FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to The Lounge

No shows

Jump to newest
 

By *in-n-Tonic OP   Couple
over a year ago

East mids

Are you allowed to name people who don't bother turning up?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

No

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly not

It would be too open to abuse

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

The forum rules state:

Name and shame

Please don't name and shame other users. There's no way for us to police this so if you have a problem with another user, please REPORT them privately to Admin

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Short answer: No

Long answer: Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short answer: No

Long answer: Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo"

Wonder why your against it

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope just block and move on.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short answer: No

Long answer: Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Wonder why your against it "

Because some people deserve a chance to redeem themselves

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane


"Are you allowed to name people who don't bother turning up?"
No...but you can report them.which doesn't really work anyway

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

No, but I doubt they’d notice anyway on account of the fact they must have been INSANE!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *in-n-Tonic OP   Couple
over a year ago

East mids

We haven't named him, but wondered if there was a way to warn others they maybe wasting their time.

But if it's No then it's No.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"We haven't named him, but wondered if there was a way to warn others they maybe wasting their time.

But if it's No then it's No."

I see it frequently in statuses, X is a ...... I don't know what admin do about that

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We haven't named him, but wondered if there was a way to warn others they maybe wasting their time.

But if it's No then it's No."

What happened between you and they is your business, there's no saying they'll behave the same with another.

I understand your frustration though, but naming and shaming isn't allowed.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We haven't named him, but wondered if there was a way to warn others they maybe wasting their time.

But if it's No then it's No.

What happened between you and they is your business, there's no saying they'll behave the same with another.

I understand your frustration though, but naming and shaming isn't allowed.

"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *evin90Man
over a year ago

London

What do you think is worse stood up for a meet at your place/hotel or traveling miles and they ghosted you?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Popping a private note on their profile and block is better.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *heelerMan
over a year ago

Northants


"No"

Its one of the most frustrating things on fab though .Don't know why people just dont show.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *heelerMan
over a year ago

Northants


"What do you think is worse stood up for a meet at your place/hotel or traveling miles and they ghosted you? "

Probably driving miles having done it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Are you allowed to name people who don't bother turning up?"
nope sorry

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *sbotangoMan
over a year ago

Close by

Currently 50 mins over meeting time, no message to say they had to cancel. No response to my messages. This is getting an all too common occurrence recently

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *KloganMan
over a year ago

Ramsbottom

Ahh no shows suck..

For what it’s worth and to give a little balance.

I walked for an hour and a half yesterday (seemed like an adventure at the time) covered a fair few miles along the way too.

Dedication for the cause.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they haven't turned up, can I take their place instead?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but technically you can report their profile for it, no idea if that does anything though

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *evin90Man
over a year ago

London

Worst thing in the world. Took the day and all.

She had the cheek to message me this morning.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Worst thing in the world. Took the day and all.

She had the cheek to message me this morning. "

They're the ones that really wind me up, when they act all innocent.

Did have a great experience when a couple didn't show up and then ghosted us. Then about 6 months later their status was whinging about them experiencing the exact same thing!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

You can report them for no show, but no idea what that does.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they haven't turned up, can I take their place instead? "

Like when someone takes a fight a short notice

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I can't comment on how frustrating it must be when someone doesn't show because I've never had a no show or been one in all my time here.

In seven years you might think that the law of averages would mean by this stage it should have happened but the fact is that it hasn't and it has actually been more than 5 years since I had a cancellation in advance of meeting. Again, I've never been the one to cancel.

I have to assume that not meeting at the drop of a hat and chatting for quite a while before even discussing the possibility has something to do with it but if I found that I was having repeated no shows I would start looking at how I was vetting the people I was chatting to.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *elaniejayTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Just commenting on this as it's happened a lot more to me in the last month than ever before. Maybe for us CD/TVs there is the additional guilt factor that comes into play when a nervous guy is worried if he is bi, gay or whatever..

I assign mental odds to a guy for a meet for the chances of him showing up, here are some examples:

1. New profile, no phone number 100/1

2. New profile, got phone number and it works: 5/1

3. Someone not online on Fab on the day of the meet: 20/1

4. Someone I met before who loved it last time: 3/2 on

5. Met quite a few times before: virtual certainty

And so on btw (1) and (2) I would not meet without a serious backup plan. I still chance it though as its nice to meet new people

Melanie xx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top