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By *heitaliandreamer OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton

OMG...it is so exhausting to try to get a single reply from a woman despite the best effort to write something intelligent. Sometimes i feel that no matter what i can write the pictures are what matter the most. It must be like that. At the club i can be very successful while here i struggle a lot. Your thought?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not going to be some people's type, your pictures won't appeal to some, you'll be too old for some, they might not be actively looking. There's so many reasons that you might not hear back, just put a note on the profile and move on. "Woe is me" threads don't to tend to help anyone either.

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By *ycanNightsMan
over a year ago

Workington

My only thought...read the other forum threads in the subject...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Supply and demand, innit.

So I agree.

If you’re a club goer and it works, focus most of your efforts into that.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

There's a whole myriad of reasons why someone might not be interested OP.

Don't blame it all on your looks

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Seems like clubs clearly work for you OP so I’d stick with that and only use Fab to keep in touch with people you’ve met at the club.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

If clubs work and fab doesn't.......

A

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

I sympathise all of us single men go through the same.

Its just something you have to learn to accept as frustrating as it is.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"OMG...it is so exhausting to try to get a single reply from a woman despite the best effort to write something intelligent. Sometimes i feel that no matter what i can write the pictures are what matter the most. It must be like that. At the club i can be very successful while here i struggle a lot. Your thought?"
There are many guys and so few women, your pics are great but as others have said their are younger more in shape guys with abs tatts and down n out bushy beards, your messages mixed in with many messages get lost its just luck sometimes, keep plugging away youll get your turn at some point

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By *aughty Couple ABCCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich

We would certainly answer a message from you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It exhausts you to type a short message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OMG...it is so exhausting to try to get a single reply from a woman despite the best effort to write something intelligent. Sometimes i feel that no matter what i can write the pictures are what matter the most. It must be like that. At the club i can be very successful while here i struggle a lot. Your thought?There are many guys and so few women, your pics are great but as others have said their are younger more in shape guys with abs tatts and down n out bushy beards, your messages mixed in with many messages get lost its just luck sometimes, keep plugging away youll get your turn at some point "

Down and outs???

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

You have been verified twice in 5 weeks.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"OMG...it is so exhausting to try to get a single reply from a woman despite the best effort to write something intelligent. Sometimes i feel that no matter what i can write the pictures are what matter the most. It must be like that. At the club i can be very successful while here i struggle a lot. Your thought?There are many guys and so few women, your pics are great but as others have said their are younger more in shape guys with abs tatts and down n out bushy beards, your messages mixed in with many messages get lost its just luck sometimes, keep plugging away youll get your turn at some point

Down and outs???"
yes the type that down n outs have bushy

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

Have zero expectations from this site. Any message is a bonus

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

No it’s not, if you interact more and get to know people it gets easier.

Sex isn’t guaranteed and no one owes anything to anyone.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Stick to the clubs then would be my advice.

This is one of the 1037291030 single men don't get replies forum posts - there's a lot of men and not as many women/couples simple maths.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick on some lippy and killer heels.

Works for me!

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By *heitaliandreamer OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton


"It exhausts you to type a short message? "

The fact is that ibwrite very long message to try to stand from the crowd but...

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By *ensual-dominant-passionMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"OMG...it is so exhausting to try to get a single reply from a woman despite the best effort to write something intelligent. Sometimes i feel that no matter what i can write the pictures are what matter the most. It must be like that. At the club i can be very successful while here i struggle a lot. Your thought?"

To be honest I’ve never been disappointed from not getting a reply on here… just look for profiles that might appeal to you… and read what they put.. and what they are looking for..

Just because you put so much effort in a first message doesn’t mean that’s enough for women on here… bottom line it all comes down to attraction on here.. if they like the look of you and your profile they will respond

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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OP, don't waste your energy and headspace in something that's a) not working and b) causes you to bemoan it on the fora. You've got it out of your system, now you can focus on clubs.

Use here as a networking tool to help facilitate contact with those you've met in clubs, keep abreast of club events.

Enjoy yourself at clubs. x

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By *heitaliandreamer OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton

I am going to. I am a more face to face person

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"It exhausts you to type a short message?

