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"Yeah, we stayed up too late and I could not be bothered with the sex by the we time finally got to it... So we kissed, fondled, felt each other up... Then I called an Uber and went home " That sounds perfect tbf. | |||
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"Yep, I have done it. A few times truth be told. Just lots of kissing and dryhumping and works perfectly for me. I don't always want penetrative sex. Sometimes I'm happy just giving oral etc. I will probably do it again. No, scratch that, I definitely am. Soon. I'm not really one of those all holes must be thoroughly used sort of women - nothing wrong with that but I'm a bit more erm boring at times. It works for me. And the people I meet. Thank fuck huh? "Well that definitely beats a cup of coffee on a meet. | |||
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"Soft play is amazing and Incredibly intimate "I agree | |||
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"Thanks Meli, I agree, it’s great when it works and with the right people. I’m very much the same on the certain front "Yay! Love this for you. I'm enjoying my (not so) Hot Girl Summer/Autumn a lot this year and it's great meeting different people. It's also great not having sex. It's not because I'm holding out or any of that nonsense, it's more... I'm happy being true to myself. Doing what it is I actually enjoy. I quite like the intensity that's built. You know when you're lusting after someone and thinking about the way they kiss in the days that follow. I don't need to be penetrated to walk away from a date/dalliance to think that was great, let's do it again soon. I'm nuanced though - sometimes I meet someone and I'm contemplating how soon can I get him to throatfuck me.:D | |||
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"Thanks Meli, I agree, it’s great when it works and with the right people. I’m very much the same on the certain front
Yay! Love this for you.
I'm enjoying my (not so) Hot Girl Summer/Autumn a lot this year and it's great meeting different people. It's also great not having sex.
It's not because I'm holding out or any of that nonsense, it's more... I'm happy being true to myself. Doing what it is I actually enjoy. I quite like the intensity that's built. You know when you're lusting after someone and thinking about the way they kiss in the days that follow.
I don't need to be penetrated to walk away from a date/dalliance to think that was great, let's do it again soon.
I'm nuanced though - sometimes I meet someone and I'm contemplating how soon can I get him to throatfuck me.:D"I can’t even express how much I relate to this.  | |||
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"It's not because I'm holding out or any of that nonsense, it's more... I'm happy being true to myself. Doing what it is I actually enjoy." I’ve just highlighted part of what was written here. Doing this means you’re doing what you want, not what the convention might suggest. I think we’d all be a lot happier if we could sometimes tell convention to go fuck itself because it’s not quite right. It means we’re putting value on what we want, which doesn’t happen often. It also means the person we’re with is going along with it too, which is a good way of showing intimacy. Again, a nice, reinforcing buzz for us. Obvs it can’t all be one way all the time or that just means we’re selfish if we ignore the other’s feelings, but in a world that takes a lot from us, it’s nice to be in control of our own sexuality and body. Also, variety is good. Jabbing it in a hole can be nice, but there are other ways too. | |||
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"It's not because I'm holding out or any of that nonsense, it's more... I'm happy being true to myself. Doing what it is I actually enjoy. I’ve just highlighted part of what was written here. Doing this means you’re doing what you want, not what the convention might suggest. I think we’d all be a lot happier if we could sometimes tell convention to go fuck itself because it’s not quite right. It means we’re putting value on what we want, which doesn’t happen often. It also means the person we’re with is going along with it too, which is a good way of showing intimacy. Again, a nice, reinforcing buzz for us. Obvs it can’t all be one way all the time or that just means we’re selfish if we ignore the other’s feelings, but in a world that takes a lot from us, it’s nice to be in control of our own sexuality and body. Also, variety is good. Jabbing it in a hole can be nice, but there are other ways too." That’s a great point Adam, and by highlighting what Meli has already said, it made me realise having never enjoyed penetration I was missing out on something I could have actually enjoyed. | |||
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"It's not because I'm holding out or any of that nonsense, it's more... I'm happy being true to myself. Doing what it is I actually enjoy. I’ve just highlighted part of what was written here. Doing this means you’re doing what you want, not what the convention might suggest. I think we’d all be a lot happier if we could sometimes tell convention to go fuck itself because it’s not quite right. It means we’re putting value on what we want, which doesn’t happen often. It also means the person we’re with is going along with it too, which is a good way of showing intimacy. Again, a nice, reinforcing buzz for us. Obvs it can’t all be one way all the time or that just means we’re selfish if we ignore the other’s feelings, but in a world that takes a lot from us, it’s nice to be in control of our own sexuality and body. Also, variety is good. Jabbing it in a hole can be nice, but there are other ways too." Yes that's exactly it for me. I'm tired of following convention. Of being told I'm not a swinger because I don't want to fuck constantly. Of being told I'm not poly because I don't have headspace for more than three/four things at any one time. Life is so much happier and better for me when I'm doing what makes me happy. I like being in control of my sexuality, finding people I'm compatible with. This summer has been fantastic for me in a way I didn't think it would be. So... fuck convention. I'm going to keep meeting hot people and having hot experiences on my terms, fuck it if I'm not "doing it right". I'm doing me. | |||
