FabSwingers.com forum: Shy man telling someone she's stunning

By *smith87 OP Man
over a year ago

totton

I've had a huge crush on a lady who works on the tills in Lidl totton. How can I tell her but to shy to speak. Is passing a note to weird or am I gonna have to build up courage to speak ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just make conversation and read her reaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could pay her a really nice compliment, without coming on too strong though.

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Just make normal chit-chat. The weather or local events will usually do

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

How do you think telling the woman she " is stunning " on the first occasion is going to help OP ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A note would be a bit awkward!

I agree with others, try polite and friendly conversation

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Just send Jennie round to ask for you!

Seriously though, as somebody who can be shy from time to time in these situations, just spark the conversation as if you are talking to somebody you know. Then let the conversation tell you where it should go. Just a casual chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just send Jennie round to ask for you!

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Funnily enough I went to college in Totton. I might even know her dad!

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

Two oranges, one cucumber. Set them up as you'd imagine on the belt and wink at her when she looks at you.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"You could pay her a really nice compliment, without coming on too strong though."

Is saying 'nice tits, luv' ok?

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

"Just send Jennie round to ask for you!

Funnily enough I went to college in Totton. I might even know her dad! "

Jennifer, he's finding it awkward enough

Could be an icebreaker though, "any chance your dad fucked Jennie?"

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By *lay 4 your plessureMan
over a year ago

Wigan

I wouldn't pass her a note, she'll probably be pressing an alarm button thinking it's got "put all the money in a bag" written on it as you pass it over

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Maybe just let her get on with her job.

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By *orthernJayMan
over a year ago

LHR

"I've had a huge crush on a lady who works on the tills in Lidl totton. How can I tell her but to shy to speak. Is passing a note to weird or am I gonna have to build up courage to speak ??"

Don’t don’t don’t pass her a note!

Buy your basket and let her check you out and your goods, deposit in car or end of counter and then return for one more item!

Queue back up and then say something along the lines of lose my head if it wasn’t attached etc, see if she even notices you’re straight back!

If so then fess up and say, actually I think you’re stunning so thought I’d come back and tell you; hopefully you’ll get a smile, if not then no loss.

If she doesn’t even acknowledge your existence then as other have said, let her do her job and don’t ruin her day!

As an aside, if you’re painfully shy then set out everyday to speak to two new people, one before lunch and one after lunch; doesn’t matter about what, talk to anybody about anything!

You’ll get a few odd responses of course but that’s not the point, you’ll get more positives than you realise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you think telling the woman she " is stunning " on the first occasion is going to help OP ? "

What would you say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funnily enough I went to college in Totton."

Same. I do miss a chip butty from Mrs Mason's round the corner...

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I told a lady at the garage that she looked like she'd had a great nights sleep as she was really vibrant and energetic today.

She asked what I meant and I said her eyes were sparkly and her skin looked lovely.

She told me I looked very nice as well...a social nicety.

As I walked away I wondered at whether she thought I was "chatting her up". I wasn't.

OP, its easy to let someone know they are beautiful. Just walk away after.

Next time you see her, she may be pleased to see you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Customers are usually pretty miserable at the tills, especially in Lidl

A big smile and a 'How are you today?' is probably enough to stand out and determine whether she wants to engage with you further or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t say anything. She’s there to work not to be made to feel uncomfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would smile, ask how she is today and make general chit chat, whilst she's trying to break the world record of scanning

And just keep going to her checkout when you shop, obviously not several times a day otherwise Security might be called!!

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Give her a dick pic and say 'fancy a fuck?' - it always works on here, so why wouldn't it work face to face?

In all seriousness, DON'T pass her a note. Just be civil and have some general chit chat, build on it on different occasions, so you can gauge her reaction and respond accordingly. Leave any compliments for a bit further down the line, if it feels appropriate.

Good luck and let's us know how it goes.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Why do you feel that you have to tell her?

