FabSwingers.com forum: Could you date someone who is messy?

By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I could and I dont mind it because I am a bit messy myself, well not so messy. I have sometimes few things laying around that kind of thing, but not too much, to be honest. I like it to be a bit messy, to have few things here and there.

What about you, could you date someone who is messy and how is your home?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d rather not

But I depends how the rest of the relationship is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I couldn't, I like a tidy house ...but a dirty mind.

They'd end up in one of the plots I've already dug out under the patio.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes I could! On the other hand not someone who is completely opposite! I go on holiday with my sister every year and she is a clean freak even on holiday! She did suggest that maybe I could go live with her in our twilight years! (I'm in mine lol) but I said as much as I love u I couldn't live 24/7 with u lol x we are complete opposites in every way! As I say love her dearly! I'm what she would consider messy! I think I'm mediocre clean but lived in kinda house love all my toot! X

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

Don’t mind her being messy as long as she does all the other chores ……

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I couldn't, I like a tidy house ...but a dirty mind.

They'd end up in one of the plots I've already dug out under the patio."

Are these plots rentable? Asking for a friend

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"No I couldn't, I like a tidy house ...but a dirty mind.

They'd end up in one of the plots I've already dug out under the patio.

Are these plots rentable? Asking for a friend

And I was gonna ask in one of your other posts can I bring my own duct tape….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I couldn't, I like a tidy house ...but a dirty mind.

They'd end up in one of the plots I've already dug out under the patio.

Are these plots rentable? Asking for a friend

If anyone redeems themselves I'll let your friend know.

Not looking promising though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life "

Wow that's harsh!

How does it reflect their life exactly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I couldn't, I like a tidy house ...but a dirty mind.

They'd end up in one of the plots I've already dug out under the patio.

Are these plots rentable? Asking for a friend

And I was gonna ask in one of your other posts can I bring my own duct tape…."

I’ll ask my friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely - messy doesn’t equate to unclean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life "

My van is a mess and my house is clean and tidy, how does that work

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life

My van is a mess and my house is clean and tidy, how does that work

Vans should be a mess they are for work cars shouldn't be

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life "

I think I would agree to an extend and personally I like a tidy one though there are always things you have to prooritise in life. On the other hand there are a lot of free spitited and happy people, and I have a few friends like that, who don't pay much attention to a particularly tidy home but are great people and have perfectly 'tidy' lives, just not a particularly tidy home. Untidy of course does not mean unclean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha I'm incredibly messy! I like things to be tidy and organised I'm just not very good at keeping it that way.

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By *ove2pleaseseukMan
over a year ago

Hastings

"I could and I dont mind it because I am a bit messy myself, well not so messy. I have sometimes few things laying around that kind of thing, but not too much, to be honest. I like it to be a bit messy, to have few things here and there.

What about you, could you date someone who is messy and how is your home?

Date no fuck why not

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

If messy is referring in this case to disorganised than is a yes if is dirty than the answer is big no unless we are talking a dirty mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life "

This is very true for me at the minute actually. Everything is a mess!

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life

My van is a mess and my house is clean and tidy, how does that work

Bodies all over the place as she can’t get in touch with her friend at the moment….

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life

This is very true for me at the minute actually. Everything is a mess!"

Oh dear xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life

My van is a mess and my house is clean and tidy, how does that work

Bodies all over the place as she can’t get in touch with her friend at the moment…."

We k1dnapp3d an overweight guy the other day and called him fat Barry. Wondered what we’d say if we’d have been stopped by the plods

*disclaimer: Twas two flat packed wardrobes from ikea weighing approximately 18 stone

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life

My van is a mess and my house is clean and tidy, how does that work

Bodies all over the place as she can’t get in touch with her friend at the moment….

We k1dnapp3d an overweight guy the other day and called him fat Barry. Wondered what we’d say if we’d have been stopped by the plods

*disclaimer: Twas two flat packed wardrobes from ikea weighing approximately 18 stone

Why’s it always Barry? And you could have told them it’s the fat guy’s fantasy to be k1dnapped by a hot, sexy milf….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life

My van is a mess and my house is clean and tidy, how does that work

Bodies all over the place as she can’t get in touch with her friend at the moment….

We k1dnapp3d an overweight guy the other day and called him fat Barry. Wondered what we’d say if we’d have been stopped by the plods

*disclaimer: Twas two flat packed wardrobes from ikea weighing approximately 18 stone

Why’s it always Barry? And you could have told them it’s the fat guy’s fantasy to be k1dnapped by a hot, sexy milf….

My friend originally called him something else but it was my dads name so Barry he became

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure. I just wouldn't live with them.

My house and my car are both a work in progress. I'm not a messy person but I have several "colleagues" who are.

. If a guy judges me for that, probably not the guy for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Someone who cleans and fussed about tidying all the time would make me feel a bit uncomfortable.

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life

My van is a mess and my house is clean and tidy, how does that work

Bodies all over the place as she can’t get in touch with her friend at the moment….

