FabSwingers.com forum: Butterflies/nerves.

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

Are they something you experience? How do you handle them?

Yep, there's not a lot of waffle to accompany this question. :D

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Feel the fear and do it anyway

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I don't get nervous but advice for you just go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every time. The day I don't is the day I start worrying.

Dealing with them, music and remembering they go away.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Yes! I expend a lot of nervous energy and fail to concentrate on anything

Hope you weren't expecting useful advice!

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I love the butterflies. If I’m not a little nervous, something’s wrong. I don’t want the person or the meet enough.

The ‘I don’t know if she’ll like me’ nerves.

The ‘will she look like her photos’ nerves.

The ‘might this be more than a social’ nerves.

The nerves that disappear with the first kiss. Those are the best ones.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

Yes, it's something I experience and to be honest I find there is nothing that works or mitigates the feeling. I just have to get on with it.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Breathing can help, I use the 7-11 one where you breathe in counting to 7 then out counting 11.

Set a timer on your phone for 5 minutes, make sure you won’t be interrupted and just concentrate on your breathing.

Whenever your mind wanders, bring it back to the breathing.

Good luck!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Every single meet! If I didn’t something’s wrong it’s time to stop.

I learned this for public speaking ,to understand nerves & remind yourself it’s actually very similar symptoms as excitement / arousal just a different name.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Yeah, mostly anxious due to over thinking.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

All the time and generally what happens is I start to nervous chatter/babble/waffle and don't let people get a word in

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Embrace the butterflies. Focus them into something positive and ride that soft thrill all the way until you finally get to the person

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Embrace the butterflies. Focus them into something positive and ride that soft thrill all the way until you finally get to the person

^ What she said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. They are a beautiful thing. I love butterflies, sparks and nerves tell me it means something.

I want all of those things

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Not something I experience due to suffering from anhedonia.

No nervous anticipation before and no lasting effect after.

Just very present in the moment.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"All the time and generally what happens is I start to nervous chatter/babble/waffle and don't let people get a word in

That's funny. I often go the other way and go quiet.luckily I tend to attract talkative men so it's OK!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"Not something I experience due to suffering from anhedonia.

No nervous anticipation before and no lasting effect after.

Just very present in the moment. "

Every day is ac learning day. Luckily that was safe to Google but Google thinks I'm a total pervert anyway.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Yes! I expend a lot of nervous energy and fail to concentrate on anything

Hope you weren't expecting useful advice!

I've got so much nervous energy! Well excitable energy. I'm trying to trick myself into getting ready by listening to reggaeton. It's erm... not too successful.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I don't get nerves Meli . I can get excited but anxiety is not for me ...

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I adore those butterfly feelings, the build up and anticipation to meeting up with someone and spending time with them

If I didn’t get those flutterbys I’d be worried

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Are they something you experience? How do you handle them?

Yep, there's not a lot of waffle to accompany this question. :D"

Never have them when meeting

A women .so funny women haveing them .

when most of the time they hold all the cards .

But I do like to see it .

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I get super nervous for any meets, socials or anything new really.

Butterflies they are what the Mr gives me and they are wonderful!

Mrs

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By *aving_great_funMan
over a year ago

London

It's all part of the fun.

Just go with the flow...