It's probably not a set of circumstances that will lead to anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's a lidl you frequent regular I wouldn't. If things get awkward you don't wanna be missing out on those middle aisle deals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a huge crush on a lady who works on the tills in Lidl totton. How can I tell her but to shy to speak. Is passing a note to weird or am I gonna have to build up courage to speak ??"
look into the mirror and ask yourself, how old you are mate. Then ask that question you posted on here to yourself out loud, and if you don't find the answer right there, then go and find someone you know, and ask them that question you posted and say it out loud too them too. Because by then, hopefully you will see why I gave this advice to you instead, because like I said, hopefully and I really mean that, hopefully you will see how ridiculous this is especially at your age mate. Lol wish you all the best the Pal. Just build that courage up and say hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a huge crush on a lady who works on the tills in Lidl totton. How can I tell her but to shy to speak. Is passing a note to weird or am I gonna have to build up courage to speak ??"
maybe offer to help her finish her shift, if she would let you buy her a drink and something to eat afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just send Jennie round to ask for you!

Funnily enough I went to college in Totton. I might even know her dad!

Jennifer, he's finding it awkward enough

Could be an icebreaker though, "any chance your dad fucked Jennie?""
haha

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

"How do you think telling the woman she " is stunning " on the first occasion is going to help OP ?

What would you say?"

I would not say anything personal to her . It would be creepy and will not end well . She is working not standing in a bar looking to socialise. Just smile at her every time you see her and be polite .

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Just ask her if she goes dogging on a weekend, what’s the worst that can happen ? She says no.

The mr

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"I've had a huge crush on a lady who works on the tills in Lidl totton. How can I tell her but to shy to speak. Is passing a note to weird or am I gonna have to build up courage to speak ??"

I had a friend who always used that approach although he would build up a good rapport first, usually bar maids. It worked reasonably well for him.

My advice is to put some effort in over a good few visits before asking her out, just a few friendly words every time you go in.

If she seems uncomfortable or totally uninterested you have your answer without asking.

If you do pass her a note make it really simple,

“ I really like you and I’d love to take you out for dinner sometime.” Add your first name and phone number.

Good luck Romeo

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

You could buy a bunch of flowers at her till. Then say they're for you and walk off.

The next time your in, she would either call security or she'd likely want to chat with you, if she liked you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Buy a bottle of prosecco, chocolates, flowers and a card that has your intentions, observations and wishes for the future pre written but not sealed.

Let her scan them, she'll notice the theme, your nervous disposition will cause inquiry.

"Ah, who are these for? They're very lucky"

This is your in, you state they are for the most beautiful woman you've ever seen, the kind of woman that makes time stand still and cause the world to fade away around her.

She'll think you're cute, naturally, being all open and aware, optimistic and hopeful.

You pay. And walk away. Leaving the items.

"But sir, you forgot?" She'll say.

A quick wink, finger pistols as you sashay backwards whispering

"It's you"

Job. Done.

Just leave your number in the card.

Also top tip, be really good looking, charming, confident, awesome and generally irresistible. This will help.

You're welcome.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Just send Jennie round to ask for you!

Funnily enough I went to college in Totton. I might even be her dad! "

What luck !

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

So do you speak to this stunning woman as a work colleague?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I've had brief chats to a few cashiers.

I would never give a compliment like that though.

It doesn't seem appropriate.

I did have a young man give my boobs a bit of eye attention once.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"I've had a huge crush on a lady who works on the tills in Lidl totton. How can I tell her but to shy to speak. Is passing a note to weird or am I gonna have to build up courage to speak ??"

Take your time build make sure that when you shop each time you go to her till .be friendly start with simple things like say morning afternoon and taking to her.then she gets use to you .then you can say things like your hair looks nice today or what ever she wearing that colour suits her or another things ask her advise regard product has she use. So it shows that you've taken particular notice of her and that you value her option .

