FabSwingers.com forum: Ever changed your mind

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

About people on here?

Ever had someone blocked to unblock and now have semi plans to actually meet? I've done this twice now.

Or maybe you've made what you thought was a 'friend' only to realise said friend goes running off telling others what you say.

Bad to good.

Good to bad.

People, who'd have em.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Hell yes. Many a time

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

I have done a few times, think I make a connection and talk to someone that I really get on with. Then further down the line find out they ain’t the person you thought they was at all.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

No! I don't think.

However I have been the person blocked to unblocked.

I can imagine myself being blocked, but not for the reason stated in the op. I am actually a good "friend".

I'm a "friend" that just so happens to be a twat, not a twat that has been "befriended".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I’ve done bad to good more than once. But plenty of good to bads.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes in both ways good and bad, I've met people I thought were great but turns out not so much and I've blocked people that I've unblocked.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The chatty patty ‘friends’ are hilarious. I’m only 26 and that’s entirely too old to be involved in playground drama. And yet people 40+ on this site are reliving secondary school on here

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"About people on here?

Good to bad.

Yep. Very rapid and steep learning curve for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't think I blocked anyone, but just noticed I had.

They are now unblocked. Maybe they said something I didn't agree with like "..the jam goes on before the cream"

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yeah, all the time, people surprise me in both ways, I.e thought they were a nob now their alright and thought people were alright only to become a bellend

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block and unblock people all the time

Some I unblock tho I should stay away

Some I've blocked when they've blocked me, so I can still sort of nosey at them haha.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I’ve yet to block anyone. But yeah, there are people here I liked who turned out to be dicks. And people who I thought were dicks but ended up liking because they’re the good kind of dickhead after all.

People are unpredictable buggers.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"I’ve yet to block anyone. But yeah, there are people here I liked who turned out to be dicks. And people who I thought were dicks but ended up liking because they’re the good kind of dickhead after all."

Also, the good kind of dickhead can be sexy. Sometimes even *that* opinion crops up out of nowhere. That ‘huh, she’s actually turning me on’ surprise.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

People are unpredictable buggers."

I'm an alright dickhead! People can confirm this.

Though they generally said "alright, dickhead" so it could be either way really. I just choose to view the positive.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I've changed my mind about people here. There were a couple here that I felt really disliked me then when we met in person at a social we actually hit it off and I really enjoyed their company.

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

Bad to good never happens for long, they usually convert right back again in the future. So those I avoid.

Good to bad, this has happened and it's the same people that assume they're lovely but are usually the horrible gossiping dickheads this place attracts.

Finding the "good" ones on here takes time.

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
over a year ago

City Centre

I don't change my mind unless I'm given a reason too. People going from good to bad rarely happens thankfully.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

Of course i change my mind all the time

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"I have done a few times, think I make a connection and talk to someone that I really get on with. Then further down the line find out they ain’t the person you thought they was at all. "

So this. In the end you can't keep making allowances for them. They are who they are and that won't change. Kinda sad but not worth the mental energy.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Once I’ve made my mind up that’s it. I’m too old for the BS most spout on here, and there’s a lot of it. I’ve never at any point wondered ‘what if’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easiest solution I find. Is to not have friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"About people on here?

Ever had someone blocked to unblock and now have semi plans to actually meet? I've done this twice now.

Or maybe you've made what you thought was a 'friend' only to realise said friend goes running off telling others what you say.

Bad to good.

Good to bad.

People, who'd have em.

I thought you were a bit of a dick tbh. Now I think you’re sort of alright… after a lot of rum.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Good to bad, yes.

Bad to good, not anymore. Once you're gone you're gone. (I've undone a couple and it's always been a terrible mistake)

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

The only people I block are those who are actively rude to me, get stressy via messages or send me "hey hows u"

Everyone I else I simply don't care about enough... if they say some dumb shit in the forums I don't agree with or I think is insensitive I just move on.

