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"A little from column A, a little from column B   "This | |||
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"I call myself self deprecating, I get told off for being mean about myself lol" well some people do it to great effect here i guess loads don't exactly like themselves here, their bodies, their personalities | |||
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"All too often it becomes a pity party" yes not sure why they do it to be honest | |||
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"I call myself self deprecating, I get told off for being mean about myself lol" Same here Sometimes it's easier to make comments yourself that you expect others to make | |||
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"I call myself self deprecating, I get told off for being mean about myself lol Same here Sometimes it's easier to make comments yourself that you expect others to make " but why would anyone make negative comments to you especially if meeting you? | |||
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"I call myself self deprecating, I get told off for being mean about myself lol Same here Sometimes it's easier to make comments yourself that you expect others to make but why would anyone make negative comments to you especially if meeting you? "It's more the comments you make to yourself or about yourself that will stop you from attempting to meet someone | |||
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"I call myself self deprecating, I get told off for being mean about myself lol Same here Sometimes it's easier to make comments yourself that you expect others to make " Yeah this in a nutshell. Always make fun of myself in work before anyone else can. But in reality I just highlight things they probably don’t even think. | |||
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"I call myself self deprecating, I get told off for being mean about myself lol Same here Sometimes it's easier to make comments yourself that you expect others to make but why would anyone make negative comments to you especially if meeting you?
It's more the comments you make to yourself or about yourself that will stop you from attempting to meet someone "well give yourself a good talking to, someone for everyone on here | |||
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"Is it an art form does it keep down messages or do these people really struggle with their worth? "And is it attractive? It gets more compliments maybe? A form of attention seeking, maybe. Some people bc will struggle with their self confidence, which is a shame when some people can see a lot more in them than they see for themselves. | |||
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"I call myself self deprecating, I get told off for being mean about myself lol Same here Sometimes it's easier to make comments yourself that you expect others to make Yeah this in a nutshell. Always make fun of myself in work before anyone else can. But in reality I just highlight things they probably don’t even think. " you look very attractive and I'm sure most would see that first | |||
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"I call myself self deprecating, I get told off for being mean about myself lol Same here Sometimes it's easier to make comments yourself that you expect others to make Yeah this in a nutshell. Always make fun of myself in work before anyone else can. But in reality I just highlight things they probably don’t even think. " Exactly this | |||
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"I call myself self deprecating, I get told off for being mean about myself lol Same here Sometimes it's easier to make comments yourself that you expect others to make Yeah this in a nutshell. Always make fun of myself in work before anyone else can. But in reality I just highlight things they probably don’t even think. " Definitely this. I remember at school annoying kids who were trying to bully me by either guessing what they were about to say and saying it first to take the sting out, or more often, just agreeing with whatever they said about me when they were hoping for me to get wound-up about it. It becomes a habit. | |||
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"Is it an art form does it keep down messages or do these people really struggle with their worth? "Depending on how long it's been going on and how often it really is a drag... Funny at first and then fuckoffable. | |||
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"I call myself self deprecating, I get told off for being mean about myself lol Same here Sometimes it's easier to make comments yourself that you expect others to make Yeah this in a nutshell. Always make fun of myself in work before anyone else can. But in reality I just highlight things they probably don’t even think. Definitely this. I remember at school annoying kids who were trying to bully me by either guessing what they were about to say and saying it first to take the sting out, or more often, just agreeing with whatever they said about me when they were hoping for me to get wound-up about it. It becomes a habit." Good if you agree to their compliments too.  | |||
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"I call myself self deprecating, I get told off for being mean about myself lol Same here Sometimes it's easier to make comments yourself that you expect others to make Yeah this in a nutshell. Always make fun of myself in work before anyone else can. But in reality I just highlight things they probably don’t even think. Definitely this. I remember at school annoying kids who were trying to bully me by either guessing what they were about to say and saying it first to take the sting out, or more often, just agreeing with whatever they said about me when they were hoping for me to get wound-up about it. It becomes a habit. Good if you agree to their compliments too. "School bullies don't offer many compliments ?? But in general I am very bad at accepting compliments. It's something I need to work on. | |||
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"I call myself self deprecating, I get told off for being mean about myself lol Same here Sometimes it's easier to make comments yourself that you expect others to make Yeah this in a nutshell. Always make fun of myself in work before anyone else can. But in reality I just highlight things they probably don’t even think. Definitely this. I remember at school annoying kids who were trying to bully me by either guessing what they were about to say and saying it first to take the sting out, or more often, just agreeing with whatever they said about me when they were hoping for me to get wound-up about it. It becomes a habit. Good if you agree to their compliments too.
