FabSwingers.com forum: Confidence levels

By *mDeethatsme OP Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

Afternoon you lovely lot

How do you rate your confidence in general.

Mine is quite low due to difficult ho_elife & I’m crippled with anxiety & self doubt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good afternoon to you as well

That’s a hard question in the public eye a 20 out off 10

Behind closed doors a -1000 out off 10

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

not to bad tbh,,

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

At work it’s high, I know that I’m good at it.

Personal life, flaky, much better than it was after many years of any confidence being nipped in the bud, hopefully good enough to know I can enjoy myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In general day to day life, I'm ok actually.

With men, that's a whole different story and I have zero confidence. But I don't stress about it anymore, I'm happy with no sex!

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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago

North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester

Confidence levels are around 7.5..used to be higher but been away from the clubbing scene for about 11 months..Confidence levels will then raise to around 9 then

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By *outhDublinMan86Man
over a year ago

shankill

Mines fairly low I must admit. Working on it though. Here can be a good (and bad) place for it if I’m honest.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Overall? It's massively improving. Probably about a six? Maybe seven. I'm ready to try a club with some friends so I'd say a seven.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence is at about a 0..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the situation. If it's familiar then maybe around a 7 but if it's new to me, then probably around a 3. At minute it's pretty much a 1 so just waiting for that to pass

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I'm very confident, I'm very happy and i don't really get nervous in any situation

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
over a year ago

your head

Depends on the day. Sometimes I'm pretty chilled and just get on stuff, other times everything terrifies me. How much sleep I've had has an impact too.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

I have confidence, im comfortable with myself, who I am, what I am amd how I am. I engage ppl in conversation and keep a conversation going, without being a dick

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Fairly low at the moment, to be honest, for various reasons. It's been a tough couple of years all in all.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Work confidence 7/10

Overall confidence 4/10

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

"Afternoon you lovely lot

How do you rate your confidence in general.

Mine is quite low due to difficult ho_elife & I’m crippled with anxiety & self doubt. "

How long have you felt like this? Do you have hobbies? Are you getting out and about? *hugs*

My confidence dips at times, but more often than not I am pretty confident - in who I am and how I look, it's taken a lot of work and still work to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find myself a reasonably confident guy but never cocky or pushy. I am well educated and have a professional career so this helps somewhat with carrying on a conversation which augments my confidence.

However, when I meet new people my confidence levels tend to fall but as the friendship/association grows then so too does my confidence levels.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

As a kid every time I got on a plane to go on holiday with my dad he'd always say to me if this plane was to ever go down I guarantee you me and you survive and that stuck with me even until now I fear nothing I know I can do what I want I make decisions for myself I don't listen to any influence I don't need vaccines or masks I push myself at kick-boxing as it's the only thing that tests me and pushes me.. I have control over my state of mind because i choose to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imposter syndrome at work for sure, too old for this and that outside work.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"As a kid every time I got on a plane to go on holiday with my dad he'd always say to me if this plane was to ever go down I guarantee you me and you survive and that stuck with me even until now I fear nothing I know I can do what I want I make decisions for myself I don't listen to any influence I don't need vaccines or masks I push myself at kick-boxing as it's the only thing that tests me and pushes me.. I have control over my state of mind because i choose to "

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Mine used to be many years ago if 10 was great mine was 2/4 but I'm well above 10 never be afraid to say it or do it at times can be just worring over nothing

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

In everyday life 100%. I could stand and speak in front of 10,000 people no problem. I can speak to anyone, do anything. Things like fab, not so. Not sure why but I’ve never really had great confidence meeting people here. Maybe it’s because I’m not from the “online” generation I really don’t know. It even baffles me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Full confidence in myself within the realm of my abilities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often thought that others had more confidence in me than I did

Imposter syndrome when used to work

Possibly pretty low at the moment esp as can't understand why people want me around