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"I’m so here for this, Dee. Sex doesn’t always have to be about fucking. And variety is the spiciest of spices, right? So why not spend a night with someone and enjoy all the other things you can do together. I’m in." Sex isn’t about fucking for me, never was and it probably never will. But you know that already, and so glad you’re in  | |||
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"I guess that would count as a social, we don't tend to do anything sexual on our socials (except 1) Mrs " I’m actually thinking after you’ve had a social, and it went well, would you consider meeting someone for more but no penetration involved? | |||
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"The first 3 times I slept with my partner there was no penetration. It was beautiful. And so nice to not just get down to it." The word “beautiful” never sounded better. Thank you Posh x | |||
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"meetings where there’s (for whatever reason) no penetration involved? Have you done it? Would you do it? Interested to hear from you all. " That's a meet with me | |||
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"meetings where there’s (for whatever reason) no penetration involved? Have you done it? Would you do it? Interested to hear from you all. That's a meet with me "I know | |||
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"meetings where there’s (for whatever reason) no penetration involved? Have you done it? Would you do it? Interested to hear from you all. " Yes I've done it, I've had a few meets where the participants have wanted to be tied up and played with, no penetration involved at all, just spanking and being controlled wether it be forced orgasm or orgasm denial | |||
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"meetings where there’s (for whatever reason) no penetration involved? Have you done it? Would you do it? Interested to hear from you all. Yes I've done it, I've had a few meets where the participants have wanted to be tied up and played with, no penetration involved at all, just spanking and being controlled wether it be forced orgasm or orgasm denial" I imagine it being quite interesting experience, when agreed upfront and respecting boundaries. Not sure I’d give it a go but you never know. | |||
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"meetings where there’s (for whatever reason) no penetration involved? Have you done it? Would you do it? Interested to hear from you all. " This seemed much more common a few years ago, people used to arrange ‘soft play’ meets all the time. It’s more common in the dating space than on fab. I’m very laid back and can’t be played by offers of sex, I’m just not fussed about having sex with someone unless they really want to and are genuine , but I think some women are actually pure filth horn bags , but play and enjoy the power that gives them over sex starved men. And I think equally some men ate like adolescent boys and silk if they dint get penetration on a meet | |||
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"This seemed much more common a few years ago, people used to arrange ‘soft play’ meets all the time. It’s more common in the dating space than on fab. I’m very laid back and can’t be played by offers of sex, I’m just not fussed about having sex with someone unless they really want to and are genuine , but I think some women are actually pure filth horn bags , but play and enjoy the power that gives them over sex starved men. And I think equally some men ate like adolescent boys and silk if they dint get penetration on a meet" I think this is the sort of negative line of thinking that can lead to some people not being confident enough to say actually, I don't want penetrative sex. I'm genuine (  that word), when I want sex with someone I'll have it but sometimes I don't want to.
It's seen as game playing, about power and control when sometimes a person really doesn't want to have penetrative sex. Or sex of any kind for that matter.
Removing that sort of pressure surrounding it, attributing it to game playing and doing away with convention is a good thing in my mind. People should do what they want to do and feel most comfortable with. It can take time for people to warm, they might not want to. Sure, occasionally it could be game play but I think more often than not? It's not.
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"This seemed much more common a few years ago, people used to arrange ‘soft play’ meets all the time. It’s more common in the dating space than on fab. I’m very laid back and can’t be played by offers of sex, I’m just not fussed about having sex with someone unless they really want to and are genuine , but I think some women are actually pure filth horn bags , but play and enjoy the power that gives them over sex starved men. And I think equally some men ate like adolescent boys and silk if they dint get penetration on a meet I think this is the sort of negative line of thinking that can lead to some people not being confident enough to say actually, I don't want penetrative sex. I'm genuine ( that word), when I want sex with someone I'll have it but sometimes I don't want to.
It's seen as game playing, about power and control when sometimes a person really doesn't want to have penetrative sex. Or sex of any kind for that matter.
Removing that sort of pressure surrounding it, attributing it to game playing and doing away with convention is a good thing in my mind. People should do what they want to do and feel most comfortable with. It can take time for people to warm, they might not want to. Sure, occasionally it could be game play but I think more often than not? It's not.