The fact is that ibwrite very long message to try to stand from the crowd but..."
you're Italian you do stand out

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I am going to. I am a more face to face person"
allura

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By *heitaliandreamer OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton


"Seems like clubs clearly work for you OP so I’d stick with that and only use Fab to keep in touch with people you’ve met at the club. "

Thank you. I am doing that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OMG...it is so exhausting to try to get a single reply from a woman despite the best effort to write something intelligent. Sometimes i feel that no matter what i can write the pictures are what matter the most. It must be like that. ……."

It must be.

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By *heitaliandreamer OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton


"You have been verified twice in 5 weeks. "

Is it good or bad?

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

OP, you need to interpret your experience in the same way as Rutger Hauer's monologue:

"...All those moments will be lost in time, like tears in rain...".

Replace "moments" with messages and "time" with the woman's InBox. You get the idea?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have been verified twice in 5 weeks. "

Might have met them at the club.

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By *heitaliandreamer OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton


"It exhausts you to type a short message?

The fact is that ibwrite very long message to try to stand from the crowd but...you're Italian you do stand out "

Thank you. My accent still sells a lot...but on here it doesn't work

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane


"My only thought...read the other forum threads in the subject..."

This

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By *heitaliandreamer OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton

Thanks a lot for all your messages. I really like those

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By *tevesmiler77Man
over a year ago

Darlaston


"We would certainly answer a message from you "
would you reply to one of me ?????

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

Picture the scene...

You walk into a huge open area filled with guys. 1000s of them. Ok maybe hundreds.

You look around. There are shit loads of Adonis types, 6 packs, tanned, designer clothes, shades etc etc

You look left. Double that in dad bods, tall, small, hairy, bald, beardy, tatt's, no Tatt's etc.

You look right. Loads of men stark bollock naked. Some have got cocks like a copper's truncheon. Others bigger.

You look at the far end. Full of nerds pretending to be the Goblin Lord or some middle earth.

All these people are jostling a bit to get to the front.

Off to the side are Forumites. A completely eclectic bunch that are chewing the fat and having a decent enough time.

Every now and then a forumite looks over and tries to make a burst to the front.

They make it to see a panel of (in your case) women. One extremely attractive one who most are hosting in front of, a couple who get quite a bit of attention and several other women of various sizes, shapes and charisma. Loads are jostling in front of them.

However, and this is the clincher there are one or two that have a face like a bag of smashed crabs, have teeth missing, are unkempt and not really many people's cup of tea.

However, due to the jostling there are quite a few men in front of them. The men find themselves dancing quite a bit. However, 'the panel' are picking a small amount of people that they like. But interestingly the women who look like dish-faced sag titted witches are having a field day and filtering out decent looking people.

Right, I feel like jostling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be difficult for all here, not only solo men. Only from different angles.

We've not yet managed to meet anyone other than solo men.

I'd say, either meet solo men or keep your focus on where you're winning, in the club's.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Two verifications in five weeks is incredibly good going for anyone, not just guys.

It's difficult for everyone on this site, in different ways.

If clubs are working for you, keep at it. Your profile is pretty good, I must say.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Picture the scene...

You walk into a huge open area filled with guys. 1000s of them. Ok maybe hundreds.

You look around. There are shit loads of Adonis types, 6 packs, tanned, designer clothes, shades etc etc

You look left. Double that in dad bods, tall, small, hairy, bald, beardy, tatt's, no Tatt's etc.

You look right. Loads of men stark bollock naked. Some have got cocks like a copper's truncheon. Others bigger.

You look at the far end. Full of nerds pretending to be the Goblin Lord or some middle earth.

All these people are jostling a bit to get to the front.

Off to the side are Forumites. A completely eclectic bunch that are chewing the fat and having a decent enough time.

Every now and then a forumite looks over and tries to make a burst to the front.

They make it to see a panel of (in your case) women. One extremely attractive one who most are hosting in front of, a couple who get quite a bit of attention and several other women of various sizes, shapes and charisma. Loads are jostling in front of them.

However, and this is the clincher there are one or two that have a face like a bag of smashed crabs, have teeth missing, are unkempt and not really many people's cup of tea.