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"In everyday life 100%. I could stand and speak in front of 10,000 people no problem. I can speak to anyone, do anything. Things like fab, not so. Not sure why but I’ve never really had great confidence meeting people here. Maybe it’s because I’m not from the “online” generation I really don’t know. It even baffles me. "

It's like prince William he takes out his contact lenses when he does his talks at big events saw this on a game show as an answer

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Decent. I was surprised how relaxed I was naked in the club. I didn't walk around naked but then very few do but naked getting into and out of the pool and hottub and I was OK even though my shins are a bit of a mess. One on one I'm pretty confident especially in lingerie but fully naked too. I know that I'm appealing to those who like me and I enjoy teasing them.

Noone is attractive to everyone when you combine looks with personality but if you accept that some will really like you, Enjoy that and let it lift you up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It varies.

I find being outrageous and camp as Christmas is a very effective mask!

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By *mDeethatsme OP Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

"It varies.

I find being outrageous and camp as Christmas is a very effective mask! "

This is what I need to do! I need a Jennie in my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It varies.

I find being outrageous and camp as Christmas is a very effective mask!

This is what I need to do! I need a Jennie in my life

Be more Jennie!

Maybe I should sell 'What would Jennie do' bracelets!

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

"It varies.

I find being outrageous and camp as Christmas is a very effective mask!

This is what I need to do! I need a Jennie in my life

We all need Jennie in our lives x

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By *amesBeelzebubMan
over a year ago

norwich

I'm pretty low in confidence out in the real world and suffer from anxiety too

I'm more confident on here with the safety net of not being face to face with someone.

U always seem lovely to me Em

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

"Decent. I was surprised how relaxed I was naked in the club. I didn't walk around naked but then very few do but naked getting into and out of the pool and hottub and I was OK even though my shins are a bit of a mess. One on one I'm pretty confident especially in lingerie but fully naked too. I know that I'm appealing to those who like me and I enjoy teasing them.

Noone is attractive to everyone when you combine looks with personality but if you accept that some will really like you, Enjoy that and let it lift you up. "

Im your fab friend and your confidence is something I admire about you...and your boobs

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By *smith87Man
over a year ago

totton

"Afternoon you lovely lot

How do you rate your confidence in general.

Mine is quite low due to difficult ho_elife & I’m crippled with anxiety & self doubt. "

Message me if you want to chat I'm a good listener

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My confidence is through the floor. With the help of people and health

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By *smith87Man
over a year ago

totton

"My confidence is through the floor. With the help of people and health"

Again message if you want to chat

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By *ingerbeardman-Man
over a year ago

Sutton-in-Ashfield

Mine is pretty low tbh

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By *yreGuy99Man
over a year ago

Somewhere in Moria

My confidence in life has been shattered completely. I have exs and family to thank for that

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Mine is ok these days x

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By *smith87Man
over a year ago

totton

"Mine is pretty low tbh"

Oh no

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By *ingerbeardman-Man
over a year ago

Sutton-in-Ashfield

"Mine is pretty low tbh

Oh no"

It always has been. I'm not everyone's cup of tea and I am acutely aware of that haha

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By *smith87Man
over a year ago

totton

"Mine is pretty low tbh

Oh no

It always has been. I'm not everyone's cup of tea and I am acutely aware of that haha"

I'm same .

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By *mDeethatsme OP Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

"Mine is pretty low tbh

Oh no

It always has been. I'm not everyone's cup of tea and I am acutely aware of that haha"

Is that because you is ginger

(joking aside my 2 eldest boys are ginger!)

I think we’re not all someone’s cup of tea. Sometimes my confidence is ok but mostly it’s low.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm generally a confident person, but I may be mistaking confidence for dgaf?

Social gatherings are where I fall down, although I'm fine one on one.

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By *ingerbeardman-Man
over a year ago

Sutton-in-Ashfield

"Mine is pretty low tbh

Oh no

It always has been. I'm not everyone's cup of tea and I am acutely aware of that haha

Is that because you is ginger

(joking aside my 2 eldest boys are ginger!)

