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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you test people for toxic traits I know I do

Some off my toxic traits that I test for is group bullying

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

People will reveal who they are through their own choices and actions. To me, that includes playing games and putting people through shit tests

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

How do you go about it? Just curious. You can pm if you don't want to discuss here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you test for group bullying x

Mrs C

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By *mDeethatsmeWoman
over a year ago

Bucks

"How do you go about it? Just curious. You can pm if you don't want to discuss here."

I’m interested in this too.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Nope, I don't play games. People will reveal themselves fairly quickly.

Mrs

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I’ve got a pretty good bullshit detector. I don’t need to mess around with tests and mind games.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

See so much of that here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I don’t test people. I don’t think I even know how to. I’ve been told that it can be annoying how I tend to look for the good in people.

Miles

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"See so much of that here."

Yip

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

How do you test for these toxic traits?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People will reveal who they are through their own choices and actions. To me, that includes playing games and putting people through shit tests

Unfortunately got to play game as that’s what others are doing to start with

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

No. I’m a pretty good judge of character anyway

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"People will reveal who they are through their own choices and actions. To me, that includes playing games and putting people through shit tests

Unfortunately got to play game as that’s what others are doing to start with "

I prefer to remove myself than lower myself in the situation

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People will reveal who they are through their own choices and actions. To me, that includes playing games and putting people through shit tests

Unfortunately got to play game as that’s what others are doing to start with

I prefer to remove myself than lower myself in the situation

That be them winning

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By *tooveMan
over a year ago

belfast

"Do you test people for toxic traits I know I do

Some off my toxic traits that I test for is group bullying"

Is this a test?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People will reveal who they are through their own choices and actions. To me, that includes playing games and putting people through shit tests

Unfortunately got to play game as that’s what others are doing to start with

I prefer to remove myself than lower myself in the situation

That be them winning "

Is that’s exactly what they want is people to leave and it will not happen

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"People will reveal who they are through their own choices and actions. To me, that includes playing games and putting people through shit tests

Unfortunately got to play game as that’s what others are doing to start with

I prefer to remove myself than lower myself in the situation

That be them winning "

I think that lowering myself to their level is them winning. Walking away is me winning. If they also see that as winning, then everyone is happy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No. I’m a pretty good judge of character anyway "

Sorry to say but I have to disagree that you are as you not shown me you are sorry Nora

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you test people for toxic traits I know I do

Some off my toxic traits that I test for is group bullying"

How do you do that ?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"No. I’m a pretty good judge of character anyway

Sorry to say but I have to disagree that you are as you not shown me you are sorry Nora "

Shown you? In what way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No. I’m a pretty good judge of character anyway

Sorry to say but I have to disagree that you are as you not shown me you are sorry Nora

Shown you? In what way. "

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"Do you test people for toxic traits I know I do

Some off my toxic traits that I test for is group bullying"

This presupposes that people will have "toxic" traits. I can't face life expecting the worst in people.

If things go wrong later, at least I enjoyed the innocence of the initial interactions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I accept people as I find them, until they show me otherwise. Can’t be arsed with the negative thoughts of what someone might be like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People will reveal who they are through their own choices and actions. To me, that includes playing games and putting people through shit tests

There’s lots of toxic traits. I just hope people don’t have them.

I hope.

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
over a year ago

City Centre

My intuition and gut instinct has yet to let me down. People will reveal themselves to you if you have the patience to observe and listen. I was never one for mind games or setting anyone up for a reaction, that's kinda cruel. Like the saying goes "give someone enough rope"...

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Do you test people for toxic traits I know I do

Some off my toxic traits that I test for is group bullying"

Happens in the forums a fair bit! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you test people for toxic traits I know I do

Some off my toxic traits that I test for is group bullying

Happens in the forums a fair bit! X"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My intuition and gut instinct has yet to let me down. People will reveal themselves to you if you have the patience to observe and listen. I was never one for mind games or setting anyone up for a reaction, that's kinda cruel. Like the saying goes "give someone enough rope"... "

So it’s ok for other to play toxic games

By group Incnoring people group single out people

Or getting someone to report messages back and all the dirty underhand stuff that happens

But when someone dose it back it rope to hang your self

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't bother

if they test me I will fail and I couldn't care less

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

No I don't test anyone ever. Personally I find that a toxic trait in itself. It would rarely ever unbiased hence unfair, plus I'm a great believer if you go out of your way to look for the negatives you will find them.