We k1dnapp3d an overweight guy the other day and called him fat Barry. Wondered what we’d say if we’d have been stopped by the plods

*disclaimer: Twas two flat packed wardrobes from ikea weighing approximately 18 stone

Why’s it always Barry? And you could have told them it’s the fat guy’s fantasy to be k1dnapped by a hot, sexy milf….

My friend originally called him something else but it was my dads name so Barry he became

I thought you was saying Barry was named after your dad and I was referencing a hot milf….(awkward) almost….

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life

This is very true for me at the minute actually. Everything is a mess!"

Why?

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

I wouldn't date anyone...full stop.

.but as for visiting people's houses for sex I've met a few who's places were complete tips...but they in themselves were clean and presentable..my house is probably not the most presentable...but it's generally clean and tidy.. apart from the room the horse lives in...but I don't use that room for entertaining anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I'm quite messy myself so it isn't too much of an issue. I don't mind messy but I do mind dirty. I couldn't date someone who left bins unemptied, surfaces not wiped and stuff like that.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I seem to have an uncanny knack for falling for slatterns.

I’m always ‘the tidy one’ in the relationship.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Unclean, obviously not.

Messy, it would depend. Cluttered I can live with.

Simply messy by full intent to be, and zero care for it, on a regular basis. Then no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is full of diversity and compromise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unclean, obviously not.

Messy, it would depend. Cluttered I can live with.

Simply messy by full intent to be, and zero care for it, on a regular basis. Then no thanks."

Agree with the poster above

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Untidy is OK, needs work from Aggie, is not OK...

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'm messy, so it would be hypocritical of me to say no. But I have way more things to do than sort out stuff. I get around to it every now and then.

I'm clean though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Morning Shag

Messy with sex yes, messy on bed table sink no

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I married one.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"I’d rather not

But I depends how the rest of the relationship is! "
Yes, it also depends how the relationship is as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This a question I answered on my OKC profile. I could date someone who is messy. I couldn’t date someone who is dirty.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life "
That is good

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"Yes I could! On the other hand not someone who is completely opposite! I go on holiday with my sister every year and she is a clean freak even on holiday! She did suggest that maybe I could go live with her in our twilight years! (I'm in mine lol) but I said as much as I love u I couldn't live 24/7 with u lol x we are complete opposites in every way! As I say love her dearly! I'm what she would consider messy! I think I'm mediocre clean but lived in kinda house love all my toot! X"
Yes, that is good you could do that too and yes, not someone who is completely opposite

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

Depends as there's different levels of messy. If its a thing where most of a women's house is mostly tidy but her room has a few clutter around then its fine but if its messy all over then no.

In fact the first thing I check when I go to their house is the bathroom as it gives me an indication on how tidy there are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life "

Or the state of their mental health.

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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago

your wildest dreams,

I like to be organised and in control, was just last night discussing the organisation that goes into my wardrobes

But

My cars a working vehicle. Always covered in sand, in dog hair, bits of sea glass and stones in every crevice, smells of seals and sea. As soon as I clean it, it’s a mess again before the end of the day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends as there's different levels of messy. If its a thing where most of a women's house is mostly tidy but her room has a few clutter around then its fine but if its messy all over then no.

In fact the first thing I check when I go to their house is the bathroom as it gives me an indication on how tidy there are"

Are you a fab home checker.

Out of curiosity if my bathroom is clean you think I am a tidy person?

If it is not.. Then what?

Considering you not seen my bathroom or anything.

Are we judging homes now before we jump into bed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life

Or the state of their mental health."

So we judging on how clean a car is? Full of condoms okay?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Only Lionel - and I’m not ghay

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

No i guess not but at the moment i guess I'm a little messy due to lack of space

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"Morning Shag

Messy with sex yes, messy on bed table sink no

"
Morning becs, yes, that is good, not on the sink

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

No. I find it difficult enough clearing up after my son and dogs.

I want to go somewhere that I can relax and feel peaceful; not be constantly feeling like I should tidy up.

I know some people are super busy, but living on your own there shouldn't be much mess.

People with children, I'm not pointing the finger at you.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

"Depends as there's different levels of messy. If its a thing where most of a women's house is mostly tidy but her room has a few clutter around then its fine but if its messy all over then no.

In fact the first thing I check when I go to their house is the bathroom as it gives me an indication on how tidy there are

Are you a fab home checker.

Out of curiosity if my bathroom is clean you think I am a tidy person?

If it is not.. Then what?

Considering you not seen my bathroom or anything.

Are we judging homes now before we jump into bed?

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Hygiene is quite important to me, again a house doesnt have to be spotless but has to be some level of tidyness. Just to give you an example I met a girl (not on here) at her house and her place was already untidy but what really kill it for me was her bathroom where there was a lot of hair around the floor, bathtub and even toilet. So while I did have sex with her I didnt stay the night as I made up an excuse and didnt see her after

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life

Or the state of their mental health."

Or the people they have in the car, or the other people who use the car.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I like to be organised and in control, was just last night discussing the organisation that goes into my wardrobes

But

That's my house, without the sand etc.