"No I think there’s a huge difference. Some peoples personalities are game players, they are easy to spot, they are confident and highly sexed , sex isn’t a big deal to them, but they can use sex because some men will do anything for it , it keeps them interested etc. | |||
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"meetings where there’s (for whatever reason) no penetration involved? Have you done it? Would you do it? Interested to hear from you all. This seemed much more common a few years ago, people used to arrange ‘soft play’ meets all the time. It’s more common in the dating space than on fab. I’m very laid back and can’t be played by offers of sex, I’m just not fussed about having sex with someone unless they really want to and are genuine , but I think some women are actually pure filth horn bags , but play and enjoy the power that gives them over sex starved men. And I think equally some men ate like adolescent boys and silk if they dint get penetration on a meet" I’m finding it confusing trying to figure out how the preference (mutual, just to be sure) of not having penetrative sex relates to power games, or any games in fact. Surely it’s down to being honest, communicate upfront and finding people you are compatible with? | |||
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"Exploring senses, laughing, kissing and generally just spending time with someone is just as satisfying (often it's even better than just having sex.) I'm all for intimacy, effort and creativity. It's hot. It's sexy and it's absolutely moreish. " You’ve written down exactly what was in my head. Why limit the enjoyment with someone just to sex? It’s a fantastic part, but it can be only a part if you’re lucky. | |||
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"Absolutely love this. I think there is a myth that when you meet someone it's almost expected that you will end up having sex everytime you see them there after. That's nonsense. Exploring senses, laughing, kissing and generally just spending time with someone is just as satisfying (often it's even better than just having sex.) I'm all for intimacy, effort and creativity. It's hot. It's sexy and it's absolutely moreish. " Yes, yes and one more yes. | |||
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For me personally it’s my preference … | |||
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"Exploring senses, laughing, kissing and generally just spending time with someone is just as satisfying (often it's even better than just having sex.) I'm all for intimacy, effort and creativity. It's hot. It's sexy and it's absolutely moreish. You’ve written down exactly what was in my head. Why limit the enjoyment with someone just to sex? It’s a fantastic part, but it can be only a part if you’re lucky." Yes! Moreish is such a perfect term. It is moreish. I crave more their touch, their kisses. Don't get me wrong, I adore sex. I have some great lovers in my life. I will still always like and really enjoy those times when I'm not being penetrated. When I get to explore and discover more of them without fucking. If someone gets under my skin without fucking? Even if one day we do? It's erotic in a way that just fucking isn't. For me anyway. I'll hand in my swingers card now. Not that I was one but, you know. :D | |||
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"meetings where there’s (for whatever reason) no penetration involved? Have you done it? Would you do it? Interested to hear from you all. " Done it a few times and it’s great. Sometimes just voyeur meets. Sometimes a little more. It’s friendly and often for us shy ones it’s much less pressure | |||
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"When done correctly this type of fun can be so much more intense than sex … the anticipation of it all is electric …. So many don’t seem to want to involve / engage the mind
For me personally it’s my preference …"I beginning to realise it is my preference too. And so be it. | |||
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"Exploring senses, laughing, kissing and generally just spending time with someone is just as satisfying (often it's even better than just having sex.) I'm all for intimacy, effort and creativity. It's hot. It's sexy and it's absolutely moreish. You’ve written down exactly what was in my head. Why limit the enjoyment with someone just to sex? It’s a fantastic part, but it can be only a part if you’re lucky. Yes! Moreish is such a perfect term. It is moreish. I crave more their touch, their kisses. Don't get me wrong, I adore sex. I have some great lovers in my life. I will still always like and really enjoy those times when I'm not being penetrated. When I get to explore and discover more of them without fucking. If someone gets under my skin without fucking? Even if one day we do? It's erotic in a way that just fucking isn't. For me anyway. I'll hand in my swingers card now. Not that I was one but, you know. :D" No but yes!