I think we’re not all someone’s cup of tea. Sometimes my confidence is ok but mostly it’s low. "

I used to think so actually haha. I used to dye my beard when I was younger!

If I'm with someone I know I can be as confident as anyone, it's approaching new people I struggle with.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

My confidence level is 9.5 / 10.

I like myself. I am sure of my own feelings. Not everyone will like me, but if I am true to myself, I don’t bother about the few people that might not.

It’s probably the best part about being older. The confidence.

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By *mDeethatsme OP Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

"Mine is pretty low tbh

Oh no

It always has been. I'm not everyone's cup of tea and I am acutely aware of that haha

Is that because you is ginger

(joking aside my 2 eldest boys are ginger!)

I think we’re not all someone’s cup of tea. Sometimes my confidence is ok but mostly it’s low.

I used to think so actually haha. I used to dye my beard when I was younger!

If I'm with someone I know I can be as confident as anyone, it's approaching new people I struggle with. "

Oh if I’m with someone I’m comfortable with I have zero filter,will new people I’m quite shy.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

In public I appear calm, confident and composed but inside I am a constant wreck living on my nerves just waiting for something to go wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A year away from Fab due to ill health, my confidence levels plummeted to zero. Stuck at home, rarely having any human contact. Only leaving the house for medical check ups.

Returning here, a few weeks ago, helped...people liking photos is a boost to the self-esteem...hanging out in the Forums has made me laugh again...thank you Forumites.

But then, I made the mistake of messaging a former FB. Three arranged 'meets' in three weeks. He cancelled the first two in advance with, what I thought were genuine reasons. The third, on Fri night, he just didn't show up.

Years ago I wouldn't have cared less. But this time it sent me spiralling downwards. My amazing fwb spent half the night chatting to me until I was calm enough to sleep. Yesterday, still low and zero appetite, I forgot to eat and had a bloody scary hypoglycemic episode (levels almost normal again now I've eaten and taken my meds).

So, today is a rest day on the sofa. Just reading the Forums...sometimes contributing...which has got me smiling. Again, thank you all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had bells palsy for over a year I also need a new hip so I do look like I've had a stroke. My confidence is still the same ! Different hat for a different day kinda thing. I've always been confident, mainly I think because I genuinely don't care what other people think of me. That doesn't mean I haven't had massive wobbles occasionally but very rare. I just walk tall and smile a lot !

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"A year away from Fab due to ill health, my confidence levels plummeted to zero. Stuck at home, rarely having any human contact. Only leaving the house for medical check ups.

Returning here, a few weeks ago, helped...people liking photos is a boost to the self-esteem...hanging out in the Forums has made me laugh again...thank you Forumites.

So, today is a rest day on the sofa. Just reading the Forums...sometimes contributing...which has got me smiling. Again, thank you all. "

What a stupid fucker. Bullet well dodged there.

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By *ingerbeardman-Man
over a year ago

Sutton-in-Ashfield

"Mine is pretty low tbh

Oh no

It always has been. I'm not everyone's cup of tea and I am acutely aware of that haha

Is that because you is ginger

(joking aside my 2 eldest boys are ginger!)

I think we’re not all someone’s cup of tea. Sometimes my confidence is ok but mostly it’s low.

I used to think so actually haha. I used to dye my beard when I was younger!

If I'm with someone I know I can be as confident as anyone, it's approaching new people I struggle with.

Oh if I’m with someone I’m comfortable with I have zero filter,will new people I’m quite shy."

This is exactly how I am. Not great for making first impressions!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" What a stupid fucker. Bullet well dodged there. "

Yep, you're right. But I also partly blame myself for believing that we still had the same amazing connection that we had for a number of years

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By *aeganaWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Pretty low I must admit x

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Pretty high, I stopped looking for external validation for confidence and it's never been better.

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