However, due to the jostling there are quite a few men in front of them. The men find themselves dancing quite a bit. However, 'the panel' are picking a small amount of people that they like. But interestingly the women who look like dish-faced sag titted witches are having a field day and filtering out decent looking people.

Right, I feel like jostling. "
wow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jason Momoa keeps sending me messages and face pics but I just don't fancy him so I don't reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh how my heart bleeds ...

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Jason Momoa keeps sending me messages and face pics but I just don't fancy him so I don't reply. "
lol you like em small n tubby don't you

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By *ycanNightsMan
over a year ago

Workington


"Picture the scene...

You walk into a huge open area filled with guys. 1000s of them. Ok maybe hundreds.

You look around. There are shit loads of Adonis types, 6 packs, tanned, designer clothes, shades etc etc

You look left. Double that in dad bods, tall, small, hairy, bald, beardy, tatt's, no Tatt's etc.

You look right. Loads of men stark bollock naked. Some have got cocks like a copper's truncheon. Others bigger.

You look at the far end. Full of nerds pretending to be the Goblin Lord or some middle earth.

All these people are jostling a bit to get to the front.

Off to the side are Forumites. A completely eclectic bunch that are chewing the fat and having a decent enough time.

Every now and then a forumite looks over and tries to make a burst to the front.

They make it to see a panel of (in your case) women. One extremely attractive one who most are hosting in front of, a couple who get quite a bit of attention and several other women of various sizes, shapes and charisma. Loads are jostling in front of them.

However, and this is the clincher there are one or two that have a face like a bag of smashed crabs, have teeth missing, are unkempt and not really many people's cup of tea.

However, due to the jostling there are quite a few men in front of them. The men find themselves dancing quite a bit. However, 'the panel' are picking a small amount of people that they like. But interestingly the women who look like dish-faced sag titted witches are having a field day and filtering out decent looking people.

Right, I feel like jostling. "

Done see this comment working out too well for you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think "a hard life" is getting few responses from a swingers website. Sorry, OP.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Jason Momoa keeps sending me messages and face pics but I just don't fancy him so I don't reply. "

I wish you'd stop calling me Jason.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"Oh how my heart bleeds ... "

•

One has to have a heart in order for it to bleed.

#MaleSolidarity

#HeartlessComments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh how my heart bleeds ...

•

One has to have a heart in order for it to bleed.

#MaleSolidarity

#HeartlessComments"

He's clearly snowed under

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Oh how my heart bleeds ...

•

One has to have a heart in order for it to bleed.

#MaleSolidarity

#HeartlessComments"

https://youtu.be/bEOl38y8Nj8?si=cyIdkgm1zHrhA2M2

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I don’t know whether fab is truly as difficult for single guys as they think it is, but I think expectation management is really important.

The things I consider with regards to fab are:

Being clear about who you are, what you are looking for, why you’re here

Presentation, does your profile reflect you and would it be attractive to the ones you seek

Honesty, let people know what can and can’t be done, how much notice you need, what days are good, whether you can accommodate, or are happy to share accommodation costs

Expectation/effort, do you only come on fab and try to arrange a short notice meet because you’re horny, or are you happy to allay fear, have a social, get to know someone, or prefer a ons kinda thing, depending on how you approach that will/may dictate the size of the pool you are fishing in.

The size of the pool is important, too broad and deep and yes, you have a larger potential, but you will be swimming in a big shoal, too narrow and focussed, well your likely to stand out, but your potential matches are much reduced (but will probably be more likely to happen).

Fab meets tend to snowball, so set yourself a target, say 1 social in a three month period, help you manage that expectation, you can then adjust this as you learn more about the type of people that do respond to you, and you are attracted too, which will help you tailor your approach for greater success.

Remember fab is just a part of life, and unless you are Uber successful, is not all of your life.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Let's try this one again. Make sure your reply to each and every person on the thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99% of women and couples looking to meet single guys will interact and meet about 5% of the best looking guys with the added bonus of a decent profile and great conversation skills … so not just looks the whole package … that’s what you are up against OP but remain true to yourself and you’ll only interact with real potential meets … surely that’s better than pointless conversations ??