School bullies don't offer many compliments ?? But in general I am very bad at accepting compliments. It's something I need to work on."You have a very sexy chest and nice fingers. | |||
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"Because I can and want to. Who the fuck does anyone else think they are to tell me what I can or can't think and say about myself, or the reasons for why I do such. Don't like when I do it? Pass by and fuck off, keep on fucking off until you come up to a gate with a sign saying “You Can't Fuck Off Past Here". Climb over the gate, dream the impossible dream, and keep fucking off forever." This reminds me of Grace and Frankie. “Shut all the way the fuck up until you reach the top of shut fuck mountain where there are no more fuck ups to shut!”  | |||
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"Because I can and want to. Who the fuck does anyone else think they are to tell me what I can or can't think and say about myself, or the reasons for why I do such. Don't like when I do it? Pass by and fuck off, keep on fucking off until you come up to a gate with a sign saying “You Can't Fuck Off Past Here". Climb over the gate, dream the impossible dream, and keep fucking off forever." Yessss! Right on sister! You're amazing sweetie!!
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"I call myself self deprecating, I get told off for being mean about myself lol Same here Sometimes it's easier to make comments yourself that you expect others to make Yeah this in a nutshell. Always make fun of myself in work before anyone else can. But in reality I just highlight things they probably don’t even think. Definitely this. I remember at school annoying kids who were trying to bully me by either guessing what they were about to say and saying it first to take the sting out, or more often, just agreeing with whatever they said about me when they were hoping for me to get wound-up about it. It becomes a habit. Good if you agree to their compliments too.
School bullies don't offer many compliments ?? But in general I am very bad at accepting compliments. It's something I need to work on.
You have a very sexy chest and nice fingers. "Thank-you. I will accept that compliment gratefully. You have eyes someone could lose themselves in - well, based on the one I can see! | |||
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"Here self deprication for many on sites like this is purely a tactic. Like the hard luck stories on reality tv. Its to gain a hopefully positive reaction. I make fun of myself, i do stupid things sometimes. Chinese proverb: A fool who knows they are a fool, is not such a big fool as one that doesn't " | |||
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"I do it because I find making jokes about myself is easier than saying nice things. I don’t look for sympathy or for anyone to tell me that they disagree. " I've done this forever, not sure what the psychology is behind it. I don't take myself seriously and I find taking a genuine compliment excruciating. When it comes to any friends who are self depreciating It can become draining so naturally I go into cheerleader mode and try and make them feel special. The things we do | |||
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"A little from column A, a little from column B "This is exactly right haha | |||
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"A little from column A, a little from column B
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"Because I can and want to. Who the fuck does anyone else think they are to tell me what I can or can't think and say about myself, or the reasons for why I do such. Don't like when I do it? Pass by and fuck off, keep on fucking off until you come up to a gate with a sign saying “You Can't Fuck Off Past Here". Climb over the gate, dream the impossible dream, and keep fucking off forever." The best reply so far….. If someone isn’t feeling too good about themselves and puts it on paper so to speak who are we to judge…. Gloss over it or have some banter or good words that might just make them feel better about themselves… it might just make a difference… | |||
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"Because I can and want to. Who the fuck does anyone else think they are to tell me what I can or can't think and say about myself, or the reasons for why I do such. Don't like when I do it? Pass by and fuck off, keep on fucking off until you come up to a gate with a sign saying “You Can't Fuck Off Past Here". Climb over the gate, dream the impossible dream, and keep fucking off forever. The best reply so far….. If someone isn’t feeling too good about themselves and puts it on paper so to speak who are we to judge…. Gloss over it or have some banter or good words that might just make them feel better about themselves… it might just make a difference…" That sounds more like self sabotage to me | |||
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"I do it because I find making jokes about myself is easier than saying nice things. I don’t look for sympathy or for anyone to tell me that they disagree. I've done this forever, not sure what the psychology is behind it. I don't take myself seriously and I find taking a genuine compliment excruciating. When it comes to any friends who are self depreciating It can become draining so naturally I go into cheerleader mode and try and make them feel special. The things we do "Receiving compliments is always nice but instead of thanking them I always feel the need to say something self deprecating instead. I just like being awkward I think  | |||
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"I do it because I find making jokes about myself is easier than saying nice things. I don’t look for sympathy or for anyone to tell me that they disagree. I've done this forever, not sure what the psychology is behind it. I don't take myself seriously and I find taking a genuine compliment excruciating. When it comes to any friends who are self depreciating It can become draining so naturally I go into cheerleader mode and try and make them feel special. The things we do "The psychology behind self-deprecation, according to a paper written by researchers at Arcadia University. Self-deprecating humor is a learned reflex we use, often to deny ourselves credit. It can be described as a method your brain uses as it “continuously monitors the social environment for cues regarding the degree to which [you are] being accepted versus rejected by other people”, typically finding more harm than good. Our own self-critical lens is thus biased, making us feel as if we are not worth praise or positivity as a result of any deviations from the norm. This is because we tend to focus our attention on “shame[,] highlight[ing our feelings of] unworthiness, weakness, and other negative features. We treat ourselves in ways that we would never treat another person, often with no mental pushback. These negative evaluations are not fair to ourselves, ultimately resulting in undue stress and mistrust. | |||
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"I do it because I find making jokes about myself is easier than saying nice things. I don’t look for sympathy or for anyone to tell me that they disagree. I've done this forever, not sure what the psychology is behind it. I don't take myself seriously and I find taking a genuine compliment excruciating. When it comes to any friends who are self depreciating It can become draining so naturally I go into cheerleader mode and try and make them feel special. The things we do
The psychology behind self-deprecation, according to a paper written by researchers at Arcadia University.