A smile when you see her a wave Goodbye .these things help you build up a relationship between .women like confidence in a man .you could simply go for it and ask what time she her shift ends would she like to go for drink or meet for a coffee.at the end of the day she could say no for whatever reason she may have bf husband its not the end of the world .its a step forward you saw a woman you like and you spoke to her and found out if there was a possibility.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She probably doesn’t want to be hit on when she’s at work to be honest.

If you really have to though, try having a normal conversation with her first.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Hi O.P.

I've read through every post and I think there's room for different advice.

1. She works on the till and that is all you know about her.

2. Is she engaged, married, single , lesbian or even looking. ? You don't know that either.

Amuses me that a woman in public is still seen as being available to ask. So how are you going to find out in a non creepy way.

THINGS I WOULDN'T DO.

Any of the suggestions above.

THINGS I WOULD DO

On a shopping day , when it's not too busy, buy a few things and smile , make eye contact, as you take your change smile , make eye contact and say , Thanks for always being pleasant. Bye , see ya.

10 mins later - go back with a note in an envelope addressed to 'The Girl on the Till' and then say see ya with a smile.

It says .... Hi, If you are free and single like me I'd love a coffee sometime.

Text yes or thanks but no thanks to 123456789.

This way - you put the power to act in her hands. You don't need to fight off an enraged boyfriend/wife/husband as you said IF...

TWO THINGS

Believe that if she didn't contact you that it is not because of you but because of life.

Carry on shopping in Lidl - do NOT go to her till but if you are passing her till and she catches your eye .... smile. Don't stop being pleasant because you never got laid.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

P.S. Be aware that she may not be a nice person and could pass your number around.

There's always a block button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funnily enough I went to college in Totton.

Same. I do miss a chip butty from Mrs Mason's round the corner..."

OMG

She was lovely

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By *amesBeelzebubMan
over a year ago

norwich

May have to be patient. Build up a friendly relationship over time with chat jokes and smiles

Try to find out if she's single but be subtle.

Don't tell her, she's likely to be more embarrassed then you regardless on whether she feels the same, but you can escape she is stuck with a queue of people who heard what you told her.

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By *amesBeelzebubMan
over a year ago

norwich

Do Lidl still sell flowers?

If you can find out she's single..go in on a quiet day, buy flowers and when she's put them through and you paid, just tell her they are for her as a thank you for brightening your day every time you shop there and walk out.

Maybe hide a note with your phone number in the flowers that she would only see when putting them in a vase.

But I wouldn't do any of that until you have chatted enough for her to know you as a regular customer and you have some idea if she's single

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I have a crush on someone at my local, I'm not too shy to not say anything but I choose not to because I'm sure she doesn't want to be hit on while working

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Some of these later ideas are revelations!

No idea how people think of these things.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

O.P.

Do tell us if you go for it, if you get it , ..... what ever just tell us.

We haven't been out all week !

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"O.P.

Do tell us if you go for it, if you get it , ..... what ever just tell us.

We haven't been out all week !"

Speak for yourself.

Thursday was giro day.

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By *reen as JadeCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

I had it once after a guy left the company I was working for. He went into great detail of what he wanted to do to me, that he used to look down my top and up my dresses. For years he hardly said a word to me. X

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"I had it once after a guy left the company I was working for. He went into great detail of what he wanted to do to me, that he used to look down my top and up my dresses. For years he hardly said a word to me. X"

That sounds so romantic.

I bet you got married.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Personally though it does make it awkward at work if or when you don't get on but he who dares wins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally though it does make it awkward at work if or when you don't get on but he who dares wins

He could just print out the

emoji and hold that up after whatever he says, it's not offending then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally though it does make it awkward at work if or when you don't get on but he who dares wins

He could just print out the

emoji and hold that up after whatever he says, it's not offending then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grow a set

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

"I wouldn't pass her a note, she'll probably be pressing an alarm button thinking it's got "put all the money in a bag" written on it as you pass it over

LoL!! Agree.. do not pass a note.. we are not at school now

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over a year ago

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"She probably doesn’t want to be hit on when she’s at work to be honest.