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

*yawns*

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

Oh look a new thread…

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I love the ' wow' retort it can mean they love it or hate it

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden


"Let's try this one again. Make sure your reply to each and every person on the thread."

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By *heltenhamBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Supply and demand I'm afraid, guys on here far outweigh the girls on here so they can afford to be very choosy.

Alternatively try some cock, now that is on tap here.....even the straight guys succumb to it!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"

However, and this is the clincher there are one or two that have a face like a bag of smashed crabs, have teeth missing, are unkempt and not really many people's cup of tea.

However, due to the jostling there are quite a few men in front of them. The men find themselves dancing quite a bit. However, 'the panel' are picking a small amount of people that they like. But interestingly the women who look like dish-faced sag titted witches are having a field day and filtering out decent looking people.

Right, I feel like jostling. "

Wtaf...

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hi op

I wouldn't say that the pictures matter the most but more importantly if you're both compatible that can be by the bio as in looking for the rest is via messages if their is a connection and chemistry but you still need to find each others attractions

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"

But interestingly the women who look like dish-faced sag titted witches are having a field day and filtering out decent looking people.

Right, I feel like jostling. "

That describes me perfectly.

Except I'm filtering out people based on so much more than looks.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"

But interestingly the women who look like dish-faced sag titted witches are having a field day and filtering out decent looking people.

Right, I feel like jostling.

That describes me perfectly.

Except I'm filtering out people based on so much more than looks."

Firstly, that doesn’t describe you at all.

Secondly, you’re right that being able to filter out incels is very handy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve been on 5 weeks mate and had two meets I’d say that’s better than average. If you’re looking at constantly meeting you’ll never be happy.

Take your time, chat, plan a club visit and do positive thoughts

Being negative and posting about not getting meets as been done so many times, nearly as many as who likes beard threads lol

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset


"It exhausts you to type a short message?

The fact is that ibwrite very long message to try to stand from the crowd but..."

and just because you decide you want to message someone does not mean they owe you anything .... nobody owes you anything just like nobody owes me anything ....

just think how few women and couples there are then split that in half a most of them will be men playing games or wanking then you'll realize just how small the ''real'' scene is ... and that means then for men its mainly a rejection game for them to deal with

these sites make the scene look so big when in fact its not its still in many many ways very underground for alot of swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OMG...it is so exhausting to try to get a single reply from a woman despite the best effort to write something intelligent. Sometimes i feel that no matter what i can write the pictures are what matter the most. It must be like that. At the club i can be very successful while here i struggle a lot. Your thought?"

Left sorry mate … oops wrong thread

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By *pen2UMan
over a year ago

Telford

Completely agree!

It's a very brutal website this. We're all here for one thing and that's to fuck and enjoy others company. If they ladies go for personality then surely they would consider responding to messages from us single pringles and get to know the personality jnstesd of just basing their opinions on appearance. Double standards at its finest!

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish


"However, and this is the clincher there are one or two that have a face like a bag of smashed crabs, have teeth missing, are unkempt and not really many people's cup of tea.

However, due to the jostling there are quite a few men in front of them. The men find themselves dancing quite a bit. However, 'the panel' are picking a small amount of people that they like. But interestingly the women who look like dish-faced sag titted witches are having a field day and filtering out decent looking people."

Oh my. My, oh my.

In an unrelated manner. Aren't private notes brilliant.

J

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Completely agree!

It's a very brutal website this. We're all here for one thing and that's to fuck and enjoy others company. If they ladies go for personality then surely they would consider responding to messages from us single pringles and get to know the personality jnstesd of just basing their opinions on appearance. Double standards at its finest!"

If someone's messages stand out in a good way they're more likely to get a response.

Not sure where double standards comes into it

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By *heitaliandreamer OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton

You gave me a lot of ideas and enthusiasm. Thanks a lot for your precious advice. Being on this forum has boosted my profile as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just have fun on the forums for a few weeks and get your profile but most of all you noticed. Go to club meets and fab socials. Make friends and have fun..

Good luck and play safe.

Happy fabbing

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"Completely agree!

