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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Isnt always easy, ive been kidding myself for the last couple of weeks that ive been back on my feet when i havent. I just tend to hide myself away or tell everyone im ok.

Well Jay and i have a few things to look forward to but to be honest ive been dreading going.

Ive accepted that ive put lots of weight back on and am starting to loose it.

So today ive just bought some clothes for the first time in ages and ive written myself a list of what i want to start doing each week.

Weve got valentines this week, then i think the week after where going to london to the theatre, then my birthday then a few more other bits before going to scotland. I know im very lucky, but for those that suffer depression you know that its not about what you have its just a nightmare sometimes getting out of bed.

Ive told myseld my dad wouldnt of wanted this, in fact at the moment im not sure if its grieve mixed with the depression thats making me feel like this.

Maybe someone knows where i can write an online blog for when i need my thoughts to come out instead of boring you lot with it.

I have to keep telling myself not on here but in the real world that you can say hey actually know im not alright, but its very difficult sometimes.

So now ive told you(well myself) that yes i am pretty shitty at the moment i can move on.

Ive tried to not say to much since my dad died but i guess i cant always keep things to myself.

Its also much easier typing into a blank space than picking the phone up and pysicaly speaking to someone

Rant over

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I will send you a big hug and kiss - i've been there myself and know how you're feeling, you've got the right attitude though and I'm sure you'll be back on track very soon, Z xxxxx

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

* plays Tubthumpmping (I get knocked down, but I get up again) for you Karen *

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Its also much easier typing into a blank space than picking the phone up and pysicaly speaking to someone

Rant over"

Very true that. I hope things improve for you. Just make sure you're getting plenty of 'me' time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First step in getting better is acknowledging that you have the problem.

Yes you will feel awful but that is ok as you are entitled to feel awful.

Keep on doing what you are doing, plan some treats out and enjoy the good days when you have them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending hugs. It's bound to have an effect on you, just ride with it. Nothing wrong with wallowing. If it turns into depression then you know the signs to look for.

Maybe type your thoughts into a diary on your computer? No-one else will see it but you can get it all out. And maybe over time read it and see how far you've come. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a good thing to get it off your chest, there have been times I've wanted to do the same, but I'm a bottler, no one gets to know whats really troubling me, I deal with it myself, I have never properly grieved for my son or my parents, I never had time or was really allowed to. So if it helps you to post on here then do it hun, if people don't want to see it, they don't have to read it simple.

I hope things soon start taking a turn for the better, enjoy your time away with Jay and relax x

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By *issmekate xxxWoman
over a year ago

Non Vanilla Land

Oh my darling .... I have seen you quite often when I have been browsing the forums .... sending very big hugs to you .... have first hand experience, my ex suffered very badly like you, three years, head under the pillow etc ... I am sure you know, but it takes lots of time, do not be afraid to ask for help, you sound like you have lots of good friends for support, try and take a deep breath every now and again .... lots of me time, lots of cuddles, be strong, take one day at a time and try and hold on to the good times and happy thoughts xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big cwtches from Wales xxx

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"Isnt always easy, ive been kidding myself for the last couple of weeks that ive been back on my feet when i havent. I just tend to hide myself away or tell everyone im ok.

Well Jay and i have a few things to look forward to but to be honest ive been dreading going.

Ive accepted that ive put lots of weight back on and am starting to loose it.

So today ive just bought some clothes for the first time in ages and ive written myself a list of what i want to start doing each week.

Weve got valentines this week, then i think the week after where going to london to the theatre, then my birthday then a few more other bits before going to scotland. I know im very lucky, but for those that suffer depression you know that its not about what you have its just a nightmare sometimes getting out of bed.

Ive told myseld my dad wouldnt of wanted this, in fact at the moment im not sure if its grieve mixed with the depression thats making me feel like this.

Maybe someone knows where i can write an online blog for when i need my thoughts to come out instead of boring you lot with it.

I have to keep telling myself not on here but in the real world that you can say hey actually know im not alright, but its very difficult sometimes.

So now ive told you(well myself) that yes i am pretty shitty at the moment i can move on.