Mine is my son's trainers, work boot, tools, materials and general crap all taking up space in my rooms.

As soon as I clear somewhere he finds something to put in the space. Golf clubs, gardening equipment, laundry baskets. I honestly don't know how he accumulates so much stuff.

He had the cheek to complain about a couple of bags of books and costumes in the gym room he never uses.

I gave up.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I'm a bit of a clutterbug so I would drive a very neat person round the twist. But I can't do dirt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to be organised and in control, was just last night discussing the organisation that goes into my wardrobes

But

That's my house, without the sand etc.

Mine is my son's trainers, work boot, tools, materials and general crap all taking up space in my rooms.

As soon as I clear somewhere he finds something to put in the space. Golf clubs, gardening equipment, laundry baskets. I honestly don't know how he accumulates so much stuff.

He had the cheek to complain about a couple of bags of books and costumes in the gym room he never uses.

I gave up."
sounds like my place - son’s eh!

only way to stay on top of it for me is to be up early every day & blitz everywhere. Proper housework is bloody time consuming and exhausting-feels like a gym session

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I have kids, I can’t live in a totally clean house…teens think the floor is the place for anything. Same with a car.

So whilst I’m clean and tidy, my house and car do have some messy bits at times.

If that was the only stress in your life then I’m doing ok.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Was in a relationship with her first year, I gutted her flat, decorated can be difficult being a single parent when everything gets on top of you sometimes you just need a helping hand...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was in a relationship with her first year, I gutted her flat, decorated can be difficult being a single parent when everything gets on top of you sometimes you just need a helping hand..."
Sounds like she had her priorities right - kid before decorating

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

"I have kids, I can’t live in a totally clean house…teens think the floor is the place for anything. Same with a car.

So whilst I’m clean and tidy, my house and car do have some messy bits at times.

If that was the only stress in your life then I’m doing ok.

Exactly this, if a bit of mess was my biggest worry I'd be elated. After tidying up it can take about 0.5 seconds for a child to undo it all.

I think anyone stressed about a few messy things lying around would be far too upright for me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have kids, I can’t live in a totally clean house…teens think the floor is the place for anything. Same with a car.

So whilst I’m clean and tidy, my house and car do have some messy bits at times.

If that was the only stress in your life then I’m doing ok.

Exactly this, if a bit of mess was my biggest worry I'd be elated. After tidying up it can take about 0.5 seconds for a child to undo it all.

I think anyone stressed about a few messy things lying around would be far too upright for me anyway."
This. My sister in law was absolutely fastidious re tidying. Even with two toddlers. I felt the kids were looked after but not in the right way - there’s no way you can invest loads into cleaning etc AND be there/present for your kids emotionally. She’d be a nervous wreck almost waiting for me to finish my cuppa so she could clean up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Miles does

Bless him.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"Absolutely - messy doesn’t equate to unclean

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Yes, you are right too about that

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"Miles does

Bless him.

T. "
That is good he does that too

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I could, it would depend on the rest of their qualities.

I'd prefer someone who is relaxed and not uptight, with ultra-strictness in their homeliness

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

Yeah as in clothes that need folding put away or hung up

Dirty plates, dirty toilet, stains on kitchen counter then no.

I believe the 2 most clean places need to be the kitchen and the bathroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Miles does

Bless him.

T. That is good he does that too

I'll ask him to state his opinions at the nearest opportunity.

Thanks Shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I could and I have and I am.

I couldn’t be with someone like me; overly structured and neat. Tones injects the right amount of chaos to keep me sane.

Miles

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Yes, I could and I have and I am.

I couldn’t be with someone like me; overly structured and neat. Tones injects the right amount of chaos to keep me sane.

Miles"

I actually believe that completely

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

My answer is probably not ...

I hate mess and clutter , I've actually annoyed a few people with it but it's me I can't help it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A little messy yes, but not dirty or unhygienic. There's a huge difference between messy and dirty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, I could and I have and I am.

I couldn’t be with someone like me; overly structured and neat. Tones injects the right amount of chaos to keep me sane.

Miles

I actually believe that completely

You can see it, can’t you, just how uptight I’d be without her free spirit.

Miles

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Yes, I could and I have and I am.

I couldn’t be with someone like me; overly structured and neat. Tones injects the right amount of chaos to keep me sane.

Miles

I actually believe that completely

You can see it, can’t you, just how uptight I’d be without her free spirit.

Miles"

Well Tones is definitely that haha

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By *otSoPetiteMortWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

No. I have done before and hated it.

Clothes strewn all over the floor, rubbish not discarded, clutter and unorganized paperwork all over every available shelf and surface, various items left all over the bed that they couldn't be asked to put away properly...

Some would argue that maybe their priorities are just different and they would rather "enjoy life rather than spend time cleaning", but from my own personal experience, it was just laziness and it made my life harder trying to complete tasks AROUND the mess, or having to clean up their mess so I can do something that needs doing.

I like things tidy and organised and I get stressed around mess because I feel it's something that can only escalate...

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