It's a very brutal website this. We're all here for one thing and that's to fuck and enjoy others company. If they ladies go for personality then surely they would consider responding to messages from us single pringles and get to know the personality jnstesd of just basing their opinions on appearance. Double standards at its finest!"

We're not all here for one thing... And attitudes like yours are the problem. Why should we waste our time or "give someone a chance" it's not looks v personality, I need both. We don't owe you anything.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"Completely agree!

It's a very brutal website this. We're all here for one thing and that's to fuck and enjoy others company. If they ladies go for personality then surely they would consider responding to messages from us single pringles and get to know the personality jnstesd of just basing their opinions on appearance. Double standards at its finest!"

A few things come to mind here.

1. We’re not all here for the same thing at all. Even a cursory look at profiles and status updates would tell you that.

2. Some women go for personality, but I don’t think many would completely ignore appearances.

3. Even if they only go for personality, why are you so sure yours is attractive to everyone? Not having a go at you personally or anything, but even Michael Palin has a few haters, and he’s the nicest person on the planet.

4. They can get to know you “enough” by looking at profiles and pictures. Not to know the tiny nuances of personality, but enough to know if anyone isn’t worth it. Pictures are the same - it may not be that a bloke looks like he’s stepped off the cover of Men’s Health magazine, but if the pictures are boring then maybe he is too.

As above, I don’t see double standards at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Completely agree!

It's a very brutal website this. We're all here for one thing and that's to fuck and enjoy others company. If they ladies go for personality then surely they would consider responding to messages from us single pringles and get to know the personality jnstesd of just basing their opinions on appearance. Double standards at its finest!"

Personality and looks.

I know right, women are picky bitches.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I'll have a double

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Completely agree!

It's a very brutal website this. We're all here for one thing and that's to fuck and enjoy others company. If they ladies go for personality then surely they would consider responding to messages from us single pringles and get to know the personality jnstesd of just basing their opinions on appearance. Double standards at its finest!"

Do you fuck people that you don’t find attractive then?

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

The first thread I read on here was in a similar vein to this, oh so repeated, post.

Totally put me off and made me immediately filter so no men could message. If I was a single women I would have quit instantly.

Honestly, its quite troubling the number of men who feel they have signed up to a site and therefore women are obligated to do whatever they want.

It is fortunate that there are some sane men on here who keep things light and fun.

MrsAbz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have been verified twice in 5 weeks. "

This op

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By *pen2UMan
over a year ago

Telford

Ok, I get it. My comment was a littlw too harsh and I do apologise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women bloody lack manners on here.

Be grateful to be perved over already!!

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By *KTim61Man
over a year ago

Tipton


"OMG...it is so exhausting to try to get a single reply from a woman despite the best effort to write something intelligent. Sometimes i feel that no matter what i can write the pictures are what matter the most. It must be like that. At the club i can be very successful while here i struggle a lot. Your thought?"

I'm the same I've been single most of my life only ever had 1 proper girlfriend, I've got my name on a few dating sites, but not much as far as replies, same as on here. Thanks but no thanks . . . . . I've not been to clubs as yet, not like yourself, but I do have a stammer, and self conscious about my slim body, that I think why I've been unlucky with the opposite sex?

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By *he Dark SaintMan
over a year ago

hitchin

Pretty much OP, it will always be much harder for men on these sites if you you don't have a network of friends or aqaintances.

Build your network from clubs your attending.

My local ratio is currently 50 men/ 15 couples/ 1 woman/ 1 trans yeah cold approach on fab is dead unless your a Chad or a Tyrone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Completely agree!

It's a very brutal website this. We're all here for one thing and that's to fuck and enjoy others company. If they ladies go for personality then surely they would consider responding to messages from us single pringles and get to know the personality jnstesd of just basing their opinions on appearance. Double standards at its finest!"

We're here for like minded, and trust me, judging by many messages, we are not all here for the same thing.

To have preferences is not double standards.

We are all here for one reason that we can all relate, we're here for ourselves, just like you are, and not here for anyone else.

Hence the looking for like minded, those we feel there's mutual appeal, respect and common sexual interests.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Sorry but i totally disagree with that."