If you really have to though, try having a normal conversation with her first. "

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

That sounds so romantic.

I bet you got married."
,,, agree all fab invited

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually, scrap that previous idea.

Purchase a boom box. This is musical playing device from the 80s or 90s. Ask an old person, they'll perhaps be able to advise or provide one. Do not use a blue tooth speaker. You are not causing noise pollution.

This is art.

Next, find a cassette tape of The Back Street Boys - I Want It That Way. This is a classic love song from the 90s, by the great band to ever live, that is statistically proven, to make women gush and pathetic.

Now. We rehearse.

Learn the moves, breaks and lyrics.

I advise double denim, chunky white trainers, Etnies or Superstars, a few piercings and most importantly, frosted tips. If you want to double down, wear Lynx Africa.

Please do be careful, you must target this energy to only, your fire, your desire. Lest you literally drown, in, clunge.

Honestly I am going to start sending invoices.

I'm like Kelis, I can teach you, but I have to charge.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I've had a huge crush on a lady who works on the tills in Lidl totton. How can I tell her but to shy to speak. Is passing a note to weird or am I gonna have to build up courage to speak ??"

If you cant handle chatting with her and giving her a compliment, Do you really think you could handle a date with her, without it being very awkward.

I suggest you work in your self confidence first and like others say, just have normal conversations with her while you are paying for your shopping, a few of those little convos will possibly help your confidence grow and give you indication of her interest in you.

Good luck.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"I've had a huge crush on a lady who works on the tills in Lidl totton. How can I tell her but to shy to speak. Is passing a note to weird or am I gonna have to build up courage to speak ??"

Just remember she’s doing her job, and entitled to do it in peace. Just whatever you do don’t be a weirdo.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Actually, scrap that previous idea.

This is art.

Now. We rehearse.

Learn the moves, breaks and lyrics.

I advise double denim, chunky white trainers, Etnies or Superstars, a few piercings and most importantly, frosted tips. If you want to double down, wear Lynx Africa.

Please do be careful, you must target this energy to only, your fire, your desire. Lest you literally drown, in, clunge.

Honestly I am going to start sending invoices.

I'm like Kelis, I can teach you, but I have to charge."

I can confirm that a boom box is indeed as described by the poster.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Actually, scrap that previous idea.

This is art.

Now. We rehearse.

Learn the moves, breaks and lyrics.

I advise double denim, chunky white trainers, Etnies or Superstars, a few piercings and most importantly, frosted tips. If you want to double down, wear Lynx Africa.

Please do be careful, you must target this energy to only, your fire, your desire. Lest you literally drown, in, clunge.

Honestly I am going to start sending invoices.

I'm like Kelis, I can teach you, but I have to charge."

Oh my god

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"O.P.

Do tell us if you go for it, if you get it , ..... what ever just tell us.

We haven't been out all week !

Speak for yourself.

Thursday was giro day."

Mushrooms on flatbread ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a huge crush on a lady who works on the tills in Lidl totton. How can I tell her but to shy to speak. Is passing a note to weird or am I gonna have to build up courage to speak ??

Just remember she’s doing her job, and entitled to do it in peace. Just whatever you do don’t be a weirdo."

Feeling rather attacked with that final comment bro.

Weirdo.

Its called. Passion.

Duh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a massive crush on a girl in Morrisons many years ago, took a single dragon fruit to the till and she didn’t have a clue what it was. I said the sign said free fruit and the chat grew. I was with her for 11 years.

Just go for it buddy, we are only here once

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"I've had a huge crush on a lady who works on the tills in Lidl totton. How can I tell her but to shy to speak. Is passing a note to weird or am I gonna have to build up courage to speak ??

Just remember she’s doing her job, and entitled to do it in peace. Just whatever you do don’t be a weirdo.

Feeling rather attacked with that final comment bro.

Weirdo.

Its called. Passion.

Duh."