Because to me, swinging is more than just having sex with others, it’s knowing them as a person, giggling together, finding swinging/events clubs to visit, watching films, talking walks
For me always needing penetration for every meet isn’t swinging, to me that’s one night stands…the same thing people go to nightclubs for
Hold on tight to your swinging cards, you’re swingers in my book! | |||
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"Have done it and very happy to do it again. For me going down on a woman is a much greater thrill than penetrative sex anyway. I just recently had a first date with a lady to see if we were compatible as FWBs and...we discovered we were. Penetrative sex (well...by penis anyway, fingers were involved) didn't take place. We were both very satisfied with what did happen all the same." It makes me happy to read this. | |||
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"meetings where there’s (for whatever reason) no penetration involved? Have you done it? Would you do it? Interested to hear from you all. " were you present at one Op? | |||
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" I dislike pressure and expectation. I want good, sensual times without feeling like penetrative sex is the only end goal. I hope there are people on Fab who feel the same that I can hang out with. There has been in the past." Thank you for your comment. I’m even more happy now, reading your expanded version. I so disliked the pressure and expectations in the past, I would turn down every single person who was remotely interested in meeting me. I like sex but as soon I feel pressured, I’m out. I’m feeling more comfortable with focusing on people I’m compatible with. | |||
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"meetings where there’s (for whatever reason) no penetration involved? Have you done it? Would you do it? Interested to hear from you all. were you present at one Op? "No, the answer is no. | |||
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"Yes I have and they were some of the best meets I’ve had from here. It was something different for me and that really excited me. The fact that my playmate was utterly gorgeous helped too. Would love to do more "Oh LB! Thank you for this comment. I have a feeling like my miserable Fab life just took an unexpected turn! For better, may I just add | |||
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"Yes I have and they were some of the best meets I’ve had from here. It was something different for me and that really excited me. The fact that my playmate was utterly gorgeous helped too. Would love to do more
Oh LB! Thank you for this comment.
I have a feeling like my miserable Fab life just took an unexpected turn!
For better, may I just add
"Oh darling I hope you’re ok? And life is too short to be miserable. Just keep on swimming
Dm anytime you need xx | |||
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"Yes I have and they were some of the best meets I’ve had from here. It was something different for me and that really excited me. The fact that my playmate was utterly gorgeous helped too. Would love to do more
Oh LB! Thank you for this comment.
I have a feeling like my miserable Fab life just took an unexpected turn!
For better, may I just add
Oh darling I hope you’re ok? And life is too short to be miserable. Just keep on swimming
Dm anytime you need xx"Thank you my lovely, it’s all good. You know that moments when you suddenly start questioning yourself based on others’ expectations? One of those days, I guess. Based on responses on this thread, I should be more than okay  | |||
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"Absolutely love this. I think there is a myth that when you meet someone it's almost expected that you will end up having sex everytime you see them there after. That's nonsense. Exploring senses, laughing, kissing and generally just spending time with someone is just as satisfying (often it's even better than just having sex.) I'm all for intimacy, effort and creativity. It's hot. It's sexy and it's absolutely moreish. " Very much this. If you can't be laughing having fun, what's the point? | |||
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"Yes I have and they were some of the best meets I’ve had from here. It was something different for me and that really excited me. The fact that my playmate was utterly gorgeous helped too. Would love to do more "Very happy you feel this way. Just a pity that I'm not gorgeous | |||
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"Yes I have and they were some of the best meets I’ve had from here. It was something different for me and that really excited me. The fact that my playmate was utterly gorgeous helped too. Would love to do more
Oh LB! Thank you for this comment.
I have a feeling like my miserable Fab life just took an unexpected turn!
For better, may I just add
Oh darling I hope you’re ok? And life is too short to be miserable. Just keep on swimming
Dm anytime you need xx
Thank you my lovely, it’s all good.
You know that moments when you suddenly start questioning yourself based on others’ expectations?
One of those days, I guess.
Based on responses on this thread, I should be more than okay
"You will be. Honestly, after some time you start blocking out the noise of expectations and pressure. I've been told before I should be doing x, y and z if I'm on here. That if I'm poly I should be sleeping around and avoiding feelings. There's not one set way to do things. As long as you're being honest to yourself, respectful and have open and honest communication with those who matters it? That's brilliant. Have lots of fun OP, it's great you're owning what you enjoy | |||
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"Yes I have and they were some of the best meets I’ve had from here. It was something different for me and that really excited me. The fact that my playmate was utterly gorgeous helped too. Would love to do more
Oh LB! Thank you for this comment.
I have a feeling like my miserable Fab life just took an unexpected turn!
For better, may I just add
Oh darling I hope you’re ok? And life is too short to be miserable. Just keep on swimming
Dm anytime you need xx
Thank you my lovely, it’s all good.
You know that moments when you suddenly start questioning yourself based on others’ expectations?
One of those days, I guess.
Based on responses on this thread, I should be more than okay
You will be. Honestly, after some time you start blocking out the noise of expectations and pressure.
I've been told before I should be doing x, y and z if I'm on here. That if I'm poly I should be sleeping around and avoiding feelings. There's not one set way to do things. As long as you're being honest to yourself, respectful and have open and honest communication with those who matters it?