Ive tried to not say to much since my dad died but i guess i cant always keep things to myself.

Its also much easier typing into a blank space than picking the phone up and pysicaly speaking to someone

Rant over"

When I was suffering from depression, I kept a journal and it really helped me to work through some of the very real problems that had caused the depression in the first place. Depression can also cause anxiety and with it comes some very muddled thoughts. Whether these thoughts and fears had their base in reality or not, the process of writing means that you have to iron these thoughts out to get them down on paper. This saved me in the end and helped me to find my way out of it and get back on my feet.

You're already taking positive steps and you will get there. Be kind to yourself. Take your time. Talk to the people you love. You will prevail. It will get easier. I guarantee it! Xxx

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Those that know me know i have bi polar type one, i know i had a melt down once before in the forums. Im going to ring my nurse first thing in the morning and get this back under control.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"Those that know me know i have bi polar type one, i know i had a melt down once before in the forums. Im going to ring my nurse first thing in the morning and get this back under control."

That sounds like a wise thing to do, Z xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Those that know me know i have bi polar type one, i know i had a melt down once before in the forums. Im going to ring my nurse first thing in the morning and get this back under control."

Great idea Karen, we all need to ask for that extra help at times. Sending love and hugs your way xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was sorry to hear about your dad.

my friend died just before xmas she was 90 though and i heard the other day my auntie had died she was 90 too, which is a good age.

still felt a bit sad about it though.

i didnt think you could of got over losing your dad already, i think it took me a few months when my parents died.

when our little dog died we werent going to get another one but we got a puppy 4 days later, lots of people stopped to talk to us when we took her out for walks and said they werent going to get another dog either but they missed them so much.

sometimes think it does help to talk to people who have lost someone or when you read about someone else who has as it makes you realise your not the only one to feel the way you do.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

Xxxxxxx get help Karen,and get it sorted.

Hope all goes well.xxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know that you've had a rough time lately Diamond and you are often very open and honest about your illness.

I think a lot of people find it easy to type into an open space, to strangers, rather than someone close to them. It can often feel safer, as sometimes we hold back certain things because we don't want to be a burden or we don't want loved ones to know the full extent of how we feel.

Sadly there is always a risk when you open up your inner thoughts online, that people will also treat you with scorn, and some feel its wrong to reveal personal things, especially, for some reason, on a swinging site. We have had a couple of instances recently of people stating that others are bad parents and the like because they've started threads on here about things they are worried about.

Its a good thing to be compassionate of others however they wish to deal with things.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"Those that know me know i have bi polar type one, i know i had a melt down once before in the forums. Im going to ring my nurse first thing in the morning and get this back under control."

Writing it down helps

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I know that you've had a rough time lately Diamond and you are often very open and honest about your illness.

I think a lot of people find it easy to type into an open space, to strangers, rather than someone close to them. It can often feel safer, as sometimes we hold back certain things because we don't want to be a burden or we don't want loved ones to know the full extent of how we feel.

Sadly there is always a risk when you open up your inner thoughts online, that people will also treat you with scorn, and some feel its wrong to reveal personal things, especially, for some reason, on a swinging site. We have had a couple of instances recently of people stating that others are bad parents and the like because they've started threads on here about things they are worried about.

Its a good thing to be compassionate of others however they wish to deal with things. "
Voted best post on this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Karen, its still early days since your dad passed away. You are gonna have good days and bad, its part of the grieving process. Im glad you have things to look forward to, and are on the road back to us. Take care my lovely,.and god bless you. Hugs... Jules xx

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

Diamond you are a breath of fresh air most days on here, issues aside you make alot of people laugh. I have a couple of friends with bi-polar, one that controls it rather well the other that doesn't. At the moment he is going though his withdrawn stage, no one visits except me for a couple of minutes a day maximum (his choice not mine). All I can do is try and be around for when he wants to talk and as others have said maybe its easier online for some. So if we can be your sponge or sounding board I am sure most of are happy to for full.

My Grandfather always said it not how many times you get knocked down, it's how many times you get up that counts.

Love Karlxxx

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