No attack meant, it’s difficult to interpret the context of written text. I’m hoping it works for you, all I meant was she’s at work and it could be the last thing on her mind fella.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Personally though it does make it awkward at work if or when you don't get on but he who dares wins

He could just print out the

emoji and hold that up after whatever he says, it's not offending then.

"
Hey i just like colour the emoji means nothing but thanks for the comment it shows where you are at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a huge crush on a lady who works on the tills in Lidl totton. How can I tell her but to shy to speak. Is passing a note to weird or am I gonna have to build up courage to speak ??

Just remember she’s doing her job, and entitled to do it in peace. Just whatever you do don’t be a weirdo.

Feeling rather attacked with that final comment bro.

Weirdo.

Its called. Passion.

Duh.

No attack meant, it’s difficult to interpret the context of written text. I’m hoping it works for you, all I meant was she’s at work and it could be the last thing on her mind fella."

I'm joking

Nearly always about everything. Heaven forbid anyone takes anything I say seriously.

Jesus.

I'd come across like an egotistical maniac.

But you're right, people at work should be able to work in peace.

So do it in the car park OP.

And if its raining, *chefs kiss*

Except for your boom box. Buy a little tent for that. Lidl probably has one in the middle aisle to be fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talking about passing her a note.....obviously DO NOT DO THIS!

But reminds me of the time I was in a carpark, I was parking my car at the time, not looking for business before one of you make a smutty remark

And this guy looked over and smiled, whilst I trotted off late as usual meeting a non fab friend..

Anyhoo... hour's later returned back to my car to find a note on the windscreen, my first thought was " feck who's damaged my car" ...only to find it was a note and phone number from the guy who smiled at me!

Needless to say we're still together...

That last part's a joke...but you all went "awww " didn't you

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"I had a massive crush on a girl in Morrisons many years ago, took a single dragon fruit to the till and she didn’t have a clue what it was. I said the sign said free fruit and the chat grew. I was with her for 11 years.

Just go for it buddy, we are only here once "

That made us smile

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I chat to people serving me all the time. Just mention something about the weather or comment on how busy/quiet the store is.

Is your intention to take things to the level of asking her for a drink or just to tell her she's stunning?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a huge crush on a lady who works on the tills in Lidl totton. How can I tell her but to shy to speak. Is passing a note to weird or am I gonna have to build up courage to speak ??

Just remember she’s doing her job, and entitled to do it in peace. Just whatever you do don’t be a weirdo."

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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

Put the ingredients for a nice meal in front of her. Tell her what you're having and ask if she'd like to join you for the meal.

Worked well for me up until the divorce.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"P.S. Be aware that she may not be a nice person and could pass your number around.

There's always a block button "

There's people who ring from private numbers you can't block.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Is there another supermarket you can shop at if things don't go well?

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"P.S. Be aware that she may not be a nice person and could pass your number around.

There's always a block button

There's people who ring from private numbers you can't block.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Our daughter worked in retail in her early twenties. Guys were *always* passing her their number, she never followed up on it.

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By *ervice2000Man
over a year ago

derby

Make sure she scans all your pineapples upside down and see if it strikes upa convo!

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Don’t say anything. She’s there to work not to be made to feel uncomfortable

Agreed. Don't try to chat her up if you're in front of me either, grinds my gears when customers and cashiers just chit-chat. Don't mind a bit of an exchange as long as it doesn't hold up the queue.

Frank

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

Go on a Tuesday and remind her it's tits out Tuesday

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I've had a huge crush on a lady who works on the tills in Lidl totton. How can I tell her but to shy to speak. Is passing a note to weird or am I gonna have to build up courage to speak ??"

Start by just saying hello every time you see her, maybe something like "good morning, how are you today?" Works well as it will illicit a response. Then you could work up to "good afternoon, how is Lidl's most attractive checkout operator today".

Just coming in and handing her a note might seem a bit creepy...

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a huge crush on a lady who works on the tills in Lidl totton. How can I tell her but to shy to speak. Is passing a note to weird or am I gonna have to build up courage to speak ??"

