4 years around 8 months ago, i left my friends and family to be with this woman. we split due to constant argueing towards the end of the relationship. for the first month or so we were on good terms then we had an almighty row and battle was commenced, horrible things said both ways. we now have no contact as i found out she wanted a guy who blighted our relationship her so called best mate, i didnt take it very well and fair to say fucked up anychance of a friendship anytime in the near future, tbh jelousy took over me in a way id never felt before, i became someone ive never been, slightly obsessive some would say. i didnt like the person i became and had to just let her go, the single most hardest thing ive ever done. to this day i love the bones of her my first true love and il most probably look back in 30 years and know she was the one that i let slip through my fingers. strange how a partner or break up can change your whole personality. anyone else gone threw anything similar"

Did your partner join the site with you over a year ago?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Did your partner join the site with you over a year ago? "

yes but we had seperate profiles

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


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Did your partner join the site with you over a year ago?

yes but we had seperate profiles"

Ok, thanks for answering.

Break ups hurt, but you really will get over it.

Good luck.

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By *ethany10Couple
over a year ago

falkirk

I'm lucky never to have had a break up from a serious relationship and the wife and I will have been together 40 years come July. I can imagine it must be tough to get through break ups.

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly? Yes. Had a GF from the age of 13 to 18 til it went pearshaped for which we were both equally to blame. 32 years down the line I still have the odd day where it gnaws away at me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly? Yes. Had a GF from the age of 13 to 18 til it went pearshaped for which we were both equally to blame. 32 years down the line I still have the odd day where it gnaws away at me."

I still dream about the first girl I ever loved. It only happens once or twice per year now but it used to be a lot more regular than that. In a strange way it feels like I'm still connected to her. We never broke up for any other reason than we were just too young. I told her when we parted that we'd met too soon. She was married and pregnant within a year and her sister married my best mate so contact over the years was inevitable. She'll always be my first love and I'd still walk a million miles for her if she needed me.

I think as you get older and you've been on the treadmill for a while you learn that the all consuming love you feel when you're young is only transitory and that a different kind of loving is required to make a relationship last.

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