Why?

What's wrong with someone who doesn't want to talk to you utilising the available site features to make it so?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"What does blocking have to do with manners?

If you've already established someone is incompatible then blocking them saves everyone time and energy

Sorry but i totally disagree with that."

It's something you're going to have to get used to, OP. It's the way many people operate on this site.

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By *hinstrapMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

Ain't that half the fun. ???? Ha. Everyone has there preferences. Tall short. Hung.. never small haha. Fat n thin......just message away

Enjoy the ride. Be friendly and patient..

Your time will come young grasshopper.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Completely agree!

It's a very brutal website this. We're all here for one thing and that's to fuck and enjoy others company. If they ladies go for personality then surely they would consider responding to messages from us single pringles and get to know the personality jnstesd of just basing their opinions on appearance. Double standards at its finest!

We're not all here for one thing... And attitudes like yours are the problem. Why should we waste our time or "give someone a chance" it's not looks v personality, I need both. We don't owe you anything."

Quite right. Some post for ego boost.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Op

Id say between single guys and women in general on here it's more difficult when they have to put up with vile abuse from some guys so their is the answer to your question and treat people how you'd treat them in the real world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OMG...it is so exhausting to try to get a single reply from a woman despite the best effort to write something intelligent. Sometimes i feel that no matter what i can write the pictures are what matter the most. It must be like that. At the club i can be very successful while here i struggle a lot. Your thought?"

Never get a reply, never know what to write to be honest. Old school meet in the bar the way haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OMG...it is so exhausting to try to get a single reply from a woman despite the best effort to write something intelligent. Sometimes i feel that no matter what i can write the pictures are what matter the most. It must be like that. At the club i can be very successful while here i struggle a lot. Your thought?

Never get a reply, never know what to write to be honest. Old school meet in the bar the way haha"

And All I get is men messaging

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By *ostring m39Man
over a year ago

BIRMINGHAM

Thank you well I am perving over you to be honest. Looking amazing. X

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"OMG...it is so exhausting to try to get a single reply from a woman despite the best effort to write something intelligent. Sometimes i feel that no matter what i can write the pictures are what matter the most. It must be like that. At the club i can be very successful while here i struggle a lot. Your thought?"

Who said anything was supposed to be easy? A man's life should be hard anything that's worth getting should be hard why expect it to be easy?

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Picture the scene...

You walk into a huge open area filled with guys. 1000s of them. Ok maybe hundreds.

You look around. There are shit loads of Adonis types, 6 packs, tanned, designer clothes, shades etc etc

You look left. Double that in dad bods, tall, small, hairy, bald, beardy, tatt's, no Tatt's etc.

You look right. Loads of men stark bollock naked. Some have got cocks like a copper's truncheon. Others bigger.

You look at the far end. Full of nerds pretending to be the Goblin Lord or some middle earth.

All these people are jostling a bit to get to the front.

Off to the side are Forumites. A completely eclectic bunch that are chewing the fat and having a decent enough time.

Every now and then a forumite looks over and tries to make a burst to the front.

They make it to see a panel of (in your case) women. One extremely attractive one who most are hosting in front of, a couple who get quite a bit of attention and several other women of various sizes, shapes and charisma. Loads are jostling in front of them.

However, and this is the clincher there are one or two that have a face like a bag of smashed crabs, have teeth missing, are unkempt and not really many people's cup of tea.

However, due to the jostling there are quite a few men in front of them. The men find themselves dancing quite a bit. However, 'the panel' are picking a small amount of people that they like. But interestingly the women who look like dish-faced sag titted witches are having a field day and filtering out decent looking people.

Right, I feel like jostling. "

I was with you unanimously up until the sag titted witches

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"

I was with you unanimously up until the sag titted witches "

In case it's not obvious there were more red flags than just that

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"OMG...it is so exhausting to try to get a single reply from a woman lot."

It is even more exhausting hearing about it.

Wah, wah! She won't shag me!

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

bradford

I'm sorry but these types of posts basically sound like a toddler having a temper tantrum

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Completely agree!