Defo pass her a note & a pen... Write 'I fancy you, do you fancy me too? Yes No?'

And then wait for her to circle reply... Cos you're both 9yrs old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there another supermarket you can shop at if things don't go well?

Poor bloody woman just cracking on with her job. And some butter rocking up with a note... And a table, chairs bunch of flowers, and a dinner for two at her cash register

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Don’t say anything. She’s there to work not to be made to feel uncomfortable

Agreed. Don't try to chat her up if you're in front of me either, grinds my gears when customers and cashiers just chit-chat. Don't mind a bit of an exchange as long as it doesn't hold up the queue.

Frank"

I called an old lady a miserable old cunt once.

So out of character for me, but she was grizzling and tutting and being dramatic because I was talking to the cashier as I packed. I actually pack a bit quicker when I do it that way as I'm not thinking about playing tetris with my shopping to get the best fit.

I had a lot of shopping and she had two things. I asked her why she didn't think to go through the self service or 8 items or less till if she was in a hurry. Or didn't she see my week's shopping on the belt?

I felt bad after.

The old cunt.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Just tell her she's scrubs up well, even as a check out lady and don't suppose she'd fancy going for a drink sometime

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Don’t say anything. She’s there to work not to be made to feel uncomfortable

Agreed. Don't try to chat her up if you're in front of me either, grinds my gears when customers and cashiers just chit-chat. Don't mind a bit of an exchange as long as it doesn't hold up the queue.

Frank

I called an old lady a miserable old cunt once.

I felt bad after.

The old cunt."

Ha, don't feel bad, doesn't matter their age or sex, a cunt's a cunt. And this is coming from a self-confessed cunt

When I get a faffer in front of me and the cashier says the obligatory "Sorry to keep you waiting", I always tell them no need to apologise, it's not their fault. Usually gets a knowing smile in return.

Frank

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over a year ago

"Just tell her she's scrubs up well, even as a check out lady and don't suppose she'd fancy going for a drink sometime "

Scrubs up well

Years ago I used to work at the Co-op. Some guy with obvious learning difficulties took a shine to me, and sent his mum in to ask me to pop round theirs for tea.I politely declined... But maybe you could ask your mum to go ask her out for you OP?

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Just tell her she's scrubs up well, even as a check out lady and don't suppose she'd fancy going for a drink sometime

Scrubs up well

Ha, just noticed, is your name a reference to Simple Minds.... ?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Just tell her she's scrubs up well, even as a check out lady and don't suppose she'd fancy going for a drink sometime

Scrubs up well

Many many moons ago I'd probably done similar in my youth not for tea though and not my mother.now up front and make it laughable and able to get out of the situation rather than thrown out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just tell her she's scrubs up well, even as a check out lady and don't suppose she'd fancy going for a drink sometime

Scrubs up well

Ha, just noticed, is your name a reference to Simple Minds.... ?

No, it's a reference to me having the hots for someone & them thinking my name was Catherine... I wanted to use something that tied in

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Just do it Toms way. Buy a bunch of bananas and ask if any of the staff had ever seen any poisonous spiders when unpacking them. It never fails and they may share a few experiences with you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My 2p worth of advice:

I (like many normal people) can chat with anyone except the one I fancy.

Just say hello. And everytime you are there shopping, try to go to her till. Then try to slowly make more and more general chat.

Women are cleverer than us. She will figure you out. If she is available or interested, she will make it happen.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, scrap that previous idea.

This is art.

Now. We rehearse.

Learn the moves, breaks and lyrics.

I advise double denim, chunky white trainers, Etnies or Superstars, a few piercings and most importantly, frosted tips. If you want to double down, wear Lynx Africa.

Please do be careful, you must target this energy to only, your fire, your desire. Lest you literally drown, in, clunge.

Honestly I am going to start sending invoices.

I'm like Kelis, I can teach you, but I have to charge."