That's brilliant. Have lots of fun OP, it's great you're owning what you enjoy "Thank you Meli. I wasn’t sure about posting this one but I’m glad I did. | |||
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"When done correctly this type of fun can be so much more intense than sex … the anticipation of it all is electric …. So many don’t seem to want to involve / engage the mind
For me personally it’s my preference …
I beginning to realise it is my preference too.
And so be it. "It does take a huge amount of self control yet it’s pretty achievable as it’s having that mutual understanding and respect for each others boundaries … it’s also that element of wanting what you can’t have | |||
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"Yes I have and they were some of the best meets I’ve had from here. It was something different for me and that really excited me. The fact that my playmate was utterly gorgeous helped too. Would love to do more
Oh LB! Thank you for this comment.
I have a feeling like my miserable Fab life just took an unexpected turn!
For better, may I just add
Oh darling I hope you’re ok? And life is too short to be miserable. Just keep on swimming
Dm anytime you need xx
Thank you my lovely, it’s all good.
You know that moments when you suddenly start questioning yourself based on others’ expectations?
One of those days, I guess.
Based on responses on this thread, I should be more than okay
"Other people's expectations are their issue, not yours. Generally I find it useful to have a conversation about exactly what you're both looking for relatively early (that could be as simple as - 'Not sure, just no pressure and play it by ear?'). If the other person is OK with it, great. If they want something different, that's not a reflection of what you 'should' be doing/wanting. Do what makes you happy with people who want the same - there is no 'should' to how you do that. | |||
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"Yes I have and they were some of the best meets I’ve had from here. It was something different for me and that really excited me. The fact that my playmate was utterly gorgeous helped too. Would love to do more
Oh LB! Thank you for this comment.
I have a feeling like my miserable Fab life just took an unexpected turn!
For better, may I just add
Oh darling I hope you’re ok? And life is too short to be miserable. Just keep on swimming
Dm anytime you need xx
Thank you my lovely, it’s all good.
You know that moments when you suddenly start questioning yourself based on others’ expectations?
One of those days, I guess.
Based on responses on this thread, I should be more than okay
Other people's expectations are their issue, not yours. Generally I find it useful to have a conversation about exactly what you're both looking for relatively early (that could be as simple as - 'Not sure, just no pressure and play it by ear?'). If the other person is OK with it, great. If they want something different, that's not a reflection of what you 'should' be doing/wanting. Do what makes you happy with people who want the same - there is no 'should' to how you do that."I agree. I talk to very few people and I’m very open and honest from the start. It takes me a while to drop my guards down so at this point we are pretty much on the same page, or at least close to. I’m struggling with a feeling of being a disappointment or not good enough, due to my physical limitations. But I think it’s the subject for completely different thread. | |||
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"Yes I have and they were some of the best meets I’ve had from here. It was something different for me and that really excited me. The fact that my playmate was utterly gorgeous helped too. Would love to do more
Oh LB! Thank you for this comment.
I have a feeling like my miserable Fab life just took an unexpected turn!
For better, may I just add
Oh darling I hope you’re ok? And life is too short to be miserable. Just keep on swimming
Dm anytime you need xx
Thank you my lovely, it’s all good.
You know that moments when you suddenly start questioning yourself based on others’ expectations?
One of those days, I guess.
Based on responses on this thread, I should be more than okay
Other people's expectations are their issue, not yours. Generally I find it useful to have a conversation about exactly what you're both looking for relatively early (that could be as simple as - 'Not sure, just no pressure and play it by ear?'). If the other person is OK with it, great. If they want something different, that's not a reflection of what you 'should' be doing/wanting. Do what makes you happy with people who want the same - there is no 'should' to how you do that.
I agree. I talk to very few people and I’m very open and honest from the start. It takes me a while to drop my guards down so at this point we are pretty much on the same page, or at least close to.
I’m struggling with a feeling of being a disappointment or not good enough, due to my physical limitations.
But I think it’s the subject for completely different thread. "You can never be a disappointment for whoever you choose to meet. They chose to meet you and should take you as they find you. | |||
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"Yes I have and they were some of the best meets I’ve had from here. It was something different for me and that really excited me. The fact that my playmate was utterly gorgeous helped too. Would love to do more
Oh LB! Thank you for this comment.
I have a feeling like my miserable Fab life just took an unexpected turn!
For better, may I just add
Oh darling I hope you’re ok? And life is too short to be miserable. Just keep on swimming
Dm anytime you need xx
Thank you my lovely, it’s all good.
You know that moments when you suddenly start questioning yourself based on others’ expectations?
One of those days, I guess.
