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By *tanley Funseeker OP   Man
over a year ago

stanley

Can you still see the best in people or has life made you hard and cynical?

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

I am more cynical now, but in general I still like people and try to see the best.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I see both. I'm open to anyone being able to have good in them, and me like them.

I'm cynical through experience. But I'm not blinded by it. Anyone and everyone is welcome to change my view of them, for better or worse.

I generally don't like people regardless though. I'm a fussy fucker and very selective of those I take to and bring close.

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By *tanley Funseeker OP   Man
over a year ago

stanley

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By *tanley Funseeker OP   Man
over a year ago

stanley


"I am more cynical now, but in general I still like people and try to see the best."

Same for me

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

Im still blind to peoples ulterior motives - i just trust until I don’t xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you still see the best in people or has life made you hard and cynical?"
I’m indifferent to most people so don’t see good or bad in them, more a take them as I find them and align (or not!) myself with that

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By *tanley Funseeker OP   Man
over a year ago

stanley


"I see both. I'm open to anyone being able to have good in them, and me like them.

I'm cynical through experience. But I'm not blinded by it. Anyone and everyone is welcome to change my view of them, for better or worse.

I generally don't like people regardless though. I'm a fussy fucker and very selective of those I take to and bring close. "

I get this. Maybe it’s a case of not investing in people who aren’t worth our time or energy

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

It's so difficult, even good people have done shitty things, I guess its how much you value that person and want them in your life. To whether you can overlook their shoddy behaviour and start anew. Generally I'm too cynical and keeping them at arms length, is the best place for me

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By *adison12Woman
over a year ago

Nr Boston

Thought I was a good judge of character but definitely more cautious now . Shame the chancers have to spoil it for genuine people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was deeply cynical, but I think that just attracted negativity! I seem to be happier now seeing the good in people where possible. But I think there is a difference between that and naivety, which hopefully I'm not dropping into .

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I see the good until i see the bad

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By *ilverfox for youMan
over a year ago

Hull

I’m afraid my life experience has made me hard !but still live in hope

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

I used to be optimistic about people. But too many people I thought I knew well turned out to be anything but decent. Now I don’t trust my judgement, make little effort to get to know people, assume the worst, and keep most folk at arms length. Sad really. I never used to be this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends. I try to see the best in everyone. Sometimes that's harder than others.

However even when some people have given me reason to see them negatively I still hold on to the hope they are good

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"It depends. I try to see the best in everyone. Sometimes that's harder than others.

However even when some people have given me reason to see them negatively I still hold on to the hope they are good "

^^ this.

There's always hope.

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

There are very few people I trust now. Where Fab is concerned . Being honest even less. Perhaps being older single male or just male ? . Some expect you to comply with their wants . Then they wonder why I do not respond straight away. ? .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you still?

I never did in the first place , no one is good until proven otherwise

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I give people a chance.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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No it hasn't. Perhaps it should have by now but no. If anything it's renewed my intent to try and see the good in people. To ignore the negativity and focus more on the positives.

A few of my friends think a healthy dose of cynicism wouldn't go amiss with me. Maybe that's true. I think I'd rather remain optimistic, a tad cautious but in the end hopeful. For others. In people as a whole.

I do struggle to allow people too close to me/to stay there but that's not down to cynicism.

I'm possibly rather daft though, maybe I should be a tad cynical.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I think there are very few people who are entirely evil or entirely good.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I just refuse to be cynical no matter what happens to me. I won’t let my own or others mistakes impact my relationships with others, that’s the emotional equivalent of self harm

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Everyone’s a prick until proven otherwise.

The mr

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By *adison12Woman
over a year ago

Nr Boston


"I just refuse to be cynical no matter what happens to me. I won’t let my own or others mistakes impact my relationships with others, that’s the emotional equivalent of self harm "

That’s a wake up call, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was to go by what I read on here everyone’s a cynic.

I see the good in people usually. Some things I won’t look past but mostly I think people are good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only good thing I seen in people is hopefully me after a little bit of talking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone’s a prick until proven otherwise.

The mr "

I like to think I'm a proven prick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If Anne Frank could, in 1944, write that she still believed people were still truly good at heart, i feel like I should be a better, more open, trusting person than I am.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Everyone’s a prick until proven otherwise.

The mr

I like to think I'm a proven prick "

No you’re ok, to throw stuff at.

The mr

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm not naive and I go by actions not words, I stand back and observe before I make decisions about people if I can. I err on the side of cynicism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here & similar places, I'm very cynical. I've been treated like crap too many times to be anything else. Most people are on Fab to get what they want. That often means not really caring about the other person.

IRL I try to see the good in people. And find it.

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