This has really made me giggle

OP, what did you do in the end ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a huge crush on a lady who works on the tills in Lidl totton. How can I tell her but to shy to speak. Is passing a note to weird or am I gonna have to build up courage to speak ??"

Approach anxiety is a bit of a bastard to get over, I'm trying to get through it myself, I found just chatting to women I find attractive helps. I've even asked a few ladies for their number (got turned down but that's just the game) it's just gonna be one of those things that you have to get through. but let me tell you, just asking out a lady isn't as bad as you think it'll be, you won't die and if anything you'll make her day, go for it bro.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I've had a huge crush on a lady who works on the tills in Lidl totton. How can I tell her but to shy to speak. Is passing a note to weird or am I gonna have to build up courage to speak ??

Either that or he'll get banished from lidl for making someone rather uncomfortable at work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK matey best course action , Smile and say how has your day been ...... so far ,look tidy clean nails , good after shave . Oh practice in another shop .I wish you all the BEST

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think people get that uncomfortable just by having someone ask for their number.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I don't think people get that uncomfortable just by having someone ask for their number. "

Perhaps not when in a social situation

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I don't think people get that uncomfortable just by having someone ask for their number. "

On the till at Lidl with a queue of onlookers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think people get that uncomfortable just by having someone ask for their number.

On the till at Lidl with a queue of onlookers? "

Well maybe when she's not on the till, just don't follow her to her car or anything like that

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

Just find something different or nice about herself and compliment her on it. I often compliment ladies on their makeup, hair etc and it always makes them smile and they always give you a thanks.

I complimented a young lad at the local fuel station last week on his nail varnish. I told him it looked good and was quite cool. Again I got a smile and thanks, start small.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it's important to remember that retail workers are essentially a captive audience and often need to be polite to customers.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I think it's important to remember that retail workers are essentially a captive audience and often need to be polite to customers. "

Indeed

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
over a year ago

Norwichish

Am I missing the point?

Why do you think she would care if you thought she was stunning or not?

What’s the thought process? She doesn’t have a ring on she must be available?

Seriously before you do anything silly like passing a note or even making an unwanted compliment, maybe download a few of the dating apps. If she is single and interested in dating there’s a good chance she will be on one of them, if you see her swipe right. If she swipes right back all is good with the world and you can chat.

If she isn’t on there, assume she already swiped left on you or she isn’t single.

And also while you are on there swipe right on a few others that you like, go on a few dates after you’ve broken the ice in the online chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you even have time to talk on a till in Lidl?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't. It's creepy. Wtf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you even have time to talk on a till in Lidl?

Helloivegotamassivecrushonyoycanigetyo

Card please

Done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you even have time to talk on a till in Lidl?

Helloivegotamassivecrushonyoycanigetyo

Card please

Done "

Me - Hi, can I get yo…

Them - can you pack your bags over there please!!!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Do you even have time to talk on a till in Lidl?

Hahahaha. I went once. They don’t let you pack your shopping! What kind of fuckery is that!? Never been in since

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

Check out her nails, most ladies spend an age on them not to mention £££.

Men rarely mention them. A simple wow love your nails youll make her day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her your cock is hard for her

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Tell her your cock is hard for her "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slip her a note if paying by cash

On it put.. Wanna fuck your mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or.. Tell her you were looking for jar of hearts but she can have your heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you even have time to talk on a till in Lidl?

Helloivegotamassivecrushonyoycanigetyo

Card please

Done

Me - Hi, can I get yo…

Them - can you pack your bags over there please!!! "

Me - H

Them - out!

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"I don't think people get that uncomfortable just by having someone ask for their number. "

Yes they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well OP, how did it go?

We are all rooting for you.

The suspense!!

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Hey Op just enjoy her company oncw a week thats my advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey Op just enjoy her company oncw a week thats my advice

She loves him pushing his BIG SHOP through her till.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Hey Op just enjoy her company oncw a week thats my advice

She loves him pushing his BIG SHOP through her till.

"
Exactly she smiles all the way to the change

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