Self-deprecating humor is a learned reflex we use, often to deny ourselves credit. It can be described as a method your brain uses as it “continuously monitors the social environment for cues regarding the degree to which [you are] being accepted versus rejected by other people”, typically finding more harm than good. Our own self-critical lens is thus biased, making us feel as if we are not worth praise or positivity as a result of any deviations from the norm. This is because we tend to focus our attention on “shame[,] highlight[ing our feelings of] unworthiness, weakness, and other negative features. We treat ourselves in ways that we would never treat another person, often with no mental pushback. These negative evaluations are not fair to ourselves, ultimately resulting in undue stress and mistrust.
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"Because I can and want to. Who the fuck does anyone else think they are to tell me what I can or can't think and say about myself, or the reasons for why I do such. Don't like when I do it? Pass by and fuck off, keep on fucking off until you come up to a gate with a sign saying “You Can't Fuck Off Past Here". Climb over the gate, dream the impossible dream, and keep fucking off forever." Hahahahaha. .
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"Good morning ... I could do without being an all you can eat buffet for the local wildlife absolutely bloody covered in bites ..."lol buy insect repellent i bought some the other day in the hope that it would keep them off me but alas left it at home | |||
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"FFS. As I was saying...is it always self depreciation? Maybe some people aren't just full of bullshit. "depreciation of an asset? | |||
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"FFS. As I was saying...is it always self depreciation? Maybe some people aren't just full of bullshit. depreciation of an asset? "I'm off to find that tank of water. | |||
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"FFS. As I was saying...is it always self depreciation? Maybe some people aren't just full of bullshit. depreciation of an asset?
I'm off to find that tank of water. "bye | |||
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"Morning to all self deprecating people have a good one "Stirring the pot again……sad life some have… | |||
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"Morning to all self deprecating people have a good one
Stirring the pot again……sad life some have…"interesting name | |||
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"Morning to all self deprecating people have a good one "Do you know the full ins and outs of Self-deprecation, and why people use, if not go look it up before you mock | |||
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"Morning to all self deprecating people have a good one
Do you know the full ins and outs of Self-deprecation, and why people use, if not go look it up before you mock "I'm not mocking | |||
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"Morning to all self deprecating people have a good one
Do you know the full ins and outs of Self-deprecation, and why people use, if not go look it up before you mock I'm not mocking "How it comes across, you write what you want and put a wanky angel emogi at the end. Like that excuses it.... | |||
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"Its a complex issue. I struggle with low self esteem at times and in previous incarnations of me on here, I went heavy on the self deprecation as partly a defence mechanism, as an element of humour and partly to highlight my percieved (or actual) shortfalls. I'm either more confident or past caring what people think of me, so the profile is changed. I put up a thread about heavy load as I put up a cumshot video. I don't normally post video's but was particularly proud of my effort. However the self doubt crept in so I had to put in some self deprecation regarding how I saw my cock size (the angle and the cold breeze may have affected things, or I've a below average cock). The human mind is a complex thing. On here as a man, if you are hoping for meets, you rely on a phenomenal physique. If you haven't got that, then you have to rely on your personality. Self deprecation is a part of my personality." Yes i get that but so many women self depracate, i suppose its something thats triggered by someone or something else thats happened in their life | |||
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"Morning to all self deprecating people have a good one
Do you know the full ins and outs of Self-deprecation, and why people use, if not go look it up before you mock I'm not mocking
How it comes across, you write what you want and put a wanky angel emogi at the end. Like that excuses it...."ahhhh i get you now, a supporter | |||
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"Morning to all self deprecating people have a good one
Do you know the full ins and outs of Self-deprecation, and why people use, if not go look it up before you mock I'm not mocking
How it comes across, you write what you want and put a wanky angel emogi at the end. Like that excuses it....ahhhh i get you now, a supporter "Whatever you mean by that? Fuck knows, Just someone who reads the comments you make and how you use the emogi to make it alright, but in reality are just laying down shade and underhanded sly digs, but whatever gets the rocks off.. | |||
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"Morning to all self deprecating people have a good one
Do you know the full ins and outs of Self-deprecation, and why people use, if not go look it up before you mock I'm not mocking
How it comes across, you write what you want and put a wanky angel emogi at the end. Like that excuses it....ahhhh i get you now, a supporter
Whatever you mean by that? Fuck knows,