As for people I have met, everyone has been lovely and has remained lovely.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"The only people I block are those who are actively rude to me, get stressy via messages or send me "hey hows u"

Everyone I else I simply don't care about enough... if they say some dumb shit in the forums I don't agree with or I think is insensitive I just move on.

As for people I have met, everyone has been lovely and has remained lovely."

Ah this, oddly, was just the answer I needed to hear right now. Just move on and dont engage if someone is rude or insensitive.

Thank you so much for that

MrsAbz

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I've never unblocked anyone and wanted to meet them in fact the few times I have unblocked I regretted it and reblocked them.

I have had a friend on here who turned out not to be a friend at all and was just using me for whatever reason they had at the time. They also shared my personal info and pics as well since,and twisted things to suit her agenda. But we live and learn I suppose and it's made me a lot more wary of those flying the friendship flag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have changed my mind about people and thought they’re actually alright after previously disliking them.

I’ve never unblocked anyone though. If I’ve blocked someone they had to have done something that’s really pissed me off, I’m not interested after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I’ve blocked everyone I’ve ever met but I do it on new profiles if I rejoin after a break. I just don’t want to meet them again and it’s easier to have them blocked than them expecting more meets.

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

Yeah I’ve seen some lovely bums which had me distracted till I saw the shit coming out their mouths and thought nah, that ass isn’t that nice

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"The only people I block are those who are actively rude to me, get stressy via messages or send me "hey hows u"

Everyone I else I simply don't care about enough... if they say some dumb shit in the forums I don't agree with or I think is insensitive I just move on.

As for people I have met, everyone has been lovely and has remained lovely.

Ah this, oddly, was just the answer I needed to hear right now. Just move on and dont engage if someone is rude or insensitive.

Thank you so much for that

MrsAbz "

You're welcome

Glad to have helped

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

Ive had to block after being friendly for as long as 2 years..It happens when people show they're true colours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being on fab use to make me indecisive but now I am not so sure.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

If I find myself getting wrapped up in all of that blocking and shit - it's time to have a word with myself I reckon.

People gossip for all kinds of reasons. For some it's a form of currency, for others it's just innocent fascination. Everyone's a critic these days.

A lot of people put on a show. Some people less so. Then even them that don't - well they got more than one dimension to them right? No one is perpetually one thing.

When it comes down to it, a lot of people are too wrapped up in themselves to have space to be friends, the way I view friendship anyhow. That's not specific to fab though.

And if it ain't that deep a thing to begin with then, why get all butt hurt about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to stay blocked

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By *mDeethatsmeWoman
over a year ago

Bucks

Yes I’ve blocked a couple of people as they were being incredibly pushy then turned quite abusive. I had pre warned them about the tone they were taking with me & that I would not hesitate in blocking them.

I have no idea if I’ve ever been blocked.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I haven't unblocked anyone ,once they go in room 101 that's it for life lol.

I have changed my mind the other way ,ie chatted to people a good while and had to block them for various reasons.Either they've become a pest or shown themselves to be different to what they've originally portrayed .

We blocked a single bloke on here for some of his posts /views ,then we met him at a social and it confirmed exactly why we'd blocked him.

Miss

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Not really as I mostly keep myself to myself.

I have blocked forum folk before and unblocked them - usually because I’ve got my arse in my hand about something and then I’ve calmed down and seen sense, but this happens less these days as I’m more chilled out.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"… usually because I’ve got my arse in my hand about something …"

That is a brilliant phrase.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Multiple times. I'm quite happy to acknowledge when I may have misjudged someone.

I have started to really like someone here and we made plans to meet. Then he started writing violent stories about me on another platform. I don't think I've got it quite as wrong before.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never unblocked anyone once I've made a judgement call on them and their attitude.

I have met people though who have only been able to maintain a pleasant personality for a short period of time and turned out to be very different from how I first perceived them.

Thankfully that has been a rare occurrence and I am pretty good at seeing the crazy well in advance.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

They would have had to do something really shitty, for me to block them and no, there's no coming back from that.