Based on responses on this thread, I should be more than okay
Other people's expectations are their issue, not yours. Generally I find it useful to have a conversation about exactly what you're both looking for relatively early (that could be as simple as - 'Not sure, just no pressure and play it by ear?'). If the other person is OK with it, great. If they want something different, that's not a reflection of what you 'should' be doing/wanting. Do what makes you happy with people who want the same - there is no 'should' to how you do that.
I agree. I talk to very few people and I’m very open and honest from the start. It takes me a while to drop my guards down so at this point we are pretty much on the same page, or at least close to.
I’m struggling with a feeling of being a disappointment or not good enough, due to my physical limitations.
But I think it’s the subject for completely different thread.
You can never be a disappointment for whoever you choose to meet. They chose to meet you and should take you as they find you. "You got me thinking now. | |||
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"Have had meets where it was just kissing and some touching. Have had meets where it had only been oral sex. I like all thongs sexual and don't always need to fuck to get off. " That sounds actually really good. | |||
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"Have had meets where it was just kissing and some touching. Have had meets where it had only been oral sex. I like all thongs sexual and don't always need to fuck to get off. That sounds actually really good. " I've enjoyed it. Have a friend I used to meet and sometimes I'd suck him off and that's it. Other times he went down me and that was it. | |||
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"Have had meets where it was just kissing and some touching. Have had meets where it had only been oral sex. I like all thongs sexual and don't always need to fuck to get off. That sounds actually really good. I've enjoyed it. Have a friend I used to meet and sometimes I'd suck him off and that's it. Other times he went down me and that was it. " That would totally work for me as well, and I especially love giving oral. What would be the reason that you and your friend chose to not have full on sex? Hope I’m not being too nosey and apologies if I am. | |||
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"Have had meets where it was just kissing and some touching. Have had meets where it had only been oral sex. I like all thongs sexual and don't always need to fuck to get off. That sounds actually really good. I've enjoyed it. Have a friend I used to meet and sometimes I'd suck him off and that's it. Other times he went down me and that was it. That would totally work for me as well, and I especially love giving oral. What would be the reason that you and your friend chose to not have full on sex? Hope I’m not being too nosey and apologies if I am." Sometimes it would be doen to not having enough time. So he would give an orgasm when needed or I'd do the same for him. Sometimes I'd be on my period so would just get him off. We would still kiss and touch. | |||
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"Have had meets where it was just kissing and some touching. Have had meets where it had only been oral sex. I like all thongs sexual and don't always need to fuck to get off. That sounds actually really good. I've enjoyed it. Have a friend I used to meet and sometimes I'd suck him off and that's it. Other times he went down me and that was it. That would totally work for me as well, and I especially love giving oral. " That works for me | |||
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" So... fuck convention. I'm going to keep meeting hot people and having hot experiences on my terms, fuck it if I'm not "doing it right". I'm doing me. " This. As to the original question, my answer is yes, non penetration can still be fun and I like it. So many other ways to be intimate than just fucking and many of them are a lot of fun. | |||
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"Yep, I have done it. A few times truth be told. Just lots of kissing and dryhumping and works perfectly for me. I don't always want penetrative sex. Sometimes I'm happy just giving oral etc. I will probably do it again. No, scratch that, I definitely am. Soon. I'm not really one of those all holes must be thoroughly used sort of women - nothing wrong with that but I'm a bit more erm boring at times. It works for me. And the people I meet. Thank fuck huh? "Yeah like this answer  | |||
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"Have had meets where it was just kissing and some touching. Have had meets where it had only been oral sex. I like all thongs sexual and don't always need to fuck to get off. That sounds actually really good. I've enjoyed it. Have a friend I used to meet and sometimes I'd suck him off and that's it. Other times he went down me and that was it. That would totally work for me as well, and I especially love giving oral. What would be the reason that you and your friend chose to not have full on sex? Hope I’m not being too nosey and apologies if I am. Sometimes it would be doen to not having enough time. So he would give an orgasm when needed or I'd do the same for him. Sometimes I'd be on my period so would just get him off. We would still kiss and touch." That’s makes perfect sense, thank you for responding. In my case it’s more the fact that penetration both vaginal and anal, doesn’t do anything to me (never did and probably never will), in fact makes me very uncomfortable due to my endometriosis and peri menopause. I know I sound fun | |||
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"Have had meets where it was just kissing and some touching. Have had meets where it had only been oral sex. I like all thongs sexual and don't always need to fuck to get off. That sounds actually really good. I've enjoyed it. Have a friend I used to meet and sometimes I'd suck him off and that's it. Other times he went down me and that was it. That would totally work for me as well, and I especially love giving oral. That works for me "Long overdue | |||