Just someone who reads the comments you make and how you use the emogi to make it alright, but in reality are just laying down shade and underhanded sly digs, but whatever gets the rocks off.."The emogi or emoji has no relevance as i explained to somebody the other day, its an emoji amongst many emojis how come you see so much in this emoji shall i change it to this  | |||
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"Morning to all self deprecating people have a good one
Do you know the full ins and outs of Self-deprecation, and why people use, if not go look it up before you mock I'm not mocking
How it comes across, you write what you want and put a wanky angel emogi at the end. Like that excuses it....ahhhh i get you now, a supporter
Whatever you mean by that? Fuck knows,
Just someone who reads the comments you make and how you use the emogi to make it alright, but in reality are just laying down shade and underhanded sly digs, but whatever gets the rocks off..The emogi or emoji has no relevance as i explained to somebody the other day, its an emoji amongst many emojis how come you see so much in this emoji shall i change it to this "Change it to whatever want cupcake. | |||
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"Morning to all self deprecating people have a good one
Do you know the full ins and outs of Self-deprecation, and why people use, if not go look it up before you mock I'm not mocking
How it comes across, you write what you want and put a wanky angel emogi at the end. Like that excuses it....ahhhh i get you now, a supporter
Whatever you mean by that? Fuck knows,
Just someone who reads the comments you make and how you use the emogi to make it alright, but in reality are just laying down shade and underhanded sly digs, but whatever gets the rocks off..The emogi or emoji has no relevance as i explained to somebody the other day, its an emoji amongst many emojis how come you see so much in this emoji shall i change it to this
Change it to whatever want cupcake. "thank you | |||
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"Morning to all self deprecating people have a good one
Do you know the full ins and outs of Self-deprecation, and why people use, if not go look it up before you mock I'm not mocking
How it comes across, you write what you want and put a wanky angel emogi at the end. Like that excuses it....ahhhh i get you now, a supporter
Whatever you mean by that? Fuck knows,
Just someone who reads the comments you make and how you use the emogi to make it alright, but in reality are just laying down shade and underhanded sly digs, but whatever gets the rocks off.."Don’t use the word rock it gets you told off especially when added to your, crawl, back and under…. | |||
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"Morning to all self deprecating people have a good one
Do you know the full ins and outs of Self-deprecation, and why people use, if not go look it up before you mock I'm not mocking
How it comes across, you write what you want and put a wanky angel emogi at the end. Like that excuses it....ahhhh i get you now, a supporter
Whatever you mean by that? Fuck knows,
Just someone who reads the comments you make and how you use the emogi to make it alright, but in reality are just laying down shade and underhanded sly digs, but whatever gets the rocks off..
Don’t use the word rock it gets you told off especially when added to your, crawl, back and under…. "imagine you get a lot of messages with that username | |||
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"It keeps my inbox empty i imagine its full of those you want "It's not | |||
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"It keeps my inbox empty i imagine its full of those you want
It's not "damn | |||
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"Morning to all self deprecating people have a good one
Do you know the full ins and outs of Self-deprecation, and why people use, if not go look it up before you mock I'm not mocking
How it comes across, you write what you want and put a wanky angel emogi at the end. Like that excuses it....ahhhh i get you now, a supporter
Whatever you mean by that? Fuck knows,
Just someone who reads the comments you make and how you use the emogi to make it alright, but in reality are just laying down shade and underhanded sly digs, but whatever gets the rocks off..
Don’t use the word rock it gets you told off especially when added to your, crawl, back and under…. imagine you get a lot of messages with that username "My fair share thank you… | |||
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"Morning to all self deprecating people have a good one
Do you know the full ins and outs of Self-deprecation, and why people use, if not go look it up before you mock I'm not mocking
How it comes across, you write what you want and put a wanky angel emogi at the end. Like that excuses it....ahhhh i get you now, a supporter
Whatever you mean by that? Fuck knows,
Just someone who reads the comments you make and how you use the emogi to make it alright, but in reality are just laying down shade and underhanded sly digs, but whatever gets the rocks off..
Don’t use the word rock it gets you told off especially when added to your, crawl, back and under…. imagine you get a lot of messages with that username
My fair share thank you…"good for you | |||
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"It keeps my inbox empty i imagine its full of those you want
It's not "oh yes it is | |||
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"I don't know why people do it. Maybe ask them on the spot? Or when the moment passes and they can look at their behaviour from the distance. I know it's tiresome for those around you. But no more than the opposite - self inflating your ego. Tones" Or most repetitive, exaggerated behaviours of the kind ^ | |||
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