I go by the olde saying "if you don't want it being repeated, don't say it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody likes a grass

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nobody likes a grass"
. Blocked me twice^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody likes a grass. Blocked me twice^"

Lies

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"Nobody likes a grass. Blocked me twice^"

Can you blame him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No op.

I know people can be disrespectful and dishonest. As long as I stick to who I am.

Blocks stay blocked one reason is we do not connect.

I keep positive and do not rise to bait. Forum rules.. Be kind and don't name and shame.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

In 15 years, yes but it's extremely infrequent

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I can be hasty in my blocking at times, I have zero tolerance these days. And sometimes I've realised they maybe aren't so bad.

But I'm also very wary of guys that say they just wanna be friends. (By wary I mean they can fuck off to hell) They are friendly until a 'friend' comes along that is willing to let him stick his dick in her then funnily enough, they aren't that good a friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Multiple times. I'm quite happy to acknowledge when I may have misjudged someone.

I have started to really like someone here and we made plans to meet. Then he started writing violent stories about me on another platform. I don't think I've got it quite as wrong before.

How did you find out about the stories?

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

Yes, a couple of people I thought were decent were the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, and doubt very much that I am a topic of conversation with anyone on fab……

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"About people on here?

Ever had someone blocked to unblock and now have semi plans to actually meet? I've done this twice now.

Or maybe you've made what you thought was a 'friend' only to realise said friend goes running off telling others what you say.

Bad to good.

Good to bad.

People, who'd have em.

I thought you were a bit of a dick tbh. Now I think you’re sort of alright… after a lot of rum."

I also think you're less of a dick after I've had rum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"About people on here?

Ever had someone blocked to unblock and now have semi plans to actually meet? I've done this twice now.

Or maybe you've made what you thought was a 'friend' only to realise said friend goes running off telling others what you say.

Bad to good.

Good to bad.

People, who'd have em.

I thought you were a bit of a dick tbh. Now I think you’re sort of alright… after a lot of rum.

I also think you're less of a dick after I've had rum. "

There isn’t that much rum…

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Rum! That’s a great idea. I’m gonna make some watermelon daiquiris.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I've never blocked anyone on this or any previous profile

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"About people on here?

Ever had someone blocked to unblock and now have semi plans to actually meet? I've done this twice now.

Or maybe you've made what you thought was a 'friend' only to realise said friend goes running off telling others what you say.

Bad to good.

Good to bad.

People, who'd have em.

On here only changed my mind once, my initial perspective proved to be wrong...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Multiple times. I'm quite happy to acknowledge when I may have misjudged someone.

I have started to really like someone here and we made plans to meet. Then he started writing violent stories about me on another platform. I don't think I've got it quite as wrong before.

How did you find out about the stories?

He sent them to me. Gave me nightmares. He was the abusive side of kinky, it turned out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can be hasty in my blocking at times, I have zero tolerance these days. And sometimes I've realised they maybe aren't so bad.

This!!!

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Yes I unblocked someone to pass on a message for someone else who’d been banned. And ended up as FWB for a couple of years because we got on so well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again. I don’t block people. Also, I think if people dont want to meet me , I take the hint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly? I don’t really have any meaningful opinion on anybody in here other than those I’ve struck up a friendship with via messaging or meeting.

Anyone else is just pixels on a screen tbf and I know that internet profiles are mostly just a front and rarely a true indicator of what people are like.

So I can’t think of ever changing an opinion on anyone to be honest.

And I only block people that have blocked me (just being petty in that regard

) so I don’t proactively make judgments to block people otherwise.

It’s just t’internet isn’t it? Nothing to get too wound up about!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definitely, err, no, but then again.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being on fab use to make me indecisive but now I am not so sure. "

This can’t go un missed.

Also. Great name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't check my block list to unblock...

However I do seem to have escaped some from block jail of some.

However I don't think I've yet to meet a blocker...