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"Have had meets where it was just kissing and some touching. Have had meets where it had only been oral sex. I like all thongs sexual and don't always need to fuck to get off. That sounds actually really good. I've enjoyed it. Have a friend I used to meet and sometimes I'd suck him off and that's it. Other times he went down me and that was it. That would totally work for me as well, and I especially love giving oral. That works for me
Long overdue "Yes it is | |||
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"meetings where there’s (for whatever reason) no penetration involved? Have you done it? Would you do it? Interested to hear from you all. " Well I met you once and you didn't penetrate me  | |||
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"This is a really encouraging thread. I really enjoy these kind of meets, but can be worried to suggest them as I sometimes feel like people think (yes, I'm projecting) there must be something wrong with you for doing so, or they'll not be interested as it might not be "worth it"..." Yes! I feel exactly the same. That’s refreshing seeing all those responses, isn’t it? Almost liberating. | |||
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"meetings where there’s (for whatever reason) no penetration involved? Have you done it? Would you do it? Interested to hear from you all. Well I met you once and you didn't penetrate me "Dear Jennie, you didn’t penetrate me either so it kinda counts? Or it doesn’t, I’m confused | |||
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"Most definitely would, I've never meet with anyone purely on that arrangement but something regular in previously relationships with and without oral, can be extremely enjoyable and hot" But would you meet someone from here purely on that kind arrangement? | |||
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"Most of my meets are socials "Surely they are. You’re sociable | |||
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"meetings where there’s (for whatever reason) no penetration involved? Have you done it? Would you do it? Interested to hear from you all. " In the other world, play dates that involve little to nonsexual contact are fairly standard. Guess it is down to what the involved people want. | |||
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"Have had meets where it was just kissing and some touching. Have had meets where it had only been oral sex. I like all thongs sexual and don't always need to fuck to get off. That sounds actually really good. I've enjoyed it. Have a friend I used to meet and sometimes I'd suck him off and that's it. Other times he went down me and that was it. That would totally work for me as well, and I especially love giving oral. What would be the reason that you and your friend chose to not have full on sex? Hope I’m not being too nosey and apologies if I am. Sometimes it would be doen to not having enough time. So he would give an orgasm when needed or I'd do the same for him. Sometimes I'd be on my period so would just get him off. We would still kiss and touch. That’s makes perfect sense, thank you for responding. In my case it’s more the fact that penetration both vaginal and anal, doesn’t do anything to me (never did and probably never will), in fact makes me very uncomfortable due to my endometriosis and peri menopause. I know I sound fun "I've suffered with the same. I had later surgery done and not looked back. Sex is much less painful now. | |||
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"Most definitely would, I've never meet with anyone purely on that arrangement but something regular in previously relationships with and without oral, can be extremely enjoyable and hot But would you meet someone from here purely on that kind arrangement? " I wouldn't have a problem with it, I'd welcome it | |||
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"No, if I'm meeting someone (past the social stage) then I'll be wanting full sex thanks. Unless it's not possible due to the time of the month, but I'd probably rather not see anyone at that time. It just leaves me frustrated. I have zero will power, so once I get warmed up I want it all. " That’s a very valid point Mimi, especially the frustration part. I don’t ever cum from penetration so I’ll happily skip that part, as long as other parties are happy but it makes total sense to me. | |||
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"No, if I'm meeting someone (past the social stage) then I'll be wanting full sex thanks. Unless it's not possible due to the time of the month, but I'd probably rather not see anyone at that time. It just leaves me frustrated. That's the best part, leaning self control, increasing will power, all help lead to a better sex life.... that's my thoughts on it anyway I have zero will power, so once I get warmed up I want it all. " | |||
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"Have had meets where it was just kissing and some touching. Have had meets where it had only been oral sex. I like all thongs sexual and don't always need to fuck to get off. That sounds actually really good. I've enjoyed it. Have a friend I used to meet and sometimes I'd suck him off and that's it. Other times he went down me and that was it. That would totally work for me as well, and I especially love giving oral. What would be the reason that you and your friend chose to not have full on sex? Hope I’m not being too nosey and apologies if I am. Sometimes it would be doen to not having enough time. So he would give an orgasm when needed or I'd do the same for him. Sometimes I'd be on my period so would just get him off. We would still kiss and touch. That’s makes perfect sense, thank you for responding. In my case it’s more the fact that penetration both vaginal and anal, doesn’t do anything to me (never did and probably never will), in fact makes me very uncomfortable due to my endometriosis and peri menopause. I know I sound fun