It's a very brutal website this. We're all here for one thing and that's to fuck and enjoy others company. If they ladies go for personality then surely they would consider responding to messages from us single pringles and get to know the personality jnstesd of just basing their opinions on appearance. Double standards at its finest!

We're here for like minded, and trust me, judging by many messages, we are not all here for the same thing.

To have preferences is not double standards.

We are all here for one reason that we can all relate, we're here for ourselves, just like you are, and not here for anyone else.

Hence the looking for like minded, those we feel there's mutual appeal, respect and common sexual interests.

"
what does like minded mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Completely agree!

It's a very brutal website this. We're all here for one thing and that's to fuck and enjoy others company. If they ladies go for personality then surely they would consider responding to messages from us single pringles and get to know the personality jnstesd of just basing their opinions on appearance. Double standards at its finest!

We're here for like minded, and trust me, judging by many messages, we are not all here for the same thing.

To have preferences is not double standards.

We are all here for one reason that we can all relate, we're here for ourselves, just like you are, and not here for anyone else.

Hence the looking for like minded, those we feel there's mutual appeal, respect and common sexual interests.

what does like minded mean? "

Having similar tastes and opinions, in the case here, sexually compatible with matching fantasies, kind of thing.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth


"OMG...it is so exhausting to try to get a single reply from a woman despite the best effort to write something intelligent. Sometimes i feel that no matter what i can write the pictures are what matter the most. It must be like that. At the club i can be very successful while here i struggle a lot. Your thought?"

So... it's been 6 weeks since this post. I'm wondering, have you spotted the irony?

You mention you struggle on here alot. The assumption is that you don't get many replies to your messages.

Looking at this thread, you've not replied to every comment. Why is that?

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen


"OMG...it is so exhausting to try to get a single reply from a woman despite the best effort to write something intelligent. Sometimes i feel that no matter what i can write the pictures are what matter the most. It must be like that. At the club i can be very successful while here i struggle a lot. Your thought?

So... it's been 6 weeks since this post. I'm wondering, have you spotted the irony?

You mention you struggle on here alot. The assumption is that you don't get many replies to your messages.

Looking at this thread, you've not replied to every comment. Why is that?

"

It's probably because some threads die off and fall to the bottom. Particularly given the amount that get posted.

You've given it a bump now though.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"OP, don't waste your energy and headspace in something that's a) not working and b) causes you to bemoan it on the fora. You've got it out of your system, now you can focus on clubs.

Use here as a networking tool to help facilitate contact with those you've met in clubs, keep abreast of club events.

Enjoy yourself at clubs. x"

This

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth


"It's probably because some threads die off and fall to the bottom. Particularly given the amount that get posted.

You've given it a bump now though."

I mean more so, why didn't he reply to every single comment whilst the thread was ongoing, i notice he replied to a small few or shared a generalised response but he didnt reply to every single individual comment... surely there is a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

However, and this is the clincher there are one or two that have a face like a bag of smashed crabs, have teeth missing, are unkempt and not really many people's cup of tea.

However, due to the jostling there are quite a few men in front of them. The men find themselves dancing quite a bit. However, 'the panel' are picking a small amount of people that they like. But interestingly the women who look like dish-faced sag titted witches are having a field day and filtering out decent looking people.

Right, I feel like jostling. "

love it

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen


"

However, and this is the clincher there are one or two that have a face like a bag of smashed crabs, have teeth missing, are unkempt and not really many people's cup of tea.

However, due to the jostling there are quite a few men in front of them. The men find themselves dancing quite a bit. However, 'the panel' are picking a small amount of people that they like. But interestingly the women who look like dish-faced sag titted witches are having a field day and filtering out decent looking people.

Right, I feel like jostling.

love it "

Haha so did loads of women fitting that description apparently.

Not.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen


"

However, and this is the clincher there are one or two that have a face like a bag of smashed crabs, have teeth missing, are unkempt and not really many people's cup of tea.

However, due to the jostling there are quite a few men in front of them. The men find themselves dancing quite a bit. However, 'the panel' are picking a small amount of people that they like. But interestingly the women who look like dish-faced sag titted witches are having a field day and filtering out decent looking people.