That's next level fabbing.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Yes I unblocked someone to pass on a message for someone else who’d been banned. And ended up as FWB for a couple of years because we got on so well. "

That’s actually kind of a sweet story.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

I almost blocked a certain someone a few months back only to discover they were actually only a mild twat upon meeting them in person.. But then so am I to some

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"Yes I unblocked someone to pass on a message for someone else who’d been banned. And ended up as FWB for a couple of years because we got on so well.

That’s actually kind of a sweet story.

It worked out well!

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I almost blocked a certain someone a few months back only to discover they were actually only a mild twat upon meeting them in person.. But then so am I to some

Mild twat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Multiple times. I'm quite happy to acknowledge when I may have misjudged someone.

I have started to really like someone here and we made plans to meet. Then he started writing violent stories about me on another platform. I don't think I've got it quite as wrong before.

How did you find out about the stories?

He sent them to me. Gave me nightmares. He was the abusive side of kinky, it turned out. "

Shit !

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By *ilverandblonde 123Couple
over a year ago

tonbridge

I’ve only met one set of people who have “turned out completely different” to how they seemed in a club meet and completely insulted/ gossiped about me

Almost put me off clubs/fab forever as we were new and also my partner was going through a medical scare for the big C so was a bit fragile and it added a lot more pain to it than needed to

Jen

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I probably couldn't find someone in order to unblock them. My list is pretty long.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I almost blocked a certain someone a few months back only to discover they were actually only a mild twat upon meeting them in person.. But then so am I to some

Mild twat

How did I know you'd see this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have. And I’m getting good at doing it before it gets to the sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I block and unblock you on the daily.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I almost blocked a certain someone a few months back only to discover they were actually only a mild twat upon meeting them in person.. But then so am I to some

Mild twat

How did I know you'd see this

It was like a siren to me Grumpy, just calling me

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I almost blocked a certain someone a few months back only to discover they were actually only a mild twat upon meeting them in person.. But then so am I to some

Mild twat

How did I know you'd see this

It was like a siren to me Grumpy, just calling me

Haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes. I block and unblock you on the daily.

Seems about right.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"About people on here?

Ever had someone blocked to unblock and now have semi plans to actually meet? I've done this twice now.

Or maybe you've made what you thought was a 'friend' only to realise said friend goes running off telling others what you say.

Bad to good.

Good to bad.

People, who'd have em.

Not really any of what you mentioned. But I have made what I thought were freinds on here but they did not feel the same way. But then that's life in general not just fab. Peeps get close People drift away.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Nope

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope"

Valid input. Appreciated

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By *outhCoastSinnersCouple
over a year ago

so close you could touch

"I didn't think I blocked anyone, but just noticed I had.

They are now unblocked. Maybe they said something I didn't agree with like "..the jam goes on before the cream""

Lol you know it does though, right

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

"Nope

Valid input. Appreciated "

Here to help

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Nope to both questions

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Lots on our blocklist, it’s a handy filter.

Good too bad though..?

Had someone on our hotlist and was really chatty etc. then we met them at a group social and realised that we didn’t want the drama that came with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope if I think you're worth blocking you're done there's no coming back from that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Multiple times. I'm quite happy to acknowledge when I may have misjudged someone.

I have started to really like someone here and we made plans to meet. Then he started writing violent stories about me on another platform. I don't think I've got it quite as wrong before.

How did you find out about the stories?

He sent them to me. Gave me nightmares. He was the abusive side of kinky, it turned out.

Shit !

xx"

Just glad I never met him! X

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

No think I've sussed someone correct from start! Rarley block anyway never unblocked x

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By *astandFeistyCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

I don't block anyone unless they persist with messages every hour.

Are there people who I think are dickheads? Yeah, but wouldn't stop me having an in person chat, just to confirm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't block anyone unless they persist with messages every hour.

Are there people who I think are dickheads? Yeah, but wouldn't stop me having an in person chat, just to confirm

She knows. ^

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