I've suffered with the same. I had later surgery done and not looked back. Sex is much less painful now."I think I’m on some kind of waiting list for this but I’m really glad to hear it’s been sorted out for you x | |||
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"No, if I'm meeting someone (past the social stage) then I'll be wanting full sex thanks. Unless it's not possible due to the time of the month, but I'd probably rather not see anyone at that time. It just leaves me frustrated. I have zero will power, so once I get warmed up I want it all. That’s a very valid point Mimi, especially the frustration part. I don’t ever cum from penetration so I’ll happily skip that part, as long as other parties are happy but it makes total sense to me." I don't either, but I'd still want that lol I've had meets that couldn't perform, and the other activities have been great, but it's just not the same for me. If I'm putting the effort into getting ready etc, then I want the full experience. | |||
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"No, if I'm meeting someone (past the social stage) then I'll be wanting full sex thanks. Unless it's not possible due to the time of the month, but I'd probably rather not see anyone at that time. It just leaves me frustrated. That's the best part, leaning self control, increasing will power, all help lead to a better sex life.... that's my thoughts on it anyway I have zero will power, so once I get warmed up I want it all. " I don't want to learn self control. | |||
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"I think this has been an amazing thread OP. Thank you for posting it. It’s really made my day "It blew my mind LB | |||
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"No, if I'm meeting someone (past the social stage) then I'll be wanting full sex thanks. Unless it's not possible due to the time of the month, but I'd probably rather not see anyone at that time. It just leaves me frustrated. I have zero will power, so once I get warmed up I want it all. That’s a very valid point Mimi, especially the frustration part. I don’t ever cum from penetration so I’ll happily skip that part, as long as other parties are happy but it makes total sense to me. I don't either, but I'd still want that lol I've had meets that couldn't perform, and the other activities have been great, but it's just not the same for me. If I'm putting the effort into getting ready etc, then I want the full experience. " Oh I get this too! Sometimes I’m just like “just fuck me already!” | |||
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"I once met someone from here who only wanted breast play. It was one of the most memorable and fun meets I’ve had if I’m honest. " Interesting, why was that if you don’t mind me asking? (I’m heavily into breast play too) | |||
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"I once met someone from here who only wanted breast play. It was one of the most memorable and fun meets I’ve had if I’m honest. Interesting, why was that if you don’t mind me asking? (I’m heavily into breast play too)" A lady I know can cum just by having her nipples played with | |||
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"No, if I'm meeting someone (past the social stage) then I'll be wanting full sex thanks. Unless it's not possible due to the time of the month, but I'd probably rather not see anyone at that time. It just leaves me frustrated. That's the best part, leaning self control, increasing will power, all help lead to a better sex life.... that's my thoughts on it anyway I have zero will power, so once I get warmed up I want it all. I don't want to learn self control. " I get it everyone has their own thing | |||
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"I once met someone from here who only wanted breast play. It was one of the most memorable and fun meets I’ve had if I’m honest. Interesting, why was that if you don’t mind me asking? (I’m heavily into breast play too)" In! | |||
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"I once met someone from here who only wanted breast play. It was one of the most memorable and fun meets I’ve had if I’m honest. Interesting, why was that if you don’t mind me asking? (I’m heavily into breast play too) A lady I know can cum just by having her nipples played with "Yep, that’s me too. But then I was under impression everyone could. Turns out I was wrong. | |||
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"I once met someone from here who only wanted breast play. It was one of the most memorable and fun meets I’ve had if I’m honest. Interesting, why was that if you don’t mind me asking? (I’m heavily into breast play too) In! " Yes please! (I’m hyperventilating) | |||
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"I once met someone from here who only wanted breast play. It was one of the most memorable and fun meets I’ve had if I’m honest. Interesting, why was that if you don’t mind me asking? (I’m heavily into breast play too) A lady I know can cum just by having her nipples played with
Yep, that’s me too.
But then I was under impression everyone could.
Turns out I was wrong. "I'll commit that to memory for the next time we meet | |||
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"I once met someone from here who only wanted breast play. It was one of the most memorable and fun meets I’ve had if I’m honest. Interesting, why was that if you don’t mind me asking? (I’m heavily into breast play too) A lady I know can cum just by having her nipples played with
Yep, that’s me too.
But then I was under impression everyone could.
Turns out I was wrong.
I'll commit that to memory for the next time we meet "You better do. | |||
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"Yes, I love beautiful women with passion, esp. the deep kiss. They can sometimes far better than hardcore gang bang sessions." I love to hear that | |||
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"Yes, I love beautiful women with passion, esp. the deep kiss. They can sometimes far better than hardcore gang bang sessions. I love to hear that "
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