Observe people and be cautious of them that's I do, and is a natural way of learning about a persons persona.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"No I don't test anyone ever. Personally I find that a toxic trait in itself. It would rarely ever unbiased hence unfair, plus I'm a great believer if you go out of your way to look for the negatives you will find them.

Observe people and be cautious of them that's I do, and is a natural way of learning about a persons persona. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you test people for toxic traits I know I do

Some off my toxic traits that I test for is group bullying

Happens in the forums a fair bit! X"

No shit!!! And the forum is only a small percentage of fab. Imagine how Michael there is out there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Observe people and be cautious of them that's I do, and is a natural way of learning about a persons persona. "

I didn’t go out my way to look for this it just found me

And I really don’t think any one has a good sens off persons persona jugeing by the replies on this thread

As if you want to see my real persons persona it can be seen

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
over a year ago

City Centre

So it’s ok for other to play toxic games

By group Incnoring people group single out people

Or getting someone to report messages back and all the dirty underhand stuff that happens

But when someone dose it back it rope to hang your self

No it's not ok.

That's all way too much drama for me to want to be involved in

I'd just choose to ignore people who are out for that. It doesn't go unnoticed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's the word "test" which is bothering people? As I know I've read here before that there are things that people look out for - red flags. Seeing if someone will do a video/phone call after chatting a while. Whether they only talk later at night. When I'm not sure about someone, I gently disagree with them about something to see how they react.

Call it playing games, call it caution.

Potato/potato.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Observe people and be cautious of them that's I do, and is a natural way of learning about a persons persona.

I didn’t go out my way to look for this it just found me

And I really don’t think any one has a good sens off persons persona jugeing by the replies on this thread

As if you want to see my real persons persona it can be seen

What you testing people just found you? Sorry I don't buy that whatsoever. And I don't understand what the aim would be for people on a forum?

Fair enough reading something they've written and seeing it as a red flag. But baiting people and testing them, I just can't approve of.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Observe people and be cautious of them that's I do, and is a natural way of learning about a persons persona.

I didn’t go out my way to look for this it just found me

And I really don’t think any one has a good sens off persons persona jugeing by the replies on this thread

As if you want to see my real persons persona it can be seen

What you testing people just found you? Sorry I don't buy that whatsoever. And I don't understand what the aim would be for people on a forum?

Fair enough reading something they've written and seeing it as a red flag. But baiting people and testing them, I just can't approve of. "

As sed before seems it’s ok for other to play games but the minute it’s done back it becomes a problem

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Observe people and be cautious of them that's I do, and is a natural way of learning about a persons persona.

I didn’t go out my way to look for this it just found me

And I really don’t think any one has a good sens off persons persona jugeing by the replies on this thread

As if you want to see my real persons persona it can be seen

What you testing people just found you? Sorry I don't buy that whatsoever. And I don't understand what the aim would be for people on a forum?

Fair enough reading something they've written and seeing it as a red flag. But baiting people and testing them, I just can't approve of.

As sed before seems it’s ok for other to play games but the minute it’s done back it becomes a problem

I don't play games and I'm not interested in races to the bottom, therefore it's never a problem for me ta.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell Greta to ‘low me, I know that my carbon footprint's large

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"Maybe it's the word "test" which is bothering people? As I know I've read here before that there are things that people look out for - red flags. Seeing if someone will do a video/phone call after chatting a while. Whether they only talk later at night. When I'm not sure about someone, I gently disagree with them about something to see how they react.

Call it playing games, call it caution.

Potato/potato.

Yes I took it more to mean observe too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes you just have to figure people out. They always show themselves on here.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I am a big believer of once someone shows you who they are, believe them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’re testing people for toxic traits would that be your toxic trait?

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