Right, I feel like jostling.

love it

Haha so did loads of women fitting that description apparently.

Not."

And others that didn't fit the description.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen


"It's probably because some threads die off and fall to the bottom. Particularly given the amount that get posted.

You've given it a bump now though.

I mean more so, why didn't he reply to every single comment whilst the thread was ongoing, i notice he replied to a small few or shared a generalised response but he didnt reply to every single individual comment... surely there is a reason"

Every single comment? I wouldn't, but I get what you mean.

Maybe he listened in to the advice and is getting more meets than a politician in Hampstead Heath?

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

I think the majority of men here send unsolicited dick pics and one liners like you wanna fuck . This then has a knock on effect where all men get classed as the same and makes it difficult. Personally I always like to personalise messages and be very different from the majority and I would say I don’t find it too difficult

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By *heitaliandreamer OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton

I must admit that after 6 weeks things have improved a lot for me and now my profile get much more attention thanks to few adjustments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't matter what you write, they either fancy you or don't. This place is very superficial.

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

You've only been on here for 3 months and alreafy have 4 verifications and yet you're whibing about it.

Most single men on here don't get their first meet until they've been here for about a year.

Talk about entitled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I even experimented with

A) long message based on what I read on someone's profile so tailoring it to them, actual thought went into it....no reply just deleted.

B) just a smiley face emoji and attached some pictures...got a reply and a shag.

Says it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I even experimented with

A) long message based on what I read on someone's profile so tailoring it to them, actual thought went into it....no reply just deleted.

B) just a smiley face emoji and attached some pictures...got a reply and a shag.

Says it all. "

I’ve had the same experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one has it easy on Fab...unless any holes a goal

Single guys lost in the myriad of other single guys.

Couples seeking couples ..finding 4 people that find each other fanciable

Single ladies flooded with offers from guys couples that don't float their boat

I'd not swap being a single guy for another gender on here

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By *heitaliandreamer OP   Man
over a year ago

Northampton


"You've only been on here for 3 months and alreafy have 4 verifications and yet you're whibing about it.

Most single men on here don't get their first meet until they've been here for about a year.

Talk about entitled

"

I am.sure you must have missed the part where it says that the post has been written more than 6 weeks ago. Things have improved a lot since then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a single male, and I agree op.

There’s lots of women on here that make it hard for me…..

…

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"I’m a single male, and I agree op.

There’s lots of women on here that make it hard for me…..

… "

•

Please don't tell me you have also been tormented by the questionably quirky quartet known as Edith, Marjorie, Lavinia and Winifred? They left a sour taste in my mouth. Never again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m a single male, and I agree op.

There’s lots of women on here that make it hard for me…..

…

•

Please don't tell me you have also been tormented by the questionably quirky quartet known as Edith, Marjorie, Lavinia and Winifred? They left a sour taste in my mouth. Never again! "

Oh hush. You know you love it! (Cackles)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bumping

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"I’m a single male, and I agree op.

There’s lots of women on here that make it hard for me…..

…

•

Please don't tell me you have also been tormented by the questionably quirky quartet known as Edith, Marjorie, Lavinia and Winifred? They left a sour taste in my mouth. Never again!

·

Oh hush. You know you love it! (Cackles)"

•

I treasure every moment and archive it in my heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m a single male, and I agree op.

There’s lots of women on here that make it hard for me…..

…

•

Please don't tell me you have also been tormented by the questionably quirky quartet known as Edith, Marjorie, Lavinia and Winifred? They left a sour taste in my mouth. Never again!

·

Oh hush. You know you love it! (Cackles)

•

I treasure every moment and archive it in my heart."

I knew it!!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people.

When we accept this as a potential fact, it prepares us for the likelihood that our messages here aren't very likely to elicit a great response rate. This should be our realistic expectation, especially as a single man.

No reply = no thanks, Ie, you're amongst the majority who are not mutually compatible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've only been on here for 3 months and alreafy have 4 verifications and yet you're whibing about it.

Most single men on here don't get their first meet until they've been here for about a year.

Talk about entitled

I am.sure you must have missed the part where it says that the post has been written more than 6 weeks ago. Things have improved a lot since then "

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